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i'm moving next year and i'll just be starting highschool. i don't know what i'm going to do because i made a whole bunch of friends here and it's going to suck. i'm not good at making friends. on the first day of school everyone is going to have friends and i won't. :(
how could i make friends?
I was in your position after my sophomore year in high school. I lived in Texas my entire life, was friends with the same people for years & was completely devastated when I found out I'd be moving to another state & starting a new school. It was actually the end of the world for me because, like you, I didn't make friends that easily - atleast not when I knew absolutely no one to begin with. I think my first week @ the new high school was depressing because I expected people to come to me befriend me (like I would do to new people at my other school.) But that didn't exactly work @ the new school I was at (being that it was a snobbier area than where I was from.) So after my first week of sitting alone @ lunch, I went over to someone who was also sitting by herself & asked her if she was new to the school as well. Luckily, she was & we began sitting together @ lunch everyday for the entire year. Because I was willing to go to someone myself, I made a new friend. You can't expect people to come to you (although, it's great when it happens!) But as nerve wrecking it is to walk up to someone, it's really not that bad. You can start off by making small talk with someone in some of your classes. Ask them questions, give them sincere compliments. Once the conversation develops - tell them you just moved & this is your first year @ that school. Then ask them if it'd be okay if they showed you around & if it'd be okay to sit with them @ lunch. I know it may seem kind of awkward for you, but it's not a big deal. I highly doubt anyone is willing to turn down a new friend. & if they are, then they aren't worth being friends with anyway - so it all works out. If you really want to make friends, you'll have to make a little effort. Eventually, it won't be so bad if you meet a couple people because those people will end up introducing you to others. Just stick in there, be confident, be yourself & you'll do alright! Trust me! :)
oh my god, seriously, what has the world come to...? i read a question on here and a girl had sex at 10 YEARS OLD. i was watching the news a couple of hours ago and an 8 YEAR OLD HAD SEX. yes, an 8 year old. i didn't even think 8 year olds knew what sex meant! on the internet news a 12 year old had sex and killed her own child because she said she wasn't ready for a kid. really, what's wrong with the world? why are people having sex at such a young age? do any of you agree that this is absolutatly crazy?
I agree. Times have changed & sadly, everyone wants to be much older & live like they're 25. The truth is: sex is not casual like kissing is these days. There are so many risks & consequences that come along with it. Unfortunately, these kids have no idea what they're in for.
Get ready for this one, it might be a bit long.
Okay well my boyfriend and I had plans for today to get together so he could meet my cousin. Instead he gets drunk, calls me telling me that he can't come over but he wants me at his friends house to hang out at a party with him, then proceeds to tell me that I cannot bring my cousin who I never see. When I tell him no I can't just leave my cousin here he goes on saying oh well there are plenty of hott girls here who want to take their clothes off. Then I just tell him I was hanging up and he didn't even say just kidding or try to stop me he simply says k bye. That really got to me and I messaged him on myspace saying how he treated me was really wrong. He just replied back by saying soooo many b**ches so little time then he says where is the ky (as in the lubricant) G** Da** it.
So what I want to know is how do I let him know what he is doing to me is making me have suicidal thoughts. He really is a great boyfriend when he isn't drunk so I don't plan on breaking up with him. But how do I just let him know what he does hurts me.
No one deserves that & I can't understand why any girl allows that kind of behavior in their relationship. Drunk or not, no boyfriend should ever threaten to sleep with other girls. If he cared about your relationship or knew he was going to act like that, he should either watch his drinks or not drink at all. It's really sad to see guys act like that & their girlfriends actually defend their abusive behavior. It probably contributes to why guys are the way they are these days. Instead of sitting here & actually admitting to everyone "I'm not breaking up with him. I'm going to let him walk all over me", why not look for someone better? Be a smart woman to put your foot down & say "I will not let you treat me this way, goodbye." By sticking around, you're only showing him that what he did was "okay" & giving him more power to control you. If you leave now, I can guarantee you are saving yourself from a possible abusive relationship with this guy. I am not here to put you down, I am here telling you what I wish I could have done when I was in your similar position. I am here to tell you that you are MUCH better than that & you need to get out now. There are plenty of guys out there who would treat you so much better. Yes, guys make mistakes, but this is by no means acceptable.
ok, 14/f. ok. long story short- my parents freaking drive my insane. i'm not even kidding. they are CRAZY. for example. this just happend like, 10 min. ago. today i went to target, and i got a new showercurtain for my closet door. i know, it sounds weird- a showercurtain for a closet door, but its acutally pretty cool. anyways, my room is tropical, so i got a vinal showercurtain. when i took it out of the package, it smelled pretty strong. so my mom and i go into my room to hang it up. we hang it up and my room smells really strong. so my parents are getting ready to go to bed, and i'm on the computer and talking to my friend on the phone, and i see my dad coming through the back door with my showercurtain. and i said "what are you doing?!" and he and my mom was like "you have asthma, it is too strong for you.. bla bla bla. " so i start getting really pissed because they shouldn't be able to just go into my room, and take down my stuff. like seriously? wtf?? omg the drive me nuts. so my dad takes the curtain out to the grage and hangs it up somewhere. well, it is a grage, and it is dirty, so it will get dirty out there. and my parents are just like "it needs to air out" so now i'm going to spend $15 for something that is going to get dirty. my parents do stuff like this ALL OF THE TIME. they always team up against me, and never listen to what i have to say. i feel like i'm just here for.. well, i don't know why i'm in this world. my parents drive me so nuts, i never tell them anything. like what goes on in school, when i'm having problems with a friend or somthing. i just don't know what to do anymore. i've delt with this for a while, and i just need some help. so any advice?? please??! thanks so much!
Before you get upset over things you like this, you have to ask yourself: is it really worth arguing over? Your parents have every right to make the rules in their house until the day you move out. Whether you realize it or not, they're looking out for the best of you. They aren't there to ruin your life & "team up against you." In this case, they're simply looking out for your health when it all comes down to it. Shower curtains are washable & unless it's laying on the floor of the garage & getting trampled on, it should not get ridiculously dirty to where it cannot be cleaned.
About not being able to discuss life in general with your parents - it's usually your choice. Sometimes we like to think it's our parents' faults for not making us be able to have a good relationship with them. (& in some cases, it IS true.) But it seems like your parents really care about you, so I cannot see why you can't open up to them more. I believe the first step would be to not get so upset about the little things that they do. Yes, they may do stuff that drives you completely crazy - like all parents do. But it's also your choice on how to handle/react to it. You can either choose to be extremely upset over something so little & scream at your parents to never talk to you again. But you also have the option to let the little things go & accept the fact that you have 4 years left until you can move out & make your own rules. You have to let the little stuff go & be able to talk to them. Sit down with them when you're all calm & not fighting & tell them how you want to be able to discuss your problems & your life with them. Any parent would be greatful to hear this coming from their 14 year old (who typically likes to shut their parents out of their lives.) I'm sure that's all the want - is to be able to have a good relationship with their daughter. It's really your choice! Just make the first step & I'm sure you'll see some changes shortly. :)
i think i might be scitzefrenic. (sp?) i was sleeping and i had dreams of killing my sister and her friend and then myself with a gun and i heard a voice saying kill laura in my head. whats going on..
If you're fully conscious/awake & you're having these thoughts, it's best to see a doctor immediately. But if it's just an absurbd & insane one time dream, then it's possible it's just a bad dream. & even if it's just a dream, maybe it's best to be checked out anyway - just to be on the safe side.
Odd question, what are some recently popular shoes (ones that can be worn every day/with jeans.)?
Flip flops (of course), flats, & wedges or any kind of platform shoe. :)
Ever since I got my first tattoo 3 years ago, I have bee dying to get another. I know basically what I want and where I want it at.. but I'm having problems coming up with a design for it?
Basically, I want it to be in pink and black. I want a pink heart, and either inside it, around it, or next to it I want the words 'Everything Happens For A Reason."
So my question is, does anyone know of any websites that have really good examples of pics of tattoos, or maybe a website that will help you design them? I'm really bad at drawing things up & I want this tattoo to look awesome.. since I'm obviously going to have it for the rest of my life.
Any help would be appreciated, thank you!
Try bmezine.com. They have thousands & thousands of pictures of users who post pictures of their tattoos (& piercings), along with their stories. :)
My ex came over and we were planning on having sex, but I wanted to you know... be intimate before we did. He got aggravated and took me in my room slammed the door and pretty much ripped off my ckothes and commenced to having sex, I didn't say no because at first I thought it was funny then as we went on I was just like.. let him finish and that'll be it forever. So finally he was done... but I didn't say anything. I felt dirty and nasty, my friend said that it was rape but... I don't know. What do you think?
If you planned on having sex like you said - was it an actual conversation/oral agreement or did you both just ASSUME (without words) that it was going to happen? If you had any kind of discussion beforehand, then of course he was going to believe that this was going to happen. If you did not want to have sex, you could have disagreed on the decision at that time & avoided him coming over all together. Since he took off your clothes (ripped or not) & you had sex with him WITHOUT verbally telling him "NO" & WITHOUT any kind of resistance, you probably don't have a strong case. Guys can't read your mind, especially if you led him on & you're going with the idea (in your mind: like it or not.) Most people who are truly raped don't think it's "funny" for their exes to rip off their clothes & force themselves onto them. & they don't just lay there & allow it to happen. They'll scratch, they'll scream, they'll do whatever it takes to get out of the horrible position that they are in. Without that kind of evidence, you don't have much to prove. You also said you planned on having sex with him, but you just wanted to be intimate beforehand. Just because things didn't go your way as far as HOW you got there, does not make it rape either. You could have said NO at that point where he became agrivated & THEN it would have been considered rape if he continued to go along with it anyway. But since you went along with it, he can't assume that you don't want to unless you speak up. Now, I am not saying you deserved what you got. It was definitely wrong - BUT in the courts, I don't think it'd be considered rape with what you have told us. It just sounds like you allowed things to happen, didn't say anything at the time & now regret it.
Ok so i got a boufriend we have been going out for like 2 weeks and ii have absoultly no feelings for him ='[ when he touches me i feel werid and everythiing i want to end it but i dnt know how if i do alot of people will hate me so pelase help i dont nkow what to do please anyone help me the more advice the better =[
If you simply don't have any feelings for him & you're not comfortable around him, you're under no obligation to go out with him. Who cares what other people think? People should not hate you for making your own decisions in life - especially for something like this. As cliche & random as it sounds, I thought I'd throw this quote in here: "It's better to be hated for who you are than loved for what you aren't." Moving along - be honest with him now so he doesn't feel like he's been led on. Tell him exactly what you told us & I'm sure he'll understand. There's not much else you can do besides be honest at this point. Don't bother worrying about what everyone else thinks is right. You know whats best for you, not them. :)
Okay, well I go to the 'rough school'in the area, and I've been away from school for a while. While I've been away someone broke out a rumour I've been bitching about everyone behind their back and I've been plotting something against them. Something like that. So because I'm not there to defend myself everyone has decided they hate me, and they will be the first ones to get revenge. So they said that they will "bash me up" "beat me up" whatever you want to call it. But not to tell me because they know i'll go and squeal. Now I actually doubt they'll do this they're just trying to act tough when I'm not around but what do I do? I go back tomorrow.
I don't have any friends left to protect me or warn me. What do I do from here?
Do you have any names of these people? If you do, go to the office in the morning before school & report that you are hearing these threats go around. Incase anything does happen, atleast your school knew it was a problem before it happened. Most people run their mouths, like you said. But it's better to take the extra precautions since this is your safety at risk. Who knows what people are capable of these days? & who cares if you go & tell? You're at school - you should NEVER have to feel like you're in danger or that someone might be coming after you. It's a learning environment.
ok does anyone know any really good scrunching products. I have curlyish wavish hair and i straighten it so much its sometimes to boring.
Also, i need some product that i could maybe straighten my hair and then put it on to make it look naturally wavy. like pretty but not really frizzy and hard. Thank you :D
Any product by Catwalk or S Factor works great!
I really want to get a small heart tattooed on the middle of my wrist. (Random -- but there's a story with it and such.) The thing is, I know tattoos are already painful to begin with (I've never gotten one before though), and there's that really pokey bone right where I want the tattoo to go. So basically it will hurt like hell. Has anyone else gotten a tattoo on their wrist like that before and how bad does it hurt?? Thanks!
I don't have a tattoo on my wrist, but I do have a couple tattoos (one on my lower back & one on my right side). Honestly, I think you imagine the process to be much more painful than it actually it is. But it all varies per person. Since the tattoo will be going somewhere close to the bone, it'll more than likely feel more awkward/discomfort than painful. My friend got a tattoo on the top of her foot & experienced more "vibrating" than anything when the needle would "hit" the bone. For some it may be painful, but for others it may just be a minor discomfort. When I got my lower back tattoo & the needle got closer to my tail bone, it was more painful. But if it makes you feel any better, I laughed & had conversations through my tattoos, so I can't imagine it being that bad - especially if it's small. If it was really that bad, I wouldn't be planning to get my third tattoo. :)
Hi, well i just have a few questions about america, so if you could answer, it would be great. well i live in the uk by the way. so anyway, how much does a detatched home, in the suburbs, like in the movies and tv shows, cost? If i were to get my GCSE qualification, and A levels, and a degree in a university in the uk, does it matter if i want a job there in the states? or do i need to re-do everything? thanks in advance.
It all depends on where in the U.S. you live. When I lived in Texas, you could get a pretty big house for under $200,000. (An average/small size house here is about $300,000). But then again, where I live is kind of ridiculous for houses in my opinion. I'd probably get on google & research the area/city you are interested in & look for house prices in that area. As far as the GCSE qualification & degree, I would have no idea. It's best to google that as well.
okay well one of my best friends is 12. she is one of the youngest people in the 7th grade. & she's like a complete whore. she's going out with a 16 year old & she likes to make out. she has made out like 7 times. one time it was a girl & one time it was with a girl & a guy. also, these people she's making out with are 4-5 years older than her. when she was 11, she made out with a 15 year old. she doesn't think there's anything wrong with the way she's acting. i'm really getting worried about her because i don't want her to end up pregnant by age 15. she has promised me she wont do this anymore but she always talks about how she LOVES making out. its disgusting. i've seen her make out. she does it all the time right in front of me.
so i have two questions. one, is this normal? & two, what can i do to help her?
Sadly, some girls just start experiencing things much earlier these days. I cannot tell you what it is "normal" & what isn't because it's been awhile since I was your age. But I can tell you that she's going to make her own mistakes in life. It's great you are looking out for her, but she's going to do things you don't approve of. All you can do is to address her & let her know you are concerned about her actions.
You can look on the brightside of things: it's just making out. Atleast she's not sleeping around. (Knock on wood.) Now even though making out is pretty much harmless, it doesn't make it right to be doing this with much older guys. 16-17+ year old guys are not interested in 12 year olds - I can tell you that. The only reason they are hanging around is because of what she has to offer. Eventually, they're going to want more from her.
For now, you can make one of two decisions: 1.) You can find someone new to hang out with. -or- 2.) You can accept the fact that this is her & she probably won't change.
If you decide to remain friends & things get worse in the future (i.e. she's sexually active with these older guys), I think the best thing to do is tell her parents. It's probably not the solution most people would want their friends doing, but if you care about her..you can stop her from making some horrible decisions. She may hate you & never want to talk to you again, but atleast you were a friend who cared. && she may not realize that now or next week, but she'll realize it someday.
What are some good songs that you can workout to? Like high beat kind of stuff. I want to find some upbeat songs I can listen to when I workout at the gym.
In my opinion, rap/hip hop/pop songs are the kind that usually get me going:
- Fergalicious by Fegie
- London Bridge by Fergie
- Beep by Pussycat Dolls
- Caribou Lou by Tech N9ne
- Hustlin by Rick Ross
- Jigglin by Ying Yang Twins
- Sexy Back by Justin Timberlake
- Money Maker by Ludacris
- Rock Yo Hips - Crime Mob
If you don't like that type of music, try bands like System of a Down.
Sorry is this is kind of weird but lately a lot of people have been saying " Who wears the pants in a relationship? "
I don't really understand what that means. =/ Thanks lol
It's basically saying "Who makes the decisions in the relationship?" or.."Who has the say in things?"
How should I tell my mom about me having vaginal discharge. Im 13 and of course a female. I know she wont do nothing it's just I'm embarassed
There's really no reason to tell her. It's completely normal & every woman experiences it, so there's nothing to be embarassed about. If you need pantyliners to resolve the issue, just put them on the shopping list & I'm sure she'll understand. Not a big deal. :)
I'm going on birth control because my cramps come from hell and my period lasts almost 2 weeks.
What are the side effects?
I heard it clears up your acne/or makes it worse and that you gain weight?
Every person's body will react differently. I will assume you are going on the pill, not the shot. Some disadvantages:
- Weight gain or weight loss.
(I actually lost about 5 lbs on it & gained 10 lbs when I got off of it.)
- Nausea
- Bleeding in between periods
- Mood swings
The pill will:
- Regulate your period
- Relieve cramps
- Protect you from getting pregnant by 99% with PERFECT use
- Help acne
According to plannedparenthood.org, the pill can protect against:
- acne
- cancer of the lining of the uterus
- cancer of the ovaries
- ectopic pregnancy
- excess body hair
- iron deficiency anemia that can result from heavy menses
- noncancerous breast growths
- osteoporosis
- ovarian cysts
- premenstrual symptoms, as well as related headaches and depression
- vaginal dryness and painful intercourse related to menopause.
Hope that helped :)
I just started indoor tanning. How often a week should I tan??
I'd say every other day till you get your base tan. Once you reach the color/shade you want, go 2-3 times a week to maintain it.
What brand of hair products would you say is the best? and from that brand, what would be the best shampoos, conditioners, sprays, etc. for naturally frizzy, wavy, curly, knotty, puffy hair?
and also, names of good hair dryers and hair straighteners/curlers would be appreciated!
I've used every hair product/shampoo/anti frizzy/anti-poofy product & straightener on the shelves out there. & I will only settle for the best now. Here's my list of personal favorites:
- Shampoos & conditioners: Bedhead (my personal choice, $26-$32 a big bottle depending where you get it) or Catwalk (both are by TIGI), Paul Mitchell, Biolage, Herbal Essences
- Anti Poof: SUNSILK Anti-Poof 24/7 Creme ($3.99 at any store/drugstore).
- Frizzy hair: S-FACTOR Lusterizer & S-FACTOR Dream Drops (both about $30.)
- For curly hair: CATWALK Curls Rock.
- Straighteners: Andis Cermaic straightener ($18 @ Walmart. Very affordable & does a wonderful job for it's price.)
As far as hair dryers & curlers, I am sorry I cannot help you there!