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should or shouldnt i ?
I'm 19 now and I'm not sure to have a baby when I'm a little older because I have a big familie of 11 and I'm not sure whether having a baby would benifit me!i I have my own apartment and everythin like that. I do love children but I've been round children my whole life is their anyway to make It easier to decide?
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Kitten lover already addressed issues why or why not
to have children. I want to focus some thoughts on just you.
Since you were in a family of 11, and you are finally on your own, it's time for you to enjoy time to yourself without another person nosing in to see what your up to. It will take time to get used to at first and may feel lonely. But it's a good time to get to know yourself better, take time for pursueing interests, hobbies, schooling and trying to make friends of your own choosing, its real different from the siblings you had no choice but to relate to.
Make sure any significant love in your life is okay with waiting for kids. As for contraceptive that is good long term, cost effective, no hormonal side affects and once removed you can start trying for kids right away without waiting, and is the closest to being as effective against pregnancy as tubes tied, that would be the copper IUD. If I were 19 again, I would do it all over again and still use the IUD. It made my life so carefree that i could enjoy my life without remembering to take a pill or side effects, spontaneous sex. You have plenty of time to have kids. Tho married at 20, i had mine at 27, 30 and age 33 and don't regret it. Waiting til older makes for a calmer less stressed mom. Our frontal lobes of our brains don;t finish growing until we reach our mid twenties. This is our good decision making skills area. It is lots less stress if you wait until mid twenties to start.
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If theres even a small amount of doubt that you're not ready to have a child-you shouldn't.
You're 19-still very young to have a child. Most people your age are concentrating on their career or university education, and I believe you should to.
You need to consider whether you could provide for your child, and whether you could provide for it a lot better, say, in a few years time.
Personally, I'd make sure I was with my a long term partner, who can always provide for me and has a good, stable job. I'd also want to ensure I have a stable job as well-to go back to after wards and begin earning again.
I'd also check if I could afford things like childcare, or even basic things like nappies and school trips, with ease-not so theres little money left for anything else.
I'd also want to see if I could provide for the child and not have to leave it with parents all the time whilst I continued my life, as this is a burden.
So, I think its not a case of you 'wanting' a baby. Its a case of you being able to provide easily for it (in the ways mentioned above). Its also whether you feel ready-I mean although it does happen, not many 19 year olds have children, because people think they lose their youth abit.
If I were you, I would wait, and concentrate on moving forward with my career (sorry-you never mentioned your job if you do have one). This is why I believe many women are even having children later, because they want to move up the career ladder.
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