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I'm Kelly. I'm 15. And I have experienced a lot in life. I love helping people, so i decided to get one of these a while back. I don't come on a lot, but maybe I will start more often. I also answer questions with honesty, and how i would work things out. I have delt with a lot, and i probably have had a problem similar to yours. So, why not give me a try, and hit me up with a question?! If you want to actually talk to me - feel free to IM me, to ask me a question or just to chat- I'm pretty much always on.

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ok, so im going to the movies with this girl i really like, so i have some questions. first of all, should i pay for her or go dutch?
(that sounds pretty weird). and second, what kind of things should i talk to her abouy, and stuff like that. thanks

if you REALLY like her, offer to pay. if she says no, then make her split it. or tell her the next time she can pay - that way its kinda a guarenteed 2nd date [but if there is a next time, dont have her pay]. and for the talking thing, since your in the movies- you cant talk about like random things like the zoo or news or something. it just doesnt work. you have to do small talk. and remember - small talk gives big results! ask her lots of questions. and LISTEN to the answers. then after the movie you can be like, well you said you liked blah in the movies. and go off from there. she will be surprised you actually listened. and its a total turn-on. and it shows your super interested. talk about things that shes interested in. and maybe in stuff you are too. and if your trying to like put your arm around her or something.. then start out slow and put your hand by her thigh [ NOT touching it ]. she will get the hint, and if she wants to.. she will grab it. if she doesnt, then she will cross her arms or something. good luck and have fun =)

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um... Dont feel dumb... okay I this is a set of questions I gave her one day and she answed them:
Hope this helps in deciding

What do you think of yourself? Umm. i think im silly, but i can also be serious. I think that im overall pretty nice, unless you make me mad.


Do you prefer Material objects or personality in a guy?
Personality

Do you wish you could be just like a girl in our school?
not at all

Do you Love more than 2 people in our school?
Love like how? you mean like as friends then maybe

Does being abstinent bother you or do you not care when you do it?
I have no idea what that is?


Is there a huge personality difference between you and you bestest friend?
Yeah i would say on some things


The What ifs:

What if I pulled up in your drive way in a lamborghini?
i would laugh at you

What if I commited a felony and was on TV flying down a highway with cops chasing after me?
i'd cry

What if you heard I broke my neck In a dirtbike accident and now was in the hospital in critical condition?
I'd come see you asap

What if I asked you out tomorrow?
i would probably say no... ???

What if I suffered a bad breakup with a girl and went to the bar and got so smashed I was found sleeping in your yard in the morning?
I would laugh at you, and kick the girls ass


What If I told you I just got a record deal and I was going to be on MTV next week?
I would congrats you and hug you


What if I disappeared?
i'd find you


What if I showed up at your house tomorrow night at 11:00 o'clock and asked if you wanted to take a walk?
i would say yes..i loveeeee walks

What If we were going out one night and I proposed to you?
It depends


What if I had amnesia and didn't remember you?
I would be soooo hurt

Me me Me:

What do you think of me?
I think ur a really nice, cool person

Are you my friend?
Yes

Do you like me as more than a friend?
i dunno

do you think I am a good influence?
yepp

Where do you see me in 10yrs.?
bEING A THERPIST

what do you think I want to be when I grow up?
MotoX racer

What do you think is my favorite song?
remember the name

That is what she sent me back
Thanks for taking time for me.... you rock...

hey! aw, thanks you rock =). and it pretty mch sounds like she deffinitally cares about you A LOT. you knows your favorite song and stuff, so she also pays attention to you [which is GREAT]. i think shes interested, but she might need some time to get over her last boyfriend before she moves on to you. maybe you should take her for a walk and talk things over. let her know your their for her. and let her know you can talk whenever she wants/needs to. you may want to tell her your interested then (if the time is right) but dont feel forced too - if the time doesnt come, then dont do it. it has to be the perfect moment. and who knows.. maybe she will tell you she feels the same way. good luck and tell me how things work outt.

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I really like this one guy, but he doesn't know me at all, he just hangs around the same people I do. Alot of girls like him at my school, but he doesn't really go out with many of them because even though they are really pretty their not really smart and all they do is flirt with him whenever they can and I can tell he doesn't like them. I want to get to know him better but I don't want him to think I'm like all the girls who never stop trying to be his girlfriend; because even though I'm really pretty and popular I'm not like them at all, I actually care about my grades and things other than shopping. What should I do?

listen to mrdave. deffinitally become friends with him and play hard to get. it sounds like all girls fall for him, so just pretend not too. hes not gonna be happy and maybe even flirt with you more. maybe thats a good time to bring up you two hanging out. maybe just you two. go for a walk. or out to lunch or something. do soemthing fun that friends can do, but also boyfriend/girlfriends can do. you know? or even have him over. get him talking on school and make him know that your grades and such are important to you. and most important - BE YOURSELF :]

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Thanks for your advice...thanks also you sound like an awsome girl yourself...well anyway yes I knew but she hasn't updated her profile and is no longer going out wit him as of like 11 o clock today... and she is really pissed at him... if you read my profile http://www.myspace.com/mysteriousoddessy and look around at post and question we made you can probably see how much see likes me... cuz I cant tell if she does or not cuz I like her... Well thanks again...Peace

wow, i feel like a loser now. i typed up this huge thing and i was wrong about everything. haha. sorry, but your space is friends only. here are some sites to give tips and see if shes sending you any/some/all signals.
[ http://www.getromantic.com/dating/content.shtml?articles/dotheylikeyou.shtml ]
[ http://www.indobase.com/holidays/valentines-day/valentine-day-tips/she-loves-me-or-not.html ] maybe if you send me what she said/ the convo between you too i will be able to help you. sorry im not much of a help now.

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ok....im turning 16 in like 8 days and i STILL dont know what to for a party. im not sure yet and im not going to have a sweet sixteen so i just want to have a simple gathering of me and my closest friends. what should i do for my birthday..Movies, Mall, Dinner...? any suggestions??? please and thanks

i think you should do something that you enjoy. and do something creative maybe. it kinda depends on how many people you are planning on, but it doesnt matter for certian things. dinner and movies are very popular. you could always do like bowling or lasertag as well. but i dont really know exactly what to tell you.. so i went off and found you a site to (hopefully) help you. [ http://entertaining.about.com/cs/kidsparties/a/sweet16part1.htm ] its all about sweet sixteen parties. and how to plan and stuff. have a lot of fun. and if you need anymore help - leave one in the inbox.

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14/m I was reading you answers to some questions and well I think your the one that can help me...
I know this girl Paige you can read all about her on even thought she says she older shes 14 aswell http://www.myspace.com/exquisitegoddess
and I like her alot she also has a advicenators account um 3< my love or something like that but She is just so awsome...She always gives me good advice and she is just so perfect for me... but she doesnt like me and all ready told me this but we are good friends... I talk to her almost ever day I text her all the time and I want her to mine ssssooo bad... What should I do Im so confused??? thanks for your time

aw, you sound like sucha sweet guy. im sorry you have to go though this. and im glad you think i can help! anyway - okay i read her about me and she sounds pretty cool, but i noticed something that you didnt mention, and thats that she has a boyfriend? im not sure if you like know him, or about this? [ im guessing you do though ]. well, since she has a boyfriend- its a different situation. even if she does have feelings for you, she might be scared to tell you incase you told someone and her boyfriend found out. i understand you like her a lot, but you really cant do much since she has a boyfriend and all. you have two options, actually three but i really REALLY wouldnt reccommend one. the first is to try and stop liking her. maybe give up. i know its prolly NOT what you want to hear, but maybe she is right and you guys are better as friends. i know it may hurt, but it might just be better this way. it could take an hour and it could take months, you neevr know. you just ahve to convince yourself you dont like her. certian people are better getting over people by completly thinking they are off the face of the earth. im different though (and im sure im not alone). i like to get over someone by just thinkning of them as a friend.
the second way is to wait it out. most relationships dont last long at this age unless the people are like perfect for eachother. lets face it - teenagers are stupid. and do stupid things. and overreact. then BAM. breakup. it could be tommorrow and could be 6 months from now. you really never know. if you choose to go this route, maybe try becomming even better best friends with her. so she feels she can trust you with anything. and then if her and her boyfriend are having issus or something- she will come to you for advice. be her shoulder to cry on if she needs it. then after the breakup- you can go for her!
the 3rd way [ the way i dont reccommend ] is to break them up. it sounds horrible but like i said teenagers are stupid. and do stupid things. you could always start a rumor that he cheated on her or something. unless your friends with him, then i HIGHLYY suggest you do NOT NOT NOT do this one. and could you imagine how she would feel if she found out what you did?!
i understand that your confused. your pretty much inlove, babe. hate to break it to ya. just be strong and fight it out. dont worry - youve got people there for you. and if anything im here too. sorry if i didnt help much and i know its prolly not what you wanted to hear- but yah. good luck!

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hey i like this guy but theres a problem of course, my bestfriend likes him too but she doesn't know that i like him anymore and he used to like both of us but now he says he doesnt like anybody but his bestfriend thinks he still likes me, but not her n i dnt knw whut to do! its so hard to tell if he likes me or not n im worried about the other girl cause shes pretty n it's really confusing, any suggestions????

im sorry hun. yah, that was pretty confusing - but dont worry i got it (i think). you are in a sticky situation, and eitehr way- someone is most likely gonna get hurt, whether its you or your best friend. before i talked to my best friend about liking him, id prolly talk to him,a dn try and figure out if he likes you. or you can use this site [ http://www.myjellybean.com/flirt/doeshe.html ] and use those tips and see if hes sending you any signals. once you think youve got him figured out, maybe then you should talk to your friend about you liking him. say something like "i thought i got over so-and-so, but i guess i was wrong and i still have feelings for him". and dont be worried about the otehr girl. so what- i bet your pretty and funny. my suggestion - dont loose a friend over a boy, especially if its someone who means alot to you. and maybe dont tell her if you dont feel comfortable with it. follow your gut feeling on this sorta thing. good luck. and if you need more advicee-leave one in my inbox.

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At school I have liked many girls and everyone shoots me down. Mostof them tell me that I could be cool enough to go out with them if I didn't hang around with the nerds. I am not a nerd but I hang out with them because they're nicer than the popular people I could hang out with. Every time I tell A girl that they still shoot me down. What should I do?

people sure are getting shallow these days. DO NOT CHANGE FOR ANYONE, no matter how much potential you have. its not worth being someone your not just to have a girlfriend. and if she doesnt like who you hang out with- then tough. her loss. you desereve someone better than that. wait for the girl who likes you for you and your friends. and who accepts you. and doesnt want you to change. no offence, but it sounds like the otehr girls are snobs. so what should you do? wait for better girls to come around to liek you - FOR YOU. be yourself. and if thats not good enough, niether are they.

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Ok so I have this friend, let's call her Sammy ok? So Sammy recently has started like leaving me and kinda ignoring me. Today she even started hanging out with my enemy! Like 2 weeks ago we started hanging out with a girl named Natasha and ever since she has been doing all these things. Oh and I already talked to her a billion times. It's like she doesn't want to be my friend anymore. Should I just start hanging out with different people?

im going through something like this as well. i think that you should start hanging with different people. besides the fact it may get your mind of of "sammy", you never knwo what you have been missing out with these girls. or even guys. im sure that her not wanting to be your friend anymore is not the case. and she prolly feels that even if that one girl is your enemy - she isnt hers. if sammy wont tell you what is wrong, then you cant force it out of her. and if she is willing to just ignore you out of the blue without an explanation, then that shows that she is a bad friend. Even though it will hurt right now and prolly be a little lonely - the best thing you can do is just let her go. It's the hardest thing to do in almost every case, but it is also the best course of action in a lot of cases. dont bug her about it, and dont keep telling her you feel left out. she will most liekly get annoyed and snap. then start freaking out on you. [ i know, sounds wierd, but hey - its the truth ]. as people get older change happens. and people change with it. you can help it - its something that happens. i know sometimes ( a lot of times ) its hard, but i guarentee you will feel better about it. and who knows - maybe she will end up crawling back to you. hehe, good luck and dont let her bring you down

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i'm going to a dance tonight. its not formal so i dont wanna go out and get my hair done. so i was thinking of some cute ideas? its medium length and hard to curl so i straighten it usually. if anybody has cute ideas that'd be great!

hey hun, try going here.. [ http://beauty.ivillage.com/stc/hairstylist/hairstylist.html?o=dcm,vhs,iv,el,vhstopic,bs,lnav ] its a virtual hair stylist site. and just mess around with it. change it to everyday ; curly ; long. that style is ADORABLE. or everyday ; stright ; long. the second one is adorable as well. go around and find a sylte you like. you can change the color so it looks more liek your color too. once youve found a good look and want it.. go under the face and it gives you instructions on how to do it, what face shape it looks good with, and wahtever. have fun hun.

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i got a gift from a friends friend and its perfume by healing garden and its called sheer passion.. i got it a wicked long time ago and i dont know wehere to find this.. does anyone know where to get this perfume cause i love it ! ive been trying too look everywhere, i still cant find it.. please help and thanks!

im almost positive Walmart carries it. check there! =)

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ok so im 14/f n i've never used a tampon before. So today i thought I'd try one and i totally chickened out. It couldn't have gone any worse. I would put it in, but then it would start to hurt so i'd pull it right out. Finally i just gave up.Should i put vaseline on the tip of it? Help please!!

its completely natural for it to hurt you at first. i know it sounds wierd. but it is! supposidly vaseline can cause you to get infections [ although its really easy when you have it ] id reccomend using Ky jelly instead. once you get it right, you shouldnt be able to really tell its in there. if you have questions about putting it in - then go to this site [ http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/tampon.html ] and scroll down to "How do you insert a tampon?" . sorry that it shows some pictures - but its helpful and its good. you shouldnt be scared - all girls go through it. and just remember how mad you were that you chickened out and make it even more of a reason for you to get it right. good luckk, ohh and remember practice makes perfect.

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nope it sure doesn't thanks alot man i am thinkin about breakin it off tonight but i don't wanna hurt him that bad. hummm. this might take a while lol. thanks for all your hellp

your super welcome. anytime hun. but here.. these are some ideas for breaking it off without actually hurting him bad. your gonna hurt him no matter what [ im sorry i know you dont wanna hear it - but its true. ] as long as he likes you and is interested. maybe try these sites - hopefully they will help you. i wouldnt give em to you if they were bad =). [ http://www.teenwire.com/infocus/2005/if-20051206p398-breakup.php ] or [ http://www.ehow.com/how_13955_tell-someone-you.html ] just remember these 5 things. *be honest. *be quick. *be cool. *be kind. *be confident. for more info on these ones - go here [ http://www.teenwire.com/infocus/2003/if-20030422p221-breakup.php ]

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oki know i have asked like wat 3 questu=ions today lol but theres this guy not my boyfriend that flirts with me and i flirt back hes really hott and i like him even though hes not the smartest on in the bunch but like his in high school next year and im gonna still be in lame oh middle school. and i took that test and it says i should break it off with my boyfriend right now. should i go for the new guy once i break up with my guy?

dont worry about asking me 3 questions - ask as many as you feel the need to. im happy to help =) anyway since it said you should break it off then i think you should. it sounds liek you are more interested in this new guy anyway so thats not really fair to your boyfriend right now. but i dont think you should right away for for this new guy. its important to get over one relationship before starting the next. how do you know when your ready for another relationship? your ready when you dont need one. i knwo it sounds wierd, but its completely true. people who become dependent on always having a boyfrined sometimes date people because they just feel the need. not because they get those "warm fuzzies" for them. i guess what im saying is deal with yourself first, and get the special someone later. dont rush it. make sure your over your boyfriend now before moving on. nothings worse then calling your newly found lover and calling him your ex's name! BUT you are always welcome to flirt. and make sure he knows your interested. dont be scared to take your time though on getting over him. and you could always have that fun summer fling with a hot highschooler. doesnt get much better than that, huh? =)

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Oh my gosh, my parents are making me go to this filthy dirty restaurant with this ugly bitches who they call "their friends." Everytime I go out to eat with them, they start making fun of my and I lose my temper and I wanna punch the shit outta them. (They are 50.) And this restaurant is soo bad. I can't even enjoy the food. What can I say/do to my mom so I don't have to go!!!??? I need major help. I'm not wasting a Friday night at an old restaurant with a bunch of old people. And don't say to get a baby sitter or stay home alone, or that will be a 1. Thanks in advance! I rate 5's for REAL answers.

haha, i dont blame you. sometimes certian people can do that to you. and its the worst when theres two and they are married. have you considered hanging with any friends? maybe if your parents are MAKING you go, like you ABSOLUETLY HAVE TO - then invite a friend or a couple and ask to have your own table at the resturant. it doesnt help with the dirty resturant and bad food but it does help with the old snobs and their issues with you. also, if your parents are a little more leinent on if you go or not - then see if some friends wanna have a little sleepover or something. or you could always go to the movies, and tell your mom/dad that you have had these plans for a while. my suggestion is to find a friend that doesnt have plans. or some that are already together and see if you can tag along too. i dont think telling your parents how you feel about thier friends RIGHT before you go out with them is such a good idea though. although thats the real reason, wait until after they go out tonite. good luck. any more questions - feel free to ask.

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ok i m the girl tht just asked the ? about her boyfriend but like i also feel as though i need to break up with him. like today i was thinking about doing it. like i like him but some parts of me doesn't like him anymore?

okay hey hun.. uh well, if you feel like you should break up with him, then maybe you should. imagine how your life would be with you being single - is it wierd? are you used to the feeling? does it seem great? do you feel lonely? yes, breaking up is hard to do. we've all gone through it, we've all cried and thought it would never end. BUT life does go on, and it actually gets much better! maybe try taking this quiz and see what it says [ http://ynr.blogthings.com/shouldyoubreakupwithhimquiz/ ] you should trust your gut feeling. and follow your heart. summer is prolly the best time to do it, because you can always have a summer fling [ have some fun, and go crazy! ] and you wont see him much.. maybe you should tell him that it isnt working out and that you need time to think about your relationship. tell him that can you stay friends and that your sorry[ if you do]. sorry, but i cant really make this decision for you. just think about the summer and if its gonna be worth you guys holding on to something if its hard to see eachother and stuff. anymore questions - feel free to ask!

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ok so im 14/f and this is kinda embarassing but i've never kissed a guy before. I'm afraid that when it does happen though i'm not going to be ready or be a "bad kisser". Please help!

hey hun, dont worry about it. whatever you do - you can be thinkning about it. be relaxed and natural. and have fun with it. dont automatically think you are going to be a "bad kisser". heres some websites that are good, and most likely will make you an "amazing kisser"
[ http://www.kissingbooth.com/how_to_kiss.htm ]

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ok i have 2 questions. well one is that. i have a boyfriend and i really likeh im but the school year is almost over. and ext year were goign to different schools and were gonna not see each other over the summer cuz im always at the beach. what do i do?

and second i started my period in nov. and i still use pads but i wanna swim this summer when im on my period and i try tampons but i struggle. what should i do?

for your first question - if your boyfriend really means THAT much to you, then you should/will make time for him. maybe meet up at a park and have a picnic or even hang out at the beach WITH HIM. you can hang outside with him, but not be at the beach. and for your second one - its completely normal for you to struggle with tampons at first. since you started in november- you should knwo how heavy your flow is. go to a local drug store and buy your size in tampons. when your on your period, your vagina walls are wet [ with blood ] so it should be fairly easy to get started with getting it in. it may hurt a little at first, but you get used to it - so dont worry =) theres alwways instructions that come with tampons when you but them [ they may be on the side, or come on a sheet inside the box ]. you can always look on those. or you can ALWAYS ask your mom. i knwo you might get embarressed.. but she can help you. she knows more then you prolly give ehr credit for. and if you dont like those 2 ways - then go to this site [ http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/tampon.html ] and scroll down to "How do you insert a tampon?" . sorry that it shows some pictures - but its helpful and its good if you dont wanna ask her or soemone else. if you have anymore questions - im here =)

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im 16 year old boy and i think im addicted to masterbating. i am still a virgin but i have gotten head lots of times and ive gotten alot of hand jobs but i still always want to masterbate. its all most like i get cravings to masterbate. i find myself doing it twice maybe 3 times aday. can i be addicted to masterbating? and is too much masterbating bad for my body?

masterbating is not bad for your body, no matter how much you do it. its just pleasure, and something you enjoy doing. you can be addicited to it, but its not really bad for you. when you masterbate you are most likely fantisizing about a hot actress/model/ect. jsut stop thinkning about them, and once you do - whats the point of masterbating? its basically having sex with yourself. your idea of 'gottastop' is simply one of 'gottacontrol' and you need to WANT to, not feel you HAVE to. also, in at this site its an online book [ http://www.arfalfa.com/ScienceOfBreath/ScienceBreath.htm ] and its near the end of it. it gives abreathing excersize that you might wanna try your next feeling. if im not helping much then you might wanna check this site out [ http://www.flirt4free.com ]. maybe it can help you a little? sorry if i wasnt much of help - i tried.

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i'm a 12 year old boy and i dont know that much about girls. my friends know alot so i dont know what to do when we talk about them. can white girls have different colored nipples? and are all vaginas hairy? do black girls always have black nipples? is the inside of a black girls vagina pink? please can you answer these questions for me.

okay, wow. being 12, you dont really need to know that much, but since you asked - im here to help you. its very rare for white girls to have colored nipples [ besides pink ]. yes, all vaginas are hairy. some women shave/get them waxed, while some let them grow natural. its just a natural preference of how they are taken car of. its also very rare for a black girl to not have black nipples [normally its the color of their lips - if they have pink lips then thire nipples have a better chance to maybe being pink] and im not sure about this last one, but id guess it is. if you are really interested in any of these questions or i didnt answer them like you wanted - google them.

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