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Parents
ok, 14/f. ok. long story short- my parents freaking drive my insane. i'm not even kidding. they are CRAZY. for example. this just happend like, 10 min. ago. today i went to target, and i got a new showercurtain for my closet door. i know, it sounds weird- a showercurtain for a closet door, but its acutally pretty cool. anyways, my room is tropical, so i got a vinal showercurtain. when i took it out of the package, it smelled pretty strong. so my mom and i go into my room to hang it up. we hang it up and my room smells really strong. so my parents are getting ready to go to bed, and i'm on the computer and talking to my friend on the phone, and i see my dad coming through the back door with my showercurtain. and i said "what are you doing?!" and he and my mom was like "you have asthma, it is too strong for you.. bla bla bla. " so i start getting really pissed because they shouldn't be able to just go into my room, and take down my stuff. like seriously? wtf?? omg the drive me nuts. so my dad takes the curtain out to the grage and hangs it up somewhere. well, it is a grage, and it is dirty, so it will get dirty out there. and my parents are just like "it needs to air out" so now i'm going to spend $15 for something that is going to get dirty. my parents do stuff like this ALL OF THE TIME. they always team up against me, and never listen to what i have to say. i feel like i'm just here for.. well, i don't know why i'm in this world. my parents drive me so nuts, i never tell them anything. like what goes on in school, when i'm having problems with a friend or somthing. i just don't know what to do anymore. i've delt with this for a while, and i just need some help. so any advice?? please??! thanks so much! <3
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Well.. Look this may not be the advice your looking for or the answer your looking for.. But sometimes parents are doing these things to help you.. so give them a chance...They love you and if the smell was too strong for your asthma then just trust them... But i do understand what you are going through.. parents can be annoying!
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Ok so basically your angry because you bought a shower curtain that was to strong to be put in your room because ur parents wer afraid YOU might get sick (rember that i said YOU might get sick not them they are worried for you not for themselves)and put it in the garadge which it can air so the next day you can wash it and put it back in your room but actually not get sick off it?...Now does that make any scense to you..your parents arent teaming up against you they were Deciding what is best for you..Thats why theyre called parents i bet if you relied in them more things would go smoother in your household please stop acting as if the world hates you and actually try to see things from there point of view i mean you are theyre daughter..your like a pet just more precious haha treat them as you wana be treated remember they wil be there when noone will..please before you fight with them takl to them as an adult and theyl see you more responsible and might let you have more freedom patience is the key to every problem my friend
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Before you get upset over things you like this, you have to ask yourself: is it really worth arguing over? Your parents have every right to make the rules in their house until the day you move out. Whether you realize it or not, they're looking out for the best of you. They aren't there to ruin your life & "team up against you." In this case, they're simply looking out for your health when it all comes down to it. Shower curtains are washable & unless it's laying on the floor of the garage & getting trampled on, it should not get ridiculously dirty to where it cannot be cleaned.
About not being able to discuss life in general with your parents - it's usually your choice. Sometimes we like to think it's our parents' faults for not making us be able to have a good relationship with them. (& in some cases, it IS true.) But it seems like your parents really care about you, so I cannot see why you can't open up to them more. I believe the first step would be to not get so upset about the little things that they do. Yes, they may do stuff that drives you completely crazy - like all parents do. But it's also your choice on how to handle/react to it. You can either choose to be extremely upset over something so little & scream at your parents to never talk to you again. But you also have the option to let the little things go & accept the fact that you have 4 years left until you can move out & make your own rules. You have to let the little stuff go & be able to talk to them. Sit down with them when you're all calm & not fighting & tell them how you want to be able to discuss your problems & your life with them. Any parent would be greatful to hear this coming from their 14 year old (who typically likes to shut their parents out of their lives.) I'm sure that's all the want - is to be able to have a good relationship with their daughter. It's really your choice! Just make the first step & I'm sure you'll see some changes shortly. :)
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Sorry to say this, but since your under 18 evrything you buy or own is your parents.
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Next time they bother you with something like that, before you start to get upset, think to yourself: is this REALLY that big of a deal? Is this going to matter in the next five years? Why do I think my parents are doing this? Take the shower curtain for example: it's a big deal because I spent my own money on it. It's not going to matter in the next five years because I probably won't even live here anymore. My parents are just doing that because they are concerned about my health. And you know what? Shower curtains are washable. So if it does get dirty, it's not something that you can't fix.
The truth is, you're stuck with your parents for a long time. Try and make things easier for yourself and talk yourself through the situations where they drive you crazy. Perhaps if you started telling them about things going on in your life, they'll understand you better and you will get along better. Respect isn't a one-way street. If you want them to start understanding you and treating you better, you need to try to do the same for them. It's hard, but it will be worth it in the long run.
Hope this helps.
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Just comfront them as much as you can and try to get their attention. tell them how you feel about them intruding and taking down your stuff without permission. ask them how they would feel if you started pulling down and taking everything down and pulling everything out thats theirs. tell them that you don't feel that the smell of the shower curtain is effecting your asthma and tell them to trust you.
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Coming from a parent they do have a right to go in your room and take whatever they want, whether you like it or not. Sorry, but its their house, their rules. They should probably have asked but the way I see it they are watching out for you and that is a parents main job is to kind of watch for you while making you responsible for yourself so when you live by yourself you will know how to take care of things. Just let things like this blow over, don't argue no matter how much you want to.
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