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whore? freak? normal?
Ok everyone has relationships or is romantically involved with someone at one point or another. I am 15 and i havnt had a boyfriend.. im pretty okay with that and dont necesarily want to rush it. Naturally i am i guess dirty minded or kinky talker how ever you want to put it. My best friend thinks its gross if i talk about guys id like to f*** and says its whorish but im like well im not actually doing it, cuz im a virgin. I wouldnt want to have sex with someone unless i was dating them and for a certain time period but i know there are certain guys that i would have with dating them or not. I wouldnt really care about getting to know them, I would just like to get to know them physically because what i see now is already good. When it comes to a boyfriend i dont care if there a virgin or not because now at this age it seems like half the people arent anyway so why exclude so many people. My friend thinks that sex thing is whorish too..and disagrees with the bf unless im ready to lose my virginity. I just want some other opinions on everything and please just be honest
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Theres nothing wrong with being a little kinky. The trick is not to let teenaged hormones dictate your desires.
Now, as far as your friend, she is probably just uncomfortable with you expressing the whole "I'd like to fuck that guy".
Theres nothing wrong with that, either. Teens think its normal to flaunt sexuality. Its not. Its immature. Your friend realizes that. Shes also worried all this talk will turn into stupid actions. As you've said, all your friends are doing it. She sounds like she's hoping you won't join the trend.
You shouldn't at this point in your life have sex with a guy just because you find him attractive.
Why?
Because teens these days have a completely warped sense of adult sexuality. Look at your friend.
"You shouldn't have a boyfriend unless you're ready to lose your virginity"
WRONG. You shouldn't have a boyfriend if you aren't interested in dating them. Having a boyfriend is supposed to be about establishing a relationship, learning how to love someone and who it is you want to love in the first place.
Dating is not about sex, its about the relationship. Sex is part of that.
Teens don't seem to get the whole idea that sex is part of a relationship, rather than relationships being a part of sex.
Thats the point. If you want to date, date. Don't fuck a guy unless you know he cares just as much for you as you do for him, and its a mutual decision.
Virginity is made such a big deal these days. Virginity doesn't matter. Your first. You'll remember it. Whoop dee doo. Then all these girls who lost it go sleep with whomever because "well, I'm not a virgin anymore so it doesn't matter"
The divorce rate is going to skyrocket when your generation hits the mid to late 20s.
There should be good reasons behind sex with anyone. And yes, some adults are also indescriminant. Do you know what the difference is?
They are doing it because its what they want, without regard to what other people think. They are making adult decisions and are old enough to deal with the consequences. Or, they are just as stupid as your slutty friends. Not everyone grows up.
If you want to date, date. But don't put out just because others do it, and don't put out unless you know you won't regret it in the morning, regardless of the consequences.
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Just because you voice your opinion on your sexuality does NOT make you a whore. But of course, be careful of where you say these things. People can be very nosey, and can start rumors... So beware. As for having sex with someone b/c of the way the look whether youre dating them or not, it's not a bad thing. But i wouldn't reccomend it. I'm not trying to sound all motherly here, but you have to respect yourself. Yes, you're a virgin and have never had a bf, that's okay, awesome. But think before you do. Always be careful wear a condom at most, perhaps some other forms of contraceptive at the same time. A man or woman may look good, but you don't know what can be lurking beneath them. Std's Sti's... sometimes asymptomatic. But no, it's not wrong to voice your opinion. That's her opinion, maybe she was raised more strictly then you were when it comes to saying things. Sex is not whorish, unless you're doing it with every guy you meet... meaning any guy... Take care
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It's perfectly normal and natural to have provocative thoughts during puberty. It's all part of growing up. If we didn't have these thoughts, we wouldn't want to have sex, and sex is what creates new life. If talking about it with your friend bothers her, then don't talk about it with her. And for the "whore" stuff, a whore is someone who sells sex for money. People use that word very carelessly and cruelly now days. You are definitely not a freak, every other person your age is going through the exact same thing.
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