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Okay, so my family has a 4 year old female yellow lab. She is a part of our family but is locked in the kitchen when we have to go out or when we go to sleep. Many times lately my parents have walked her at let's say 4 then at 6 found a little puddle of pee on the floor. She is trained not to and these past few months have been the first time since she was only a small puppy. My mom called the vet and the vet told her it is probably just the dog being spiteful. Now my parents are getting fed up and saying that they are giving her away soon. I love my dog so much but I don't know what to do to make her stop peeing on the floor. Help? (link)
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I can't believe they would have the audacity to blame it on the animal. They keep it locked up half of the time and don't walk it frequently enough. Just like yourself when you've got to go you have to go.
What other choice did they give her here? Now they want to give the dog away. If they woke up and found a way for her to be walked more often you wouldn't have a problem. Do your best to walk her yourself too.
If they give it away it might be the ultimate blessing to the animal. Why? Someone other than you for a change would give a damn about seeing to her being walked and cared for. They need to see that its them that has led to this and not the dog being spiteful or doing it just to irritate. What the heck else can it do if it's not getting out much.
I would check to see if it needs to go out every hour and a half when home and make sure it goes. don't let her in until she does. That's one measure to exercise.
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What do i do if i told on this girl who pantsed me and her friends are really mean????
Signed-Scared for my life (link)
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You have seriously got to learn to defend yourself. If anyone grabbed me, gave me a wedgie or pulled my pants down they'd get dumped on their ass.
That's what you should have done even if you couldn't win the fight at least they'd know you fight back. You could get a few good licks in there that demanded their respect. I don't condone violence but if someone hits you or does what they did than by all means fire back.
I would get some wrestling, karate, Russian martial arts or Brazilian jujitsu lessons to learn confidence and how to stand up for yourself. What would I do now? Approach her by her locker and press your finger into her chest and say " I don't know what your problem is with me but you better deal with it or you'll have an even bigger one if you mess with me again."
She needs to see as do her friends that you aren't in the least bit intimidated even if you are. Bullies pick on victims usually because they are jealous of their popularity, talents, status or that they themselves have a poor home life or feel worthless. They usually take it out on someone.
Just know she's on a slippery slope to nowhere and go about your business and don't give her a second thought. The moment you don't react is the moment she'll move on to someone else. That goes double for fighting back.
Let adults you trust know what is happening so it's documented with the school. That way they can't suspend you or cause trouble if you fire back at her. Even if they did suspend you it says a lot for them not caring about someone who is getting bullied. They always pass the buck and make it your fault.
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wow....so this is going to sound strange, I'm sure but you did say you were up for all types of questions, right? Good. Okay so when Im having sex with my boyfriend, sometimes, his....um his penis gets so enlarged that its too big for my...you know...my hole and then sex hurts. When I tell him it hurts and that he should stop he does it harder and gets more turned on and like...um...like...grabs on to my boobs and hurts me more. It's notlike he's being abusive...hes just...horny. What do I do?
-Bruised Beaver- (link)
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Boyfriend or not make it bloody clear to him that if something hurts he's to stop no matter what. If he doesn't push him off, get up and tell him to go home. I'm serious. He should learn some respect.
In a lot of cases involving sex if one person says no, get off, it hurts, stop etc. they have to stop. It can and often is considered assault no matter who they are if they don't.
Let him know that no matter how turned on he is that when he hears STOP that's it. Even if you have to shove me off of you he'll get it.
Although, I'm a male I'm not sure why his penis would get that swollen so that it cannot enter your vagina. I can recommend that you do something else sexually until it can be inserted without that level of pain.
The other thing is that he could relieve the problem himself through masturbation and let his erection die. Then, when his penis isn't swollen so much resume sexual activity with you.
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hey guys well i made a demo and im a singer and songwriter and i submitted my music to this website. www.hamptonsentgroup.com.
and i dont know if its a record label yet. i checked it out but didnt really understand so i was wondering if you guys can check it out for me and let me know what is and stuff becuase they contacted me from there and they wanted to set up an interview for tuesday. i dont now what it really is and if its going to help my music carrer.
thanks so much dont worry i rate (link)
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Supposedly it is a talent agency which has 10 or so different labels and an abundance of artists. They say it's been around for 13 years and have different artists one can book.
If they've been around that long and don't have a single client mentioned on their page that's done a damn thing steer clear. legitimate managers do not solicit material from potential clients through Myspace or the Internet.
It's just not how the business works and isn't how you will get a recording contract. In all likelihood this is some kind of scam they are running to capitalize on your dreams and rip you off some how.
Legit agents also list their address on any site they operate and a telephone number that isn't a 1-800 line. It all looks like a scam to sucker people naive about the business right in. Honey, if it looks too good to be true than it probably is.
I wouldn't go to that appointment and at least not alone. Make sure your parents hear about this and follow their guidance. You never know who you might be meeting. Do not sign anything either without a lawyer's advice.
I know what you need to do is back away from this and go through the SAG (Screen Actors Guild) or ACTRA in Canada for a list of legitimate agents for acting, background talent (extras) and singer/songwriters. That way, if you're any good you'll work with the right people.
Agents and record labels aren't posting on the web to represent people or Myspace or anywhere else. It's just not how they go about it. They may send scouts to clubs but they always are people you can investigate. They don't even list a contact's name anywhere on this site. Beware and look elsewhere. Don't go alone or better yet at all.
I know what I'm talking about as I know a casting director, have had agents and done work on films as an extra. What you've said about this web site seems to lead me to know it's not legit. Even if it is don't take a chance.
Put it to you another way if you don't understand the web site and need us to look in to it than it's not a good idea to go to any kind of meeting with the people behind it. Nobody has ever heard of their artists (they don't list any) and the labels themselves are also iffy.
They say they're indie labels and agents which would mean your stuff wouldn't get heard by a wide audience. Just watch they'll try to sell you something or promise the moon if you show up there. They probably do that to anyone sending anything in. They know people are desperate to be discovered.
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So on our anniversary, my boyfriend suggested we go a little bit further and get like naked and stuff. Not have sex though. I'm fine with that but I am really self conscious of my...downstairs. The...thing in the middle is larger than average. There's kind of an innie and an outtie for a vagina, not just for a belly button. I'm definatly an outtie. But anyway, do guys really find that attractive no matter what? I'm so scared of how awkward it will be ( I think )
And my butt has these red bumps on them. It's a skin condition I have on my arms too. And it's gross, I don't want him to see it. He says nothing could be gross about me. He loves the smell of my vagina and everything. But ahh I'm just nervous.
Can some boys give me their opinion of what grosses them out?
Or someone please tell me it isn't awkward with someone you love. It's our one year anniversary by the way. And tips? ANYTHING?
And besides sexual presents, i'm getting a book made of us that I wrote. But that isn't enough because he's doing a ton for me. I want to do something for him. Not like cooking for him so don't say that. Any ideas?? I was thinking promise rings, scavenger hunt to a picnic? Hmm... (link)
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You can bet that he's just as self-conscious about his genitals as you are about yours. The skin condition won't matter to him either. He loves you and that's all he will be concerned about. You just need to trust him and try to relax.
What seems gross to you about your body may not be to him. If you are concerned about this tell him ahead of time about the skin condition and that you have had it for a long time or been born with it.
As for your vulva/vagina they all look a bit different and not 100% like diagrams or photos you may have seen. You'll see that none of this matters when you're together. A real man or boy who has maturity won't care. They'll care about you and not the appearance of your genitals or naked body.
Your idea about promise rings or a scavenger hunt sounds good and should work well with him. You might also want to ask his siblings or mother about what he has been really wanting and purchase it for him if you have cash.
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How do i drive off a needy boy without being a bitch????
~tu mitad mejor! (link)
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Try to understand what he likes about you. It's not such a bad thing that he does. It's better than being hated. He probably has no experience around girls and doesn't know when to back off or give a person space.
He just wants to be accepted, loved and acknowledged by you. He just doesn't know where the line is and when to back off when a person shows they aren't interested. Don't hate him for it as he may be a great friend or ally later on. You have to take that into consideration. Do it tactfully or come across as a bitch no matter what.
All you need to do is Tell him "I appreciate your interest in me but I'm not romantically interested in you. In time we may be friends but for now I need my space."
Tell him that you know he will find the right person one day but that person just isn't me. " You should also go the extra mile and do him a favor. Tell him what not to do when trying to attract a girl and how his clinging on to someone who isn't responding to it can make them think negatively of him.
Maybe if you are tactful and point out that this isn't the way to behave with girls he likes especially if they don't seem interested he'll learn an important lesson. Then perhaps you having told him the truth will wind up in him finding the right match.
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So, a Chorus Line is having Mario Lopez in it. Two Questions:
-Is he going to be in all of the shows until it closes on August 17th?
-What is the chance of him not being in one particular show and can I know this ahead of time? (link)
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You won't know ahead of time if there's an understudy until you get to the theatre. Understudies are often chosen to fill in for lead and supporting actors at the very last minute when it's determined a star can't go on. It's not publicized on online, the ticket sales line doesn't know anything except how to assign seats.
It's always printed on a sign in the theatre 1-2 hours prior on a sign stating "The role of Zach originally played by Mario Lopez will be performed by...."
He is contracted to do all shows until August 17th. 95% of time he and actors in lead roles will be on stage so I doubt you will miss him when you choose to go. Even if you did which is unavoidable as they won't refund seats the show is still amazing. I'm sure that you will see him perform as it takes a lot for them to sideline him for illness or other reason.
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well im going to vacation soon to iowa and im not sure where to rent a big van that could at least fit 12 ppl im in utica ny but im not sure where the closest place is ..just a renting car website or something before saturday
if you can help plz do
thanx (link)
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Try calling Hertz (North America) 1-800-654-3131 reservation line. Tell them that you need a van for 12 people and exactly where you plan to drive it and bring it back to. They'll calculate your costs and alloted mileage.
You should also try Budget budget.com U.S. reservations 800-527-0700 24 hours. Reservations outside the U.S 800-472-3325 24 hours. They have the biggest fleet of vehicles so you may find more luck there.
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i recently told my best friend im bi along with a few other people and now i sorta have a girl friend so i guess if i dont want to completly hide the fact that i have one, from my parents and be all suspicious so i probably have to tell them...i just dont know how. i could just randomly tell them and i think my mom will be ok with it but im a little worried about what my dad will say and they probably wont let my girlfriend stay over since now they just think we're friends. anyway i will eventually tell them so if anyone has any suggestions how that would be good.
-and another thing, i dont care that my peers know or anything, im just freaked out about my family knowing------please help (link)
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Sooner or later the truth will come out. Isn't it better that you tell them and not someone else? Your friends might let it slip or perhaps they'll hear about it from someone else they know that their kid said you were with whomever and a lesbian.
You need to be in control here. Your parents might "freak" or not take it well at first. This is a typical reaction but the anger, questioning what they did wrong etc. fades. They'll still love you and eventually your girlfriend. Why live a lie any longer?
Tell them the truth you could even get literature on the subject and involved with PFLAG which supports friends, parents, family of lesbian and gays or find a group for gay teens to come out at.
There's no surefire way of handling this. You need to tell them the truth and could even do it in a letter if face-to-face is too difficult. Parents will always love their children no matter what in the end. Let's get this burden (not being gay, but hiding it from people) off your shoulders on your terms.
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Ok,,
I need to know a place where its free and like i audition but no money costt..
Please helpp..
I love actingg.
Its my dreamm.
I mean i have been in a acting school but all i do is act for 250 peoplee..
And well no one is like heyy wanna acting carrerr..
So yeahh.
and i need the adress phone number or website anything would helpp..
thankss
Sabrina
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Never pay anyone a single cent to let you audition or represent you. The industry doesn't work that way. What you need to do is log on to the Screen Actor's Guild of America site or ACTRA in Canada and get their list of reputable agencies. Have your parents call them and set up an appointment.
I can tell you right now that a principal agency won't take you because you don't have professional credits. It would be too much of a risk for them. Teen/Kids agencies might so definitely try to find one in your area through the list of reputable agents.
Your best bet is to hire a background talent agency to get you cast as an extra in crowd scenes in movies and TV productions shot in a large metropolitan city nearest you. Background Talent Agents and Kids/Teens agents are the only agents who can charge a small fee to put you on their roster.
Why? Kids and teens tend to bail on them once they see the amount of work involved. Often shoots last up to 18 hours a day depending what they are shooting. You also need to get into youth or community theater groups in your area. Investigate what exists around you.
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Hi,
You recently answered a mental health question for me. If you would like to see it again, you can click here : http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=542853
I wanted to thank you for your advice and also ask you a question. You mentioned bipolar disorder in your answer, and although I was thinking about that even before you answered me, there is something missing. Although I don't always feel so upset, I don't get the elated and "on top of the world" feelings that bipolar people describe. When I don't feel so upset, I feel normal, not so upset but not elated either. Could this still be bipolar or something else? I was looking up dysthymia and cylothymia. Could it be one of those?
Thank you so much for your help, I really appreciate it.
Hannah (link)
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The only person who can really diagnose you is a psychiatrist. You don't necessarily have to be delusional or elated than super sad to be bipolar. You might just have the severe fluctuating moods and excessive energy or hypomanic symptoms.
You might have the illness you mentioned or a combination of 1 or 2. You definitely need to make that emergency room visit to have yourself fully checked out. The things you have mentioned seems to suggest you could be headed for real problems otherwise.
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Just a few days ago, I got a new pet bunny (I named him Pippin, and he is a Lionhead rabbit). He's very young, but it took him less than a day to get well adjusted to his new cage and our house. At first, he was very sweet, but recently he's been biting a lot. I don't mean chewing on the furniture; he's been biting me, my sister, and everyone else- and he bites HARD. At first it didn't hurt, but just a few minutes ago he bit me hard enough that I actually felt a little afraid of him, and I put him away soon after that. How am I supposed to train him to not bite people? It's a really horrible problem to have, especially if it gets worse, because we can't just have a bunny in our kitchen that we can't let out because he bites viciously. What can I do? (link)
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Here's an article on rabbits and aggressive behavior in them. It can be fixed. Most likely it bit you and others out of fear or that someone tried to grab it too fast. There are other reasons. I'm hoping this FAQ on rabbits and aggressive behavior will help.
http://www.rabbit.org/faq/sections/aggression.html
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I am a 17 year old girl, and ever since I was 14, I felt like I have been falling down a hill. It seems like it gets worse month by month. I feel bad about myself a lot, but I randomly feel better. But then a week later I am back where I started. I have no warning about when I will feel bad again. I want to know if so much pain is normal for a teenager.
I used to cut when I was 15, but I do it extremely rarely now. Starting this past March, I wasn't eating properly because I was trying to lose weight. I got down to eating between 500 and 1200 calories a day, depending on the day. When I was 16, I almost killed myself, and once this year I tried alcohol for the first time.
It just seems like I am falling and being so much worse than I ever was. I just want to know if feeling like this is normal (even if what I did isn't normal) or if I should get this checked out. (If that is the option, do you have any idea what might be wrong with me?)
Thank you for all your help in advance, and I look forward to reading your input. (link)
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You need to see a psychiatrist. What you are describing isn't normal. You mention that you are having moods that can change daily, weekly, instantly and without warning and always end in a crash.
This has me concerned for you as that's often a sign of bipolar disorder. If your feeling bad about yourself and then elated and back to crappy again in an endless cycle this could be your problem.
If you feel suicidal, think of death and want to cut yourself on top it could be part of that plus another mental disturbance. If you feel elated, empowered or have any irrational thoughts, racing thoughts, anything remotely delusional go to the emergency room.
As far as trying alcohol goes it's probably normal experimentation teens get into. If it's out of character completely than I would be concerned as people with bipolar or other illnesses do a lot of out of character things.
While drinking is small potatoes if coupled with other things you'd never do if not ill it gives you an idea something's not right.
You need to tell someone be it a psychiatrist or trusted adult that you have tried to kill yourself recently. There's no buts about this nor shame or embarrassment. They may be angry or react negatively at first but it's something you cannot hide.
You need medical intervention. The cutting, moods, trying to end your life all add up to a mounting crisis. You need to see a mental health professional about this. You can't skirt that as there's one think you NEVER screw with and that's your physical and mental health.
Be bloody honest and tell your parents and the psychiatrist that you'll see about the cutting, moods, everything you stated here, suicide bid and the not eating properly and how much you were or were not eating. It's all important.
You should go to an emergency room and tell them all of this and see an on call psychiatrist. This is indeed an emergency as all of the things you mentioned added together indicates you could be headed for a crisis. It's better to find out how serious this is than not. They see people all the time for these symptoms so it's not going overboard.
The psychiatrist will either send you home with medication and monitor you, say you're fine (which I can tell you aren't) or keep you for 72 hours to figure out how to tackle what seems to be going on with you.
I've been there with similar circumstances to yours (minus suicidal) twice in '03 and '04 in hospital for bipolar disorder and delusions. That's why I'm urging you to see the psychiatrist on call at your nearest emergency room and get this seen to for peace of mind and or to be healed.
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So this guy I was going out with during Summer 06 just reconnected with me about a week ago. It was really random, but we just started talking about how we used to be so close two years before, although he has a girlfriend.
And he said, "I think I'm going to break up with her. I really like you. I want to be with you."
But then he decided he wanted to stay with her. I was basically led on, and I don't know how he feels anymore but he has a girlfriend when he told me he liked me still. I don't know what to do or where I stand, I already explained to him how I felt and it wasn't fair, and he just said he was sorry about it but there was nothing he could do. It's tough, bc he won't talk to me the same anymore.
I don't really know what to do. Should I give up on him or what? (link)
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Don't get involved. Plain and simple DON'T. He has no idea what he wants and is flip-flopping. He shouldn't be acting like this if he has a girlfriend. If he can't decide whether to break up with her or be with you than forget it.
You're going to get hurt severely if you don't move on. If he can't figure out who he likes without question than that means disaster for whomever he dates or tries to lead on.
Trust me, if he really wanted to be with you over her he would have done this already. He wants both of you or to stick with her as it's easier. I would forget about him completely and move on. I know that's advice you don't want to hear but he seems nothing but trouble and too confused.
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What type of discharge is considered natural?? Or normal?? Because I hae some discharge that is like yellow-ish and not so watery, kinda thick-ish liquid. I don't know if that is normal, please help me!! (link)
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This article is pretty good at explaining what good and bad discharge looks like and signs of infection. It gives tips on how to avoid it too.
http://www.cfpc.ca/english/cfpc/programs/patient%20education/vaginal/default.asp?s=1
This is even better and more comprehensive http://www.scarleteen.com/article/body/honorably_discharged_a_guide_to_vaginal_secretions
If concerned about it talk to your mother or an older female relation and book an appointment with a gynecologist to check things out throughly.
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So I have been thinking a lot about college lately and I have been set on being a news girl. cute right? ha right. Anyways, what would be some good things to look into before college like working for my schools newspaper right? I would really appreciate some other ideas ! thanks (link)
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First of all can you write newspaper quality pieces? If you have that ability now you can call up your local paper. I'm talking the free one that usually arrives with tons of flyers.
Tell them that you would like to work non-paid as a freelancer or in the newsroom writing. If they think you're good enough they will assign articles for you. How do I know? I'm a journalist and that's how I started out.
You should also look to professional web sites and e-zines to see if you can write for them. Teen Ink www.teenink.com is completely written by teens. Also check out Young People's Press www.ypp.net they print articles in e-zines, newspapers, online written by people 14-24.
Another thing you can do is phone a newspaper editor for the major dailies or a TV station and ask if they allow students to job shadow their reporters or do ride alongs to the scene of a story to see how they cover different situations.
The school newspaper is a good idea as is the yearbook. The yearbook teaches you about photo journalism and editing as would the paper. as far as doing announcement goes it's good for your voice but not much else journalistically.
You might also want to look into www.teentalknetwork.com which does radio shows hosted by teens. See if they have anything open to you.
You need to constantly be reading newspapers and practising your writing. Get ahold of grammar books and those on writing properly and well and study them religiously. It will prepare you for later on.
When it comes to college or university if you call the program head of a print journalism or broadcast journalism school and explain that you aren't sure of which school you want to go to but are interested in their program they almost always allow you to sit in on a class and do a tour of the facilities they have.
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lately ive been feeling really sick. the other day i was sitting down and my leggs were shaking uncontrolably and i couldn't get them to stop no matter how hard i tried. i also hear ringing in my ears . any idea what it might be? i think it may be nervousness but im not sure (link)
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It's possible that you might be describing symptoms consistent with mild-severe panic attacks. The shaking uncontrollably, feeling sick, ringing ears and other physical things you mention happen with them.
These attacks usually happen the same way each time and are triggered by something you may have been doing at that time. Read this http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Panic_attack and see if that helps.
You probably have a mild anxiety disorder. You can consult your family doctor (they may refer you to a psychiatrist) and get on medication for it to control the issue.
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Me- 16-female
Boyfriend- 17-male
we've been dating for almost a year and my idea for our year since we havent taken many pictures was take one of the pictures we have and put it in a little frame for him and then put it in a box with a shirt he'd like along with our favorite candy that we purchase and eat together quite frequently which happens to be gummy worms & put a few bottles of his favorite pop and maybe an energy drink in there and give it too him that way does this sound like something you would enjoy to get?
would you give this to your boyfriend for your 1 year?
((moneys an issue for me))
which is why i cant go all out like he does for me.i love him
please give me your imput and maybe some more ideas of things to add to make it extra amazing! =D (link)
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I can't fathom why he wouldn't like that. I think he would appreciate the framed picture as well as the candy and other things you mentioned. Why? it reminds him of you and moments already shared. A gift doesn't have to be expensive.
It has to be heartfelt or have some kind of meaning for the person getting it. I'm sure he would like it.
However, you can make it even better if you wanted. You can also make him dinner with candlelight if you chose to. If you don't have a lot of money some couples have made little coupon books they exchange and can use at any time. coupons would be good for massage, making dinner, cuddling or whatever you come up with.
The other thing is if you have $20 or less you can get him a gift-card for one CD or get one he likes. You can also get movie theater gift certificates for that price too.
Do what feel right as you know him better than anyone. Definitely give him what you said you wanted to above and if you choose to expand or not on it he'll still love it.
Another cool idea you might want to try is to make a scrapbook for him that tells the story of your relationship thus far and put in pictures and other things to do that. You'd have fun with this and I'm sure he would love it.
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okai so I only have 2 weeks of school left and i really wanna talk to this guy i like.
he seems like he likes me as well because he looks quite often and always seems happy to see me. the thing is that hes a year above me and we've never talked :P
i get soooo nervous around him .. i cant even look him in the eye when he's walking by me (he always looks at me tho). I can only look at him when hes far away :/// and his best friend used to fancy me but it never turned out good so im also scared to look at him when his friend is next to him :/
i really wanna talk to him on the bus or something but i get sooo nervous, and i really want him to like me (since he doesnt really know my personality too well)
so how can i talk to himwithout throwing up in his shoes? hahaa.
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thanks
xx
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If you look on the bright side vomiting on his shoes would be a hell of a conversation starter. You need to realize this guys not going to bite you or treat you badly for introducing yourself.
You're going to need to do so if you want any kind of relationship with him. I mean if you can't do this you won't get anywhere. Talk to your mutual friend and have them introduce you or simply go up to him and say hi I'm so-and-so I'm friends with so-and-so how's about we all hang out some time?
All he can say is no to anything. You might even want to try inviting him to a year end party and organize that. Just remember he's as equally scared of approaching girls as you are him for all the same reasons.
He obviously has checked you out and shown interest by staring at you in the halls and allowing himself to get caught doing it. Just approach him and treat talking to him like you would anyone else as it's no different.
Think of talking to him like you would as president of the U.S. and him needing to hear your message and block out the fear. All that's holding you back is irrational fear of failure or humiliation. Just go for it as it's the only way to have a chance at what you want.
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14/ female.
okayyyy, so me and my friend like six months ago smoked a blunt at my house and took pictures doing it.. i know dumb idea, lol. so yesterday she saw them on her photobucket and decided to put them on her myspace. well, my brother has her as a friend and he saw the pics of me and her, and he copied the pic and sent it to my mom!
so my mom told my dad to loook at my friends myspace, but me and her had deleted it, but we didnt notice it was on her album cover, soooooooo we got screwed.
my mom had a talk with me and told me that she was upset and hurt that i did that but that she wasnt mad, but i did have to be grounded. ):
it wouldnt bother me much to be grounded but at the moment it does, cause the guy i like is gonna leave to Jersy in 8 days, and i wanna see him before he leaves, and now since im grounded idk how im gonna do that.
so, can you help?
how can i get my parents to unground me asap?!
and/or how can i do it to see this guy before he leaves even if im grounded?!
thanks so much!!!!
p.s NO im not a druggy or none of that, im a goooood students and i behave very well (: (link)
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There's nothing I or anyone else can say that would make her reverse her decision to ground you. You can see where good behavior, real remorse and cutting ties with friends who do drugs get you.
You're on a slippery slope here and cannot be making these kind of mistakes ever again. I also think that you got off rather lightly here and haven't truly seen where you did wrong. It doesn't seem as though you genuinely want to fix that behavior.
You're more concerned about this guy (who will be back) than the fact you smoked marijuana and got caught. You deserve punishment and shouldn't be let out of it.
You could ask your mother if this person could visit your place before he left so you could say goodbye but I doubt they are going to be lenient with you. Giving you tips to deceive them would be wrong and not teach you anything.
Maybe you need to see that not having freedom or the ability to see this person is where this mistake got you. If it causes you never to smoke weed again or hang out with people who do being grounded might be the best thing that happened to you.
I think what you need to do is clean house and get rid of friends who are doing these drugs and tempting you to. You need to keep your grades, reputation etc. where they are.
As far as the friend who shared the photo with your mother goes he/she did the right thing. You can't blame them as you put the photo up on a public site which your mother had access to as did others. Not very smart when you're doing something illegal in the photo. Hopefully, this serves as a hard lesson to you.
Beyond truly putting an effort to change all the things that led you down the wrong path and asking your mother about this guy you can't make her change her choice to ground you.
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