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Q: Okay I have two questions. One, how do you kiss? Like I know everyone kisses differently, but what are the basic steps to starting out.. does that make sense? Oh and I mean french kissing, not just regular. And then, what are some special techniques that a guy would like during kissing? From personal experiences, or whatever, just what do you think a guy likes when it comes to that. Thanks a lot!

i`m a lip virgin (and proud!).. but just go with the flow and it`ll all come naturally.
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Q: im 13 and ive never had my period but ive ad the white stuff that comes before it for like 2 years. is this normal? and how long after the white stuff does your period come? thanks a lot.

the white stuff is called discharge. you can`t really know how long it will be before your period starts. personally i think yours should be pretty close.. but different people start at different times. don`t worry about it. trust me you don`t want your period.
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Q: I heard that when a girl masterbates, she sticks things up her vagina. Like what? I dont really understand that.

they use vibraters or dildos. they can also use their fingers. masterbation is completely pointless.. unless you`re about to have sex.. which you don`t need to do until you`re married.
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Q: okay!

When people ask you for advice, then you answer, and they rate you low because they dont like your answer, and because you didnt say what they wanted you to! thats just bull! i mean, they are asking for your oppinion!

Anyone else agree or have this problem?

I wish they would realize, that its just what we think!!!

everyone thinks different!!!

I think the low #'s are just there if someone doesnt answer the question, or cusses you out!

Anyways-
Kels

it is totally annoying! cuz i mean when someone asks for advice you tell them what you think or what you would do. and they give you a bad rating because it`s not what they wanted to hear. ugh. i totally agree with you.
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Q: I want to have kind of a spa - afternoon at my house, maybe with 1 friend over. But I was wondering - what should we do?? I have a hot tub ..anyone have any other ideas that we could do to be pampered? Please help!! =) Thank you ..ill rate high and give feedback!

chill in the hot tub. give each other massages. do each other`s hair. manicures and pedicures. facials. do each other`s make`up. yeh i`m not girly enough to know anything else.
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Q: i'm 13 and i'm a Christian i'm really big on holding grudges and not forgiving people. i know i know its bad but i'm praying about it and working on it!! bible verses help me alot but lately i cant find any!! i need help on finding bible verses about forgiving..know any?? please help!!

For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your Heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men for their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. -Matthew 6:14-15

Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. -Colossians 3:13

Speak and act as those who are going to be judged by the law that gives freedom, because judgement without mercy will be shown to anyone who has not been merciful. Mercy triumphs over judgement! -James 2:12-13

also read the stories in Genesis 50:15-20, Matthew 18:21-35

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Q: Be4 anyone reads this that is a punk i have nothing agints you. i just dont understand you.
My problem is that my BESTEST friend in the whole world was like a pretty girl and was well prepy and now all she wants to do is be a sk8 boreder and wear black and she is always like pink is and evil color! She used to let me brush her hair and put her make up on but now she wont even let me touch her. I think that are relationship is floating away and i never wont that to happen. I know she has a right to be her own person but i dont like the person she os becoming and I dont want to change her bak its just i wont to understand wats going on with her and y she want to change all of a sudden i just am confused plz help me dont let our friendship fade wat should i do to figure this out and be able to understand her again.
-confused-

ok i went through that phase of wearing black and wanting to skateboard all the time. she probably just wants to be her own person. i know i hate fitting in. i think she`s trying so hard to be different and to be noticed, that she`s taking it too far and pushing you away. i think you should talk to her and just tell her you want her to be an individual but you don`t want to lose her. if she`s like me she should understand. and by the way.. there`s nothing wrong with wanting to skateboard all the time. :)
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Q: is there a way to delete a aim screen name because i have so many that i cant make any new ones

you can delete them from your computer.. but you can`t delete them permanently. you probably just have too many on one screenname. so go to www.mail.com and get a new email address and use it when you`re registering.
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Q: last year who were the final 4 teams for the ncaa uconn, georgia tech., duke and..........

that would be oklahoma state.
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Q: well, ive been thinking about running every morning this spring break, because i dont have anything to do so i mind as well stay in shape.

i want to run every morning, but i dont want to lose weight, i want to lose how i LOOK, like my legs. my mom said that if you walk fast, a couple miles, it will tone your legs and butt, make them tighter, and better looking in a swimsuit. is this true? if not what workouts can i do to make them betteR? thanks so much, i rate!

running and walking do make your muscles in your legs tighter. but it mostly works on your calves. if you really wanna work on your thighs and butt i suggest riding a bike.
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Q: um.. ok i go to a catholic school and i'm going through rough times. i know many of my friends who've cut themselves well i was doing my s.studies project and i was using sharp scissors and i was questioning myself if it would go through my skin b/c the last time i had i tried to cut myself it didnt work.. well this time it did. so know i have 3 cuts on my arm, i seriously regret doing it, i showed my mawmaw and im never doing it again BUT i have a passion play tommorow and i'm afraid that my religion teacher will see it.. should i be afraid or is there any tips to hide it b/c a big band-aid will be noticable. thanks for the help
13/f

i`m glad you realized you should never do it again. if you have a pet, just say they scratched you. you could try to use concealor.. but that might be slightly obvious. put neosporin on it like every hour and that WILL make it go away faster. just try some things.
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Q: I've known this guy since like 2nd grade. He and I have been boyfriend and girlfriend off and on for about 2 years. He and i usually hook up most during the summer and not much during the school year. My friends say that we sould either stay friends or boyfriend and girlfriend. I don't really know which one i should choose. i really like him saome days and don't really talk to him others. should we be boyfriend and girlfriend or stayt friends? thanx

stay friends. don`t settle for the one you can live with.. wait for the one you can`t live without. ah, cliche`s.
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Q: okay, so i have this friend, and she cuts herself. it really scares me, because one time she cut so deep that it wouldnt stop for a while. her dad abuses her, and she doesnt get along with her mom very well. her boyfriend went away for spring break and she misses him a lot. she cut herself again because she thinks her life is so fucked up, and she thinks she should die. i really want to help her, but i dont know what to do. please help!!!

let her know you`re there for her. when i used to cut myself, i felt like no one cared about me. when i realized how many people loved me and cared about me, i stopped. let her know that it doesn`t solve anything and just be there for her, listen to her, and talk to her.
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Q: hey. all the popular girls in my grade are really pretty and smart and are good friends with all the guys and all. but then heres me...i mean im in the group of girls who are just not as pretty and not as smart. sometimes i cry because i want to be popular so bad. i mean some of the girls are really rich and their dad's are big time lawyers or doctors and they shop downtown every weekend together. i just wish i could be like them. their so awesome and perfect. i don;t know how to be like them help me!

you have to be confident in yourself. first of all you have to stop worrying what people think about you! if people are gonna like you, they should like you for you. these girls know you`re trying to fit in, so they won`t let you. be yourself. these girls are probably snobby, why would you want friends like that? be confident in yourself and make friends that will like you for you. stop worrying.
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Q: I feel like the worst person in the world. On March 17 me and my boyfriend of 3 years got into a huuuge fight because he cheated on me. Our relationship was sooo good and we always got told that we were the role model for couples, well anyways..we got into a huge fight and we said things that we didnt mean and I told him that I wish he wasnt in my life and he would just die because I hated him so much, those were my exact words. Later that night at 11:26 I got a phone call from his sister (we were really close, she was like a little sister to me) she was crying really hard and she told me that she had found him in his room laying on the floor, dead. I didnt even know what to do with myself. He had taken a gun to his head. She read me a note that he left and it said "I'm so sorry, I love you so much" thats all it said, and he had the date that we started going out until forever carved into his arm. That night when my parents found out they tried to comfort me and all that but I just didnt want to be around anyone. I went to my room and I cut myself so bad and my mom walked in and stopped me and just held me and I cried for hours, with my wrists bleeding, and I fell asleep crying in my moms arms. I'm getting help now. I went to his funeral and it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life, I fell to the floor when I went up to his casket at the wake and his mom had to pick me up and just hold me while we cried. I go to his house all the time and talk to his family and just tell them how sorry I am and we talk about all of our memories. I havent slept since the night it happened, and I havent been to school, the doctors say I probably wont go to school for about another month, I might be homeschooled. I can't even look at myself anymore. I can't beleive those hateful words were the last words I ever got to tell the love of my life. I'm sorry it is really long but does anyone have any advice on how to help me get through this?

i just busted out in tears when i read this. i can`t believe you`re having to go through this. it`s not fair, i know. listen i know how wrong this is going to sound but.. it`s not your fault. he chose to take his life because he was too weak to go on. listen God is the only one who can comfort you. He loves you so much and all you have to do is call on Him. you`re going to get through this, but just pray. for comfort, read these Bible verses.
-Isaiah 12
-Isaiah 40:1-11
-Jeremiah 31:10-13
-2 Corinthians 1:3-7
-2 Corinthians 7:6-13
oh and if it helps any, your story made me realize how good my life is. and it made me realize that i`m stupid for being depressed. i have it so much better than other people. please IM me, seriously.
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Q: ok wow here goes the problem.. me and my boyfriend have only been going out for like 2 weeks but for some reaon i really like him and idk he gets mad really easy and like if he says something and i yell at him back he will be like o shut up and hang up on me or something and if i dont then he be like see how i got my bitch whipped..
i mean idk what to do my bestfriend went out with his best friend and they broke up.. and now im scared because he thinks that imma do what she did to him and try to get with someone else and we might not se each other that much any more..
but is this bad i mean is this leading to a bad relationship and how can i get him to beleive that i wont do that to him?
help me
shaiina

you have to get out now before it gets worse. this is leading into a abusive relationship. not necessarily physically, but verbally. if he`s already like this after 2 weeks, imagine after 2 months, or 2 years. it will only get worse. i know you really like him, but he can`t do this to you. it`s really gonna mess you up emotionally. my dad verbally abuses my mom, and she`s totally blind to it now. because she`s in love. don`t let it go that far with you. get out while you still can.
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Q: Last night I tried to kill yself by ODing on sleeping pills. It didnt work though obviously. All that I remember is my dad bringing me into bed and my body started spazing out. I woke up this morning feeling really sick. And really upset because it didnt work.And the sad thing is htough.. If it had... I'm sure that my dad wouldnt have noticed and my mother wouldnt have noticed becaused she was on drugs and passed out. I just dont know what to do with my self. I need some advice. I also feel embarassed.. because after I tok the pills (they were sleeping pills) I wasnt in the right state of mind.. and one of my teachers IMed me when I was online and we had a conversation about stuff becasue I asked them if they ever knew a friend that tried to commit suicide... I mean come on now! wouldnt that just blow your mind? ugh. I dont know what to do. Someone please help me. I'll rate...If thats what it takes to get a decent answer

trust me.. killing yourself doesn`t solve anything. 2 days ago a woman i was fairly closed to shot herself in the back of the head.. she died yesterday. everyone close to her, and not so close, is doing horrible right now. we`re all depressed, and some have to go to counseling. it`s not fair. how could you take the easy way out and leave everyone around you to suffer. trust me, there are people out there who have it worse than you. i have OD`d 5 times.. and that was the most selfish thing i ever could`ve done. i thank God i`m still here. listen.. you have to turn to God. he`s there for you when no one else is. he gives you comfort, and takes away your pain. if you kill yourself, you go straight to hell. how could you do that to yourself? i don`t mean to preach, but God`s here. when you were born he smiled. don`t kill yourself. talk to a close friend, or a Christian friend or teacher. don`t keep this inside, find someone to talk to about it. IM me anytime.
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Q: Do braces affect making out in any way?

no. you just have to be more gentle cuz you don`t wanna cut the other person.
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Q: Well, there is this guy that I really like. I mean, the feelings I have for him are undescribable. He is amazing, and wonderful, and everything I could ever want. The only thing is, I'm 14. I can't be "in love" right? So what could these feelings be? When I am with him or just talking to him on the phone or computer, I am as happy as I could be. The feelings have stayed the same for about a year, only I have liked him more and more. Everytime I see him it's like I can't breathe for that second. Even when he signs on AIM, I am so happy. I even get the chills just THINKING about him. And I never stop thinking about him, I mean it's like someone just mentions a guy and I'm like omg, I love him. and people tell me it's love, but it can't be. I am too young and I don't know what love feels like. What are these feelings I have? Is it really "love"? Or just a crush? Whatever it is..can I get over it?=/

love knows no age. stop trying to convince yourself that you can`t be in love. i`m 14 too and i`m in love. listen to your heart and follow it. no matter how wrong you think it is.
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Q: Throughout my whole life, I've always been kind of 'pleasently plump' so to speak. Now, being thirteen, I was uber fat in elementary school, I've gained about twenty pounds since fifth grade, but I've grown a good seven inches. Is this healthy? My 'extra weight' evens out pretty well on my body..I'm five foot five and I weight about one fourty seven or so.

I have wide set hipbones, I'm a "WIDE" person..But I know I couldn't change that even if I tried, that's just my body type. SO should I even concider diet. Oh, I'm already a vegetarian...

Danke

-Mistress Maddy

i don`t think you should go on a diet. just continue to eat healthy and since you`re a vegetarian you should take vitamins to make sure you get a good source of protein and iron. you should keep a good exercise routine. everyone should.
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bio

I'm Katelyn. Not Katie Lynn.

PERSONALITY:
-God comes first.
-I am Pro-Life.
-I put others before myself.
-I'm usually nice.
-I don't cuss and I don't gossip.
-I'm not perfect, but I know God is.

APPEARANCE:
-I'm short.
-I have a mullet.
-I have freckles.
-I change my hair often.
-I have green eyes, not blue.
-I'm usually considered cute.