I hear a song and I don't feel anything. Music is what makes me tic. Now I feel nothing. The only time I feel something is once I turn off the television and know that my reality is about to slam me in the face. My stomach drops. In television they have all these teenagers but never show them worrying about school. It is all about the drama. Reality checks in and I`m petrified. I realized that I might not like what I think I like. Maybe I'm just following others. What I see on television or through others. I just need to know that others feel this way too. Or maybe I need to know that I need help. I can`t think for myself.
Don't mean to offend you, but your question does not make sense to me.
Clearly, you have many thoughts racing through your head at the moment, that you can not seem to control.
So yes, I will advise you to go and speak to your doctor. This is because if you do not control these thoughts, they will control you. This has happened to me before, but with specialist help you will be able to pull through.
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My sister is going out with a boy who gave her hiv he is now in prison for burgalry. He is determined to get her pregnant when he gets out of prison as I've seen letters saying when i get out I'm definitly getting you pregnant i now its non of my buisness but i really. don't want my sister going down the wrong path abid getting hurt by some scum. she's only just turned 16.and i know its wrong for me to% butt. in her buisness but i only want wats best for her is thier any advice i can give her or persuade her to give up on him
If she doesn't want to become pregnant by him then that's rape, and you need to tell the police if this is the case.
You need to talk to your sister. Let her know you want what's best for her first. Ask her if she honestly wants to be with him, considering everything. Whether she wants the father of a child to be an ex convict.If she insists, then there's nothing more you can do. You tried at least.
So whilst you can not force your views on her, you can tell her them and hope she gets it. In psychology, males who are desperate to reproduce are just desperate to pass on their genes. It does not mean that he wont be there for the child, but she needs to make sure he'll be there for her.
You could ask her whether she can afford a child? Or for that matter whether he can? Will there be financial security? And wouldn't she prefer to have a child when theres enough money for herself as well?
All points to consider, but really its down to you. Either speak to her or write a note. Lame I know, but it just may have more of an impact.
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which are the best pads to use during menstral cycle?price is not an issue
Personally I think Body Form.
They are really comfortable to wear.
You want something that:
Is very absorbent
Fits well
Feels comfortable
Isn't obvious you're wearing one through leggings
Reduces bad odour
Has handy towels that are packed so you can pop one in your back to school or whatever.
I don't work for them, honest, but Body Form do all these things :)
p.s I think its best to go for a proper brand when looking for pads,not itchy supermarket brands.
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My boyfriend told me he was 13, when infact he's 12. I know 13's a little young to date, but I'm quite mature...I'm just wondering if he is..He lied to me about his age. Also all my friends say it's embarrassing to date a younger boy..What's you're opinion? Thanks
The only concern would be that, evolutionary speaking, women go for males who can provide for them.
But hey, as long he is doing well at school and has some ambition, its fine.
I mean, its not like he's 10 or anything!
He lied to you about his age probably because he didn't think he stood a chance with you in the first place. Which tells you he wants to be with you quite a lot.
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I'm 15 and rely want a dog but my mom won't let me have one is thier anyway i can persuade her ? Also what breed of dog should i look into?
Your mum is the homeowner, not you, so I'm afraid she has the final say what goes on under the roof.
Your 15. Concerntrate on your studies not having a pet! There are much more important things in life. Besides, when you turn 18 you'll be able to have on anyway, of your choice!
There are probably a range of reasons why your mum doesn't want a dog. Do you know, they cost thousands of pounds a year to care for. E.g: food, insurance, vet check-ups, kennels.
Are you going to pay for it? Have you a job? Or would it be left to your mum to try and find the money. I suspect, this may be one of the reasons she may not want a dog.
Also, at 15, if it's your pet, you should be able to at least partially pay your way for it. If you can't, then don't get one.
Also, having a dog is like having another child about the place. They need care and attention, like a baby. If not, that's when they become dangerous. Do you have time, when your education, age 15, is very critical, to care for one?
So, it's not just a case of having a cute thing to adore now and again. Having a dog is like a full time job, which is why most dog owners have time on there hands, and lots of it, so to care for it properly.
I know you wanted to know how to persuade your mum, but if your mum simply can not afford it and does not have the time for it, there is no way she can change her mind. What goes on under her roof she should decide.
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Im a 20 yr old female and my question today is how can i get over molestation and rape? Growing up and becoming a woman wasnt easy with all the harassment I've been through. I've been through some type of sexual harassment during my lifetime and I've gotten raped as well this happened about a year ago. I use to live with my ex boyfriends mom and at the time i slept in a room alone. During this time i was on medication for a heart condition i have and it would put me to sleep and make me weak. I remember more thas one night someone would come in the room and harass me sexually i didn't know who but i know it was a male because i ended up pregnant. I need help getting over this because it sometimes interferes with my present life now. Please help
So did you keep the baby or not?
Anyway, people on here are not trained counsellors. Its up to you to speak to a trained counsellor, because they can offer you things like CBT that we can not offer on this website.
I can not help you from the other side of a computer screen, but I can tell you to go and get help. You were brave enough to write on here, so be brave some more and speak to your doctor.
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Hi im a 14 yr old boy in london and i am desperate fir sex. I masturbate often and have even gone onto websites to try and get it. If not though i would want to be able to use some kind if pocket pussy or but because i have parents i wiuldnt be able to purchase it without them knowing please help
I'm confused as to what you want help with? Do you want us to help you fight off this sex obsession? Or is it that you want us to point you in the direction where you can get sex?
In this country, its illegal to have sex over 16-as I'm sure you know 16 is the legal age of consent.
Now, no one on here will give you any websites or whatever for a teenage boy to get sex from.
When growing up, it has been scientifically proven that girls mature earlier than boys do. So whilst you want sex, a girl of your age is looking for a proper relationship.
The only way a teenage boy who is also underage can have sex is if her were in a relationship. And even then it's illegal.
Its also very different, watching sex to actually having it. It's also a big emotional commitment that I feel many people are not prepared for.
If I were you I'd just wait until you find the right girl who would like a relationship and possibly more.
Obviously, theres huge pressure on teenage boys in our society for them to lose their virginity as early as possible. And, you do get 11 year olds on this site claiming they have. But what people say and what people actually mean are very different things.
I think your desperate for pleasure not for sex itself. As sex, like I said, is a whole new emotional level of a relationship. And the thing is, if it isn't meaningful, then half an hour later you'll be like 'what was the point in that'.
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I only ever see him at my local starbucks
Also he seems quite a confident guy around his other workmates/friends that come in. But sometimes seems a bit shy/different when i'm around.
He does stare quite a lot for about 40secs at a time, should I stare back.
We also talk when ever we see each other but only about generally stuff/fav tv shows.
Also on two different occasions he gave me a compliment saying I was polite, I wasn't sure how to respond/was a bit shocked so just said thanks.
He's also made a point of remembering my coffee order, he's the only one there that has.
He talks to other girls that he knows who come in but he never stares at/flirts with them. only me.
I do like him
we both know each other's names
I know that he's single and has been for a few years.
I'm not the most confident person so really don't want to be the one to ask him out.
This started just before christmas I know people say that if he did like me he would have asked me out by know, but if he didn't like me why would he do the whole staring/flirting/acting different around me
ALSO I WENT THEIR AGAIN TONIGHT WITH MY PARENTS, WE SAT DOWN AND LIKE 30SECS LATER HE COMES OUT WITH TWO CUPS OF WATER AND OUR FREE WIFI PASSES AND SAYS OUR ORDER TO US AND THEN SAYS I'LL GO AND GET THE OTHER TO MAKE IT FOR YOU. BEFORE I'VE EVEN PAID, SO I GO INSIDE TO PAY AND HE HAS IT READY ON A TRAY AND EVERYTHING LIKE HE WAS GOING TO BRING IT OUT TO US.
ALSO I KNOW IT'S PART OF CUSTOMER SERVICE TO BE FRIENDLY, BUT ISN'T STARING AT SOMEONE FOR 40SECS AT A TIME AND MAKING THE POINT OF COMING OUT WITH THE WATER/WIFI PASSES AND CHECKING OUR ORDER BEING A BIT OVER FRIENDLY.
AS NORMALLY YOU JUST GO IN AND ORDER AND HAVE TO STAND AND WAIT FOR IT AS IT'S STARBUCKS.
ALSO THE OTHER STAFF ARE NICE/FRIENDLY BUT NONE OF THEM GO ABOVE AND BEYOND AND DO ALL THAT.
ALSO I'VE NEVER SEE HIM DO THAT WITH ANY OTHER CUSTOMERS. IT'S ALMOST LIKE HE WAS TRYING TO IMPRESS ME/MY PARENTS OR SOMETHING
Yes he does, but of course that's exactly what you want to here.
I think it probably did just start of as customer service. The thing is, once you get that 'liking' thought into your head, you over analyse every little thing he does.
I think, to be blunt, if he doesn't make a move soon e.g: give you his number, then don't bother with him. Its harmless fun, but it could easily take over your life-and that's not fair on the people who're trying to have a decent coffee with you!
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ok so i have developing boobs and my pipples are normal size and everything's okay with them, im 15 and a virgin, ive never breastfed but my nipples look cracked, like the very tip is kinda chapped looking.... what do i do? they look okay but they are clearly cracked looking, the normal color is fine, and they've been like that for a few years....
This is completely normal. It explains in fact ho women can breastfeed, and also why many get discharge there too.
Don't worry, I think its one of those things every girl wonders at first-but we're all perfectly normal :)
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Hi :). 14/F. So I like this guy and I think he likes me 2...* • I asked him if I could have his jersy and he gave it to me • He's allways touching my hand by mistaked. • He just want to hit any guy who hirts me. • He names me baby* • We talk like non-stop..* he allways writes me letters. • His frends and my friends says he likes me!* • He's allways around me and sits with us at break. • His friends asked him if he was going to kiss me and then he smiled* but do you think he likes me?* anD iF he doEs what do I do ? Because he seems very shy?* THX!* :)
You've only asked this question because you know he likes you, and you want someone else to tell you because it will make you feel high.
As you already suspect, he does like you. Very Shy? I don't think his previous actions sound that way.
And it depends what you want to do. From the way you have remembered and bullet pointed EVERYTHING he has done, to the way you use the smiley faces, I'm guessing you want him to like you?
Ask him if he does?
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My Sister Let Me HAVE One Of Her Games, And Now She's Wanting It Back. I Already Have A Lot On There And I Really Love That Game. It's $60, But I Found One On eBay (Reliable Seller) For Less... But There's A Problem. I Have No Money. My Parents Don't Let Me Do Chores And They Won't Get It For Me, Either. My Birthday Is Coming Up In 3 Months, And I Asked If They Could Get It For Me For An Early Birthday Present But They Said No. Any Tips On What To Do? I Really Don't Want To Wait, And I Don't Know How To Get Money.
You know, in a few years time you'll be earning money because you HAVE to, to buy clothes for yourself, or pay rent to your parents etc.
I know you WANT it. Have you checked your local library to see if you can rent it?
Have you thought about getting a job? It'll give you independence so you don't have to rely on your parents to buy you things all the time. Or babysitting?
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I'm 18 years old and already feel like a failure.. I went to college for a year and studied Performing Arts but only came out with a certificate due to personal reasons. I also have a certificate in Health and Social from when I studied it at School/College. I'm not doing anything atm.. Work/School/College and I feel like I'm not going anywhere in life.. My sister has recently been trying to get be back into college for a Social Working course as that would of been my second option after acting. But I just can't seem to put the effort in! I feel so stupid compare to everyone else.. She's so clever and I'm clearly not. Plus, I've always wanted to do acting and finally got into a College for it again but didn't attend to course due to religion. Acting isn't an option anymore but every other career path seems worthless. I've always set my self up to become someone and now I just feel like I'm not gonna get anywhere in life! I don't one be known as one of those people that didn't do anything.
I would be grateful for any advice..
You lnow, a bit of fire in your belly goes a long way. Of course you're not doing anything. You have no motivation.
So you need to find some-this could come from the fact that you don't want to do NOTHING for the rest of your life.
Also, recognise (no offense) what hard work is. Only the most hard working people become actors. You could as someone suggested, join drama groups. But the issue with this is that yes its experience but they are usually just for fun, and carry no acclaimed awards to their name.
So yes, another career path is in order. You need to do a course that will lead to a job. You seem to suggest you're not very academic. I am 18 too, and very academic. But even I am doing a vocational course at Uni, because I know that it will lead me to a job.
Also, if you're really stuck, go for a course where people are in demand. You could try:
Midwifery
Carer
Chef
Or, you could go on an apprenticeship. Even just office work, if you can get it. You could also try internships and ask to do voluntary work experience.
You'll have to work really hard to achieve your long term career goal, and you may indeed feel like a failure along the way.
But you have to just pick yourself up and carry on, because its a competitive jobs market.
Good luck :)
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Hi! So I'm 14yr guy and at my school, there's a girl in my grade who ALL the guys would DIE to have her alone for 10 minutes. She's absolutely stunning. Let's call her... Maddie So Maddie the other day, was apparently doing something that was turning all o my friends on. And she came over to our table Sat in my lap and started kissing on my neck and ear. I'm not saying I didn't enjoy that, but I have a girlfriend who I (I'm a little young to really call it love) deeply care for. But all the guys at my school tell me i should dump my gf and date Maddie. Now I will , Maddie is prettier then my grade But she's a complete bi#ch (unlike my gf) . So how can I tell her I don like her without upsetting her (I'm NOT gonna be a heartbreaker) and without pissing my friends off? I'm not dumping my GF.
Firstly, if your friends are the type to dictate who your GF should be, don't be friends with them anymore!
I think perhaps the reason this Maddie likes you is to do with the psychology of attraction. You have a girlfriend. So at the present moment she can't have you. This makes her want you. Follow?
I think you need to say that you could always be friends with her, and perhaps offer to find her another bf? To be honest, you could use the situation of the kissing on the neck to your advantage. You could say 'I thought it was a little bit inappropriate'.
So what if you upset her? Its girls like this that need to be put down a peg or two.
I think though, the best thing to do is to speak to her. Say 'I just don't see you in that way' or 'I'm flattered, but I shall have to say no'.
The 'seeing you in that way' is quite a good one to use. If she's the type of girl who sits on your lap, then she's only in it for physical love, not the perhaps caring love that you have with your girlfriend.
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I'm 19 now and I'm not sure to have a baby when I'm a little older because I have a big familie of 11 and I'm not sure whether having a baby would benifit me!i I have my own apartment and everythin like that. I do love children but I've been round children my whole life is their anyway to make It easier to decide?
If theres even a small amount of doubt that you're not ready to have a child-you shouldn't.
You're 19-still very young to have a child. Most people your age are concentrating on their career or university education, and I believe you should to.
You need to consider whether you could provide for your child, and whether you could provide for it a lot better, say, in a few years time.
Personally, I'd make sure I was with my a long term partner, who can always provide for me and has a good, stable job. I'd also want to ensure I have a stable job as well-to go back to after wards and begin earning again.
I'd also check if I could afford things like childcare, or even basic things like nappies and school trips, with ease-not so theres little money left for anything else.
I'd also want to see if I could provide for the child and not have to leave it with parents all the time whilst I continued my life, as this is a burden.
So, I think its not a case of you 'wanting' a baby. Its a case of you being able to provide easily for it (in the ways mentioned above). Its also whether you feel ready-I mean although it does happen, not many 19 year olds have children, because people think they lose their youth abit.
If I were you, I would wait, and concentrate on moving forward with my career (sorry-you never mentioned your job if you do have one). This is why I believe many women are even having children later, because they want to move up the career ladder.
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Ok, I'm a 19 year old female and when I have sex, I like to be bound and I like it to hurt. Is that normal???
Its not normal but it also doesn't matter
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Ok, so there's this teacher at school (who I guess I quite like...) and I'm really desperate to know what he thinks of me... Basically,
1. He always compliments me on my intelligence (oh, you're the best student I've ever taught) and sometimes my looks (he told me I looked pretty at a school party for instance).
2. I'm always welcome to go and sit in his classroom (be it after school or at lunch time) and he'll happily sit and chat about pretty much anything. Normally, when people go in his room he keeps the door open but when it's just me and him he always goes and shuts the door...
3. He gave me one of his old books as a present and wrote an inscription in it for me. He told me that he's never done that before and won't be giving away any more to anyone else.
4. He's always really nice to me but also jokes around a lot and is comfortable making fun of me.
5. He's leaving soon and has said I can add him on Facebook (he literally told me exactly how to find him) and that he wants to keep in contact.
I don’t know if I’m thinking too deeply into this, or trying to imagine something that isn’t there so please help!
This does sound a lot like someone else!
I will tell you what I told her. You're leaving school soon, so what's the big deal? I'd just take it as a compliment he sees you has intelligent and wishes to remain in friendly contact, but you need to accept the fact that it will only remain friendly.
I know many people who have added my old primary school teacher as a friend on facebook-it doesn't mean anything-other than they're friends!
With all this stuff on the news about naughty teachers, I don't blame you for reading into it a lot. But I'm telling you not to, otherwise you'll end up hurt.
Also, as you move up through your school career, you'll find teachers may even have lunch with their students etc. But its not sexual of whatever, its just because they share a common interest in the subject.
Check this out: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=612792
Its a link to the other person the user above was talking about-who sounds a lot like you! Read that advice for any more help.
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Hello , i slept with 5 sisters and they were virgin they lost their virginity by me so people called me porn star do i ??? My penis is 18.4 and i still 17 !!!
I don't know your situation, but by what you have described and your lack of correct grammar, you don't come across to me as being a respectable person.
What exactly are you asking? Do you even want advice?
Ask your question again if you want specific advice, making this clear. Otherwise, I'm afraid my response would be; 'so what'.
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I have a boyfriend we have been together about a 9 months and he's the first boyfriend that I have felt secure and comfortable with I'm 16 coming 17 and really in love with this boy and we want to take it to the next step but I'm not sure that I'm ready to loose my virginity what shall I do? Shall I wait?
If theres any doubt in your mind then you should wait. Once its gone, its gone and that's final. I personally think people should wait at least a year before doing anything sexual.
The thing is, whilst you may think others around you are at it with their boyfriends chances are they're not.
You have to be fully prepared, because its quite a commitment not just sexually but emotionally, something that you have to prepare yourself for.
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Hello. So I will try to sumamrize this story.. all tho it is a long one. I am a sixteen year old female high school studnet. I have this best friend named Lisa..Lisa is friends with Jane. Jane lives out of state tho, and is 3 years older than us. As a joke, Lisa made a group text wih Jane and I. Well, me and jane, as we were talking realized we are alot alike. Now me and Jane talk literally every second of the day. I tell her eveything. She tell me eveeything. I recently found out she was gay.
I have never liked a girl in my life..and never planned on it. I am totally accpeting of gays, just wouldn't be itnerested in trying it.
Me and Jane talk so much, we call eachother fiance and fiance. as a joke of course. But recently, I have started liking it. Alot acutally.
I get excited to see her texts. I love talking to her on skype every night. we talk for hours. this is crazy because we havenever met..but i miss her alot.
I think i am in love with Jane.
accept...she is a girl.
And i dont like girls.
As so i thought. I have never had one thought abut girls before Jane. So i am just so confused now.
But i want to be with her.
What do I do?? should i tell her. because if i tell her..things could get realllyyy messed up.
And at the mioment, I need jane and cant emss thignsup. I tell her everything in my life, and loosing her.. i couldnt get through high school.
I left some parts out....so if you need more info! message me.
Thanks.
Gray
Hi,
Firstly, we can't message you if we need more info, because Advicenators never reveals the name of the question asker.
It sounds like you're confused. You need to consider whether your liking of Jane has any Gravity to it, beyond psychology.
You're in a different state, and because you cant really see her, that could be whats making you want her more.
You never said your age or hers, but its ok to be bi-curious, many teenagers go through a stage like this. Of course, you cant rule out teenage hormones.
The only way to go from here is to meet up with her, I think. If you don't want to get into a relationship with her, then stop talking to her right away.
Why not organise a trip for your friend and her? This is the only way you'll know if you do like her as a person, not just as a cyber friend. Remember-people can be very different online to what they are in person. I'm not saying its really a 50 year old man! I'm saying she could actually be shy in person.
I think it'll do you good, to meet her and see whats she's actually like in human form. Whatever you do, don't go typing away to her about how you're in love with her, before you've actually met her in person.
You need to maintain some credibility, and do this the mature way.
Arrange that 'date'-bring other mutual friends with you and just go shopping or whatever. Get to know her. I know if she lives in a different state this may be tricky, but it really is the only way to truly discover your feelings
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He is 15 and I'm 16. He's a solid Jehovah Witness and very closely follows doctrine. I really fell in love with him. I would always be thinking about him and hanging out with him and texting, calling, video chat. We live fairly close. I got the courage to tell him I was bi and loved him at the same time, he was shocked and needed some space. I saw some hope in his voice though. I'm 80% sure he's straight, although religion might cause him to hide it if he is. I want to have a strong relationship forever and can't live without him, he means the world to me. I'd take a bullet for him. My teen "love" hormones are also very high. I'm a little confused because he's family.... What should I do? How do I keep him as my BFF, and still have "fun" with him? Any other comments?
This is incest, and it's a crime.
If you feel this way for him, I understand it must be confusing for you. Its great you get on, but not in that sort of way. The fact you're both boys does not matter-if it was a boy and a girl I'd still be typing the same thing.
You need therapy to get over him. I think you probably shouldn't have told him you loved him-that was a bad move. You need to apologise firstly for making him feel uncomfortable. If you don't want to speak face to face, write a note.
Say: 'I realise I made you feel uncomfortable, and it was highly inappropriate for me to tell you what I did'. Then go on by explaining your at a very confusing, teenage point in your life.
You can't have him as any more than a BFF and it not be a crime. It also sounds like he doesn't want to have 'fun' with you-why not find someone else who actually wants to be with you-that would be a start.
For now, you'll have to accept that things are different between you and your cousin, and possibly face the fact that they always will be. Give your cousin a break from yourself. Try not to speak to him/text or even see him for abit. Just carry on with your life. When you feel mature enough and the harsh prick of emotions has passed by, then try writing to him and saying sorry.
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