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"There's no other love like the love for a brother. There's no other love like the love from a brother." A lot has changed since I was in High-school and first created my column - almost 8 years ago!!!! I now have two gorgeous Boys who mean the World to me; Brody, who is 3 and a half years old, and Brayden, who will be a year in November. I live my life for these two Boys. They make every second worth it. xxoo ♥ ♥

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I dont wanna sound stupid but what is a boner?

Don't think this question is stupid hun, because it's not. But a boner is when a guy get's hard "down there".
♥ Krissy

i asked that question before about giving my friend the sn of the person i liked..you are the only one who really helped so i decided to ask you this..before i saw what you said, i toldher the wrong sn..i switched the numbers, so if she asks i can just say i did it on accident..was this the right thing to do?

Yeah, it's was the right thing to do. I know if I liked this guy, I wouldn't give my friend his screen name. But yeah, you could always say you did it by accident. Either way, it's okay.
♥ Krissy

ok, i have this friend and i really am good friends with her..and then theres a guy i like and i finally got his sn and then she asked for it. i know this sounds really stupid. but i just dont want to give it to her.. i know that she doesnt like him but something is telling me not to..should i? *

This isn't stupid at all. You're just scared that if she get's his screen name, she'll start liking him or telling him things about you. Just tell her you lost the screen name, or tell her the truth. It sounds like you really like this guy because you don't want her having his screen name. If you didn't like him, you'd give it to her right away. Just explain to her that you just don't want him falling for her, because you like him. I'm sure she'll understand!
♥ Krissy

what is the best position to sleep in while on your period? thanks

They best way would be sleeping on your belly. This allows the blood to flow down and go on your pad, insted of all over your underwear if you were to lay on your back.
♥ Krissy

I have this friend who always talks about me but is like in all my classes. I don't really like her but my other friends get all mad at me if i get mad at her. Should i just tell her i dont wanna be her friened or should i be her friend?

I don't think you should be friends with her, especially if all she does is talk about you. No one should have friends like that, it shows you couldn't trust her. And in a friendship you need to have trust. So really, if I were you, I wouldn't be her friend at all.
♥ Krissy

i feel the need for a girl friend, just to hear the comfort words i love you or sumthing. is that rong or right im like undicided. is it sick or ok???????

Don't worry, this is totally normal. It's not sick at all, so don't think it is. You just want someone that can love you and you love in return. Nothing wrong with that at all hun.
♥ Krissy

hi.. my girlfriend died a 3 months ago from a car crash. i think about her every minute. she was my absloulte everything. I feel that im still going out with her but i feel a need a girl friend. I need some one to take her place. I need that some one who will give me what im looking for. Please help wat should i do

Aw, first off. I'm so sorry hun, that must be so hard on you. But, she's in a happy place right now and watching out for you. She also probably wants to you move on and try to find another girlfriend. And just because you do want another girlfriend, doesn't mean you have to forget about her. If you see a girl you like, try flirting with her and talking to her a lot. Get close with a couple of girls frist and I'm sure you'll fall for one sooner or later. Then you can take it from there, by talking to them more on a relationship level or going to the movies and such.
♥ Krissy

so we are jsut friends but my mom says i cant date until im 17 or even just like go somewhere with him last night he was like how many days i was like what hes like until you turn 17 i was like 50 some hes like do you think you will still wanna go tot he movies with me by then. so does he like me or just being friendly? give me lots of advice and i rate high

I think he really does like you. If he didn't he wouldn't be waiting around for you. This shows that he really wants to be with you. I mean the guy is waiting 50 day's till you turn 17, just so he can go to the movies with you. Believe me hun, he's a keeper and it sounds like he likes you a lot.
♥ Krissy

Is it ok to date a second cousin, through marriage?

It's really up to you. But he/she is part of your family now. And even though he/she is only a second cousin by marriage, it's a little weird.
♥ Krissy

OK, ladies. i just turned 14 and i've been having my period since i was about 13 and a half. im kinda wondering about my breast size. I'm an A cup right now, like i've always been. i havn't felt any breast pain in a few months except ocasionally on my period. I'm really worried that IM NEVER GONNA GET ANY BIGGER!! i asked my mom and she said of course they will grow(shes a large c and was a smaller c before child birth naturally)but im afraid she is just saying that to make me feel better. anyway my question is, are my boobs still growing?

Yes sweetie, your boobs are going to grow. You body doesn't stop growing till you are 18. So, believe me, they will grow. Just give it sometime.
♥ Krissy

Is it legal to have a tag cover (the tag on the back of the car) that covers up the county name?
I live in georgia by the way.

Yes, I believe it is legal. You shouldn't cover it up, just to be on the safe side.
♥ Krissy

I've been really close with my friend Ron for a little while now. We are both 15 and we tell each toher almost everything. Recently I ahve been feeling something more for him. We joke around though like I always give him nuggies and in return he puts me in a head lock or something. Yesterday he was towering over me just to see how much taller he is then me and I jsut wanted to lean up and kiss him. Which I might have done if my other friends were not around. I just don't know how he feels about me though. He read a poem that I wrote about him and he really liked it. So today he shows me a song he wrote and it was about his life but then in one part it said

"When times get rough his thoughts to to her, she has helped me through so much.
I will always be there
Don't let me dissapear"

I know it was about me but the second part I can't tell if the second part is saying that he'll always be there for me or that Hes always going to be there and he doesn't want to be forgotten, as if he's afraid to be forgotten. Which he knows I would never forgett him. So today I gave him another poem I ahd written about him and it had said that I never wanted him to leave and that when I move I need him to call me jsut to say hi so i know he still cares. Well he saw it and hes like "Whats this?" And I told him and his eyes sort of lit up in a good happy way. I have such confused emotions about him. I like him so much its scary I know its not love but I scare myself at how much I like him. What should I do? And do you think he might like me as a girlfriend or jsut as a friend?

I think this guy is crushing on you. He wouldn't make a song for you for nothing hun. You should tell him how you feel about him and all that good stuff. Tell him that you do have feelings for him. It looks like he's a little shy and maybe that's why he's holding back from you. He's probably scared you don't like him in the way he likes you. So go for it and tell him your feelings.
♥ Krissy

Ok, i know this is really really bad but... me and my neighborhood friends, well the 3 of us, got together after school today and drunk sum alcohol and if that isn't bad enough we smoked banna peel after (to get high) idk why i did it..I'm a straight A student and com from a good background and hang out with goos school friends. Unlike my other 2 friends it had no affect on me but turning my pupils huge, and they're still like that now. I feel rele guilty and don't know wut to do...! Wut does it mean when ur eye pupils get rele big? And should i convest to ma parents or no way!

Your pupils were big because you were scared you were going to get in trouble if your parents found out. Don't confess what you did after school to your parents. What they don't know, won't hurt them. A lot of teens try drugs and alchol, so there's really nothing wrong with that. As long as you don't turn into a alcholic or a druggie, everything should be good. Life is about taking risk and living to the fullest. No need to second guess yourself hun. Just don't do this a lot. You can do a lot of other things, other then drinking and doing drugs. But like I said. Nothing's wrong with experimenting. That is what being a teen is all about.
♥ Krissy

ok here it goes... me and my boyfriend we will came him jake went out for 8months and then he broke up with me for no reason he asked me back out and i said yes...but then a couple weeks later i cheated on him...i felt horrible so i broke up wit him and the next day i told him why and he got really mad but we were still REALLY GOOD FRIENDS and i love it...but i still had feelings for him and he still had feelings for me, but we continued to see other people and one day he i.med me and told me that he didnt like his g.f that he still loved me and was crazy about me...and i was like i still like you too, so he broke up wit his g.f and i broke up wit my b.f who i also liked...but i am now over him, but we only went out 1hr when i decided it wasnt worth losing our friendship over...he went back out with his ex and i meet a new boy named lets say chris and me and him have been very close and me and gani were still good friends...but gani once again told me he still liked me so this time i was like ohk so i went out wit him but he is still so immature and he is very shy he goes to a different school and we talk alot on the computer but we only see eachother once a week and sometimes not even cause he is always in trouble for his grades...and i dont want to hurt him again cuz i am afraid this time he wont 4give me 4 brakin up wit him and i could not bare to lose him as a friend he means alot to me but i guess i lost feeligs for him because of his immaturity and i like chris and he goes to my school and we have alot in common....i am soo very sorry that this is long but any good advice on what to do...ill rate but it cant be mean advice cause i still want his friendship anything would be very very very much appreciated !!
Thanks
-confused in love*

You really have to move on. He's not worth having you as a girlfriend at all. You can do so much better then this boy, believe me sweetie. He's not the one for you. But you will find him, he's out there somewhere. Just give it time and start dating new guys. It'll help you get your mind of this other guy and maybe you'll even find your Mr.Right!
♥ Krissy

HeY! i'm 16... (17 in 2 months) and i just started going out with a guy whos 20 years old... the thing is.. he thinks i'm turning 18... and i'm scared to tell him... because i dont want to loose him! what should i do?

You have to tell this guy the truth about your age. A relationship is all about trust, so make this guy realize he can trust you and tell him your real age. If he really likes and cares about you, he'll let this one slide. I'm sure it won't be a really big deal. Make sure you explain to him how much you don't want to lose him over something this silly. Add in your sorrys and I'm sure he'll understand everything.
♥ Krissy

i think im really feeling my friend right now. we dont know each other like so so much but we know some things about each other. we talk, but hardly about us. he smiles a lot and sometimes he flirts, but i dont no. somethings are movin kinda slow. i mean school will be over in two and a half months. what do i do because he talks to me sometimes and sometimes he doesnt. not unless i say something first. i dont no if he really likes me like that, but i want him to. and i just feel right around him, ya know. so what do i do?

While your at school, try to talk to him as much as you can. If you see him in the hallway always give him a smile or simply wave. When he's flirting with you, flirt back. Flirting can change a lot of things in this friendship with you guys. By flirting it shows your actually interested and he'll get the hint that you like him without you having to tell him. If you have his screen name or phone number, talk to him on there. Maybe try hanging out with him after school sometime and see where it goes from there.
♥ Krissy

Hey everyone, I was just wondering, I've never really just 'hooked-up' with a guy, meaning the only relationships I've been in, they had something serious part of it. I've never done friends with benefits. I was wondering what are your views on fwb and 'hook-ing/up' like what are the outcomes? benefits? feelings for one another? thanks in advance, i rate well. :--)

If you really want to have a friend with benefits, I'd suggest you get with someone you trust. If you don't and word gets around, you'll have a bad name. Some benefits would be, you both get what you want and you actually have someone there for you when you're feeling down. A lot of people that hook up like this do fall for eachother. So, I'm sure once you do, the feelings will change and you'll be so much closer. But, things could always change and cause a lot of damage in the relationship you already have with this friend. It just depends on the risk you are willing to take, to have a friend with benefits.
♥ Krissy

hey i have 2 questions for you the first one is well ive been going out with this boy for about a year and 2 months and i really love him and everything but everyone always tells me i deserve so much better than him and im too good for him but thats not what i think hes kinda my everything you would say and well i dont know what to do should i listen to people or not? and second is one of my bestfriends used to live with her mom and then moved to my city and just yesterday moved back with her mom because of family problems over here and every one is really broken up about it and i was thinking of throwing a party for her to go to so we could all hang out one last time what do you think i should do for the party like what kind of theme thanx i rate high!

First question: Your friends seem a little jealous because you have a boyfriend and maybe some of them don't. If they are your true friends, they should be happy for you. They shouldn't be telling you that your so much better then this guy. If he's treating you like a princess, then there's no need for them calling this guy down. It would be totally different if he was being an asshole to you, but I guess he's not. Tell your friends that it hurts your feelings when they say things about your boyfriend and that he really is a nice guy. If they are true friends, they will stop with the comments and understand where you are coming from. For the second question: A party sounds like a great idea for your friend. Maybe you could have a Hawaii theme. Those are always fun. You could put up a bunch of colorful ballons and streamers up. Get some cups and some lays. Have a cake. Some good music that has a good beat. You could do some limboing and playing some games. Wear flowers in your hair, etc.
♥ Krissy

okay, there is this girl in one of my classes and she talks THE WHOLE TIME!!!! it drives me crazy! and she'll tell me the most randomest things and stuff I DONT CARE ABOUT! and i'm one of those people who can't hurt peoples feelings, so i want her to shut up w/o hurting her feelings! how? and if i can't do it nicly, tell me, because it would be worth it too shut her up if i had to be mean!

When she tells you things you don't care about, tell her to keep what she has to say to herself. You'd really like it if she'd stop talking because it really annoys you. Tell her you really don't feel like hearing her voice in class, because class is when your suppose to listen to the teacher and do your work. If she doesn't shut up, you're going to have to tell her in a mean tone. Simply tell her to shut up because she's bothering the shit out of you. But be nice at first and see where that takes you. If it doesn't take you anywheres, be a bit more mean. I'm sure you'll get the point across and she'll stop bothering you durning class time.
♥ Krissy

okay. my bestest friend EVER is having a birthday soon. i want to write a poem and have it framed. the poem has to say how good a friend she is. can anyone help me out??? PLEASE!!!

In kindergarten your idea of a good friend was the person who let you have the red crayon when all that was left was the ugly black one. In first grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went to the bathroom with you and held your hand as you walked through the scary halls. In second grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you stand up to the class bully. In third grade your idea of a good friend was the person who shared their lunch with you when you forgot yours on the bus. In fourth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who was willing to switch square dancing partners in gym so you wouldn't have to be stuck do-si-do-ing with Nasty Nicky or Smelly Susan. In fifth grade your idea of a friend was the person who saved a seat on the back of the bus for you. In sixth grade your idea of a friend was the person who went up to Nick or Susan, your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn't have to be embarrassed. In seventh grade your idea of a friend was the person who let you copy the social studies homework from the night before that you had. In eighth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pack up your stuffed animals and old baseball cards so that your room would be a "high schooler's" room, but didn't laugh at you when you finished and broke out into tears. In ninth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went to that "cool" party thrown by a senior so you wouldn't wind up being the only freshman there. In tenth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their schedule so you would have someone to sit with at lunch. In eleventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who gave you rides in their new car, convinced your parents that you shouldn't be grounded, consoled you when you broke up with Nick or Susan, and found you a date to the prom. In twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pick out a college, assured you that you would get into that college, helped you deal with your parents who were having a hard time adjusting to the idea of letting you go. At graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on the inside but managed the biggest smile one could give as they congratulated you. The summer after twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you clean up the bottles from that party, helped you sneak out of the house when you just couldn't deal with your parents, assured you that now that you and Nick or you and Susan were back together, you could make it through anything, helped you pack up for college and just silently hugged you as you looked through blurry eyes at 18 years of memories you were leaving behind, and finally on those last days of childhood, went out of their way to come over and send you off with a hug, a lot of memories, reassurance that you would make it in college as well as you had these past 18 years, and most importantly sent you off to college knowing you were loved. Now, your idea of a good friend is still the person who gives you the better of the two choices, holds your hand when you're scared, helps you fight off those who try to take advantage of you, thinks of you at times when you are not there, reminds you of what you have forgotten, helps you put the past behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer, stays with you so that you have confidence, goes out of their way to make time for you, helps you clear up your mistakes, helps you deal with pressure from others, smiles for you when they are sad, helps you become a better person, and most importantly loves you!
♥ Krissy

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