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okay, well i have a black dad and a white mom.. well i dont have white hair and i dont have black hair either.. but its frizzy. it looks REALLY pretty when its straightened, but when you dont put special stuff on it, it looks bad.. anyway, is there any special straightening stuff that you guys know of to put on my hair?

Well seeing as the african - american hair would be more of a dominant gene, try getting some of that relaxer stuff from the drugstore. It wouldn't hurt your hair even if your hair isn't full african-american. It works wonders. Hope I helped! ♥

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Ok, i'm 15 years old and i've had my period for about two years. It's VERY irregular. I'll skip two months and then get it, and crazy stuff like that. It's never the same time of the month either.. not that i can really remember since there is so much time between periods. I'm 5'6 and i weigh 105. I'm skinny and some websites say im underweight and to go to a doctor. I eat though! I just have a fast metabolism and exercise. Do you think it's because of my weight? Does that sound unhealthy? Why is my period SO irregular STILL after two years? haha thanks.

Well, its normal for your period to be very irregular the first few years. But it does sound like you are slightly underweight, and that could be one of the underlying causes of you having an irregular period. I suggest you go to a regular doctor first, and she may put you on an eating plan to help you gain some weight, or she might say you're fine. Either way, I think going to a doctor is the best way to go. Hope I helped! ♥

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aight well i dont kno how to put this uh... aight some people say they shave and wax down there and then other people say they dont do anything so i want to know what should i do i mean what do guys prefer??

Well...hair "down there" is natural. So I really don't know what guys prefer, it depends on the guy, I guess. If having hair there really doesn't bother you, then don't worry about it, really, not all that many people do shave down there. The only thing that you should keep clean - shaven about down there is if you have a high cut swimsuit bottom, you don't want hair coming out of there, so shave your bikini line. Hope I helped! ♥

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Sometimes when I mess up on the littlest thing or I don't get my way, I get really sad and upset, and I don't understand why. Even while I'm upset I tell myself, "This doesn't make sense to be upset now" but I get upset anyways and I don't get out of my mood until I get something new or I find something to do that interests me. I really hate getting mood swings. Is there a way to knock myself out of these moods? Are they even natural?

I've got the same thing sometimes. Its natural, its just part of being a teen. If your mood swings are really severe though, like if you can go from having the time of your life to wanting to kill yourself, then I suggest going to the psychiatrist - you could have something called Bi-Polar disorder. If not, then its just normal, and when you get in a bad mood, just remember that you always have those moodswings and its okay to be upset, just don't take it out on other people. Hope I helped! ♥

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aight i used to masterbate all the time but then i quit for like a yr becuase i dont have anything to do it with anymore i mean i could go buy a dildo but thats embassing and i dont know what else to use i mean is there like soemthing around the house i could use??? please answer me cuz it is much needed thankyou

Umm yeah...I seriously don't know. o_O

If you seriously feel the need to masturbate then erm...use your hands? I dunno. Sorry.

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can you get TSS from wearing Pads?? thanks

Wearing pads doesnt increase your chances of getting TSS. Only tampons increase the chance. ♥

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well i went to a concer like 2 days ago and i was in the mosh pit and i got thrown on stage...
i stood up and the band had stopped playing and everyone was staring at me...i feld so embarassed. but then i saw my bf in the front row and i started singing the song that they were playing... so they started playing the song again and i was up their the whole show..
the band called me the next day and asked me and my band to come with them on tour... my band is called the audio switch.
should i go on tour with them and miss the whole summer hangin wid my friends or play punk rock music with mental riot on tour?!?!?!
help!!!!
they both sound so awesome but bieng on tour with metal riot is a chance of a lifetime..

Yeah umm...here's my advice to you

You stop lying, and get a real life.

They don't just ask people on tour with them, IN THE MIDDLE OF A TOUR, dimwit.

And tell me exactly how they got your phone number, and how they knew you had a band, and why you weren't thrown offstage like everybody else would be?

Nice lie.

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Why cant they say dont phunk with my heart on z100 (or whatever radio station you listen to) they say dont mess with my heart. it isnt a bad word!! please help me im so confused ill rate high!

Because phunk pretty much stands for fuck and it sounds close enough.

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i feel kinda weird asking this, but i really need help.

my chest is practically non-existant. and when i say non-existant, i MEAN non-existant.... i'm barely even a double A and i'm 16! i can't wear dresses and my choices of shirts are extremely limited because of it. i need to know how i can make my boobs GROW! i'm a gymnast, so i don't think eating a lot of fatty foods would be a good idea.

thx!
i rate high for good answers!

Its probably because you're a gymnast. Gynmasts work out so much and have so much muscle that for some reason it takes effect on your breasts growing too. Watch the olympics and stuff, and you'll see that even the older gymnasts are the same way. Its no big deal. If it really bothers you that much, I suppose you could get a padded bra or something but I think people would notice...I think what you just need to do is be confident in yourself, and keep up with the gymnastics! ♥

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its me AGAIN..anywho..

i kno that they half to pull of the bracets..that doesnt bother me. its the 4 rings in the back around my teeth. do they just pull those out too?

Yep, they pull those off too - but it doesnt hurt. Just slight pressure and then its fine. ♥

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whats the best way to have sex without getting an StD?

Umm...there's really not a whole lot you can do

Have your partner as well as yourself tested for STDs before having sex. If you're both clean, then you're probably fine. If you just REALLY won't get tested...theres not a whole lot you can do. Condoms don't protect from STDs, neither do other birth control devices, so just both you and your partner should get tested. ♥

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I'm questioning my faith
i'm not sure what it was in the first place really
um... but I think i'm just kind of having a bit of a crisis, not sure where to turn
I come from a semi-Christian background

I'm having the same problem..and I really don't know what to do either

Whats been working for me...is just try to live your life without thinking about your faith for a while..then maybe you'll understand it more, if you don't think it has to be involved in everything you do.

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how exactly do you wash your face like i have this soap kind... n i use pads n water of course to put it on my face but are u supposed to put water on to wash the soap off after or keep the soap on?

Lol, wash the soap off. If you leave the soap on you're just pretty much making your face dirtier. ♥

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ummm....can u explain the steps of fingering or how to do it?

Umm...sure...

Well the girl takes off her pants, or the guy can reach down her pants if he wants to...and all he does is put his finger in and around her vagina and play with her clit a bit...

...I think thats about it, if you have more questions, just drop one in the box.


A clit is a womans Clitoris - its the part of her that gives her sexual pleasure. And No, the man doesn't put the womans fingers in her own vagina.

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My period started early today and im going shopping tomorrow!! It wouldnt be a problem or anything but i have really heavy periods and the 2nd day is always the heaviest. Tomorrow is gonna be the 2nd day! im not calling it off because i cant let my friends down and ive wanted to get some cds and stuff im buying tomorrow for ages. any suggestions, like how i can cope and what i should do?! and when i say heavy i mean really heavy as have to use night pads in the day and change them every 2 hours.

Its no big deal..just bring a purse and some pads and use the bathroom when you need to change.

I'm trying to be helpful, but I have to say...


Duh.

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I recently just found out that I have scoliosis. I have to get a brace and was fitted today for it. I'm going to have to wear it a minimum of 16 hours a day. I was wondering if there is any one who can tell me what it was like having a back brace and give me advice on when to wear it, what to do in the summer, and things like that. Thank you very much.

I've also got scoliosis, and thank goodness was not needed to be fit for a brace. But I know of people that have, and you won't really have a problem with it. It hardly shows under your clothes unless you're really into the thin-fabric-and-tiny-shirts-for-fifty-dollars generation, then you may have to change your style a bit. Wear it anytime that you're not in a swimsuit or something, and then you probably wont have to wear it as long. You are allowed to take it off to swim and do physical activities (ones that aren't restricted). I'd probably buy some baby powder or cornstarch to put on your skin in case it rubs some days, and you should be fine. I would also talk to your doctor about maybe having some physical therapy, because sometimes, that can actually make the scoliosis better. Thats what I did, and then a brace wasn't needed! Good luck! ♥

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ok i wanna temporarily dye my hair blonde for the summer just for fun *it's brunette now* is there anything i need to worry about so it doesn't become permanetly blonde? i don't wanna change my hair color for ever, i just wanna see waht it looks like...if u have any info plz lemme know!

Use Loreal Color Pulse. It washes out in about 10 washes. It works pretty good! I have darkish blonde/brownish hair and dyed it with some shade of red, and it worked great! Just beware, it may leave your hair slightly tinted or it may not work since you are trying to dye darker hair to lighter with a temporary dye that doesn't contain bleach. ♥

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hey .. well i got these like red things on my breast ... what are they and is it normal? thanks

They're called nipples. o_O

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i just want to know if eating to much whipped cream is bad for your brain.

Well if you've been eating a lot of whipped cream, apparently it is for asking a stupid question like this. o_O ♥

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hi um, i have heard a bunch of words in school, and i dont know what they mean. can you help me?
they are:
mingle
goatee
fingering
fugly
saprophites
ratastrophe

-thanks

mingle - To hang out with people
goatee - A beard and mustache that are connected just around the mouth
fingering - For a guy to insert his finger into a girls vagina
fugly - Slang for "fu*king ugly"

The other two, I don't know. Sorry. Hope I helped anyway! ♥

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