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Well my brothers girlfriend is like, a total whore. And I'm not just saying that. I have a really strong hunch that she also likes my brothers best friend. (Whom I like, but that means nothing.) The other day, he was here, and she came over, even though my brother was sleeping. Then she went out to get ice cream with him, and didn't ask my brother to go. THEN, she asked him to visit her when she goes on vacation, and not my brother. I realize that this shouldn't be any of my business, but I find it ridiculous that he's still with her when she's already cheated on him once. Plus, my older brother who's 9 years older than me told me that he heard some stuff about her from some people that he didn't like too much, and he'd have to have a talk with the other brother. I know they must have had that talk by now, and I know that he looks up to him, but they still haven't broken up. Even if she is on vacation. Really, I just don't know what to do. I need help. I hate the girl and I don't want to kill her, so I need ways to:

1) Not kill her.
2) Get my brother to break up with her.


Once a cheater always a cheater.

Your brother will make his own decisions about his relationships, as will you. I totally understand your concern for him and I agree, she sounds like a skank. But once I stuck up for my sister in one of her relationships and it turned out disastrously. So try to keep out of it. Tell your brother how worried you are about him and your opinion of his girlfriend but don't try to influence his decisions because he'll probably get pissed at you.

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My boyfriend and I have been going through a "rough patch", and we both want our relationship to work but both are confused as to how to make it survive. I really like him and I'm so happy when im with him, I just dont know the best way to deal with the worst that might happen for example; If we split up. Any suggestions? And how can i let/show him that this relationship means the world to me?

The best way to deal with a tough break up is to keep busy. Hang out with your friends more, read more books, watch more movies, ask for a few more hours at work during the week, spend more time with your family, take your dog for lots of walks...you get the picture. This is gonna sound weird but if you ever need somebody to talk to about breakups and relationships, I'm here for you!!

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i am a girl 14 and i like my neighbor who is 15 and i told him how i felt but he never said anything bac from then on it was really awkward between us but now i have been seein him more and he has become so much nicer he even IM's me now he go's to all my softball games and all that but i still don't know if he likes me or not he never told me what should i do?

The next time there's one of those randomly amazing moments when it's just the two of you, there are little or no distractions and a break in conversation, just ask him how he feels about you.

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I have really bad cramps right now. Is there anything I can eat or drink to help them not be so bad? I don't want to take medicine though.

Try taking Midol...it does miracles. Other than that just get some excercise, sleep a little more, drink lots of water, take a hot bath, avoid caffeine and junk food.

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and embarrasing..
but...
i havent gotten horny for like..
two years..
does anyone know why?
14/f.
its starting to scare me..
and me and my bf want to have sex
but yeah..
please help.

Personally I think you're too young to be having sex and if your boyfriend is pressuring you into it then tell him how you feel and don't let him go too far. As for the arousal thing, haha, your boyfriend isn't really doing his job then, is he?

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16/f

tomarrow im supposed to hang out with a boy i really like. but i dont know what to talk about with him. i know he likes me too, and we are on the verge of going out..but i dont want there to be an awkward silence or anything..i know his favorite sports and everything..so idk.. what strikes up a good conversation and how can i get him to ask me out soon??

thanks in advance

Talk about sports, music, movies, books, TV shows, websites, hobbies, personal experiences etc. that you both share or have an interest in. Conversation always leads from one topic into the next if you keep it going. Don't talk too much about yourself though.

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Okay so heres my question and sorry if its a long one.

I'm a rather active 14 year old female. i eat healthy most of the time and try my best to take care of my body. lately i have been experiencing pains and aches in my bones and joints. i also get muscle aches but that is very rarely.
I have let my mom know and she claims that it is because i dont drink enough milk.
i do admit that i dont drink alot of milk but i do eat other things that have calcium in them.
but i think theres also a chance that it might be growing pain. considering that i havent really grown in three years.

So my question is do you have any idea why i may be experiencing pain?

Kait♥

Sounds like growing pains. Keep eating healthy and getting some excercise. Add a little more calcium and vitamin C to your diet. Get enough sleep and take Tylenol or Advil for the aches and pains. They'll go away soon enough.

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does anyone know what the average clothing size and inches around your waist or hips is for a 15 year old female??

There is no average size for any age, basically. It all depends on your height and weight. I'm 15 years old but I'm only 5'1" and 100 pounds but my friend who is also 15 is 5'6" and 120 pounds. We're all different.

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My name is Justine, I am 14 and in one month 15, and female
I really like my moms ex-best friends son and I have known him all my life but I am not alowed to see him anymore. He likes me and I like him, but he moved to far away. We sneek around just so we can see each other but its not enough. We call ourselves friends with benifets, but the truth is I am in love with him but I dont know if I should tell him. Hes been my friend for so long, and I dont want to ruin our friend ship just because how I feel What do I do? Do I tell him how i feel any possibly dont talk to him for a long time, or do I keep me Fellings locked inside of me?

Every time you fall in love, you take a risk. You risk hurting yourself and the one you love. You can risk friendships, making decisions, losing, gaining, and your emotional well-being. If you really do love him then tell him. If he says he doesn't feel the same way, continue being friends. Maybe some day he'll feel the same way about you.

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Okay, so I'm going to get my hair cut sometime soon .. and I'd like to get it styled kind of different, because my hair has been long, blonde, and wavy my whole life. So, does anybody know of a website where there are pictures of hairstyles for teens, celebrity hairstyles, etc. ? It would be greatly appreciated.
Oh yeah, and does anybody know of any kind of shampoo and conditioner that straightens your hair without using a straightener or blow dryer, because my hair gets really damaged from straightening it. Thanks =).

http://www.hair-styles.org

http://hairstyles.free-beauty-tips.com/

http://www.1001-hairstyles.com/

http://www.ukhairdressers.com/

http://www.2hairstyles.com/

Hope I helped.


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my boyfriend and i have been going out for 4 months now. he has a lot of girl friends and has never cheated. he's absolutely perfect and i love him in everyway. whenever he hangs out with his girl friends i get worried. i dont know how to shake the feeling. i trust him, i know he is friends with them but i get jealous a lot. what should i do? i dont want to make him not see his friends.

I totally understand where you're coming from. My last boyfriend was the same way. Lots of female friends that he spent time with and it made me uncomfortable too. Ask if sometime maybe you can come along without seeming controlling or whiny. Make sure he doesn't think you think he's cheating just try to...you know, merge your friendships a little. It's a good thing to do.

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year. The first few months we started dating, he asked me the usual "virginity" questions and things like that.. I told him everything, BUT I added and took away things to make me sound ok. I still wasn't comfortable telling him everything.

After the drama of me being a "liar", I prayed, and realized that if I want this relationship to be the way it needs to, then I need to let him know EVERYTHING about me. Nothing should be hidden. So, at 4am (what a great time) I let him know.

8 months later, he has moved to my city for me, we'll be going to school together.. basically starting a new chapter. Everything is PERFECT.

I live in a VERY small town where everyone knows everyone and everyone likes to have something to say bad about someone. A guy that comes into my boyfriends store often came in to tell my boyfriend a handful of LIES about me. The things he said didn't derive from any truth.. they were literally made up off of the top of his head. My boyfriend knew this guy lies about a lot of things, but then someone I had never met before that was friends with the liar backed him up.

The liar is someone I went to highschool with, but never knew. I knew of him. The other guy I have yet to have ever met him, nor have seen in my entire life. Plus.. both guys kept saying to my boyfriend "don't tell her we said this.." That's pretty obvious to me that those were all lies.

I want to confront the liars without making a scene.

I feel like I'm 15 again.

Why can't people grow up, and why can't my boyfriend believe me??? I have been truthful to him since the one and only incident before.

I'm way past this nonsense drama. I'm ready for a future and I can't have this future here with people like that. I'm tired of people that I don't even KNOW stepping into my relationship and causing problems.

...I'm clueless.. Hopefully this will blow over.

That really sucks and I'd like to personally bitch slap whoever is spreading that stuff about you...because can't we just all grow up and get along??? But yeah, some people never will grow up. They'll spead lies and rumors, gossip and do mean and hurtful things only to get attention or to amuse themselves. Talk to your boyfriend about this gossip and make sure he doesn't believe any of this crap that's being spread around about you. Do you two of you live together? Because if it's to the point where there's nothing you can do about it and it won't blow over then you might want to move elsewhere with him. A fresh start in a new place could change your life for the wayyy better.

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How can I bring up wanting birth control to my mom? I dont think she ever had sex until she was married..and she was brought up in a strict christian home (no sex until marriage) but i dont find a reason wrong with sex before marriage. I am 16/f and ive been going out with my boyfriend for a little more than a year now. I love him and he loves me and we are sexually active (condom every time). I cant let her know I am sexually active because i dont think she would understand. Should i start pretending to complain about cramps so she will get hints or whaT?????????

Depending on what state you live in you might be able to get birth control from Planned Parenthood without her knowing. Or you could try explaining to her that it would help make your periods more regualr, something like that.

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Ok im starying back so i wanna make a great impression to my new class mates.So i havent gone close shopping for school so anything is ok.Im 14 and i hope that i can bring out my good vib and tho all of my bad features of myself out the door.I am over weightbut only in my bellyi have a bear belly if u will the rest of my body is thin and is ok but my face is chubby.my checks are chubby so i wanna tryt to hide all that.i need cloths that hide the fat that has collected around belly and make myself look taller.and my hair is super curly its a afro that can be tammed by mouse ,hair spray but i wanna have new styles to my self and my hair and also my make up.im a crazy out going person i love to lauph and i only have a small budget from my close i have 2 other brothers so they need cloths as well im ganna go shoping at wal-mart.jc penny and a few others im looking for a officey confy thinning cloths.but then maybe a few t shirt and jeans im happy with i wanna be kinda like a prep so cloths that last longer is great , plz i need help and thanks
-katie

Be yourself. Wear what you like. You shouldn't have to impress anybody. And remember, labels are for soup cans.

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i want to get my hair permanently straightened, but my parents both said no. because: my mom said it would damage my hair because of the chemicals. my dad said that its not really permanent and it doesnt last a long time. and i don't have to worry about it being too expensive because my uncle works at a hair salon and he can do it for me for free. is what my mom and dad said true? what are some good things and bad things about getting it permanently straightened? thankss soooo much.

Before you argue that it's free be sure to ask your uncle if that's true. He'll most likely just give you a discount unless he's really generous because, yeah, that stuff is super expensive. Pretty much anything you do to your hair (perming, straightening, coloring) damages it to a certain extent so that is something you need to consider before you go ahead and do anything.

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Does anyone else feel that they'd rather get like 4th place in something rather than 2nd place? It angers me so much when I'm second best in something because it's like if I could have put a bit more effort into it, I could have gotten first. So I'd rather be like 5th, 4th, or 3rd rather than 2nd. My coaches and parents tell me that I need to stop thinking this way and that I should be proud of getting 2nd place in something and I know that but I can't help it. Does anyone else feel this way, ever?

Yeah absolutely. Sometimes you get so dissapointed in yourself that you wish you did worse so you could feel sorry for yourself. It sucks, I know I've gone through it. It's just another one of those negative thinking things you've got to work on.

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this is somewhat of a stupid question, but i really need to know... does anyone know where i can buy bags of potpourri? because i want to make potpourri soap for gift bags... does anyone know if target or any specific stores sell them? i sort of need to know by tomorrow. thank you so much in advance.

Any craft supply store and yeah, probably Target or Wal-Mart too.

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I have skipped two monthes in a row. I have not had sex. I am kind of worried. Is it normal to skip? My hormones are the same, as if I were on my period, but nothings happend for 2 monthes? Help!

It depends on your age and how long you've had your period but it tends to be weird and skip around a bit for the first few years. It's kinda freaky but don't worry, it's absolutely normal.

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I have been having a lot of discharge lately and idk why.. I got my first period in May, actually I got it twice in May..I never got it in June, and haven't gotten it yet this month. I know your period is supposed to be irregular when you first get it. but do you think this discharge means i'll be getting it soon again? Or something else? I'm a virgin, never had sex or anything except I have masturbated before..but idk why all of a sudden I have been getting a lot of discharge. Help?

It's totally completely 100% normal for you to get weird discharge and have an irregular period even like 2 years after you first get your period. If you've never had sex, obviously don't worry about pregnancy either.

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ok well heres my problem im a "perfectionist" sort of.. lol well i guess you can say i try to look the best i can.. uh.. in other words use everything i have.. yeah i dont know how to explain it.. well my biggest problem is that i over eat a lot lately.. over the summer, when i got a boyfriend it stopped and then started again.. after it was over.. the relationship didnt last very long maybe for 14 days.. well yea i start off eating healthy and then just eat junk food.. its like if it eat at all.. i eat junk food also.. but this isnt all the time.. i eat more than i should.. okay.. well i know a lot of info about dieting.. that sleep is important.. (which i get) at least 8 hours a night.. um.. i know sucking on ice can burn calories.. i kind of know what causes cellulite.. see well im not to clear about that and part of my question is that.. im not sure.. i know sugar & fried food can cause cellulite.. and caffine.. yeah so i need some info about that!! and i guess boredom can cause over eating.. thats the thing how can i stop that?.. um.. also i watch this show at 3 everyday.. its from 3 to 4.. thats wen i seem to eat.. during the whole hour =(.. i eat slow during the hour but eating for an hour definatly add up!! slow or not. when theres school i do the same.. right when i get home.. which is 3 i start eating and then eat too much.. stop around 4.. with school i think it was even worse.. well i did lots of excercise and stuff.. but not enough.. well my problem is i guess i need to stop watching that show somehow!! or just suck on ice during it.. sometimes i just cant.. i dont know.. well tell me what you guys think!! this is huge problem for me.

Eat when you're hungry, stop when you're full. Learn to distinguish hunger from craving. If you're 18 or over you can buy a fat burner at GNC for $30-50. Excercise more. It'll boost your metabolism and your self esteem.

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