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I am 17/female. I have only had one serious boyfriend and we lasted 3 months. I am a senior in highschool and we dated my sophmore year. We didn't do anything sexual so i am quite unexperienced. I kind of want a boyfriend now but i haven't really gotten close to having another one. Most people find me unattractive i would assume and i dont blame them. I want to loose my virginity and experiment as well as have a relationship i have had guys tell me if i want to sleep with them i can, but i dont want to just show up and say "lets fuck" that seems rediculous to me. There is one person in particular i'd do that with but i dont think they're up for it, and they're taken anyways. The only other person i'm slightly close to being in a relationship with is my guy friend, i kind of like him but i dont know if he likes me. And i don't know if we'd ever end up dating. expecially since its our last year in highschool. I'm shy around people i don't know so i don't see myself meeting up with people my friends suggest to me, or blind dates or anything else. but idk i just want peoples opinions on everything i've mentioned. anything helps. thank you. and please dont skip your opinion just because others have answered. i'd like as many opinions as i can get. thanks (link)
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What's the rush? Why do you need a boyfriend so bad? Sometimes these things happen, so why not just let it happen? There is probably a want for a boyfriend by why not focus on just you and then a boy will come along. When I was a teenager I worried about guys and what boys thought and to tell you the truth it was a waste of time. I finally realized that and before I knew it a guy that really cared about me was right in front of my face all along. I'm not saying that it works for everyone that way but when you step back and think about you really want it opens up ideas and thoughts.
Now another thing its not right to put yourself down and say you're not attractive. What kind of attitude is that? That's like a car salesman saying this car is nice but its engine is broken. When you say that you are making yourself less appealing to people. Be proud of who you are and have some self confidence in yourself!
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Okay well let me start off to say im 16 years old and I haven't had a boyfriend in two years after I broke up with a guy after a year relationship. The guy he was and usually what I go after is I guess like a jock you can say, but they always end up being a asshole. However, that's the kind of guys my dad like to see me with too. One whose out going, athletic, and all of that kind of traits. I been told that I'm really pretty not trying to sound concieted, but this goes on with my story. Anyhow there's this guy I went out with a few times. His totally not what I'm use too what so ever his more like the nerdy side I guess you can say. He met my parents today and of course I can tell my dad didn't like him so much. I have fun when I'm with him though and maybe being different is a good thing, but at the same time I feel like I can do better. I don't want to lead this kid on though thinking he has a chance which I don't even know if he might. It's kind of like the movie she's out of my league and that's what I keep telling myself. Maybe I should give him a chance, or what? (link)
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What says he's not good enough for you? Is it because he's not 'Brad Pitt'? Is it because he isn't on the varsity football team? You know those things don't create a person's worth, right? I hope you know that. It's not who a person is it's hwo the person is. He might not be your first pick but he could be the next 'Bill Gates'. As for your Dad, I don't think he cares who really date as long as you are happy and he's good to you. Parents want the best for their kids. The questions you need to ask yourself are: Am I happy? Do I like him?
And if you do then nothing or anyone will keep you from dating him or being with him.
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Im severly heartbroken from a relationship I got out of about 5 months ago. The pain hasnt eased and it may be because he did talk to me a month ago making it seem his feelings were the same and he still loved me. Since then he hasnt tried contacting me or even ignored my attempts. Clearly hes not too interested in me...but I cant move on and I really need help. Its like I become insanely depressed when ever someone brings him up or anything cause im so jealous that hes still in their lives.
Any advice would be amazing..feel like im never gonna feel bettee and that im so alone :( (link)
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It's hard getting out of a relationship with someone that you've been with for awhile. If he isn't going to give you closure you need to do it for yourself. Almost all my relationships I had to give myself closure or I had to wait for it. With one of my exes, we ended becoming friends and he told me that I was a great girlfriend and that we were better off as friends. It felt good. Sometimes you don't get closure like my last relationship. I was heartbroken and I think it was because of the rejection and the way everything went down. What I did was I was upset for awhile but I tried going out and having fun and being with people who care about me. I gave myself closure by focusing on the negative things that my ex brought to the table. I realized I could do much better. It takes sometime but don't beat yourself up over it do the best you can and give yourself sometime to think what you want there are other fish in the sea. I hope you feel better!
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To start this off, I'm a 16, almost 17, y/o girl. For more than a year now I've been on and off with a guy who is 18 right now. We're very close but, honestly, he is not the smartest person. We argue a lot because of it. He's threatened to kill me face to face one time because at a time when we weren't dating, I had sex with someone he knew. He was on probation over the summer because he has a problem with smoking weed. Don't get me wrong, I've smoked a lot with him before. BUT he was being drug tested and he promised me that we would both stop smoking together. He broke that promise and lied to me about it. I kept it. I'm not going to keep rambling on,
so to sum it up, I do feel a lot for him. That only might be because of how much we had sex or how much we were alike though. I really don't know. I really want him and can't let go. It makes me cry.
A few nights ago I started dating another guy. A really nice, shy type of guy. I thought it was great... a way to escape the one before. But it just isn't the same. I'm tearing up right now because I feel like I don't want this relationship... I want my baby.. my love back.
But I don't even know if it was love.. I don't know. Everyone calls me stupid and all my friends hate him because they know what he does to me.
My dad doesn't even know I still talk to him. I got in trouble a year ago with him and I'm not even supposed to be talking to him. But I have been anyway. And I hate lying but I just crave him..
I don't know if anyone cares enough to read this, but I just wanted to get this out there. Please, what am I supposed to do?
I don't want to be known as stupid... Why do I want him so much? After everything. Thanks in advance. (link)
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Sometimes we want what we can't have and that makes it something that we continue to crave.
I was in a relationship with a guy and I don't it was so much the guy I liked but rather the attention I was getting from him.
This guy isn't right for you, and you know it. He's something that you may want (as in you may want a boyfriend) but he's the guy you need.
You said he:
Threatened you
He's got a drug problem
Lied to you
Is that the type of boyfriend you want? Someone who treats you like that? That isn't right of him and it's not fair. You don't deserved to be treated like that you deserve someone who is going to treat you right and make you feel good about yourself. I was always told no man is worth your tears until you find the one that won't make you cry. Having your life threatened is VERY serious and isn't something to take lightly.
Right now the best idea for you is to stay single and move on from this guy. Think about all the bad qualities and think to yourself does he bring anything to the table? Does he make you feel like you want to be a better person?
Believe me, you aren't going to change who he is I know you want to but you won't. I've been there, there was a guy I really liked and he had that 'bad boy' image. I knew who he really was, and I tried so desperately to try and show everyone who he really was. My family couldn't stand him and my friends all highly disliked him. I tried everything in my power to make this guy happy and in the end it didn't work. Lesson learned you can't change anyone but yourself. It maybe hard to move on and I'm not saying you're going to move on quick but its time that you do because his behavior won't change. The only change you can make is on you!
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im bipolar and have lost my job with no money coming in and no hopes of finding a job where I live in this small rural area.My mother-in-law is trying to break up my marriage of 27 years to my wife all over a small piece of land that was promised to my wife by her now dead father.My daughter has a life of her own now and my wife never wants to talk anymore.the mortgage company and electric company is at my door ready to diconnect power and throw me out.If im gone motherinlaw will help my wife so I see no other option.Please pray for them after Im gone (link)
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I can see you're under a lot of stress and it can be tough at times but as I have said before suicide is NEVER the answer. Everyone has tough times, its hwo you get through it that makes you stronger. Right now things are going on but its best to try and keep a positive mind and I know its hard. Believe I've been at times in my life where I think negatively and it gets me no where but it makes me feel a hell of a lot worse. What you need to do is step back and have a plan. Look for another job maybe a temp job at the moment so that you have money coming in. Try to stay positive and please try and talk to someone.
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OK so this guy asked me out. i like him and all but mostly as a friend but i wouldn't mind if we did but the thing is, is that i feel a bit embarrassed to date him. like I'm afraid that my friends would make fun of me 4 it. but i don't want to turn him down hes a good friend, and if i turn him down it will hurt him and rune our friendship. i really don't want to hurt him but i don't want people to know were dating and i don't want to sound like a jerk either..... please help me i don't know what to do and my friends don't give the best advice. so please please please help me tell me what to do. (link)
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Who cares what your friends think. Does he make you happy? Do you want to be with him? Just because your friends have something doesn't mena you need to take it into consideration. If you want to be happy then you gotta make yourself happy. A real friend would support you no matter unless the guy was hurting you in anyway. Clearly your friends are judging a book by its cover. If you want to date him then go ahead and do so don't let anyone stop you!
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I have been living with my boyfriend for over a year now things r not going so good.we argue a lot but usually we get over it pretty fast.in other cases we both flip out and he starts getting really violent. He hits me in my face knees me throws me amd mainly chokes me now.i pretty much have gotten used to the hitting it stops hurting fast now but I'm not sire i can handle the verbal abuse.he says he blacks out i love him a lot but im not sure what to do i have no famiky and I'm onoy 17.i need advice please!! (link)
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This is normal behavior if he loved you he wouldn't hurt you. You need to think of yourself and get yourself out of this situation. Do you have any friends? Anyone you can talk to? Maybe try to get him some help or something. For this behavior to continue is unacceptable and should not be tolerated. Stand up for yourself and take charge. Please get yourself out of this situation ASAP!
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So basically my friend and I are like...bff. On day she texted me saying "I think we should spend some time as not best friends". I felt extremely mad and discouraged, but I knew I should keep cool. I answered saying "tell me why you are mad, and I will try to fix it". She said that there is no way of fixing it and that she doesn't want to forgive me. The text messages have been going on for about a month now, and when we see each other in person at school we she completely ignores me. I really miss my friend. How can I get her back? (link)
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Wow your friend isn't even tellning you why she's mad? It's sounds to me like there's nothing you can do. I wish I had an answer but it just sounds like she's being VERY unreasonable and unfair. To tell you to go talk to her would seem dull due the fact that you already have. If you care about her and respect her that much than I would follow her wishes. Why do you want to be friends with someone who is going to be like that anyways?
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I'm 17/female
I think one of my major problems with my confidence is my smile, I do not have a normal pretty smile like everyone else and we can't afford braces. So i think by that most people think im ugly or something and dont want to talk to me. im skinny and i have a long face with naturally curly hair and i dont really do anything with my hair i just leave it down and curly all the time. its medium length and i dont htink that goes with my face shape much.. so idk what to do bout that. i have small boobs and not the greatest body. im just small and skinny. im 5'8. i just dont really know what to do to make myself more attractive to other people i guess. i know my smile isnt going to help anything because thats whats ushually attractive about a person. but i have a great personality im told just i guess thats not what matters at first. help if possible. (link)
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I think yiou're being way to hard on yourself. Think of the positive things and work with what you have. For years and years I have complained about things I want to change about myself but now I embrace them. For example my friends are all shorter than I am and I always wished I was petite like my girlfriends. I finally realized that I should embrace being tall, I have long legs that people would die for. No one is perfect but I'm sure you're being way to hard on yourself. Think of the good qualities and stop putting yourself down.
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I need help deciding on what to get my boyfriend for christmas he is 21 years old and iam 22 years old if that helps any.we have been dating since 9th grade on and off if that helps any.
any suggestions are appreciated. (link)
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Make the gift something personal. What I have done this year is I got a bunch of gifts that have to do with inside between my boyfriend and I. Think about something he would like or maybe get a picture of the two of you. Be creative. I'm sure whatever you get him he'll be appreciative. Good luck and Happy Holidays!
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what if you like someone that is your friend? But you dont want to screw up the friendship. What should you do?
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Well what's more important to you the friendship or having a relationship? That's what you need to figure out. It could turn out that your friend likes you too or it could turn out that your friend doesn't feel the same and backs away from you. So think to yourself what's more important. Good luck!
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ok so i dont like my friend Alexis but i told her i liked her so she wouldnt get mad what should i do (link)
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Now I'm sure you don't hate Alexis, maybe you don't like her but you certainly don't hate her. Hate is a VERY strong word. I guess just talk to her and tell her how you feel. You don't have to like her just be friendly to her. Keep the friendship at a "Hey how are you?" and that's it kind of thing you know? I wouldn't worry about it too much.
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So I am fourteen, and a guy. and about a month ago I asked out this girl who has been a wonderfull girlfriend. But lately I have been feeling angry or sad. Obviously I don't want to, and I don't know if there is a way to stop it. I always get jealous and angry when she talks about her old boyfriends, or when she talks to guys. thanks in advance :-) (link)
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The only answer I can give you is she is with you. Trust is a big portion of a relationship and without it there is not a chance in hell for a relationship to work. You need to trust her and understand that when she talks to guy she isn't doing anything to hurt you. However with the whole tlaking to ex boyfriends I would talk to her about that. Tell her how that makes you feel we girls don't get it unless you tell us how your feeling and if its hurting you tell her to stop. You have to understand that she needs to socialize with other people but to be respectful towards you. Do you trust her? I hope it works out!
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Well, I have a crush on a guy, and he says he doesn't like me. But the past few days, he's been talking to me alot lately, and tells me to read his work, comes to me to talk for a while, and at my friend's parties, he comes and sits next to me. I s it possible he does? (link)
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If a guy tells you he doesn't like you chances are he doesn't like you. Stop reading into all these things and just believe what the guy says. He said he didn't like you, it sounds more like he wants to be friends with you.
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me and my bf text or vidchat 24/7. its long distance and weve been dating for almost a year and a half. sometimes, like lately, he just gets on my nerves and does/says little things that peeve me. of course we love each other buy is it reasonable to experience this? should we cut down on talking or does this mean my relationship is failing (link)
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I don't think it means your relationship is falling I think it just means that you don't need to talk to one another everyday. When you talk to a significant other everyday it causes a lot of tension and what else left is there to talk about when you talk everyday. Maybe have a day or two without talking and that might help. Love doesn't mean you have to talk to him everyday. I don't talk to my boyfriend everyday but I love him and I know he loves me. Try cutting down on the talking time with him and see what happens.
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what does a girl say if a boy asks you out
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Well if the girl likes him as well then she can say 'yes'. If the girl doesn't like the boy then she should just say 'no'.
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I need Help please im failing i dont want to :( (link)
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Try seeing your teacher afterschool for extra help or even trying get help at home from your parents. I would suggest talking to your teacher about what you need to do to pass this class. Positive thoughts and thinking help as well! Good luck!
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months, and next fall ill be attending college while he is at home. I feel like him and I are going in different directions with life, and that I'm going to end up finding some different in college, because my boyfriend and I have had our differences. I feel like I'm going to end up breaking up with him then, however its going to be harder considering we'd be dating for a lot longer. Should I break it off now? Or am I in the wrong here? (link)
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You have to do what you feel is best for the relationship. If you feel you are on different paths and going in different directions its best to maybe think about a break or brekaing up. Now just because he isn't going to college doesn't mean he doesn't have a plan but it might not be one that you want for yourself. You have to ask yourself do you love him? Do you see a future with him? If you answered 'yes' to both questions then I would try really hard to work it out. If you answered 'no' then you need to mvoe on and find out what you really need or want for your future.
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22/f
I was head over heels for this guy and friends with him for about a year (we met in college, im in my sr year and he started 1st year at law). I was getting out of a slew of bad relationships and i came on kind of strong sexually (extremely out of character) so i gave him the wrong idea. he was kind though and did help me with lots of personal issues, and then when it got fixed he and i started flirting more and he wanted to hook up and i did too but i held him off for a year (tons of excuses) we ended up making out a year later and fooling a bit and really brief sex (i wanted to stop) he's not a jerk i promise. then i confessed that i liked him emotionally a few months later and he told me that i was a very attractive, extremely sweet/smart girl but i could get a little crazy sometimes so he didn't feel we were compatible (crazy b/c i had an anxiety attack in the beginning of our friendship, a personal issue that he was there for me for)
so i said OK sweetly, he did have a legit point, and he said that if i had emotional feelings for him we couldn't fool around again. i said ok. we still talked, a month or two went by, he started dating this girl out of the blue and i didn't know and i saw on fbk that they were now in a relationship. my heart was broken but we were on good terms so i told him i was happy for him. he was cool with it. then a month went by and we didn' really speak (im not one to interfere) and then on halloween we went to the same concert he saw me (my friend saw all this) from a distance and he stared at me and i walked away bc i was on the phone i didnt notice this. then the next day i saw that he blocked me on facebook. we never had a fight or nothing. very strange. i was upset but i still never contacted him im not one to interfere. then exactly a month later he called my phone but i didnt pick up b/c i missed the call. i texted and said 'how are you havent talked in awhile so i wasnt sure if it was a misdial anyway gl on finals" and then he didn't respond. hes still w/ his gf so idk
why did he call me...
im heartbroken.ive never been treated properly by guys and i understood why each time, and this is the first time i've liked a guy this much. but im not the kind of girl to interfere in relationships so i wont go there. he's not a cheater either i know this about him. just confused.
im sorry this is so long. if one person reads this and answers this i'll be so happy and grateful.
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See this is a great example of hwo guys can be weird and confusing. He just saw you as a friend thats what it sounds like and because emotions and feelings were involved he couldn't handle it. He might have called you the other day to see how you were or he needed to borrow a cup of sugar. Who really knows. I wouldn't worry too much about it, if I were you, you should try to move on and see what else is out there. I was in a situation like this and it turned out the same. The guy would always wonder what was going on with me and never wanted to talk or anything. It's almost as if I were a disease that he was trying to avoid. I later on accepted and moved on. I don't need someone in my life who is going to treat me like that and I learned that theres a lot more fish in the sea.
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Hey, okay so i've been in a few relationships in my life and they were not bad relationships but not great. I have also been single the past few months, and don't get me wrong I love being single but I'm kind of missing having a guy there for me and care for me. Is that wrong? I know I shouldn't go looking for a guy and use him just for that reason. I am just saying I miss having a guy around me to care for me (not just best friends).
I guess what I'm asking is how do I go about finding a guy in my life who will care for me? I'm not really looking for anything serious, but just kind of a love spark i guess haha. I am not a player or anything, so don't think i'm using guys for sex or anything. thats not what I'm looking for at all.
I am a pretty social person, but lately i've been busy with school work (college) and i'm going to europe for the next 2 months, so is there any way I can meet some new people or find a spark in my love life? I've tried online dating but it doesn't really work for me especially since you have to pay. I've tried meeting people at parties and social gatherings but its always awkward because I don't know them that well. Ive tried talking to guys in classes but they either don't feel the same way about me or we have nothing in common.
Help! Please and thank you :)
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There is nothing wrong with wanting to be with someone. It's nice being single but it's nice to be able to cuddle. To some the grass is always greener on the other side. Relationships can be stressful and can be hard work whereas being single you make up your own rules and you can have fun. My suggestion is to continue being single especially because your young and you should enjoy it. I was always looking to be in a relaitonship when I was younger and finally one day I stopped and concentrated on something else. You can meet guys through friends or at social events. As far as online dating goes I didn't have much luck in the past but there is one site that's free called okcupid.com and its a fun site. All you need is patience, and it the words of Diana Ross and the Supremes 'you can't hurry love'.
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