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My boyfriend and I just broke up, and now I'm very depressed, I don't know what I should do to make me feel any better. Tomorrow's the first day of school and I don't wanna look too depresse and everything. What would I have to do to try to forget about this?

Wallow for a little while.
Pick a couple days to be depressed, watch sappy movies, eat junk food.
But then after the two days are up, go out with friends, be positive, have a good day, go out with people, have fun. I know the best and fastest way to get over a break up is to be with friends, or with people, and laugh a lot.

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does anyone know where you can download photoshop?? pleasee !

adobe photoshop
at adobe.com

jasc.com
paint shop pro 9


or try googling it

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Can anyone give me a general idea on how to make a video sorta like this?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Jy6As7ViA4

I want to make something like that for my bestfriend but Im not sure how.

Step by step instructions would be GREAT but anything helps! :]

Oh and with the music and stuff included.

OH!!
i do stuff like that all the time!
Okay I use "Windows Movie Maker"
You go into it, and you click file "import into collection" and you just put the pictures you want into it. And stick them in the time line below as you go along, and if you want to put music in it, do the same thing but import music, just open the same thing "File import into collection" then go into your music folder and drag it on the time line.

And if you want like cool things to happen, like changing colors, there is a drop down thing on the right that says video effects and transitions and you can pick the ones you want.

Then when your done
save it :]

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i like a guy so so so so so much but im afraid to go out with him because ive never kissed a guy before and im really freacked out by it and dont know what to do please help! thanks

Dont worry, kissing is natural,
it'll happen when its right.
Just go along with the motions
you'll be used to it sooner or later.

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I want to success in school and try my hardest to get straight A's or at least 4 of them. I want to make my mom and dad proud of me and I'll feel really good in side.
My true question is, how do you increase your memory? I want to have a better memory so when I hear it, I learn it quicker.
OR
How do I remember things? I want to do really well in school. Should I read more books? Should I read at least 1 hour a day? Should I review old things over and over?

Teachers, parents, friends, you can help me!
Any advice will help a lot.

Here are some studying tips I clipped from a magazine just the other day, that I think will help!

Work on assignments daily, not the night before. Do your homework and get it out of the way after school, opposed to late at night.


To stay motivated in boring classes, ask teachers to discuss how this course can be helpful in real life. Ask as though you're really interested, not as a challange for the teacher to defend her field.


To master a tough subject, get help as soon as you realize you need it. After a class, let your teacher know that you're not getting the material and ask for help. They will do anything to help you succeed.


Try this simple concentration trick to make a subject really sink in:
Sit up front! The more objects between you and the teacher, the more easily you get distracted.

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Kinda has to do about my love life and my job.

Right now im really depressed and stuck with a decision i dont want to make. I just really want to cry and let everything out but then again i dont want my parents asking me whats a matter. Is their anything i can do that will make me feel better?

thank you.

Well I know how it feels to just be confused and upset. I think everyone does at lots of points in their life. I think talking to friends would do you a lot of good. Going out shopping, or downtown, go to the movies, or have a sleep over so you can have a heart to heart with some girl pals, you know? It can make a whole lot of difference. And if your in school, try the school counsulars? I dont care if you think it sounds stupid, I'm serious. They help. And its a way to relief stress, and get advice on things you know? Kind of like adviceanators, just talking in person. :]

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um im 14/f
um i dont need like advice its like more of an opinion

*me and my mom dont really talk like we should i dont avoid her though i just dont like tell her things going on in my life its just always been like that i want her to be involved in my life more but how should i let my guard down ?

Well I would start sharing things with her about your life, dont tell her everything, tell her things you are comfortable talking to her with. You may have to stay in your comfort zone until you are ready to talk about hard issues, or just things you might consider saying but arent sure how she'd take it. But just tell her about your day, your latest crushes, about arguments you had with a friend, she'll appreciate that you tell her these things, and that you care enough to let her know whats going on in your life.

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ok i am 13/f i know it is young to be dateing but i am my friends are aswell most of them always have a boyfriend or are in a long term relationship.But no not me I have dated before but they always leave quickly or i push them away.I know i am not overly pretty i am a bit chubby so that doesnt appeal to guys but i am not the uglyiest thing in the world.I am a loud person but lots of people like that i know i am fun and lately i just dont know why i dont have a boyfriend.I want someone to care about me and say they love me even if we are only 13 i just want the companionship my last boyfriend turned out to be an ass and it hurt but i still feel like want a boyfriend but no one wants me

Well you are right your thirteen.
Theres not really a point in dating at that age, its more about making good friends.
You wont be in a long term relationship at that age, its not likely.
Both you and the guy arent that mature yet, as mature as you think you are now.
And I mean when relationships gets seroius, its like talking marriage, and always and forever. I'm pretty sure it doesnt happen at that age.
Dont start picking yourself apart, I'm sure your just lovely. But boys are too imature to notice that now, when you get older, highschool maybe? You'll be in more relationships, some good some bad. Your young sweetie, dont rush into being older.
I know everyone wants to be loved, but love takes time. And you cant just find a boyfriend and then your in "love" it doesnt work that way.
Just be patient, I know its hard,
but it will happen.

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how do you explain to a kid their pet died?

they went to live on a farm with all the other pets?

Well usually when things like this happen,
it means you have to tell them the truth,
since its going to keep happening the rest of their lives. I mean people are going to die, and things you'll eventually have to explain. So I guess start with the simplicity of an animal dying. Just explain to them that animals and people, cant live forever. Tell them nothing can. And that if they get really sick, they leave and go to heaven. But remember to explain that they wont come back, because a lot of them think that they will eventually come back.
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how do u you tell your dad you hate him? cause i truely do. i hate him so much and i hope he dies

I agree with the columnist below.
No matter what, your father is your family. He is part of you, and if it werent for him. You literally wouldnt be here.
Dont you tell him you hate him, and dont ever wish death on ANYONE. NOONE not even your worst of enemies, thats a horrible thing to wish. Because its selfish to wish someone not exist anymore. But becareful what you wish for, because sometimes things happen. You wont be able to live with yourself if that happens.
You sound really young and still niave, when you grow up a little more, you can be more mature about the situation.

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I have an advicenators column and I'm really good, however I encourage my friends to visit my advice column if they need any sort of advice. It seems that none of my friends really care to tell me about their problems. I really like helping people. But none of my friends even bother to take a visit to my advice column. My question is- How can I make my friend's seem more interested in my advice column and get them to trust me with their problems. Help??? thanks!

Well your friends may not have that many problems, i mean everyone has problems.
BUT theyy may not want it posted online somewhere so someone else can read it. Even if it is annonoymous,, and maybe they just arent comfortable with it. Dont force them to come, and remember dont get a big head, wiht the "I'm really good.." because maybe your advice isnt the best for them. Just let them know you are there, and they an come to your colulmn or ask you in person. And thats the best you can do.

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hi, has anyone on here ever gone from total unsatisfaction to loving their lives and not wanting to trade their memories for anything in the world?? what was it that made that change? new awesome friends? a bf/gf? some kind of amazing experience?

what changed your outlook on life?

Well its really being satisfied with everything you have, and being content with everything you have. And how much you have, because living in the united states a lot of us are blessed with way more than some, and we think we have little, but theres people who have less then us and are living in poverty and they are happy. To be more satisfied with life, for me it was finally enjoying life, having fun, going out with friends, being more out going, trying new things, volunteering to go first, you know? :]

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ok...

i have verizon wireless.. and it says i can send it to the computer.. which costs money.. ( ithink) andthen there pix place..

what is pix place?
and does it cost money to send it there?? and where does it go?

Its like 50cents I think?

Log in on here:
https://www.vzwpix.com/login.do

and you will be able to find your pictures there,
but only if you send your pictures there.
And you can like change the color and stuff at the website.

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im from greece .i moved here 10 y ago.
i somewhat started my life here but to many bad things happen the last 5 y .i was deprest for the past two until i went back to greece for a visit my relatives and i show how they live(the life style).
my question is i have my brother and sister here in the states and i dont want to separate from them just the idea kills me,but at the same time i really like the time i had with friends and relatives there.
im in the middle and dont know wich direction to follow

Well I would say, follow your heart.
If your heart doesnt hurt at home, go home hun.
Your sibblings can ALWAYS visit you,
and its better you be happy then depressed.

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Hey guys!
So this year I get to learn a langauge && I picked French. does anybody know any tips? or know any awesome sites that can help me?

Merci.

Your going into french class because you want to learn it. Dont sweat it, they are going to teach you. :]
Just do your homework, pay attnetion,
and have fun.

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What does it exactly mean to be high maintenance ?? People have called me it once. & I just dont know what it exactly means. Thanks for the help

It means like your living is really expensive, or that you are an expensive person, and that you need a lot of care, and attention.
Sometimes its not good to be called that haha, but yeah it means you take a lot of work, and need a lot of thigns it seems.

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Hi, I'm going into 10th grade 16/m- and school hasn't even started yet...
Well.. the harrassment has been going on since 4th grade...
Basically all the popular people and the majority of my class think that I'm a fag (like gay).. but I'm not.. I have a girlfriend of 6 months.. and we're really happy together...
I don't even act gay at all.. everyone just thinks I am.. and I think it's because most of my friends are girls.. but I don't understand why that would make me gay- because wouldn't that mean that I like hanging out with girls because they are nice to me??
I just feel like no one cares about me and everyone is making fun of me
Another thing.. I am one of the smartest people in the class (4.0 average).. and I always do good on tests.. do people make fun of me because they are jealous that I get good grades and they don't.. I mean I don't go around bragging about my grades.. people ask me what I got.. and I just tell them in a modest way...

I don't understand why everyone thinks I'm a homo.. when I'm not...

oh.. and on myspace- I put up a picture that was the one everyone does (upside down peace sign with big sunglasses).. so then one of the people who makes fun of me posts a comment about it saying "wow ur a homo" so i posted a comment back saying "i was making fun of myspace.. lol".. so then he posts regular comments saying stuff like "i wasn't kidding about the pic comment" and "everyone thinks you're a fag" and "we hate you"...

So that just made me think of how much my class despises me- and I don't even say anything mean to them.. I try being nice.. but they just aren't.. the only ones who actually care about me are my close friends.. and that's only like 10 people max. outta the 250-300 in my class...

Am I just worried about nothing?
Am I really that much of a loser?
Please don't say "go talk to a counselor" because I tried that in middle school and the counselor was really stupid about it
Please help!

sorry this was so long

Hey I'm going to be in tenth grade this year too, and that sucks that people are still SO IMATURE. I would say dont let it bother you, but it already has and it hurts too I'm sure. You sound like a sweet boy. They probably dont like you because you are different, and most people have problems accepting people who are "different, or more unique than other" which is sad, because variety is such the spice of life. Otherwise it would be so so boring and bland. Hey but you know the 10 people that do like you, that means the world to you. Treasure them, and feel bad for the people making fun of you, because I guess I would, that they have to go SO LOW to call someone gay,fag, and make up romours, and try to hurt someones feelings intentially. Wait until they grow up, they are going to live with this guilt forever. I mean, what they are doing now, it may not affect them now, but it will someday.
Your not worried about nothing, your worried about how long this is going ot keep up, why they are doing it, but people are shallow and dumbm and niave. We all need to grow up sometimes, especially them.
You do sound like a smart, extroadinary person, I'm so sorry these kids are being mean and cruel. I know what it feels to be picked on, just never that badly, but I know it hurts and its stressful. I don tthink you are a loser either. You have been the bigger person in this situation, so they are the losers.

If you ever need anyone to talk to, feel free to IM me at KaylehMae :]

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(not sure if this is in the right category, if not SORRY!) anyway my big problem is i had my FIRST ever period on July 5th, and i havn't had it since! i'm really really worried. and i've never had sex so it wouldn't be that i'm pregnant. (i'm 14)

also, i'm pretty sure it was a period and not my hymen broke. because it lasted for 4 days.

please help me, i've been worried since august 20th! thanks.

Oh dont worry about it at all,
when you first get your period its really unregular for a while, until you get older.
Dont worrry about it though!
Its really normal.

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My best friend and I always go shopping at the mall together, but there`s been a problem lately. My friend always wants us to match & it's starting to get annoying because I want my own style. For example: We both were shopping together & saw the same purses. We ended up buying the same one`s but in different colors, and now my friend wants to make a habit of this and buy matching purses for every season like a fall purse, winter purse, etc. This friend & I went to the mall this past Sunday [ Yesterday ] and she saw what I had picked out to buy, it was like a tshirt and a pair of jeans, and then she picked out the same one`s. She DID ask if I was okay with her buying the same thing`s as me and since I was on the spot, I said yes. Well now I don`t really want to have the same thing`s as my friend, because I want to be an individual, not a twin!! I`m not sure what I should do or say, because I would feed bad asking my friend to take back her purchases and I don`t want to take back mine. So what I`m asking, is, what should I do to stop the matching in the future? Please Help!!

Tell her.
I mean it seems shes copying you because she cant find herself.
As weird as that sounds.
Commuication is the key in relationships, so tell her how you feel about it. You made a mistake telling her yes, even if it was on the spot. Explain to her that you would rather be an individual, and tell her what you wrote here sorta.

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13/f
Is it weird not to want sex? Other people have it before they are married, but I want it after. If even then. I always said I would adopt my children. How I see it children are like puppies. Puppies are sent to pounds because they were not able to be taken care of, or not wanted. (Same as children sent to adoption agencies.) And the reason puppies, and children, are not being adopted is because dogs, and women, keep having babies. Then when the puppies owners can't find good homes for them they are sent to the pound, which just keeps on growing. So why would we want children when there are several at adoption aggencies waiting for a good family to arrive and take them home? Plus there is all that pain, and blood. But because I don't want to do it are people gonna try to make me later on? Thanks in advance.

Well first of all,
I dont think its weird at all not to want sex,
but in a relationship its something that does bring people together, more closer than ever, not neccasarily meaning children.
But Adoption, I wouldnt compare people humans, to animals. The circumstances are different.
But I mean having kids isnt for everyone, like you, thats why there are people giving their kids up for adoption, so people like you can adopt them. Your young, you could change your mind later. Also remember despite all the pain and blood, another life comes. And think, someone else did that, if you adopt a child.

People cant make you do anything you dont want to do. Its all up to you, its personal. And its your choice.

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