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I would date him but my friends would make fun of me... what do i do?
OK so this guy asked me out. i like him and all but mostly as a friend but i wouldn't mind if we did but the thing is, is that i feel a bit embarrassed to date him. like I'm afraid that my friends would make fun of me 4 it. but i don't want to turn him down hes a good friend, and if i turn him down it will hurt him and rune our friendship. i really don't want to hurt him but i don't want people to know were dating and i don't want to sound like a jerk either..... please help me i don't know what to do and my friends don't give the best advice. so please please please help me tell me what to do.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
First off, its your life. Not theirs. If they don't support your decision or your happiness than they aren't good friends.
Second off, don't date him just because you don't want to ruin the friendship. If you get with him for all the wrong reasons, and than act shady about it, it will ruin the friendship alot more worse than rejecting him.
Third off, if you like this boy, why would you be afraid of what people thought to the point you wouldn't want others to know you guys were dating? Thats very shallow. Just because he isn't the most popular guy, or the most attractive doesn't mean you can treat him this way. Guys that aren't the best looking, turn out to be the best boyfriends simply beacuse they don't get chances with girls very often, so when they do they treat them the way they want to be treated.
Looks are only skin deep. Looks can fade and people can become ugly with time. So the most sexiest guy in school won't be so sexy later on in life. Personality will always stay the same.
Obviously you don't really like this boy, or you wouldn't want to keep it from being known; so don't even bother. Tell him no because your shallow. You make get offended, but its the truth.
If you realize you do like him, than give him a chance. Who cares what others think. If they are going to judge you for it, than why you need them in your life?? Yes, they may talk for a few days, but after a week or so something else will be the "new" thing for people to gossip about.
I was in your position once. There was this guy, not attractive. but very very sweet. My friends always called him names, and made fun of him; than one day randomly he asked me out on a date. I told him yes. We went out, had a great time. Dated for 8 months. My friends respected my decision and ended up telling me how lucky I was to have such a great boyfriend. He was one of the best boyfriends I've ever had, and I will never regret dating him. He treated me like a real princess, and that doesn't come often these days.
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Who cares what your friends think. Does he make you happy? Do you want to be with him? Just because your friends have something doesn't mena you need to take it into consideration. If you want to be happy then you gotta make yourself happy. A real friend would support you no matter unless the guy was hurting you in anyway. Clearly your friends are judging a book by its cover. If you want to date him then go ahead and do so don't let anyone stop you!
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