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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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Okay, so I wasn't EXACTLY sure where to put this, but my left foot tends to cramp up quite often. I'll just be sitting doing nothing, and if I even wiggle my toes, it will just cramp up like I can't move it at all. It hurts soo bad though. Also; when I walk, it gets sore rather quickly.. and I can't even explain it. But here's my question: does anyone know what this could be? I'll be going to the doctor shortly for a physical, so I can ask her then... I would just like to have some input to see if there's anything I can do in the meantime. Thanks for any advice!!
My dad used to get muscle cramps from the work he does at his job. He swears by drinking V8 juice to keep them at bay. Maybe that will give you something to try out.
What do i do about my bf???!!!
Say goodbye and don't look back. He is a jerk, you don't need him. Don't allow yourself to be used as a rug for others to wipe their feet on- EVER.
When you get to be in your 80s do you start to get more negative and criticize more and get more sensitive.
It really depends on the person and what kind of life they led.
I know if I ever make it to 80, I will probably be one grouchy old bird.
Ok, I know what a pushup bra is so please do not tell me what a pushup bra is. (For ex: "it pushes your boobs so they dont sag" or wahtever)
I never wore one before, so I was just wondering exactly HOW it works?? (NOT what it is! lol)
They generally tend to have under-wire and padded cups to give your boobs that extra lift.
I don't know if this is the answer you are looking for, but that is the best way I can think to explain it.
Hey. I'm 15 years old. I have never had a boyfriend, but guys have been interested in me...eh immaturity in guys sucks..but thats besides the point..totally diff. story ha. Basically, i'm scared to grow up & Be Alone. Not find somone out there for me. And turn into some cat lady. I know i'm young but i cannot picture myself being with anyone. Have you ever felt this one at one point or another? Help =[
Yep. Sure have. Actually, I used to always tell my parents I never plan to marry and have children. Kinda funny considering I'm now married with one on the way.
You are 15, there is so much life ahead of you yet.
So you don't have a boyfriend now, big deal. Honestly? All through highschool you will be lucky to find a guy worth spending the rest of your life with. High school sweethearts who become happily married couples are few and far between.
That doesn't mean don't get a boyfriend in highschool, it just means don't base a lonely future on having a highschool boyfriend.
You will doubtfully end up a bitter, barren, spinster. You will find a guy out there who happens to be just right for you. Have patience.
First off, I'm 16/f. I'm not sure that helps, but whatever.
My life is a mess. Let me explain:
I dislike my school a lot. The kids there are loud, obnoxious, rude, inconsiderate, & idiotic. I know ALL of them since I've been going to school with them since 2nd grade. I know their types, I know how they act, what they think & how they think. I have about 11 friends throughout my whole school. Those are the ones I can count on. Outside of school, I have about 20-25 friends tops. Not a lot. A lot of people in my life have done things to screw me over, so I eventually got sick of it & pushed them away from me. I don't trust many people, or like very many either. I don't like my school because it's like a prison. We have cops there. My school was NEVER bad until this year. All the new kids coming in made fights with each other, and it's just unbearable. I had 3 girls wanting to jump me because of something they THOUGHT I did. I told them I didn't do it. I can fight, but when three 200lb bitches wanna fight me, I can't fend for myself. I'm tiny, but I hit hard. But they've stopped bothering me. I just don't like my school. The teachers give me a hard time, and I hardly ever go. I've got an easy temper and it takes a lot for me to stop myself from hitting people on a daily basis. These kids just piss me off and I just wanna kill them all. I can't stand see their stupid, ugly faces anymore. I'm sick of them & their bullshit.
I hate most of my family. My aunt & her husband always fight, so going anywhere with them for more than a few hours is really unenjoyable. I honestly don't know how he stands her. I feel bad for him. As for my aunt's daughter: I hope the bitch ends her life. Yeah, that's my cousin, but lately she's been talking shit about me saying all this crap that's not even true. She said I wasn't pretty, and that I was fat, and that I had no friends. I've got friends, but we've lost touch because they've hardly got time for me, and I'm not gonna wait around. If they're not gonna make an effort, well then neither am I. I'm pretty, but I'm not gorgeous. I have really low confidence, and she doesn't exactly help the situation. I'm not fat. I'm not thin. I'm inbetween, and according to most people, I'm exactly the right size. I sort of like my size. There's only two things I'd actually change about my body, and that's it. She's not exactly skinny either. I told her what I thought about her, and she called me with her bullshit. I just told her to kill herself, & left it at that. As for my parents & older brother...they drive me INSANE. My brother's sort of inconsiderate. He does the stupidest things, and I can't stand it. I put my hand through a window a couple weeks ago because of him. And I'm gonna fail my classes because of him. We have to share our computer & whenever I need it, he makes an excuse to stay online. He doesn't go to school, so he honestly has no reason to be online. All he does on his MySpace is add those skanks who barely have anything on in their pictures. He doesn't even know half of his damn friends on that site. As for my parents, they wanna move back to the city, and I'm not having it. I've lived in the city, and when I did live there, nothing was wrong with it. Now there's all this crime & crap, and I've got a lot of nice things. I'm not gonna go to school so I can get jumped for my shit everyday. I like what I've got, and I'm not gonna let anybody kick my ass for it. And I'm not living in the city. I honestly rather hear the fire sirens from down the street then hear gunshots & all that stupid shit. I can't stand the city. I'm not gonna get raped, jumped or shot because the taxes there are lower than the taxes are where I live. I don't like where I live, but I don't like the city either. I don't know anybody in the city, which you might see as a plus, but I don't like being by myself. And it gives them all the more reason to jump me. Nobody likes the quiet kid. Trust me. And my mom just makes me mad. She always touches me [not innappropriately], but she just touches my shoulder or whatever, or my face and I hate it. I HATE being touched. I just don't like it. It's annoying to be constantly touched, and have people's hands in your face. It kinda makes me wanna smack the shit out of her. I realize that's my mother, she gave birth to me, blahblahblah, but I've got no respect for her if she's got none for me. We usually get along, but she can be really annoying sometimes. My dad on the other hand, pfft. He might as well not even be a father. He comes home whenever he wants, we eat when he decides he wants to go to the store, and then we eat what he wants to eat. And my mom thinks he's cheating on her. =/ I don't think he is because I think it's silly, but there's always a slight chance he is. Nobody works an extra 10 hours a day when they're not supposed to. It just doesn't work that way. My mom & brother always get on my case about eating. I eat when I'm bored, because I've got nothing better to do. I like food, and that's that, but they always yell at me for eating. If they keep yelling at me for eating, I'm just gonna stop altogether & be anorexic. Or I'm just gonna throw it all up for them & ask them if they're happy. I swear, nothing I do pleases them.
My parents play favorites too. They let my brother do whatever he wants because he's older & he's a boy. When he was 13 he was going to the movies, and have girlfriends & hanging out & doing whatever the hell he wanted. But when I was thirteen, I was staying home everyday, not hanging out with people, and not having a boyfriend. Everyone says "Oh, well 13 is too young to have a boyfriend/girlfriend." Well, I have to have some kind of happiness, correct? I wasn't allowed to have a boyfriend until I was sixteen, but somehow I sweettalked my parents into it. And now I can have one. But I don't get why he gets to do whatever he wants, but then if I wanna do it, it's like a sin or whatever. I told my mother a couple of weeks ago I didn't believe in God, and she FLIPPED. Saying all this shit about "OMFG, YOU WERE BORN AND RAISED A CATHOLIC, WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU DON'T BELIEVE IN GOD!?" And I just told her how illogical it seemed to me. The thought of a being creating everything you know & love just seems so unreal & unethical. How does one likely being just create everything? It's impossible. I'm not saying that science created everything, but a person sure didn't. It's not logical. It just..it just isn't.
As for my personal life: I've got a boyfriend. He's amazing. I've known him since I was 12, and we just started dating about 2 months ago in December. Thing is, he's a marine. He's in Iraq right now & I wanna blow my head off because I can't stand the distance. I'm not gonna dump him because for one, he's halfway across the world, and it'd make me look bad, and I hate hurting people. And that'd crush him. He'd have NO reason to come home if I did that. And I love him too much to give him up. But, I hate not being able to call him whenever I want to, or being able to hug & kiss him when I need to. Or being able to call him when I'm mad & telling him to come & get me for a little while so I can get away from my parents. I HATE THAT. I hate the fact he's a marine, I hate the fact he's in Iraq & I hate the fact that I have to wait a really long time before I can see him again. And I don't get to hear from him very often. I realize he's busy doing marine things & whatnot, but hearing his voice is so reassuring. Whenever I don't talk to him I think the worst. I'm thinking he got shot, or blown up, or he's hurt, or something of a bad matter. And I can't help it. I had two friends go there & they promised to come back & died a month apart from each other & I don't want him in that same situation. I worry about him, & he worries about me even though he shouldn't. I just don't want a phone call saying "Your boyfriend's hurt" or "Your boyfriend's dead. I'm sorry." I'd fall to pieces if that happened. I wouldn't know what to do without him. I've liked him for so long and if I lost him to a war, my life would pretty much be over. I miss him & I can't do it anymore. I can't live. I feel like I shouldn't be. He's actually the only reason why I haven't killed myself yet. I'm suicidal but haven't cut in months because of him. I don't wanna cut, but I feel like if things keep going the way they are, I'm gonna start up again.
My life's just upside down & I can't stand it. I'm on probation, I'm in PINS...my grades suck & just everything is fucked up. I don't know what to do anymore.
I've been to counseling before, but it just didn't work, and I've got no one to talk to about anything because I don't have that many people I'm close to since they did things to screw me over. I just wanna know what you guys think I should do.
Sounds pretty messed up. I don't know if I can help, but I will try my best.
It sounds as if you have some serious trust and respect issues. You seem to trust no one. You seem to respect no one. Maybe the problem is you don't respect yourself? Maybe you don't even REALLY like yourself? This is what I gather from the way you seem to absolutely hate everyone around you. You can't trust, like, or respect others if you don't start with trusting, liking, and respecting yourself.
You need to stop allowing other people's actions and behaviors effect you and your life. The kids at school, your aunt and uncle, your cousin, your brother, your mom and dad.
Yah, you are 16 years old, so you are kinda stuck right now, but in 2 years you can do anything you want in this life.
To achieve any kind of success for yourself in this life, you need to get an education. You need to say to yourself "Screw everyone else, I need to do this for ME, and no body's going to stop me." Because, let's be realistic here, Where do you think you will be 2 years from now if you don't get your education to improve your life? Working at a minimum wage job and barely scraping by? I know it's hard, especially when things are so messed up at school, but if you REALLY want to do this, you will achieve your goal. You will find a way.
I PROMISE, this is the first step you NEED to take in order to turn your life around. You NEED to do this in order to make a better life for yourself in the near future, in order to not be stuck in this same rut you are in now. Yah, it's a lot of work, and probably a lot of sacrifice, but you are worth that, don't you think? I don't think so- I KNOW SO. You are worth walking into that school and telling all the people to piss off, because you come here for a purpose.
Don't blame others for you not getting your education. You have to realize that if it is something you REALLY want for yourself, you will find a way to make it happen. Brother won't get off the computer? Go to the library. Stay late or go early to school. Where there is a will, there is a way.
As for your boyfriend, don't break up with him. He's probably a good guy, and you say you love him, so he is worth the sacrifice of not being able to talk to him much right now. It seems as though he is the only thing in your world right now that makes you happy. Don't give that up.
Think of it this way- when you DO get to talk to him, it is very special and memorable for you, is it not? And though it will be a while before he comes home, that gives you something to look forward to. It gives you a light at the end of your tunnel. Keep your chin up and remind yourself, hourly if need be, of how happy you will be when he DOES come home.
I hope you do get your life turned around. But you have to be willing to do it for yourself. You have to be willing to wake up one day and say "Today is the beginning of the rest of my life, and things are going to be different from now on. That is what I want for myself, I know I am worth having a better life, and I know I am worth making these changes, no matter what the struggles may be."
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ok.so i love my mom to death and i want to get her something special for v-day. i only have $10.Any ideas that are great but around that price range. and please dont tell me to go get a job because i cant get one that quick.
Go to a craft store or the craft department at your local department store. Buy some pretty glass beads that are of her taste, maybe a pendant, and some sort of craft string. Make her a necklace or bracelet. You should be able to pull this off with your $10.
Especially for moms, a gift you make is more heartfelt, because of the thought, time and effort you put into it.
When me & my bf are going to have sex I try to have him do a lot of foreplay so I'll be really relaxed and it won't hurt so much. (I'm a virgin) But I almost climax too soon and once I'll willing to effect his penis, I'm not in the mood. Do we foreplay to much? I'm a real whimp and the idea of having something painfully shoved up my vagina isn't too appealing. It's not a matter of me being nervous. I love my bf and we're real close. I'm so glad he's been patient with me. This has happened more than once. what now?
Maybe it's your subconscious at work, because possibly, deep down, you aren't quite ready to lose your virginity?
It's a good thing he is patient. That means he is a good guy.
Okay well the last time I had sex was 7 months ago (it was also my first time). Since that time my period hasn't come. I know I'm not pregnant because my belly hasn't grown and I don't think I've had any pregnancy smptoms. My question is "Why hasn't my period came?"
No period for 7 months? Irregular I can see, but nothing for a 7 month time frame? You need to see a doctor. I would suggest setting an appointment right away. There could be something serious wrong.
P.S. It wouldn't hurt for you to take a pregnancy test, just for the sake of being certain.
my boobs have been itching! ugh its kinda annoying and its like inbetween them too. they've been itching all day, its annoying! okay 1, why? and 2, how do i fix this?
1: Could be dry skin?
2: Try some good moisturizing lotion to see if it helps.
3: I AM pregnant.. I've had an itchy stomach from the skin stretching, but never itchy boobs... I don't recall in all of my pregnancy research hearing of itchy breasts. SORE breasts, yes; ITCHY? No.
EDIT: In response to your feedback- either of those products should work fine.
Also- glad to hear THAT'S not a possibility... :D
I don't know how to word this so ...
How do you fake a North Carolina accent. What is their dialect like? What are some of the words the use that others don't in the Northwest? What is there accent like? Is it really heavy?
Me and my friends made a bet. I lived in North Carolina until I was five, but then I moved. She bet me 50 bucks that when we drive up their this Summer on our way to New York that I couldn't pass for a local. So pretty much I have to get into a conversation with someone I don't know for more than 5 minutes and not have them ask me where I'm from. I may have lived there for five years but I was 6 when we moved, I'v never been back and I want to win the bet.
Honestly, if you only lived there for the first 5 years of your life, even with a good fake accent, they'll know better.
I don't know how to tell you to talk, but good luck with your bet.
im having a spanish fiesta this thursday. (7th grade) which do you think would be the easiest and tastiest to eat? enchiladas (MMMM good), yellow rice (with meat, veggies, etc), or guacamole? also what do they call yellow rice in spanish? amarillo rice? lol also im not the best chef but my mom is helping me. thnx.
I would go with enchiladas and yellow rice. The frozen kind is easier, but scratch enchiladas- mmm... can't beat that!
How do you deal with a grown woman (this is a friend of mine) that has to have every comment you say to her spelled out (explained)? And do you know why she does this. Here are two examples: (1) Her boyfriend did her taxes and asked her to help him proof it and when he asked her to read something she asked him; why would I read that that is information you know I know; (2) she was driving her uncle to the store and her uncle knows she always goes that way to this store but when her uncle questioned if she was going the right way and when her uncle admitted she was right and he was wrong she said why would you question me when you know I always go this way.
If you are really her friend, you may encourage her to see a councilor. She reads too much into things and I'm afraid she is going to drive herself insane. Literally.
She needs to do the right thing for herself and seek professional help. I'm worried her mind may just snap one day, worrying herself over every little detail. She deserves a life far better than that.
I don't know how, but I always can tell who you are, no matter what you ask, how you word your questions, or who you are asking about. I guess that is a good thing, because I worry about your.. friends, and I want to help. I TRY to help, and I hope I do some kind of good for you.
13/f
are there any ways to speed up your period or something so it doesn't last as long? or any ways that will make it less painful? i'd like to be able to go to my school dance this friday but i can't dance if i have cramps [which i usually get] & feel wet. thanks for any advice.
The only thing I can think of is to get on birth control, however that does you no good for Friday.
Take Midol for cramps and bloating. Try resting before the dance with a heating pad or a hot towel over your lower abdomen to help with the cramps, as well. Clean yourself frequently to reduce the "wet feeling." That's all I can say to help you in such a short time frame.
Okay, since this week is the week of valentines day, I wanna do my nails a cute way. I have a soft but solid light pink, solid white, and solid red. Any cute ideas, but not polka dots or anything over the top?
Also, please dont mention like alternating colors on each nail, one hand with one color and the other color on the other hand, etc, or just using a single color on each nail. I want a cute design.
;)
Use the colors to make 3 diagonal stripes on your fingernails like this ///. I would suggest going from white, to pink, to red. Make sure the colors are in the same order and the stripes are in the same direction on all nails. However, it may not work out too well if you have short nails.
My 3 year old labrador retriever always gets awful ear infections. They smell terrible and she's constantly itching and shaking her head. I've taken her to the vet many times and recieved medication, but the infection keeps coming back. How can I clear them up without having to go to a vet every time she gets one and how can I prevent them?
If the infections keep coming back, you probably don't want your dog to keep getting antibiotics to clear it up. They may stop working all together.
My suggestion? I would get a second opinion. You may hold your vet in the highest regards, but they may be mistaken as to what the problem is and how to make it go away.
hey can someone please write me a list or tell me any books that have ALOT of twists and turns in them. like the best novels EVER.
thankssss
I am a Stephen King fan, myself. The man gets into so much detail you can actually see it being played out in your head as you read. To me, that is what makes the best novels ever.
I like them all, but I would have to go with The Shining. However, if you are one to get creeped out, don't read it alone in the dark...
is it bad to pretend your happy when inside your totally broken inside? Is it wrong to change or just be happy because people are tired of hearing me cry? Is it dramatic if you cry yourself to sleepover somethign you thought was real?
Never pretend to be something you're not.
If people are tired of hearing you cry, then maybe they need to start helping you feel better so you don't feel a need to cry any longer. Have you talked about your problems to anyone? If not, you should. At least talk a really close friend who's opinion you hold high, and who can keep it confidential.
No, it's not dramatic to cry yourself to sleep; obviously you are sad for some reason. I don't know what is causing you to be so sad, but you need to find some way of working out your problems. Life is too short to spend much time in sadness.
Two nights ago i was out with some friends and we wanted to call my "bff" to see what she would say. she is now going out with my brother and it ruined our friendship. she was say that she used me to get to my brother and it really bothers me. and saying that she wanted to fight me because she knew she would beet me up. i dont no what to do now she talked about me behind my back. i am confused and i would like to have someones advice. thank you
Chrissy19
Well, if she used you, then she doesn't deserve the title of BFF, now does she. I think I would be letting my brother know what kind of asshole she really is.
My ex dumped me cause she wasnt felling it, Any way I want her back but she likes for othere guys, and just wants to stay freinds. I cant live without her she is the love of my life, and I cant let her go. She already has a date to the dance with one of the guys she likes, and I was with on of my freinds the othere day and we were walking threw the hall and she so us and I had my arm around her and my ex gave the othere girl like a dirty look. Anyway I want her back relly bad but she just wants to stay friends soo how doo i get her to like me in that love way? And my friends and people have told me to get her jelious. How do i get her jelouis she is in grade 7 but im in grade 8 but im the same age but I dont get to she her much unless its ressec which a barely see her or after school I might talk to her for 2-8 mins a day but I need to make her jelouis and in a short amount of time, ill give you a bit about her she likes to dance she lived in B.C and was the Ugly girl inher school and no on liked her but she is like in the middle at out school like alot of people no and hang out with her there is 4 kids she likes that one is like this big hot shoot hockey player and has theeth like a beaver and the othere 2 are in my grade and are pretty atractive and the othere one is unknown but she says she likes a lil action not in the whore way but like a kiss and I going out with her for a week and I kissed her once but I think she thinks im green but I relly like her and I relly need to make her jelouis to get her back. So I need to no some ways to make her jelouis? Thanks :]
As I told you earlier- You can't change how she feels about you. Sorry, ain't happening. But go ahead, try to win her back through jealousy if that's what you think you need to do. I am 99.998% sure that this jealousy scheme is a dead end. In all of my 29 years of life, I have yet to see some one actually pull this stunt off.
Oh well, you will learn one day that sometimes it is just time to let go and move on. I just hope your heart doesn't get broken into smaller bits in the mean time.