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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Well me and my friend Megg were ultimate Best friends and there is this named Ally, well I found out that ally got on meggs myspace and moved me all the way down on her friends and put herself #1 ( i used to be #1) Ally also put all this stuff about how close the two of them are, trying to make me jelous. So I kept calling Megg to see what was up and she never picked up her phone so I figured she was mad at me, but when I finnally talked to her on the phone I told her i though it was ally and she wouldnt believe me! So she said it was her brothers friend... I wouldnt buy it though. I know ally wanted me and megg to get in a fight so ally and meg could hang out more often. Well Ally got what she wanted! Megg told me on the phone that she wasnt mad at me and if she was she would tell me and not ignore me! But boy was she lying!! My other friend 3 wayed them and i was on mute and they were talking so much trash about me! Saying that I was annoying and stuff, when all i ever did was ask megg if she was mad at me! So now i dont know what i should do, because I really miss hanging out with megg cuz shes my best firend and we always had so much fun together, but i know she was talking about mme and lying to me, so...?? should i try to make up - even thought it wasnt my fault it was ally`s? Or should I ... well i dont know. Help please!
I`m 14 by the way.

I'm gonna tell you now - learn this lesson & learn it quick!

People are going to talk about you. Whether it be your best friend, your sister, your cousin, someone you don't know - it's going to happen. And you need to accept it. People have talked about me SO much and I honestly don't care. If people hate me for no reason or whatever, then fuck them! I've got better shit to do than be friends with two-faced people.

If your friend is going to talk trash about you & make you seem like some horrible person, then she was obviously never your friend to begin with & only stuck around because she felt like she had to. Or maybe she was just a bitch. Anyways, it doesn't matter. But honestly, stop being friends with this girl. You can be friends with MUCH better people.

me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost a year now his name is jared. Hes great our personalities go really good together and im 100% comfterable around him the one thing is im so bored with our relationship but i dont wanna end it cause i love him and i dont think i can act more myself around anyone else. i have this good friend Luke who ive been friends with for a while he has the best personality ever and hes tons of fun i kinda have a crush weve alwayse been kinda close the thing is that hes not as good looking as jared and hes big like a teddy bear lol. i think that if i dumped jared id regret it but if i stay i might be wasting time? idk what to do should i stay even though im bored or should i try new things?
help??

If you're bored with the relationship, don't try to make it work. You need to tell Jared how you feel about things. He'll understand [hopefully], but he isn't going to like what he's hearing. No matter how much what you're going to say might hurt him, he needs to hear it because you're not being fair.

If you end up deciding that breaking up is what's best for you, then you should try & see how things work out with Luke. If you decide to stay with Jared, you might need to try some new things with each other to keep it spicy.

I know astrology isn't necessarily real, but I still want to know. I was born on January 19, and that's the last day for Capricorn. Am I more Capricorn or Aquarius? Or do I have both traits? When I look at daily horoscopes I always read both cause I don't know which one is more me, since according to the astrology, I have both traits of Capricorns and Aquarius. Like somethings about capricorn are so not like me, and same with Aquarius, too. so what am I? and give me a description of my personality and the best signs I should be friends with and date.

13/f

I'm not one for astrology, but since you were born on the day of a Capricorn, whether it's the last day or not, you're a capricorn.

I'm not exactly sure what signs are good to be friends with or date for you, so you may need to research that yourself.

How do I flirt with a guy?
For I can let him be interested in me.
14/f.

13/f. I have shoulder length hair is there any styles for it. Thank you. And I checked on google it didn't help me.

I got my haircut to shoulder length last June [06] & did ordinary hairstyles with it.

When I didn't straighten it, I put it up in a ponytail, did pigtail braids, put it in a messybun & just wore it down sometimes.

I don't really do much with my hair, and it's usually always up. So I'm really not the person to ask. I hope I helped in some way though.

Is there any way I can tell a guy that I like him. Not like akward just saying , oh I like you. And I don't want to tell a friend to tell him I like him. Thank you.

Talk to him about who you guys like. Ask him who he likes, and then when he asks you, just tell him.

It might be awkward saying "Oh, I like you," but it's definitely the best way because it's straightforward & you can get it out of the way. And most people actually prefer to be told that way.

anybody have any good advice on how to wake my self up before i go to school?

Ps. dont say to take a shower or to rub a hot rag on my face

I'm not a morning person at all. I have a hard time waking up & actually sleep in sometimes.

I usually stock up on energy drinks like RockStar & Red Bull. If I haven't done that, I get 5 bucks from my dad & head over to Starbucks & get something there.

Starbucks & energy drinks really helped a lot. Showers help too, but if you're not interested in showering in the morning, then try Starbucks.

How long does it take to sniff a sharpie and get high?

Uh, why would you want to?

Sniffing sharpies probably kills your brain cells. But then again, since you're asking this question - you're not very smart.

Is it true if you write on yourself with sharpie I can get cancer? My friend said that and I was just making sure.

I've never heard of that before.

I just know that if you sniff a sharpie you get high. I'm not so sure about that though. But honestly, I've written on myself with sharpie before, and I'm cancer free.

If a guy cums in you and you are on your period, What are the chances of you being pregnant?

Very high.

Ok well there was a car accident that I passed while our family was on a vacation.

It was realyl serious and the chances to me that that guy is alive are really slim but I really wanan know if he's alive.

it's been a week and he wasn't in the news or the radio.

Is there any way I could find out? how?

There might be a newspaper coming out or something, but if they didn't display it on the news, they probably didn't have permission to.

My boyfriend passed away & the Marines couldn't tell the news without our permission so they usually need the okay from the family to go ahead & do so. The family probably hasn't made it okay for them to do it, so that's probably why they haven't.

Just keep your eyes peeled, something might come up.

Hi. I am going into grade 9 and I am half asian. At my school I have got a few racist comments but none of them really affected me because the few i got were from friends and they didnt mean it in a bad way at all. Now I am going into High School and im worried. I live in an area where almost every student is causcasion. So basically racism was never really frowned apon cause noone was "different" in physical appearance to be judged. Anyways, I was looking forward to this year until now. At a fair I hung out with this guy from Wales. I started to relize many high school guys were calling us the "chink and illegal immagrant". I hated it especailly since I actually knew of these guys and I knew many of my friends I have now are planning to hang out with them. Everytime i passed them I was called a chink and one time i got two sticks thrown at me. Im really worried about high school now and I dont know what to think of my friends. Please I need advice on what I should do? How should I go into High School? Should I just take it all?

Thank You
14/F

I'm going to agree with you. Being a different race in a community that's mostly white can be a little intimidating; especially when kids are teasing you.

I know what it's like to be discriminated against. I went to the mall a few months ago, and went into Victoria's secret. The lady in there acted nice to my face, and then when I went to go buy something, she went on her walkie-talkie & informed another girl that a "Hispanic Teenager" was coming through to purchase. What she had to do that for, I don't know - so I put the stuff down, called her a stupid ignorant bitch, and walked out of the store.

Basically though, you have to deal & let these things roll right off of you. If you show that it doesn't bother you, they're going to get bored of it. When people tease you, they're looking for a reaction, and if you give them one - they'll know they won the battle. Instead of letting it get to you, ignore them & just laugh it off. There's nothing you can do about being Asian except embrace it & be proud of it. Trust me, I hated being darker than most of the kids at my school, but I'm okay with it now. If people don't like me for who I am or because of what I look like, then they're shallow, immature, ignorant & stupid and I really don't need to be friends with them anyways..

Don't you agree?

I am looking for some punk/emo haircuts and i looked on Google but i didn't really find any. Do you know any good sites for me?

This is going to sound weird, but MySpace.

There's a million emo/scene kids on MySpace & you can see their hairstyles for ideas.

recently i took a pic of myself and in the back ground it looked like some one standing like 5 metres away from me i was home alone i zoom in and its got like a demon scary face i showed my sister and freinds and they say it looks like the grim reaper one says its wearing a black cape ive felt for a while like a ghost or something is following me how long do you think it is til i die?

I think you should stop scaring yourself.

Because you're scaring me. I'm in my basement alone with the lights off... =(

whenever I try to log on myspace, it just saids an unexpected error has occurred. why doesn't it work?

Because Tom is trying to fix stuff.

I'm using MySpace just fine though. I would leave the site alone for a few hours & then try again.

I love Pramore. Are there any other bands that have a lead female singer?

It's Paramore, not Pramore.

Anyways:

- The Hush Sound.
- The Sounds.
- The Dollyrots.
- Meg & Dia.
- Avril Lavigne.
- Evanescence.
- Aly & AJ.
- Flyleaf.
- Lily Allen.
- Pink.

15/f

I think I have sociophobia. I have all of the symptoms on all of the sites that I've googled (its scary how accurate they are...), but I'm embarrassed to tell my parents that I think I have it. I have a lot of friends, hang out with the popular kids, and always have something social to do, and have moved a bunch of times, but I still seem to have all of the symptoms.
I used to think it was shyness until when I was 13 I started having panic attacks related to the social anxiety. I just realized a few hours ago why they happened and that they were all linked (I know, stupid.) I never really told my parents about the panic attacks (the worst was 4 in one day), because they seemed to get less and less frequent and last year (8th grade), I only had 3 or 4 over the course of the whole year.

I just don't want to be so paraniod about what people think or be so scared about being embarassed or scrutinized anymore. And every time I have a stupid panic attack I get scared and I just don't want to be so stressed about stupid little things anymore.

My brother has had really bad adhd since I was born, so they're no strangers to the whole psychologist thing with the appointments and the pills. Neither am I. I know that's the right route to go, but I'm afraid and don't know how to tell them. And I'm also embarassed about these problems and I think if I try to explain it to them, they'll think I'm overreacting and won't believe me.

Just please help me!

You may think you have sociophobia, but don't self-diagnose yourself or freak out because of what some stupid site tells you. Those sites aren't as accurate as you think, so until you see a doctor, don't make anything final.

You really need to come out & tell your parents that you think you have this disorder. You're not new to psychologist scene, so they should understand & take you.

k so i need advice on my first day outfit. i was thinking of just wearing a tank top, jeans, and maybe some bangles or a cute necklace.
what do you think? it's suppoed to be like 85 degrees and tanks can be two fingers haha i looked it up beforehand to make sure.

so what do you think?

The person below me mentioned a sundress and heels as overdressing. That's not overdressing at all. That's a good outfit for school.

Anyways, bangles are usually clanky & annoying, so I wouldn't wear those the first day. Wear a cute necklace, maybe a nice silver chain or some pearls. Tanktop & jeans sounds good though. =)

I need help with summer reading, I've sort of skimmed over the three books I was supposed to read, but nothing really sank in. So if someone could just sort of explain the basic ideas to these books, that would be amazing.

The Founding Brothers
The catcher In the Rye
Tom Sawyer

Well of course nothing sank in, you didn't read it. Skimming doesn't count as reading, and nothing's going to click if you do that.

I suggest you read the books.

hello. i was thinking of buying coconut rum, and im having a party, so any cheap good tasting alcohol would be better than the expensive stuff. i have seen a coconut rum called "four palms coconut rum" which is half the price of mailbu. just wandering if it would taste just as nice? thanks:)

Although I'm under-aged, the only alcohol I've ever drank has been:

- Bacardi [most flavors].
- Hpnotiq.
- Smirnoff.
- Vodka.
- Puerto Rican Rum.
- Haitian Rum.
- Hennessy.

And that's basically it. I'm not sure how much any of those cost because I'm not 21, and I can't purchase liquor or even set foot in the store. You'd have to check prices for yourself when you go.

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