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what does he mean?
There's this guy that I really like. I don't think he likes me though, from what I see, and I was chatting with him, then we said stuff. Near the end of the conversation, he started acting weird, really very weird. He said something like ''I can't tell you or you'll discover my secret identity'' then ''I'm feeling like [my name] and you're probably feeling like me''. I just told him to go to sleep because things where getting weird. But, what does he mean? I'm so confused!
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Both advicegivers so far have made sense. It may mean nothing at all, especially since no one would dream of announcing they had a secret identity for whatever reason.
If you're both young teens, it may be he feels totally inexperienced at how to talk to girls he is interested in. I am much older dear, in 50's but no matter the age, males when interested in a female can act pretty bizarrely,(as I have found when seeking my 2nd husband). They make no sense or aare a total turn off in how they act. Basically they don't have the same social skills as females have with the exceptions of some. In general tho, they can be very inept. I think that he started out okay because he wasnt yet concerned about either how to keep the convo going or how to set up things with a promise to talk again or meet, etc... When he knew the conversation was coming to an end, he began to feel the pressure of finding a way to keep talking or an excuse to meet and talk again. So he got nervous, which began to affect his speech. In fact, I believe he was trying to flirt with you blatantly. It was just a bit too bizzare for you to pick up on that. Men like to be able to make a girl smile, or betther yet...laugh. I think he was hoping for that response from you.
Here's how it would have gone down if I were single and a man my age said something about having a secret identity. My response would've been a way to flirt back and give him the confidence with me to relax and maybe ask whatever he really wanted like to meet again, trade numbers, make a date. "Secret identity? Oh, you mean like Spiderman and his girlfriend. Mmmm, that sounds intrigueing and kinda exciting. I love superhero's and always hoped I would find a guy I could call my superhero." Thats a big flirt back and most likely if he wasn't a total jumble of nerves, he would've gained some confidence by a positive flirty response. Right now he's probably berating himself for acting like a fool and not knowing what to say, and he may even think he's blown any chances with you. Since you like him, look for these feeble excuses for flirting, from him in the future, and give him some positive feedback to encourage him.
He likes you dear. A guy and even a gal will not approach and chat friendly like with a person they are not attracted to at all for fear of that person thinking they do feel attracted and response romantically to them. That leaves attraction of some sort as the only real reason to want to chat with someone.
I know its after the fact but next time you see him and are having a normal convo, you could tease and flirt in some way with him. You could even bring up his failed attempt from last time using it as a springboard for your flirting. Saying something like, "I was surprised to hear you have a secret identity. I wasn't sure I could trust you with this piece of information last time, but I have a secret identity too. If I had to trust someone with my secret identity, it would only be someone else who has one and understands what it feels like to be me, I know how you feel." say it all with a big smile, grin and maybe even a wink. He should get the clue that you are being friendly, accept him, like him back and over time he'll become less bizzare as he gains self confidence in a friendship with you.
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I imagine you are confused. Me too! I don't think you're going to get far analysing these two parting shots of the conversation. They aren't really conversation at all. Just 'noise'. Unless he really has got a secret identity. I would imagine anyone who had would be unlikely to draw attention to the fact by saying they had one, don't you? "Hey. I've got a secret identity" is probably not the best way of keeping it secret is it? If you're looking for some clue as to his feelings I'd tend to review and examine the rest of the conversation (when you were 'chatting with him'). It's when we are relaxed that we let slip our private thoughts in conversation. I should imagine the guards were up (for some reason) and when he said this and when the guards go up you'll either get deflection, lies or in this case, what appears to be utter nonsense.
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Might not mean anything, could just be messing with you knowing it will freak you out to entertain himself, or hes just trying to sound more interesting than he actually is.
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