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Sister changes in front of me
it started when we were on vacation in 2014, she would just out of the blue say things like "don't mind me" or "hey i'm going to get naked in front of you, i'm sorry" obviously not naked but she would be wearing her panties... I'll say "oh thats ok i don't care".
She never use to be like that. She would always hide or be discrete like any normal girl. she has gone as far as wear short shorts, tank top thats etc thats what normal girls do when they walk around or bum around. she's only 18 so she dress flirty. hell i couldn't even see her in a towel!
starting to have a huge crush on her
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I'm pretty much of the 'attention' line of thought myself too. A big part of sexual/courtship behaviour is that of 'displaying'. Looking/dressing and/or acting in a provocative (sexy) manner in front of males. Responding to it on some level is difficult to avoid, even if she IS your sister. I'd guess she's trying out the power of her attraction a bit, in a safe environment. It's not especially unusual. There's no real harm in it as long as it stays a mind-game. I reckon if you confronted her with a comment like "Hey!If you weren't my sister I'd fancy you like mad." she'd be flattered and absolutely delighted. But extremely unlikley to actually act on it in any way.
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Seems to me like shes trying to get your attention and to make you look at her in a sexual way, if you feel attraction to her thats fine, her reason for doing so could be because shes attracted to you. If thats the case theres nothing wrong with getting together as long as you don't have kids, due to the heightened risk of disabilities. Have fun!
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Listen, some of the aspects of this are totally normal while on the other hand, some or are not. LIKE purposely stripping infront of you.
does this happen while your busy doing something in a bedroom? does she walk in your room and then start doing it while your on your computer or somewhere thats completely inappropriate?
If so you need to just say "look go change in your room because i dont wanna see that ok"
you need to let her know that her body is hers and hers alone and she doesnt need to share it with anyone. If youve asked her to stop already and she hasnt then you might need to take the tough love approach and when she starts doing it, leave where your at unless its in a place like your own room where she shouldnt be doing that kinda thing ANYWAY, or in the living room (or basically anywhere except her own room or a bathroom with the door closed) that its not ok.
your not going to hurt her so badly that your damaging the relationship forever ok. your her brother and its up to you to guide her, and make sure she doesnt go and do that with SOMEONE ELSE! your her family and you can teach her how to be and whats ok and whats not.
your not doing anything wrong by speaking up and saying "what are you doing? i dont wanna see that, go change in your room or the bathroom" and "i hope your not doing this around other people too" or if you have to, threaten to tell mom and dad or someone who will crack down on her.
she young and clearly needs to still be taught right and wrong. you did the right thing by coming here out of concern for your sister and her actions. your clearly uncomfortable with it so you reached out and thats a good thing!
good luck!
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I am going to guess that you are a male, a brother, rather than female and her sister. If females see each other nude, its no big thing, especially family. She'd see the same in the dressing room at the local city pool with other females.
So I am going on the feeling you are a male which changes things totally. Males, even brothers once hitting puberty or older, are going to not only be aware of any female members of the family as sisters, mother, aunts, cousins, but begin to see them as a sexual creature if they are developed, and that is normal, something you can't avoid. BUT, and this is a big but.....the female family members usually have clothes on. Thats hard enough for a young male to handle. Now she wants to strip in front of you and be totally naked?
Well, if the whole family were raised as nudists and used to it, still no big thing. But I dont think thats why you're writing. In your family, most likely you've all been taught to follow parents way of life, which involved discretion and privacy when it comes to ones body and nudity. YOu've been taught to allow others privacy and that is much valued. For her to go the total opposite and bare herself to a her brother is in this situation a sign that something is wrong, something is off. She is needing or wanting something in her life that she doesnt have right now and I am not talking about a boyfriend or sex partner.
Teen girls all go thru a time, where its bred into them to want, need, desire some type of approval and notice from a male member of the family validating them as a person moving from childhood into puberty and adulthood. This is a time when those who have a good father will want to spend more time talking with him, getting hugs from him and hoping for encouraging words like, "oh honey, my little girl has grown up so fast I'm going to need to quickly buy a baseball bat to beat off all the guys who come after you because you are so beautiful, inside and out."
My own Dad had his ways to encourage me so that need was met in the most appropriate way. It doesnt take much. A workaholic Dad not there for the family, a Dad on drugs or who is always drunk, an absentee Dad, or one with mental illness or selfish traits, is not going to be able to 'be there' for a growing daughter in this way. Its not looking for sexual gratification on the girls part, more of as I said, a validation that she indeed is becoming a grownfemale whom males will find attractive, its all part of the self confidence thing almost all teens go through. You say shes 18 and by now she shouldn't be going thru this need for approval. But those who never got it will turn to boyfriends and sex to get it, or if not that, turn to all sorts of other male family members to get that approval they need. The danger here is in things becoming sexual and depending on who she goes after, can become a situation of incest.
For you to say, "oh thats ik i dont care" will only encourage her to do it more and maybe try for more. It sends the wrong message if you are uncomfortable with it. This puts you in an awkward spot as a male. Yes its your sister but she's a female and nude, privately in a room with you, not a good scenerio, even if she's the one doing this and you ending up the victim, not instigating any of it. You need to let her know its not okay with you. Its one thing to be wearing skimpy clothes and look sexy. But its another to take ones clothes off in front of someone of the opposite sex, thats more along the lines of seduction. If she's doing that with a boyfriend, again, at her age, she's adult and its normal...but with her brother, No! If I guessed wrong and you're a sister, then perhaps she beleive she is lesbian and is wanting some female approval as to how desireable she is. Again, if it makes you uncomfortable, ask her to stop. If she doesnt in either scenerio, take it to the parents, Mom and Dad and let them know whats going on. You don't want to remain quiet about this, have her PMSing one day or pissed at you and decided to lie and tell the folks that you tried to seduce her, or egg you on to the point you get yourself caught in a strange position with her yelling to the parents for help and it looking like you attacking her sexually. Protect yourself and bring her behavior to their knowledge before she may go further with it.
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