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Hi.. i feel so lonely in a room full of people.I feel i dont have true friends.It seems like they're all just fake.Im a great student so lot of people ask me for help and i ofcorse say yes becaous if i can help why not. So i feel like they call me when they just need something from me,any help or to hang out with me when they have noone else.And somethimes tell me some stupid thing that really gets me and hurt me but noone sees that i'm acually hurt.Im not that fit but im not "fat" so thats thing im most sceptic about and most affraid becaose people first see look but then personality. I said to myself on this spring break i will go at city every night and thoso stuff. But no becaose i have noone to go with or someone o call me and want to hang out.I give a lot but it seem like I'm getting nothing in return.I love to read and be a little in my own world and i also love languages,so i kinda want to write a book about my expiriences or to be part of writting,like for some papers thats my dream job.But "freinds" around me tell me a fantasie a lot and make me think im not good enough or i cant write,they make me think its imoposible for me to do something like that.I also love to dress up and im into fashion so there are lots of comments on my look. People liek stranger complement me but my close freinds say they dont like it.. :( Are they jealous or what?Or they want me to be in pain. I sometimes feel like i dont know who am i.What am i doing with my life.?
I'm sorry if my english is bad or its not in right tense.Its not my real language, i teach it in scool.
I said some radom things i dont know dont know does it make sense but i hope you can give me some advice..
~Thanks a lot.. ♥ (link)
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Hi there. It sounds to me a bit like your self-esteem is a bit low? You feel self-conscious and that people are juging you because you're 'fat' although you actually are not fat! That's what it tends to do to your self-image. It undermines it. And when your self-esteem is a bit low we do tend to end up being a bit 'used' or 'put upon' by others. That's because you end up sacrificing your self-esteem hopefully win the esteem of others. They latch on to the fact that you are always willing to help, and as you are a great student too they will know that your help is valuable to them. They'll naturally feel a bit envious when strangers praise you, because they have got into the mind-set that you are just there to help them and they like to keep you feeling a bit sub-ordinate. Now I'm not saying that these people are cruel. It's just one of those 'group dynamics' that crop up and flourish sometimes. We're all a bit guilty of it at times. Often without knowing we are doing it. You're saying plenty of positive stuff here too. I don't think your self-esteem is in ruins by any means. A good first step to getting it back up to it's best is learning to say 'NO' sometimes. Help by all means. That shows a good character. But if helping at times really is not convenient, and it means putting your own plans on hold or even giving them up, say no, you really have not got time. It starts to turn around their mind-set. They may sound a bit annoyed at first, but you will go up in their estimation by not being always available. They will learn that your help is still valuable, but not their right to demand. So they will value it more. Socially this might well help too. They should learn to 'court you' a bit more (and not consider you disposable when they have other plans) and know that they have to give in return. Feeling that you don't know what you are doing with your life is because you have indeed handed over a lot of the control to these other people. It's a step by step process getting your self-esteem back up to top performance but it's very worthwhile. You will start to feel different as it improves and they will see this and have to treat you differently themselves. As to the writing, well it's a different kind of career than many people go for. It is probably tempting for them to 'put you down' to keep you in your place, as we might say. There are many working journalists (a very creditable career and influential too. As well as interesting) and also very many published authors. They are not just 'jobs' which people fall into. Mostly the people wanted and dreamed of doing it. Just like you. So keep following your dream. Think of it as an 'ambition' (which you work and strive for in real ways) rather than a day-dream. Go for it. You like fashion and are praised for your look and style? I am thinking 'Fashion Journalist' here? Maybe spend a little time writing a short story too. To get into the way we compose and structure writing. Can be for your own amusement only. Or if something promising comes up, you might want to send it to some potential publishers? It's all working towards you ambition and going beyond a 'dream'. I reckon you are actually doing a lot better than YOU think you are mate! That's the self-esteem thing. Start work on that. And good luck. And by the way, your English is absolutely fine. I can follow it very easily. A lot of English speakers of English have awful grammar and jump tenses every other sentence. You writing is excellent. Couple of spellings wrong. But English spelling is well-known to be random. Again, you spell better than many native English speakers I've encountered. Hang in there. Feel free to post a question to my inbox any time if there is something you would like to discuss further.
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Something really weird happened recently my 7 year old sister came to me and asked why when she thinks about our cousin her panties get wet (our cousin is 20) so i asked her what she thinks about when that happens to her she said she thinks about him when we go to the beach with him. obviously there's more but i feel sickened to even think that my little sister has a crush on him anyway i told her that she should never think about that ever again then she started crying and told me she thought she could trust me then she stormed off to her room so i was wondering what i should do now should i tell him or should i tell my mom i just don't even know. (link)
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I imagine it is rather a shock. It would possibly be less surprising if she was twelve or thirteen (when crushes on all sorts of people from cousins to rockstars and movie stars are very common). There's no need to feel sickened though, so try to avoid that. It's a bit of a crush/hero worship thing and not a sign that there is anything wrong with sis. She won't have a strongly formed idea about what's appropriate at seven. In fact it's rather young to make any sort of rational appeal to her other than how you have done, by telling she shouldn't. Which has upset her a bit. But explaining in depth would mean explaining a lot of things to her that you won't want to start explaining, so I see your problem. I feel pretty sure that after her tantrum it will all blow over and she'll find plenty of other stuff to amuse her before long. She won't understand issues of a sexual nature at seven (and rightly so) but she definitely WILL have some opinions about trust. So I don't think you should break the trust she has shown in you by telling your mom. Not unless things look like developing in a way that cause you real concern anyway. I doubt they will (assuming your cousin hasn't any intention of manipulating the situation...I'm not suggesting anything about him of course so don't be offended). It sounds like a childhood phase that will quickly be forgotten to me. You probably wouldn't worry if she spent hours looking at pictures of a pop star and idolising him, and there would be something of a naively 'sexual' element in that too.
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This is what I believe in:
-reincarnation
-spells
-gods and goddesses
-worshipping those and being one with nature
-that everything has a spirit
-communicating with the gods and goddesses
-meditation (candles and incense)
I know you all are gonna say Wicca, but I want a religion that when I tell someone what mine is, they'd be like "wtf???"
I'm American; part Irish, Swedish, German, etc if that helps. (link)
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German mythology has lots of these things, since there's some german in you. Like in Wagner's 'Ring Cycle' (Valhalla, the Valkyrie, The Rhinegold, Erda the earth goddess, Wotan & Fricka & Freya etc). It's very old. Older than Christianity and Islam by far. It even had a magic wring and dragons (like Tolkein's 'Lord of the Rings' which borrows an awful lot from this old belief system). I like this stuff myself actually. Maybe because of Wagner's opera though. Or how about the Druids? They're a spritual bunch indeed. And also very ancient.
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Hello.. :) I hope you can give me some advice.. I love my dad and im daddy's girl but in past years he started drinking a lot after work and coming home early so when he's home mum and he fights a lot and it gets me bc i love then and i dont want them to tear apart.. My mum works in hospital so when she finishes work she's just laying in her bad and cant do anything bc she's tired so there's one more reason for fight.So our grandma cooks and everything but gives money and all support to her dother not son(my dad) i dont know why. She bought her house,pays her bills talks on phone with her all the time and her daughters but claims she loves me the most and my brother always blame me for everything and ist always my fault. I dont know what to do i feel lke im lonely with noone.Im a good student and always witha smile on my face in school so people think i live great life but when i come home its basiclly a hell.. (link)
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It sounds a lot to me like it's your dad's drinking that is putting your, brother and mum under pressure. It'll put a strain on finances as well as relationships, and this will increase the pressure still further on your mum. It's quite easy to become addicted to alcohol. Soon you begin to drink it not to feel good or drunk, you need to drink it to feel normal. And until you've had a drink it can be hard to function at all. None of this is your fault of course, but you are caught up in all the crossfire and it's no wonder you feel alone and a victim. School will certainly be a relief from an environment like this. Do try hard to keep up the image and work hard. Ultimately it is to your best advantage to get a sound education. And for now it will be something solid and less stressful and explosive as home life. It's good to keep something solid and dependable to hold on to. I'm afraid that because the atmosphere is caused by the drinking, and you are NOT the cause of it then you can't directly be the solution either. I would suggest you try and find some time to speak to mum, and your grandma. Somehow you need to work together to get through to dad to get him to take steps to stop drinking. Alcohol addiction ruins relationships, and lives and the health of the drinker too. Unfortunately, as much as you love your dad it is perhaps unlikely that appealing to him to stop because you love him will be enough. But tell him anyway. Often. There are organisations (Alcoholics Anonymous for instance) who can really help if he can be made to see that he has a problem which is not likely to go away and can be all but impossible to resolve without this sort of professional help. We all emotionally and verbally lash-out at those we love when the whole house is under pressure like this. Hence the constant arguments and recriminations and placing of blame. There are ways back to a happy and secure family life and many, many people have been in this position. It's not a case of it being an unavoidable unhappy end by any means. Dad is a victim here, not the big bad ogre, even if it mght appear so. It's the drink that's the enemy. He'll need a lot of help and support. Have that chat with mum and grandma soon as you can. You can't just hope it will all go away, but that's often the state of my mind we can slip into. Make the start and the rest will follow.
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So, I finally got my crush, like I always thought it would be crush, but turns out he is into me, and just woo ! But, we going on a date, having Chinese, just any tips, for if it goes quiet, because I'm one of those people that get so nervous I can't talk, anytips, any good subjects to talk about? (link)
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Hi there. Now here's a little tip that almost never fails. Listen-up for some subject that HE is interested in. Maybe you know already something that he's keen on? Ask him about that. Listen to what he says and think up intelligent further questions you can add as he goes along, to keep the conversation going. At the end of the night he will have been talking quite a bit about stuff that he is interested in. And is savvy and confident about. And 99 out of 100 times the guy will go home thinking "Hey...What an interesting and intelligent girl. She's nice." Thing is, us guys kind of love talking about ourselves. We especially like subjects we can sound knowledgable on too. Play this to your advantage on early dates. Maybe some of the stuff isn't really that interesting to you? It does not matter one bit. Pretend! It's like the way one person dominates conversation at a dinner party. Mostly we're all thinking "God, he doesn't half go on. He's a bit of a bore." But he goes home thinking "What an interesting party/bunch of people." Us guys love an audience and we're better at talking than listening a lot of the time. You know, I'll probably be thrown out of the Honourable Society of Blokes for giving you this information!!! Have fun on your date, and remember this little trick.
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Hi, Im over 18 I don't want to say how old but ill say I'm over 18 not by much though. But anyways. I saw a couple pictures of girls that were under 18 like between 13-17 that were sexy pictures like of their butts in really short shorts or bikinis or underwear or like highschool cheerleaders up skirt pictures and I kind of grew a liking to looking at them. I'm just wondering before I get myself in trouble..if I were to save any of these pictures to my phone or computer, could I get in trouble? Girls under 18 but none of the pictures are naked or showing any private parts. underwear and bra are the least clothing no nudes. Could I get in trouble if caught with these? (link)
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Images are only pornographic if they are sexually explicit. Therefore images of girls 13-17 which are sexually explicit would be child-pornography and thus illegal to posess. A non-nude picture of a girl, girls or girls and guys together COULD be sexually explicit if it depicted a sexual act, so we could not say non-nude always equals perfrctly legal. Bikinis and short shorts do not make a photo of a girl of say, 15 any more pornographic than if she was dressed in anything else. It would be a poor lookout if a couple of girls taking photos of themselves/each other in their shorts or sexy dresses entailed illegal child porn photos which they could not legally own or share with friends on Facebook etc. You'll not be liable for prosecution for the type of pictures you are describing here. Also, it's not unusual for studios to publish (electronically, or on paper) phots of adult (18+) models in sexually explicit poses and activity who may indeed be dressed as cheerleaders/college girls/in young looking outfits etc. That's not illegal either. Mostly studios use a watermark/logo on their images. Search the name of the studio/publisher if you are in doubt. If their site is slick-looking, with all the legal credentials stated, and has verified credit-card and/or bank transfer facilities for membership then I wouldn't worry about downloading any pics or movies from them if that's your thing. All the models will be 18 or over at the time the images were obtained. Poor quality, badly lit pictures of girls and guys who are pretty obviously NOT models are a complete unknown and you seacrh for, download and posess stuff like this at your own risk. And on your own conscience, because all though they are 'just pictures' there's usually a lot of unhappiness and exploitation that really happened in acquiring them.
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There's this guy that I really like. I don't think he likes me though, from what I see, and I was chatting with him, then we said stuff. Near the end of the conversation, he started acting weird, really very weird. He said something like ''I can't tell you or you'll discover my secret identity'' then ''I'm feeling like [my name] and you're probably feeling like me''. I just told him to go to sleep because things where getting weird. But, what does he mean? I'm so confused!
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I imagine you are confused. Me too! I don't think you're going to get far analysing these two parting shots of the conversation. They aren't really conversation at all. Just 'noise'. Unless he really has got a secret identity. I would imagine anyone who had would be unlikely to draw attention to the fact by saying they had one, don't you? "Hey. I've got a secret identity" is probably not the best way of keeping it secret is it? If you're looking for some clue as to his feelings I'd tend to review and examine the rest of the conversation (when you were 'chatting with him'). It's when we are relaxed that we let slip our private thoughts in conversation. I should imagine the guards were up (for some reason) and when he said this and when the guards go up you'll either get deflection, lies or in this case, what appears to be utter nonsense.
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I'm a 21-year-old female. I recently noticed that I might have a thing for older guys; late 20s to even late 40s. Sometimes I find myself lusting after them and I feel like it might be totally wrong but still so right. I don't have any "daddy issues" either and I'm definitely not after any guy's money, so my question is: is it weird that as a particularly young college student, I'm attracted to older guys? I've never been in a relationship before so I'm not sure if it's totally normal or I might be confused.... (link)
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It is surely an unjust and even insulting generalisation to suggest that a young woman who finds older men attractive has 'daddy issue' or is a blatant 'gold digger'. We could no doubt find some equally insulting generalisations about older guys who prefer the company of younger women? The thing about 'general cases' is that there is no such thing as a general case. All cases are particular in one way or another. A successful relationship depends on many things, perhaps not least of all a strong feeling of connection. The hard-to-define feeling that the person you are with is somehow 'right' for you and you...well...connect, basically. Being the same (or closely similar) age does not make it happen, or make it probable that it will. Neither does an age gap preclude it in any way (or make it impossible to happen, if you prefer). In fact I don't believe there is any way to contrive or engineer this feeling of connection, or resonance. Just happens mate. If you are attracted to an older guy, then the tendency of human nature is to be drawn towards the thing that attracts us. Keep an open mind is my advice. He won't be right, or wrong just because of his age. It'll be because of who he is. Up close, we see the person as they are. If there is something of an age gap it's probably fair to say that both of you might have to work that little bit harder. You won't always see things with the same eye. Some stuff that is new to you will be very familiar to him already. Socially, you might well find yourself introduced to some new situations and environments. Because it's safe to assume that many things you find enjoyable now will have lost their appeal and been replaced by other interests in, say 7 years time. It might call for a lot of understanding and consideration on both sides. Both being willing to embrace new things. But being willing to share things you might not have enjoyed otherwise, consideration and understanding are very fine things to cultivate in any relationship, don't you think? Look at the person. And look at how regards and treats YOU. If the relationship makes you feel you are just a pretty, young (and probably short-term) amusement and he's condescending towards you then it's not a good idea. If you feel valued and a properly 'equal partner' (to coin a phrase) in all aspects of the relationship, then that's exactly what you are. Regards 'normal' relationship desires, the desire to be loved, valued and respected is the normal one. The one we all want. Find it where you may. ps The 'environment' bit I wrote sounds a bit confusing to ME already. Basically, if he's say, 30 he'll live in a '30 year old world' while you live in a '21 year old world'. You'll both have to be prepared to come out of your respective 'worlds' a bit sometimes. Is that better? I'm sure you know what I mean.
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Hello, I want to start by saying that I grew up in a house hold that everything got discussed and everything had a solution. Two parents that loved each other and did everything together. Even after 25+ years of marriage they would still grab the car and go places almost every Sunday. Unfortunately it all came to an end when she passed away recently.
But that's not why I'm here. I have been in a relationship for almost 3 years with a guy I've known for over 8 years. Started dating after talking for a good 6-7 months. Everything was great. We could talk for hours, hangout all day, we both love to dance even though I'm more of a dancer than he is. I could literally see him everyday and at the end of the day when he went home I already missed him.
Lately, a couple things have been happening. From me finding out that he has hungout with other girls with telling me to constant arguments about petty things. I hate arguing I think its such waste of time and energy.
Hes always going out of state with his boys for the weekend but the moment I decide to go out with a girl friend or even my older sister its suddenly an issue. And I honestly stopped going out because I didn't want to make him upset. Up until recently. I started going out again and I'm not much of a drinker so I am always conscious of what I'm doing and who I'm around. I go, have a couple drinks, see people I haven't seen in a while and that's it I come home. I feel like he thinks I go out and dance on all these guys and get sloppy drunk and flirt. But I don't.
I started to notice little things that in the past wouldn't have annoyed me but now I do. He always needs someone asking if he needs help 50 times before he finally accepts. Or if he's upset at me I have to ask 3 days in a row before I get an answer. Or the way he ignores me when hes around his boys for hours. I think its safe to say my feelings aren't what they used to be.
Thing is mom has gotten sick and even though I want to call things off and venture out I feel like I cant because of that. I love his mom and I think me leaving him it would probably drive him insane. I feel like this is such a sick relationship and I want to get out but idk if I should stay for the time being. Please help
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The relationship your parents enjoyed sounds great, and enviable indeed. This is the touch-stone by which you evaluate other relationships? It's a fact of life that all pennies just don't fit the slot. All that lives grows and is subject to change. We do not always grow and change together. Sometimes we grow apart. Liking the same sort of amusements isn't sufficient to make a 'soul mate'. You've seen how the true connection can really work in your parents and it defies even time. I'm afraid it sounds rather like this relationship has just run out of fuel to me. The things you found cute and desirable in him, you suddenly find annoying, eh?
Can see that you're reluctant to upset him further when he's already facing other problems. But you can't really sustain a relationship on sympathy alone. Not at 23 anyway, and with no substantial investment/committments in it yet. It's almost certainly going to lead to you feeling very frustrated and 'trapped' and only a matter of time before you snap anyway. If you're using terms like 'for the time being' to describe the relationship I can't see it has any real prospects, can you? I appreciate it won't be easy to break it off because of a fondness for him and his mother, and a natural sense of compassion. But the option doesn't seem sustainable to me.
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I am a 15 year old guy that wants to have sex with my 18 year old older friend that is also a guy. I know that he's straight and all but I want to do it just to do it and I know that sounds strange but I don't know what to do and I have to see him tomorrow morning but I don't know how to tell him considering how ugly I am. (link)
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We can't always help who we admire and fall for by any means. Three years isn't a problem. When he's 24 you'll be 21. Hardly a problem. But there are age-of-consent issues here, with you being 15. Which need thinking about seriously. Ugly is subjective, and not really an absolute statement. So don't beat yourself up. If a potential partner likes your looks, you're not ugly. Two identical guys or girls could describe themselves as ugly, not bad or good looking. All comes down to self-image mate. There's also the fact that as far as you know, he's straight. I'm heterosexual. I've got no issue with homosexuality at all, male of female. In fact I know and have known a few gay guys, would count some as very good friends too. (To be completely honest I've found gay guys sometimes far more sharp, witty and interesting conversation than the straight ones!). But I can't feel any sexual attraction towards them. It's just not 'there' in me. So for a number of reasons I've got to suggest you keep him a bit of 'crush' I guess, and leave it at that. I'm sure he's much on your mind at the moment, and it's eating at you. And affection which isn't returned, or just plain crossed by circumstances is not a great place to be in. It does pass though. Trust me. Hang in there.
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Hello.. I have a problem bc i feel i dont fit anywhere.I want to be that popular kid who knows everybody hangs out all the time and who ppl love.. Sure i have my firends but sometimes i feel like i have none,most times when i need someone i have noone.I feel worthless.. Why am i doing this? What is my goal? Why am i living this life? (link)
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Think we all feel this way sometimes. How do I quantify my value and worth? Worth what, and to whom? Why do I do what I do and where is it going? What's the meaning of this 'life' thing anyway? As someone who has no religious conviction my thoughts run something like this. All we are given is the rather cold fact of our existence. Our life is our ongoing attempts to impose some meaning, value and order upon our mere existence. The values and meaning we impose are up to us and in many ways, unique to each of us as individuals. We are actually all alone in this. It's a personal search. The very popular and charismatic person may struggle with the idea something like "Who am I exactly, myself? Am I only here to amuse and entertain others?" So the meaning of life is basically that it has no meaning at all, other than that which we impose on it ourselves. ps Can't claim to have arrived at this profound observation myself. Brilliant Swiss psychologist (philosopher, even?) Carl Jung sussed this out. Took until he was 84! Your life is yours to form and forge into any shape mate.
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Is treatment for acne really needed or will a home remedy work? (link)
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I'd say it depends on how bad it is. There are plenty of over-the-counter cures. There are plenty of home-cures and suggested cleansing techniques too. But skin-types vary greatly from person to-person. Even if you are the same race, skin-tone and age etc. And it's hard to evaluate the worth of a home-cure without actually trying it, and impossible to know it's provenance. Commercial products are tested thoroughly before they get on the shelf. Therefore if one doesn't actually do any good, it isn't likely to do any harm and/or worsen the situation. If it's quite bad/extensive then you are better off seeing a doctor. It may be that some course or system of treatment that is not applied to the face at all is actually needed to sort out the root cause. Which you cannot buy over the counter. Definitely don't try any manual methods like squeezing and scratching, or very harsh facial scubs/cleansers though. It will leave permanent pitting of your skin.
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If I am virgin can I get pregnant. ... (link)
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Not completely sure what the question is. If you are still a virgin right now, no. There is no way you can be pregnant. If you mean can you get pregnant the first time you have full sex (that is, when you actually lose your virginity) then like adviceman49 says, yes you can. You need to use a condom to prevent an unwanted pregnancy. Stories about girls not being able to get pregnant the first time they have sex are completely untrue.
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it started when we were on vacation in 2014, she would just out of the blue say things like "don't mind me" or "hey i'm going to get naked in front of you, i'm sorry" obviously not naked but she would be wearing her panties... I'll say "oh thats ok i don't care".
She never use to be like that. She would always hide or be discrete like any normal girl. she has gone as far as wear short shorts, tank top thats etc thats what normal girls do when they walk around or bum around. she's only 18 so she dress flirty. hell i couldn't even see her in a towel!
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I'm pretty much of the 'attention' line of thought myself too. A big part of sexual/courtship behaviour is that of 'displaying'. Looking/dressing and/or acting in a provocative (sexy) manner in front of males. Responding to it on some level is difficult to avoid, even if she IS your sister. I'd guess she's trying out the power of her attraction a bit, in a safe environment. It's not especially unusual. There's no real harm in it as long as it stays a mind-game. I reckon if you confronted her with a comment like "Hey!If you weren't my sister I'd fancy you like mad." she'd be flattered and absolutely delighted. But extremely unlikley to actually act on it in any way.
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We're 14, dating for over 2 years, madly in love, fairly open about our love to. At least for someone in this situation.
I find it sad that us being related makes people sick that we love eachother, I guess I just came here to seek some approval
We cuddle, kiss, go out to dates, everything a regular couple does.
The part no one except my best friend and our other sister really knows about is that yes we have had sex before. A quite a few times. I'd imagine that'll be a turn off point for most people reading this.
We cuddle, kiss, go out to dates, everything a regular couple does.
The part no one except my best friend and our other sister really knows about is that yes we have had sex before. A quite a few times. I'd imagine that'll be a turn off point for most people reading this. (link)
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Hi there. I'm not sickened or turned-off. There are sound medical/genetic reasons why brothers and sisters should not have children together. Breeding with blood-relatives has never been a good idea, long before we understood gene-pools, or even knew waht genes were. When it comes to purely recreational and safe (I sincerely hope you have been taking precautions!) sex it's harder to give a sound and reasoned argument why you shouldn't do it. It's simply one of those things we 'don't do'. If you want a definitive reason 'why not?' I haven't got one I'm afraid. Which is a bit of a cop-out I guess. Just saying 'You don't because you don't'. Maybe we could say that as humans we're social creatures. We have a complex structure of protocols and behaviour and conventions. And society decrees that we don't do it. That's why the 'voice in your head' is telling you to keep it dark, and leading you to expect a condemnation in reply to your question. Now, at 14 it's usual to have plenty of sexual urges, but they are often rather indiscrimnate with their choice of target. I would suggest that you look at it from this angle. It was a bit of sexual experimentation and trial which is just not appropriate given your family relationship. Nobody has died or anything. No real harm done at all in fact, yet. But act to make an end to it right now. Nobody will ever be sickened about a guy loving his sister. I love mine very much. But it's not love to be felt, expressed and realised sexually. That sort of love is for people we are not related to.
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so im a 13 year old girl and i act a little horny when i see sexual stuff. is it normal for 13 year olds to watch porn and i want sex with a guy but protected sex. can i do anything sexual by myself to give a sex feeling to myself i know for guys they can maturbate help! (link)
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Perfectly normal to respond to visual sexual stimulus (pictures and movies), and to sexual ideas in your mind/imagination. Feeling that you'd like to actually have sex is very natural too, and so also is the conflicting idea that you 'don't want to' yet at the same time. Mostly girls wait until they are somewhat older, and feel safely in a committed relationship before they first have sex. Rushing into it is too soon is very likely to be something very many regret. Not because something awful happens. It doesn't always, and you're perfectly aware of the idea of safe/protected sex (which is great to hear). Often just because it's a case of 'too much too soon' on the emotional level, of themselves and the relationship. A case of seeming like a good idea, but not feeling so good afterwards and wishing they had waited. So, we've determined that you're a perfectly normal girl of 13, with perfectly normal thoughts and urges, and the usual doubts too, then? But what do you do about feeling horny? It's not only us guys who can masturbate. Don't know where you got that idea from mate! Masturbating is simply handling your genitals in a way that provides sexual stimulation and relief. There's no definite need to penetrate your vagina at all, with fingers or objects, if you're not happy about doing that. The part mostly outside, and at the 'top' (your clitoris) is very sensitive indeed. And the tips of your fingers are all that's needed. Hope you're not sort of cringing here? Relax. We all masturbate, guys and girls. And 13 is a perfectly appropriate age to be doing it and enjoying it. How about letting your fingers 'explore' a bit next time some sexy scene makes you feel horny (and when it's convenient, of course)? See what 'feels good'. It should be very obvious when you find a good spot and action for yourself. Fair to say that us guys pretty much masturbate all the same, I think. You ladies have many more options in terms of exactly where and how and what you do. It's a case of finding something that works for YOU. You will soon find something that gives you a very enjoyable 'sex feeling' I can assure you. It's 100 percent normal, completely harmless and very enjoyable. So enjoy yourself! ps. If you want to see how sensite the whole area is, try popping a pillow between you legs (or even just crossing tour legs tightly without a pillow) and squeezing and releasing your thigh and pelvic muscles in a regular rhythm. You should find the feeling that creates is very enjoyable for a start.
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So me and my boyfriend have a great sex life and most of the time I'm a huge submissive and him a dominate. However on the odd occasion he's expressed his desire for me to dominate him but I'm not sure I know what to do. So guys or girls if you could give me some tips or moves or whatever to do to be more dominate or thing that's you/your boyfriends enjoy when they are being dominated that would be really cool! Thanks (link)
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Hi there. Once you mention sub/dom it conjures up visions of handcuffs, ties and all manner of odd accessories doesn't it? Probably fair to say most couples don't pursue it to this extent, with either male or femal dominant. Just reversing the more usual role where the guy tends to be 'on top' and/or providing most of the movement reverses the whole dynamic and 'feel'. Maybe just start with this? You on top and him taking a more passive-submissive role? If he likes you controlling the action and you find being in control empowers you (and you like the feeling a lot!) then go from there. If after a number attempts you find neither of you actually take to your new role at all, then there isn't much point pursuing it further really. It should be obvious if it's 'working' or if it just isn't for you. Have fun!
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Hi,im going on a 1 month hike.Gonna be walking 20-40km per day.Im vegan (high carb low fat mostly raw food) and i dont know what food to bring.My backpack cant be more than 10kg and im gonna take a lot of nuts and some dried fruit and energy bars but other than that i dont know and if anyone has some ideas id appreciate it a lot.Thanks (link)
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There might be one of those US/UK term conflicts here if you're in US. You know what I mean by Jam? Or preserve? Sticky, sweet spread, made by boiling fruit (like raspberry, strawberry etc) with lots of sugar and letting it semi-set into a paste. Pieces of bread spread with jam (jam sandwiches in other words) are amazingly good to sustain you under physical effort. Not a nutrition expert but it's something to do with carbs (from the bread) and sugars from the jam. The quick release grain sugar and the slower-release fruit sugar (is it called fructose or something?). Whatever, it works a treat. As far as fats, can't think there are any being just bread, fruit and sugar basically. You might give it a try and see if it fuels you up well?
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Hey guys and girls its me again.
I have a question.
So my mom has a guy friend now that has 5 kids and a wife 4 girls plus the mom and he says that he wants me to talk to him when I feel down and he also said that I can call him anything that I want so does that mean that he wants to be a father figure for me and try and take care of me like one of his own kids. (link)
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Strikes me a bit of an odd set-up, but friendships can strike-up any time and between diverse people. Someone not directly involved, thus with no particular angle or side can be a great thing to have when we've got problems. Can't help feeling the key here is, have you got problems that you can only really discuss with the neutral third party? Or do you think he has, and he's looking to you to be the good listener? Do you want or need counsel from a 'father figure' anyway? Do you actually "feel down" at all? If all this answers 'no' then I'd assume he has some other agenda which he wants to keep hidden from you. Try telling him thanks for being a good friend and that it's nice to know he'll be there for you if you need one and call. But maybe don't make that call? If the vibe you're getting is that he's interested in you in a way you have no intention of returning, DEFINITELY don't make the call.
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I don't know how to tell my dad about my period (link)
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Hi there. Totally agree with adviceman49. Periods are 'a woman thing' to most of us guys and we don't usually need (or dare ask for!) any more information. We are all aware that women have them and Dad will know that you will too. If YOU are happy about which pads you need and when, like the man said, you just need to tell Dad that your periods have started and you need some cash to buy the right stuff. We're perfectly capable of buying them for our daughters, wives and girlfriends too. Just save an empty box and give it to him and tell him 'This one please'. If it's actual advice about your period then he might well be not much help. I assume Mum's not around? Are there any other female family members you could go to? Dad got a friendly and helpful female friend? Either way, he could easily arrange a little woman-to-woman chat and would be quite keen to do so. He won't be horrified that his daughter's having periods. But I'm sure her would not want you getting stressed about having them and not having anyone to help you out in ways that only women really understand. Us guys just can't share the experience. But we're all aware you ladies have them.
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