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I was wondering about something really important to me. I have this boy that has been stalking me for a while and wants to do it(have sex) with me. I really don't like him like that and don't really know him but he still stalks me and looks at me in the wrong places. Can you give me some advice?
Jeez... how awkward...
Well you should make it clear you don't want ANYTHING to do with him. I mean, literally, do something. Tell him off, get a friend to tell him off (preferably a close guy friend)... because what he's doing is totally inappropriate especially after telling you he wants to have sex with you. i would tell you to get an adult to help like in school or something, but im not sure if you're willing to put up with the drama. It's really unfair what he's doing though. It's either let him know verbally, or physically. and i dislike promoting violence but you gotta do what you gotta do. Good luck
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this guy i rlly like .. ui went out with and then he broek up with me bc he was havin emotional problems.. well we talk all the time on the computer.. he is perverted in his ways.. i love him.. well he asked me if he can violate me.. lol what does that mean.. thanks and i will rate you
Yeah, it means he wants to have sex.. My advice? Don't do it. Seems like it's a game to him, and if he has emotional problems, this 'violation' will make it worse o_O ... So Just stick to no violation. Take care :D
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i have a guyfriend and we're really close and all (like really close) except whenever i tell him something just randomly, he says i am overreacting / overanalyzing the situation.
it really pisses me off. it's just my personality. i don't want to tell him to stop because then he'll never tell me when i am actually overanalyzing something and he'll just be thinking it. i'd rather he be honest, but it's just annoying.
what should i do? should i just not tell him stuff... ? it just hurts cause like. it's just how i am. i'm a girl. girls overanalyze everything.
haha i can totally relate!
Well, do you ever ask him 'How am I over analyzing/ overreacting?'. Maybe he can give you some reasons that can help you tune it down. I'm sure it'll help. And if he's always annoying with those words, I'm sure this another friend you can talk to. Some people don't like hearing drama, others don't mind. Good luck
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Okay so basically I was with a guy for a good few months, we broke up in December because of some really crap reason (I didn't visit him when I said I would as I was in hospital, but no one told him?).
Anyways when I tried to sort things out I knew something wasn't right when he didn't tell me he loved me like usual over the phone.. I go to his place but he doesn't answer (then proceeds to tell me that i DIDN'T go to his place at all). The next day I find out he has gotten back with his ex who he broke up with a couple of months before we got together.. apparently she cheated on him and he doesn't give second chances but yet they are back together? I am so confused, I know he is bad for me yet I still have feelings for him?
His current girlfriend has been on msn messenger to me ragging on me telling me im weird etc etc because I ended up in hospital and how could my ex love me as we werent together that long etc.. we were together longer than she and he were.
I don't really know what to do, should I keep fighting to get him back as i really thought we were perfect for each other? Or should I move on...
Thanks for all your help :)
Hey there :)
Well in all honesty, leave this dude alone. It's bad enough what he did, and yet his 'current girlfriend' is messaging you and bothering you? You must have alot of patience lol. Leave this guy alone, feelings come and go, and Im sure you can find someone capeable of being truthful with you and able to love you. First of all, this chick has NO reason to message you to brag about their relationship, it just shows how immature she is, trying to get under your skin. Secondly, if he isn't fighting against her, why should you fight for him? Sounds harsh but it's the truth. As I usually tell people, value yourself :) There are other guys out there, just have to give chances you know? Good luck!
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Ok so this is going to sound weird, but it was an expirament.. I made a fake myspace with a drop dead gorgous girl. I added kids in my town and made up some story about me possibly moving there. Well I did this to see what guys want in girls. Well, I act the EXACT same way to them. Like I talk the same way and everything. No denying this girl in muchh more beautiful, by the way. Yet the boys I can't even get to talk to me, are like obsessed with "Jen" who's really me.. So in a way they really like me, just do not know it.
My question here is, why do boys base it all on looks? Honestly, if I looked like her I would no doubt have a boyfriend and be happier with life. Yet I'm the same way both peopleee. Uggggh, I don't know what to like think. I want to so badly leave my town so I can get a fresh start, cause now I know all guys care about is looks.
Is that true? Is that all guys want. A girl with looks?
Hey there :)
In my opinion, No! Looks are NOT all what guys want. No doubt that guys prefer looks over personality sometimes, so just think about this for a second. Would you rather want a guy who wants looks over personality? Or a guy who accepts you for your personality and possibly attractiveness?? Honestly it all depends on the guy's mentality. Most but not ALL guys want a girl who looks TOO perfect at first. But once they get a taste of all those conceited girls who can't keep a relationship, they give girls with much personality a try. Value yourself girl, you probably have such an awesome personality but they are too immature to realize that... Once you're 16, 17, etc, you will probably see experiences that change your points of view, and guys as well. Just be patient, keep being the best person you can be, and your prince charming will see you shining at your worst moment ;)
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I'm really bad at presenting and I don't think I'll overcome it before I graduate high school.
My face goes red, I can feel my face burning, which makes my throat suddenly go dry and raspy and so I have to talk more quietly so keep whatever smoothness and moisture in my voice/mouth I have left. When I try to talk louder (counts for marks), it just sounds really bad so my face gets redder from embarrassment. Then the longer I’m up there and feel my face getting hotter, my eyes start to water and then OH it’s so embarrassing!
Plus, multi-tasking: breathing while talking, while focusing to not focus on the eyes starring at you, focusing to remember to make eye contact, thinking if you're doing good at the moment, trying to make sure the words don't go all blurry on me, trying to prevent my face from going any redder. And don’t forget the looks of pity on everyone’s face for you when you’re done presenting.
Well we have a slide show presentation and my teacher is so nice; she said that if anyone has any issues with presenting, speak to her. She’s the nicest teacher ever. And I think that I should finally take the chances that are given to me and present. She told us about how she hated presenting and when she explained it, it sounded exactly like me. I mean, how good can I do if I try to present in front of a good teacher that gives me a choice instead of a mean teacher that tells you to suck it up and get it over with? Probably better.
I will present to the class even if I mess up miserably and make a fool out of myself and burst out crying.
Sorry for hearing this rent but please, just anything, tips, motivate lines, comments, would help. Thank you.
Hi there :)
You sound just like me. I too have alot of problems presenting. I have stage fright lol and i have all those symptoms. Just recently i had to present. By myself unfortunately my partner wasnt here. And what i try to do it, I stand in a comfortable position. Most teachers tell you Don't Slouch or Don't lean on the wall, so I just stand a certain way so i feels like i'm leaning on my foot. Also, I try to look around.... but not eye contact, just glance up once in a while... Hopefully, your classmates aren';t immature, because that makes things even harder. Just think of how you can get it overwith. Denying to go up attracts more attention that you going up and getting your grade lol. Hope I helped.
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i'm a pretty outgoing person with my friends,but when it comes to strangers i totally bottle up! i have no clue why,but im always so quiet or have no clue what to say! i REALLY want to get to know some new people and make new friends,but i'm not so sure how? i feel kind of weird for asking how to makes friends,but its really hard for me. i love my friends so much, but meeting new people would be awesome too :D. i'm entertaining,once you get to know me,but i feel like people will never see that if im just a quiet weirdo infrount them ! lately i've felt so dazed-no im not tired,hungry,or anything like that.i always feel out of it.help? :]
also,i have a quick question but theres a lot of explaining involed. when drama is going on, i SERIOUSLY get afraid.i have an "obsession" for helping people and making them feel better when theyre sad.like-if one of my friends isnt happy around me i'll do whatever i can-devote all my attention. But when that doesnt work,i seriously get upset and cant shake it off?its a fear for me too see my friends fighting or hearing people talk about someone too :O. i dont know why,but i always try to stray away from the shit talking topics-which i don't mind at all. i just was wondering is there actually a disease for being afraid of drama? wow i sound like a creep, and could it be possible that i'm ocd about making people happy?
the reason i'm asking these two questions together is because i think they might have something to do with one another.i always feel awkward with new people. i REALLLYYY want to fix that,how?
thanks so much for your time, this was long,sososorry!
Hey there!
Well one way to meet new people is by meeting friends of your friends. In other words, a friendly blind date haha... If your friends have friends who are exactly like them, maybe you guys can all hang out, go to the movies, go bowling.. and just play games. Like... 20 questions! Hehe, you say you're very entertaining, so how about being like that with your friends, and once your friend's friends sees the way youre acting, they can join in and all of you guys can be hyper! this comes from personal experiance because I am the same way you describe yourself.
As for your second question, there is nothing wrong with you. I too enjoy helping my friends and family, or anyone which is why i joined this site. There isn't anything wrong with feeling down when you try to help people and it doesnt work, because it basically makes you feel like a failure or like youre useless... that's how i feel. But just look at it this way, theyre mad... or sad... so it's hard for them to daze out of that world and feel better. So it just takes patience and time... maybe let them cool off...
hope i helped!
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16f Theres this guy 17 that from the beginning i knew he was interested in me. we kind of got set up to meet eachother or get to know eachother and just based on looks i knew i would wind up liking him. Recently he told me he liked me, i didnt say i liked him back, because im still on the fence about it. Hes asked me out on dates and i didnt say no but not really a yes either so that hasnt happened yet. He is not someone i would want to go out with but it is almost like i cant help but think about us. were both pretty immature when it comes to eachother and we like torture eachother lol. My best friend doesnt like him and has been trying to do anything to get dirt on him. People have told me not to get involved with him. i can understand sometimes because supposedly he just likes to get with girls who will have sex and he does drugs. I always like to give people second chances and i believe in change but they say he wont change. I dont know wether to go for this or back away from it. opinions?
Hey There :)
Well Just the fact that he does drugs is a BIG no no. I understand you like to give people second chances, but think about this: Drugs are VERY addicting. And Lying is too. I've been through a situation like this except I didn't know he was a liar, a cheater. I did know he used drugs but that was only because he confessed it one day. This guy honestly sounds like he can be a cool friend to hang out with, but not a good guy to date. if you DO choose to give him a chance, be aware... Im not saying control him, but beware of the drugs and lies that may come along with it. I would back away from this guy, and just keep him as a friend. BUT, if he likes you so much, perhaps you guys can set some ground rules? For example, no using drugs or smoking, drinking. keeping the relationship monogamous, etc. Good luck!
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Ok everyone has relationships or is romantically involved with someone at one point or another. I am 15 and i havnt had a boyfriend.. im pretty okay with that and dont necesarily want to rush it. Naturally i am i guess dirty minded or kinky talker how ever you want to put it. My best friend thinks its gross if i talk about guys id like to f*** and says its whorish but im like well im not actually doing it, cuz im a virgin. I wouldnt want to have sex with someone unless i was dating them and for a certain time period but i know there are certain guys that i would have with dating them or not. I wouldnt really care about getting to know them, I would just like to get to know them physically because what i see now is already good. When it comes to a boyfriend i dont care if there a virgin or not because now at this age it seems like half the people arent anyway so why exclude so many people. My friend thinks that sex thing is whorish too..and disagrees with the bf unless im ready to lose my virginity. I just want some other opinions on everything and please just be honest
Just because you voice your opinion on your sexuality does NOT make you a whore. But of course, be careful of where you say these things. People can be very nosey, and can start rumors... So beware. As for having sex with someone b/c of the way the look whether youre dating them or not, it's not a bad thing. But i wouldn't reccomend it. I'm not trying to sound all motherly here, but you have to respect yourself. Yes, you're a virgin and have never had a bf, that's okay, awesome. But think before you do. Always be careful wear a condom at most, perhaps some other forms of contraceptive at the same time. A man or woman may look good, but you don't know what can be lurking beneath them. Std's Sti's... sometimes asymptomatic. But no, it's not wrong to voice your opinion. That's her opinion, maybe she was raised more strictly then you were when it comes to saying things. Sex is not whorish, unless you're doing it with every guy you meet... meaning any guy... Take care
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Are there ways of telling if a guy thinks your cute or not. I am completely oblivious to guys checking me out i guess. the other day my guy friend told me the whole table was checking me out during lunch and i was standing up the whole time n didnt notice any staring. If its guys i dont talk to so they cant act flirty then how can i get into their mind ?
How Can You Get Into Their Mind?
:) Well there's plenty ways. From Your hair, your skin complexion, maybe the way you act, your clothes.... major factors are your appearance and things you do. Maybe they like how you laugh... your smile... Many things can attract a guy. Even the way you talk. If they check you out, just give em a smile ;) good luck!
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ok, so;
My voice ranges from quite low in my chest voice to really high in my head voice
but i am having trouble!
I need a song 3 songs to sing to show off every aspect of my voice;
but if you list more that would be nice because i will have more of a selection :)
Thankyouuu ! :D
(by the way, i love songs that are meaningfull.)
Hi There!
Perhaps...:
Unbreak My Heart- Toni Braxton
Angel OF Mine- Monica
Have You Ever- Brandy
The One I Gave my Heart To- Aaliyah (personal fave)
Take A Bow- Leona Lewis
Just A Dream- Carrie Underwood
Butterflyz- Alicia Keys
So Much More. Just msg my inbox if you want more. Hope I helped!
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i lost my boyfriend of 2 years about a month ago. Him and I were still hanging out and hooking up which i know now is a huge mistake. i always told him that i wanted to get back together with him and i showed him that i am weak and he took advantage of it. i started to talk to other girls and telling them not to hook up with him and shit. he found out and now he wont even talk to me. what should i dooo?!
Honestly, there's not much you can do but apologize. On one hand, you did wrong for telling other people not to get with him... were you telling them lies though? But on the other hand, it's wrong of him taking advantage of you giving him your everything. Obviously, if you have to tell other girls not to get with him, he's not worth your time. Just let him be. There has to be another guy out there who deserves your love and who can give you loving back. might take a few attempts. I'm sorry about this though. Good luck and take care!
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13/F Im in love. plz dont lecture bout being to young to be in love. But problem is we lost contact for awhile and he has a girlfriend now. He said he started to love me before. But he talks to me like we used to even though he has a gf and he likes me a little more every day but i dont want him to hurt his gf
I agree with Jack. It seems like he wants his cake and eat it too. It's great that you're thinking of how he will hurt his girlfriend while doing all of this, so just stay clear of his path, or else he'll drag you into so much drama with his girlfriend if she ever finds out. Either he acts appropriate with you and be happy with his girlfriend, or break up with her to be happy with you. But not both, you deserve much better. Remember, if he's doing this to HER, he can do it to YOU as well. Good luck hun!
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well lets start by saying im a guy and im 17 still in college (a 6th form in an upper school really) pretty much all of today i have been thinking about this girl that i know hardly anything about. she added me on msn probably 2 days ago and we've talked a little here and there shes a year under me at school. i work in a big food store were i see alot of famillier faces at the weekend's and after about 6 hours of being at work and thinking about her for most of the day i came down from break and i could have sworn i saw her as i turned the corner coming back out in to the shop, my heart jumped and it pumped hard. then i relaxed it because it was some one who just looked alot like her because she was taller. but anyways if im thinkin about her this much but i dont think i love her what is it? :S its confusing i dont really know enough about her to want to get into a relationship or ask her out or anything... could it just be that i think she could be some one i would like to get to know better? shes really sweet and shy but quite easy to talk to once you get her going :P i dunno what do you think this is?
quick summary:
i dont love her
she is a friend though
i dont really know alot about her
i'v known of her for about a year now since she joind our 6th form
i think about her quite a bit and i dont know why
im confused, am i feeling hope?
iv also not had a girlfreind since year 10 (so its close on 4 years of being single)
You might not be in love, but it sounds like you have a crush. Maybe since it's been quite a while that you've been in a relationship, you're eager to get to know this girl, because she's added you on msn. Hey, being eager isn't bad, but don't come on too strong lol. Just get to know this girl... who knows what can happen! Good luck
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i don't really like doing sexual things.
sure, they feel good...but after it all im wet and i feel so gross. is this normal? and when my boyfriend was fingering me it kinda felt good but i couldnt relax because im pretty tight and i kept thinking he was gonna accidently do something wrong...(first time fingering someone)
so is this normal?
16/f
Hey there!
Well to answer your first question, yes, it is normal feeling gross while being wet... Some people feel slimy, some love it... the anxiety over him fingering you and you not being at ease is normal as well... what you guys can do is take thing slowly. alot of people go quick or slow. Whatever your preference may be, just remember sometimes us ladies have to be catered to a little more than males, we take more time to get aroused.. Good luck!!
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im a 20 year old male and i live in Canada
im dating a 14 soon to be 15 year old girl.
i wanna know if this is wrong? and if i have a problem.
i didnt think i did, but all my friends say i do.
so now idont know
i really love this girl
Take a look at this link, perhaps it can help a little. http://encarta.msn.com/encyclopedia_761564013_3/Rape_(law).html
From my point of view, be VERY careful with what you do with this girl... keep in mind she is 6 years younger than you, probably doesn't have much experiance in life, and is naiive.. most girls at that age are. OR maybe she might not be, but youre still playing with fire. I havent read up on Canadian laws, but i personally think you shouldnt consider this. You're much more developed mentally and physically, and she's just starting to develop her mind.. these stages are critical. DON'T mess this up. I wish i could change your mind, from personal experiance, but you are your own person. Just be careful, and do not let her convince you into anything that you know can probably bring consequences in the future... good luck...
flirty
How old do you have to be to buy condoms in shops?
You don't have to be any age, as long as you buy it... your school might also offer... check up on that.. as long as youre safe..
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Please do not judge me, or lecture me, just advice. 18/f
well i have this friend m and he is so sweet to me, and we text every freakin day, and he is always begging me to hang out with him, and if i ask him to come see me at work...he does :)
he's told me that he liked me, and is always texing me first and tells me im cute...blah blah...seems like things are going good right?...wrong, he has a girlfriend.
i always am asking him about her, like should'nt you be paying attention to her and not texting me, and he'll just be like nah, shes fine, or your funner to talk to anyways...and stuff.
well ive hung out with both of them, and she is ALL over him every time.
it bugs...
and he'll end up texting me the same night.
but i honestly dont know what to do.
i like him a lot...and i know he likes me, but i dont know what to do about his gf...???!!!
her own brother even thinks she's crazy...
should i go for it, give it time, leave it alone...anyone been in this situation???
Well, I wouldnt wait TOO long.. also, put yourself in her shoes... If he's doing this to her, don't you think he'd probably do it to you? Don't set yourself up... think about it, you deserve better than that... I wouldn't give him a chance, he doesnt look like the honest type by this situation... good luck!! hope everything turns out well :)
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my boyfriend has been doing numerous things that hurt my feelings.
i still love him.
but its really pissing me off.
for example: he'll tellme these made up stories to impress me
He'll say something about my period or something that will make me feel extremely uncomfortable.
He'll talk about things that happened with girls all the time.
Im not being sensitive either, and i cant tell him to stop otherwise hell make me feel guilty,or blame it on me.
example:
him (7:12:36 PM): whats tinas last name
him (7:12:40 PM): jw
me (7:13:18 PM): i dont know
me (7:14:52 PM): y
him (7:15:15 PM): i wanted to see if she had a myspace or facebook
me (7:16:00 PM): o
yeah that was an IM convo that happened last night
heres another one.
him(4:37:29 PM): some girl had her period in class today
him (4:37:39 PM): it was soo funny
him (4:38:03 PM): im not even kidding
me (4:38:56 PM): girls just dont go 'OOPS I HAD MY PERIOD!" its something you cant feel so you put a pad on the day you have it.
him (4:48:41 PM): but i can tel she didnt have her period yet cause she jumped in her seat then she ran to the bathroom
him (4:48:54 PM): screaming OHH SHIT
me (4:48:57 PM): ohmygod nobody does that when they have their period tho
me (4:49:07 PM): you dont even feel it
him (4:49:08 PM): well aprently she did
things like that.
he thinks i cant tell when hes lying.
or like
"My friend alyssa wanted to give me a lap dance but i turned her down cause i have you."
help?
hmm... are you sure he's just not trying to tell you about his day (second convo) or that he's just trying to make you jelous? to see your reaction or what you would do? have you talked to him about how these convo's about other girls make you feel? you have to let your inner voice be heard especially if it's a REALTIONSHIP made of 2 People.. not just one... =] remember that. make sure youre happy.. make sure he knows how you feel and if he doesnt care and doesnt wanna change his habits to make you happy then that should show how much he doesnt care about you. good luck hon!
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17/f
Yeah, so, English classes pisses me off. There's this 'gangsta' kid who sits behind me, and his friend. Pretty much they throw things at me. During a diagnostic, he threw an eraser at me, and something else. Today, he threw a piece of paper at my head.
And I'm pretty sure it's him and not the girl who sits beside him, because he's always laughing with his friend.
Seriously, what the hell is his problem?
Gah i know so many people who do this..
one word...
Immaturity.
the only reason they act so idiotic is because they either see you as a target (whatever it may be)... or because theyre just immature and have nothing better to do..
there are two things that might help.
either when they throw something.. stand up for yourself but make sure to superiorize yourself without cusses or anything... because thats just stooping down to his level.
or..
move your seat.. and stick oto your studies. just because they have nothing better to do and dont want to pay attention becaue throwing stuff is more important, doesnt mean you have to suffer as well... its a dog eat dog world... we all have to fend for ourselves you know?
good luck!! =] flirty