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ok wow here goes the problem.. me and my boyfriend have only been going out for like 2 weeks but for some reaon i really like him and idk he gets mad really easy and like if he says something and i yell at him back he will be like o shut up and hang up on me or something and if i dont then he be like see how i got my bitch whipped..
i mean idk what to do my bestfriend went out with his best friend and they broke up.. and now im scared because he thinks that imma do what she did to him and try to get with someone else and we might not se each other that much any more..
but is this bad i mean is this leading to a bad relationship and how can i get him to beleive that i wont do that to him?
help me
shaiina
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dont u think hes kinda an asshole 2 you..do u wanna have a bf thats an asshole...i dont think so
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Dear Helpme,
I'm so glad you're asking about this so early, because you ARE aware that there are some red flags popping up. You've been going out for about two weeks and you can already see signs. It doesn't get any better I promise. And getting out of a bad relationship is infinitely easier than getting into one. So, here goes. I am going to list your red flags and then I will suggest some things to do about them.
1. He gets mad easily.
2. For some reason, (in your own words) you really like him.
3. He tells you to shut up.
4. He hangs up on you.
5. He tells you that he's got his bitch whipped.
6. You are doubting your every move with him. (Because your best friend went out with his best friend and that is your problem how?)
7. You are already thinking this is leading to a bad relationship.
8. You want to "get him" to believe you.
9. He is reciting all of your ex-boyfriend's names.
10. You are buying into all of it.
I want you to think about this really, really hard. Okay? First of all, any guy who is telling you to shut up, calling you names and hanging up on you, does NOT love you. He may think he does, but it doesn't sound like he respects himself and he's very insecure. If he doesn't have the respect and security and trust in himself, he doesn't have it to give to you. He is in the RED. This means that not only is he not ready to accept you, to love you, he is not even ready to help himself yet.
Second, you cannot MAKE him trust you. Trust is something that one gives out of their heart. He doesn't have it, so he can't yet give it.
Third, reciting the ex-boyfriend thing is beyond unacceptable. What's in your past is in your past and it it not his business whatsoever. NONE. You are saying that basically you are in love with him and he's in love with you. I know that you think you are in love with him. But I think that there's a lot of insecurity on your part also to be getting into something that will not make you feel good, it won't benefit you in any way AND it could be dangerous. Please think about getting out while you still can. It hasn't been long, so please take advantage of this and let him know that there are things you have to think about, you don't want to hurt him but you don't want to hurt yourself either. Please let me know how it goes.
Good luck!
Linda
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ok, well for one thing,. you dont love him, i mean really, 2 weeks is nothing and you cant fall in love with someone after 2 weeks of dating, unless youve known them for like ever and youve liked them for like ever and now yal;l are goin gout then thats a completely different thing, if you really love him then please correct me. but hes being an ass and i really think you could do better then that cuz its not a fair relationship if hes just gonna be like that, i mean it seems to me like hes more interested in leading you on and making you feel strongly for him so then he can make you feel like shit whenever you put him down, he likes feeling like hes in control of you and you have to show him your bitchy side, and if he cant handle it then he doesnt need to be such a dick..and a little tip..guys only act like dicks to make up for the ones they dont have.and hell yeah its leading into a bad relationship, possibly even abusive.more ?'s then im me at bondbabethree
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He is only going to get worse with time if you stay with him and keep reacting to his actions. He is immature, insecure, petty, and emotionaly abusive. This boy is not ready for a relationship. Try him again in five years. Luck and love!
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abusiv erelationships just gets worst & worst until you have had enough & have jsut figured out what to do but then it is going to be too late. even thought you still have feelings for him, i think you should break up with him because like two weeks in the relationship & it is really sbusive wich means it`s bad.maybe he should talk things out to you or something
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you have to get out now before it gets worse. this is leading into a abusive relationship. not necessarily physically, but verbally. if he`s already like this after 2 weeks, imagine after 2 months, or 2 years. it will only get worse. i know you really like him, but he can`t do this to you. it`s really gonna mess you up emotionally. my dad verbally abuses my mom, and she`s totally blind to it now. because she`s in love. don`t let it go that far with you. get out while you still can.
x3 KaTiE LyNn
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It's only been two weeks and you are already having problems. Believe me, it is not meant to be. Break it off, you can find something better.
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