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First off that's my special man friend with me way back from high school, and been dating now for almost four years now. Yeah he's pretty spectacular, and I love him to pieces, and that's all I have to say about that. I'm a full time college student and working on my gen ed, but I would like to get my bachelor's in gerontology and eventually get my nursing license. In fact I work at a nursing home now as a CNA and I love it so much. Anyways ask questions if you want. I'll try to help you out anyway I can. I love helping people after all. :)

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what do guys think is the cutest thing about a girl?

They like what's between your legs....

xoxo,
dottie4

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If i have thrush and have sex with my boyfriend, is it possible that he will get it?

Yes but your going to do what you want anyway so at least use a condom and some class...

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dottie4





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When a guy goes to second base and is feeling your boobs, is he getting something out of it or doing it for you?

He is getting something out of it because he gets to touch your boobs. I guess more it's a little bit of both. Your pleasured and he gets to touch boobs.

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dottie4

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So I just started my new job in November and absolutly love everyone I work with. I've been hanging out with this one girl who is always smiling and just really happy and friendly. But when I was working with her yesterday she reached for something and I noticed a bunch of cuts on her arm. I asked her what they are from and she said nothing and then acted like it never happened. I'm really worried about her. What should I do? Should I tell someone else?

She's probably ashamed of it herself, and it really isn't any of your business. She might already be getting help, and doesn't want to be making a big deal out of it. If your that concerned about it then I would tell a trusted adult. Not your boss because otherwise she'll probably get her fired. She really doesn't owe you any sort of explanation though, so don't get the idea that she does. I'm sorry but saying your going to be there is not going to help her. Just put the offer out there that your always there to talk if she wants to. A lot of people cut because they feel no one really cares enough to listen to their problems. It's a quick and easy way to get rid of your emotions that are holding you down. Except it does leave scars; which is not good. I hope at least some of my advice helped. Sorry. I'm just telling it like it is.

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dottie4

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Sorry, I dont know if this is in the right category. Is masturbation bad if you are a Christian?

It's a natural human instinct. Most people who say it's a sin are probably the ones doing it, so do what you feel comfortable with. Personally I think there would be less sin in the world if people masturbated more.

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dottie4

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dog spitting up blood

I would take him your dog to the vet. If you don't it can only get worse. I would put newspaper down for the meanwhile until you are able to take him to the vet.

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dottie4

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my boyfriend and i have had sex before, and i never noticed until yesterday that its really difficult for him to get hard.

i did everything in my will power that i could. nothing worked.

i just recently started giving him handjobs and he stays hard for a few minutes and then it goes down. it confuses me and frustrates him. i was wondering about viagra, or any other "boner medicine"

is it over the counter or prescription? and also, if its prescription, how am i supposed to get some because my boyfriend and i are both minors. :\

help?

First of all they won't prescribe viagra to minors. And if you have sex with him a lot, it's not uncommon that he can't get hard at all after that.

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dottie4

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i had sex yesterday without a condom. but i had just gotten off my period about 5 or 6 hours before, and he didnt cum. (we were interrupted)

is it still possible that i could get pregnant?

Yes. He can still precum, an you can get pregnant from that.

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dottie4

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so i know this is weird but bare with me lol. I was dared to have someone pee in my mouth and i said no, that's def not healthy. and then someone else said it was fine and i was just being a wimp. But if peeing is like the release of all of those toxins then drinking it would be bad for you right? so what im wondering is if swallowing pee is actually bad for you besides just being gross.

First of all, don't do it. If they keep daring you just them to do it. Even if they do it, I wouldn't want to hang out with people lkike that. It's toxins leaving your body like you said, so why would you do that? The point of pee is to go out of your body... not in.

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dottie4

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are guys weird about kissing after oral? i'm new to the whole sex thing but i've never done oral with my boyfriend so as like something different before sex i was thinking about some oral but not all the way. i know i could ask him but i was just wondering what most guys thoughts were, i don't care if girls answer eitherr. thanks.

I think they should be okay with it because it's their germs. If it's that big of a deal, just chew a piece of gum or something.

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dottie4

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if a sophomore girl dates a freshman guy, is that weird?

cause i like this freshman guy and hes 6 months younger than me

so blahh. help?

No not really. My boyfriend is four years older then me. However I am eighteen and it's legal. But he is not even a year younger then you, so I think it's fine. Just remember there will be some immaturity because he is younger then you and girls mature faster then guys.

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dottie4

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I do not want this earth anymore, i want to go, i do not belong here, I do not like pain, so i have to do it painless.

Don't do it. Seriously I'm sure there are so many people out there who love and care about you. You just have to give people a chance. I know at times the world can seem like an ugly place, but ultimately it has more ups then downs. Killing yourself won't solve anything. Trust me. You need to talk to someone who you love and trust.

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dottie4

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I just found out that my friend is bulimic. She threw up blood a week ago and got scared, and called one of my friends. she is not in avery good state of mind right now, at least i don't think so. because she had butt sex with some random guy, gave him her first blow job, got eaten out for the first time, and she told someone who told 2 of his friends, who told other people, so now alot of people know. I tried to stick up for her, and she would always go to the bathroom, and when I tried to go with her, the teacher wouldn't let me, and then she'd come back, saying she cried, but I have to wonder if she made herself throw up or not ... another wierd thing is that when she was dating my friend, he was about to finger her when he touched her stomach and she immediatley moved his hands to her boobs instead [from what he told me] and then she told him that she was bulimic and then he was the one who told the entire school she had butt sex. so now shes really mad and upset over that. and he said something about "pregnant" so she either was pregnant from the butt sex, only thought she was, got an abortion, or wanted to be. but i can't just ask her. i didnt even know she was bulimic, she didn't even tell me, not even about whatever the pregnant thing is. what do i do? she's the skinniest and prettiest girl ever, and she like hates herself. ou would never suspect it by just looking at her, but what do i do? what can i do? im so scared for her ... please help.

You need to tell an adult IMMEDIATELY! She needs to get help. Otherwise she could be on the way to her grave and I'm sure you don't want that. You need to tell the school counselor or a parent what is going on. At first she'll be upset with you for a while, but I'm sure in the long run she'll be glad somebody cared enough to actually tell somebody. I also think that before you do that though, you need to talk to her. Tell her you love her but you can't stand seeing her in so much pain, and if she doesn't do something about it, you will. There may be some sort of underlying problem for the reason why she is the way she is. She could have a serious mental illness or she could have been sexually abused. Whatever the case is, you need to get her help.

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dottie4

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I'm 14,i jus turned 14 actually and at school im basically the biggest slut ever,but ive been trying to change that,well ever since i found out im pregnant.i used protection.i was on the pill,but i guess somehow i got pregnant but the worst part is i dont know who the father is and honestly it could be like 10 guys.no joke.im tryin to determine if i should just get an abortion and not tell my parents or tell them then get an abortion or tell them and have it or just have and dont tell them till its ready to come out!its such a difficult decision and lately my mom has been getting mad at me cause ive been eating so much food.please someone help me!

Honestly I think the best thing you can do is tell your parents. Your only fourteen years old, and you need someone there for you. Just tell your mom how you feel. I can guarantee she will be shocked at first, but after she realizes you seriously need her help, I'm sure she'll come around. Plus I'm sure she'd be even more pissed if she found out on her own somehow and do you really want to risk that? One of my best friends is fifteen years old and pregnant right now. Surprisingly her mother was just glad that she told her.

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dottie4

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is it ok to have sex with more then 3 poeole at the same time?

It's really up to you. Your going to do what you want anyway.

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dottie4

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Hey, I'm a 17 year old male who just today, asked a girl who I really like. Oddly enough she said 'yes' but there is one little snag. She is my best friend's sister. I know that if I talk to him that this would probably okay and i know that if he's not okay with this I wouldn't go through with this but how do i approach him about this, should she be there or no? I just need help deciding how to go about this, I don't want to hide this from him at all so soon would be better than later, thank you so much for your advice in advance.

First of all I'm really happy for you! Anyways, if he's a true friend it shouldn't bother him. I don't know why people make a big deal out of that type of thing anyway. Unless she's like 12 then I could see the issue, but I doubt that's the case. Just tell him you really like and respect his sister. Things should go smoothly.

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dottie4

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I'm doing a project for college on romantic relationships and their characteristics. As part of it, I'd like to ask the following question: Do you and your significent other have a song? If so, what is it and why is it important to you both?

Thank you so much, this will be really helpful.

I'm going to have to go with a classic...
Etta James-At Last

We've both been through our fair share of relationships, and this song describes the way we feel about each other. It's the song I want to be played at my wedding someday.

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dottie4

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I've been going out with my boyfriend for almost 5 months now, and I love him so much but hes going to be leaving in a few months for a job in another country for a year. He says that he wants to keep the relationship going and still be together when he comes back, but I don't know if thats going to be to hard to do. I've been really upset about it and it seems like every little thing reminds me about it..but it almost dosen't seem like it even bothers him, because hes been acting completely normal.. does anybody have any advice about how to deal with all this? ..btw.. this is my first real relationship, if that makes a difference at all. Thanks in advance for any advice

If you two really love each other, it'll work then. Otherwise, so what if it doesn't. It's worth a try. Just keep in contact with him through e-mail or letters. Good luck!

xoxo,
dottie4

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Okay...is it possible for guys to get an erection while they're...being sexual with a girl they have no attraction to? Like if they were hugging, the guy wouldn't...would he?

Yes of course they can.

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dottie4

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17/f

I'm a virgin. Is it REALLY that important to lose it to someone you love? I don't plan on falling in love anytime soon. My first kiss wasn't special. It annoyed me at first. My second kiss wasn't special either, but I found the guy attractive and realized that was perfectly fine with me. I'm not about to go have some unsafe rendezvous with a stranger or anything, I'd just like to know.

I guess it's not that important. People are going to do what they want to do anyway, and it is just sex. I know personally I want my first time to be with someone I love.

xoxo,
dottie4

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