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hey. my name is christina. cool people call me X. so can you. kelly is my best friend. you can see her column on KELLY ELIZABETH i absolutely love basketball, shopping, and friends. stupid question=stupid answer. go ahead, ask me anything! dont be shy!

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how do you know when it's time to end a relationship? how do you know if its just a rocky time in the relationship or if its falling apart?

hey. you can basicly tell if a relationship is over if you really dont have any special feelings for the person anymore. also, if you dont really make plans or talk that much that could be a sign. if you are having problems over stupid things, that could be the sign of and ending relationship. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

Hey sweeie
today was so much friggin funn
but i actually have a question for ya
how do you scrunch your hair?
like i have tried with a diffuser but it was all like raty and crappy looking so yeah

thanks babe

♥
amberlee

hey hun. today was a BLAST! what i use is garnier fructis style hard curl gel: extra strong. also i use pantene curl defining schrunching mousse. once i get out of the shower i towel dry my hair, and then let it naturaly dry for liek 5 minutes. i then duffuse it until it is damp and then i put the mousse in... since your hair is pretty long you may have to use quite a bit. you can just follow the directions on the back of the can. i diffuse it again and rub the gel inbetween my hands and apply it all over. i kindof repeat these last steps until it is how curly i want it. then i use hairspray to make it last. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

Hey, i have my prom this coming up friday, may 5th..and i have gotten a few pimples recently is there a way to get them significantly reduced or gone by then?

hey. i have heard that Clearasil Ultra works good. it works in three days and supposedly reduces the redness and swelling almost instantly. i think that would be the best thing to do. also, try not to eat a lot of junk food and oil and try not too touch your face because it will add more oil. also, make sure not to over wash or over dry your face because that will make it worse. and have fun at your prom! hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

how do you get your hair thinned out at a salon? I didn`t ask that question below but i could relate to it & i`m jus wondering, lol. Thanks

hey. ha okay. you would just make an appointment at the hair salon just as if you were getting your hair cut. you then ask your hair stylist to thin out your hair. they use this tool that looks like scissors but they have little razors on the bottom. they will run it though your hair and it will all be thinned out. it feels amazing! hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

Is there any product that I can use that will even out my skin color?
[Blemishes]
It's hard to find makeup products for me. Like foundation..

hey. i had this same problem too, my cheeks were always red and my skin was all different colors. the product that works for me is AVEENO Positively Radiant Daily Moisturizer. i use it every day after i shower in the morning and after i wash my face at night. i dont use too much, just about a dime size amount. it works quickly too. it worked miricles because my face is all better now and my face is all even. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

I have extremely thick hair and a lot of it. Its not that frizzy.. except for when I scrunch it. I love wavy/curly hair with the scrunching style, but my hair always turns out cute but frizzy with a lot of fly aways and all. Plus, the thickness of my hair a lot of times weighs the scrunching downs so its not as urly as i would like it to be. I use Redken Ringlet 07.

How can I scrunch my hair well without it being frizzy?! (Names of products would be great!)
Thanks

hey. the first thing that i would do is to go to a hair salon and get your hair thinned out. it is so much lighter and easier to manage. my hair is thick also and what i find that works is if you wash your hair, then dry it with a diffuser. this adds that extra scrunch. dont dry it all the way, just until your hair is damp. i just pantene and garnier products. make sure that it is in extra heavy hold. then you can diffuse it again and put in hair spray. this should help hold it up. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

Here's the DL.
I went to this wild party,
got really wasted,
hooked up with this guy that goes to my school,
and now everyone at school knows.
But see, that wouldn't be bad,
if only the kid were cute/funny/popular/etc.
He's the exact opposite.
He's ugly/creepy/weird/dork/no friends/etc.
I'm embarassed, but how should I play off the situation?

hey. my advice would be to break up with him. why would you waste your time with someone that you have no feelings for. just tell everyone that you werent thinking before you acted. i think that everyone will understand. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

1. i like this guy and i think he likes me to.
2.i like him A LOT.
3.i think he was going to ask me out on friday.
4. he always goes into my conversation with my friend and makes me laugh
5.everytime him and his friend pass by i see his friend point at me and the boy i like smiles
6.i wanted him to ask me out on friday but when he was about he got to shy and did not. ):
7.he is so HOTT!!!!!
What do i do!!!!! help soon!!!!!advice by friday today is monday!!!!!!I rate 5s!!!!!

oh lordy!! for heavens sake just ask him out!! what have you got to loose! you will be happy you did it!! hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

im a 15yr/female and ive gots a problem.
i am in a 32 A bra size and i get made fun of because of it.(Except by my boyfriend)...well, when im at school everyone says that they wouldnt go out with me because i basicley have no boobs....know when my boyfriend tries to kiss me there i get nervous and i back away because of my boob size. what should i do? how can i make my boobs bigger? will people like me more then?

hey. everyone feels self consious at some point. i have no boobs either and people do make fun of me for that too. although it may be hard, i think that you should try your best to get over. if ppl make fun of you just say that you are happy the way that you were made. ask the person if they have anything else better to do then too look at your chest ;). but if you feel like you cant get over it then you can get a padded or pushup bra. you can also ask your mom to help you with this. im sure that she will be glad that you were honest with her. just be happy with yourself. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

my hair is so unhealthy. there is so much breakage and frizz. what can i do to get rid of it and make it look healthy and moisturized?

thanks..ILL RATE HIGH ;)

hey. the best thing to do to your hair if it is broken is to get a good quality haircut to get all the dead/ split ends off. ask the hairwasher person can use shampoo and conditioner for extra dry and dammage hair, ask them not to use a straighning iron or a blow dryer with high heat. dont wash your hair everyday, this will cause it to dry out. there are shampoos and conditioners that are made for frizzy and broken. the names that pop into my head are head and shoulders, pantene, and dove. let your hair air dry for a few days so the oils can return. dont straighten your hair or use a blow dryer with high heat again. remember, if your hair got this bad, it can happen again so dont give up this routine unitl you find one that fits you best. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

I have very oily hair. Thing is I wash it everyday, so I don't know why this is happening. Anybody have any ideas or ideas of products I can use to reduce the grease. Thx in advance & I promise to rate.

hey. i used to have this problem also. what i found that works is if you use products that can remove some bad oils from your hair. i know that brands such as dove, pantene, garnier fuctis, and aussie have such products. you should use any conditioners when you take a shower because it will increase the oil. you may think that if you scrub your head more and harder in the shower tha you are getting the grease out, but you arent, you are making it worse. the best thing is to do is to apply the shampoo and to massage your scalp with your fingertips. rubbing vigerously will stimulate the oil glads in your hair and cause them to create more oil. you can also blow dry your hair to dry it up a bit. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

i like most of delia's clothes (mainly their screen tees and such). what are some other stores that carry modest clothing that is cute and sort of the same style? i'm not looking for "preppy" stores like abercrombie, hollister, or ae.

hey. i was just introduced to forever 21, and lets just say that it was love at first sight. they have such cute clothes and they arent really that preppy. the prices are fantastic too!! they dont have a lot of screen tees though. pac sun may have some screen tees. you could also check the internet! hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

I've know this kid Nick sinse elementary school and we ended up liking eachother and going out in 6th grade (which was last year)then we broke up. Now I'm in 7th and we kinda drifted away but I saw him at a party the other night and now I really like him all over again. I told him that and he likes me too! But he thinks I'll end up breaking up with him again, so I wanna prove to him that I really do like him. Any tips for school tomorrow??

hey. i think that if he likes you then he should trust you. maybe just do something special for him like make cookies to show that you are commited :). you could also write him a note and stick it in his locker saying that you really do like him and that you wont break up with him unless there is a problem. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

i kinda have bad back acne...what can i do to stop it!!!!????

hey. there are acne face washers that can also be used on your back... or your doctor can maybe perscribe you something. dont wash too much because that can make it worse, you may want to moisturise with a light moisturizer. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

okay, well i have this problem. im completely and madly in love with this chick. and like she gives really good advice. and her name is christina. and she is my best friend and doesnt like when sanitary napkinds are thrown at her. but i cant help throwing them! what should i do?

hey... hmm well it seems like you have a problem and you should tell your parents. there ARE clinics for these sorts of things. hah i love you too!! I LOVEEEE MICH! I ♥ MICHELLE! thanks for the compliment too!

Lately I've realized that I haven't been eating as much. I'll be hungry but I just won't eat, maily because I don't want to eat. I am a very self-conscious person and I will willingly admit it. I know being anorexic is bad but sometimes I just can't help not eating. Sometimes after I eat, it doesn't matter how much it was, I fell really bad about it and regret eating. So do you think that I'm anorexic?

hey. everyone is self consious about their bodies sometimes, the problem is when you start to obsess over it. it may be a phase that you are going through, or it may be a problem, it is hard to tell. how long has this been going on? do people around you notice that you arent eating much? how much weight have you lost since you have started "dieting"? you might want to reflect on these questions. as i said, i cant tell if you are anorexic or not, but if you are worried, then DONT be afraid to tell someone about it. the faster you get help the faster you can be cured. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

here is a website you could look at:

http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/exercise/problems/eat_disorder.html

ok heres the situation. your 15 yrs old. u never liked your dad, you hated him and you had this huge fite. and then he beats you wif a wooden stick until it broke. your mom was yelling at him and everything. and he hits your mom because she tries to stop him from hitting you. and then and then... a couple days later they act like nothings happened. yout mom doesnt want anyone else outside the family to kno this so she doesnt calls the police. you realli cant stand it that everyones living on fine and you get mad seeing your bruises. wat do you do?

hey. just to let you know... it is NOT okay for anyones dad to beat them. that is called CHILD ABUSE and the abusers can get in some serious trouble for it. it doesnt matter if someones mom said that she doesnt want anyone else in the family to know. if they arent stoping it then it is kind of like they are encouraging it because they know that they have the power to stop it. the person should tell a close friend or neighbor, or a trusted teacher or counclour. it is discusting that someone would live their live beating someone and then go on living as if nothing happened.

here is a website:
http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/families/family_abuse.html

so there's this girl at school and she is my best friend and i love her to death. she's super nice and has a wierd advice page. her name is x and my name is lei. HEY EVERYONE! THIS GIRL X, GIVES GOOD ADVICE!

ha thanks. im glad that you love me to death cause i love you to death too! is my page really THAT weird? thanks for the compliment! love you xoxo I ♥ LEI

ok theres a guy i have known since i was like 4 and i had a crush on him a long time ago. that caused us not to talk to eachother alot and if we ever talked it would we really hard to say anything. so i told him i didnt like him and want everything to go back to what it used to be. we went on vaction with our family's about 3 weeks ago and i think i am falling for him again. but i dont want it to be hard for me to talk to him. should i tell him and if yes how. 15/f/california.

hey. it sounds like you are in a sticky situation. you could either tell him that you like him and risk him not liking you, or have things stay the way they are right now. my advice would be to tell him how you feel. it would get some feelings off your chest and i think that it would be easier to talk to him then. he may even like you back... but do YOU want him to like you back? to start off you could always just drop little hints to say that you like him... like giving him compliments and asking if he wants to see a movie sometime. i think that he will open up too and then things will go back to normal. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

I am torn. Prom is in a few months and i still don't have a date, heres my situation:

1.) theres a guy at school that all of a sudden started showing more intrest in me- compliments me, talks to me more, acts weird. My friend keeps telling him that he should ask me b4 im taken and i told her stop, he just kinda gets awkward and quiet, and still has not asked me (yet he tells me were destined to go together)

2.) theres another guy at work (younger) that i like hes really nice and i think he likes me. I just don't know how to ask him and what he'll say since i haven't hung out with him out of school much.

What would you do and who would you go for? They both kinda show the same signals of liking me so i don't know wat to do. Thanks in advance

hey. i would pick which person you like the best, which seems to be the guy from work. if the school guy wanted to ask you to the prom then maybe he would have asked already. you should pick whoever you feel most comfortable with. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

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