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Does that mean that he wants to be my father figure?
Hey guys and girls its me again.
I have a question.
So my mom has a guy friend now that has 5 kids and a wife 4 girls plus the mom and he says that he wants me to talk to him when I feel down and he also said that I can call him anything that I want so does that mean that he wants to be a father figure for me and try and take care of me like one of his own kids.
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Without knowing the guy and getting to try to understand him, giving a definitive answer here is a little bit hard. that being the case, I'm going to try to answer with some general advice.
Basically, the first thing is I wouldn't feel a need to put a label on it like father figure. The important thing is that he cares about you. Whether that is because he sees you like a daughter, he cares about your mom and thus it filters down to you, he's just a good guy, or any other reason whatsoever, it really doesn't matter.
So, long as he cares about you in an appropriate way, which it seems like he does, that's what counts.
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Strikes me a bit of an odd set-up, but friendships can strike-up any time and between diverse people. Someone not directly involved, thus with no particular angle or side can be a great thing to have when we've got problems. Can't help feeling the key here is, have you got problems that you can only really discuss with the neutral third party? Or do you think he has, and he's looking to you to be the good listener? Do you want or need counsel from a 'father figure' anyway? Do you actually "feel down" at all? If all this answers 'no' then I'd assume he has some other agenda which he wants to keep hidden from you. Try telling him thanks for being a good friend and that it's nice to know he'll be there for you if you need one and call. But maybe don't make that call? If the vibe you're getting is that he's interested in you in a way you have no intention of returning, DEFINITELY don't make the call.
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It could very possibly be just that. It could also be something very nefarious as well. Talk to your mother and see what she thinks.
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yeah im gonna agree with the other poster here, this doesnt sound good. He has five kids of his own to worry about and your not one of them. Its nice of him to offer but you need advice and guidance from someone who plays a different role.
i would just kindly say thank you and when you feel the need to ask for advice you will and then just never do. if he starts hitting you up and trying to talk to you then tell your mom your not comfortable with it and to tell him to stop.
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Don't fall for this trick. Most men in the late 30's 40's and even in their 50's have this fascination with young girls. Please do not trust him. He may have other things on his mind sexually when it concern you.
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