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Getting naked with boyfriend and more
So on our anniversary, my boyfriend suggested we go a little bit further and get like naked and stuff. Not have sex though. I'm fine with that but I am really self conscious of my...downstairs. The...thing in the middle is larger than average. There's kind of an innie and an outtie for a vagina, not just for a belly button. I'm definatly an outtie. But anyway, do guys really find that attractive no matter what? I'm so scared of how awkward it will be ( I think )
And my butt has these red bumps on them. It's a skin condition I have on my arms too. And it's gross, I don't want him to see it. He says nothing could be gross about me. He loves the smell of my vagina and everything. But ahh I'm just nervous.
Can some boys give me their opinion of what grosses them out?
Or someone please tell me it isn't awkward with someone you love. It's our one year anniversary by the way. And tips? ANYTHING?
And besides sexual presents, i'm getting a book made of us that I wrote. But that isn't enough because he's doing a ton for me. I want to do something for him. Not like cooking for him so don't say that. Any ideas?? I was thinking promise rings, scavenger hunt to a picnic? Hmm...
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You can bet that he's just as self-conscious about his genitals as you are about yours. The skin condition won't matter to him either. He loves you and that's all he will be concerned about. You just need to trust him and try to relax.
What seems gross to you about your body may not be to him. If you are concerned about this tell him ahead of time about the skin condition and that you have had it for a long time or been born with it.
As for your vulva/vagina they all look a bit different and not 100% like diagrams or photos you may have seen. You'll see that none of this matters when you're together. A real man or boy who has maturity won't care. They'll care about you and not the appearance of your genitals or naked body.
Your idea about promise rings or a scavenger hunt sounds good and should work well with him. You might also want to ask his siblings or mother about what he has been really wanting and purchase it for him if you have cash.
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do you guys have a "your song"?
on my anniversary i wrote the lyrics to our song on a little glass jar and filled the glass jar with his favorite type of candy.
another thing that's always sweet is a hand-made card; shows him you put some time and thought into it.
about your skin condition: sounds like ketosis pilaris. it's super common; almost everyone has some form of it somewhere. try using a loofah and some acne-treating body wash when you shower; exfoliating over that area will not only make your skin really soft, but it will totally lessen the appearance of the little red bumps.
often how you percieve yourself is COMPLETELY different from how others see you. the sexiest thing about a person is confidence, without a doubt.
as long as your downstairs is clean and well-kept, you shouldn't feel self-conscious. if you don't say anything about it, chances are he probably won't even notice. lots of guys find them SUPER attractive, actually.
you've been going out a year; if he was dating you just to get in your pants, he's either really stubborn and tenacious or he would have given up by now and gone after some really loose slutty chick. i'm thinking he actually likes you for who you are. but i do agree with what was said prior; if you honestly don't want to, you should tell him. maybe you need to wait a few more dates before you feel comfortable enough for that. you guys are far enough into your relationship for communication to be that much more important. he won't know how you feel if you don't tell him.
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Hmm, getting naked because he's giving you so much and you think your not giving him enough. So, he's buying a look at your body, would 200 dollars get you to go all the way with him? This is not a reason to get naked with a boy. The reason to get naked with a boy is a prelude to sex, other wise why get naked?
You have been together for a year, for some that would be enough time to take a step like this, but I'm not sure it has been enough time for you. There is doubt all over your letter and you are unsure of his reaction. It seems to me, you don't know enough about your own body to be taking this step. Terminology aside, the things you don't know could put you in a heap of trouble.
The red bumps sound like an allergy to something you are eating, check with a doctor. If you are determined to do this, learn everything you can about the female body and sex. If the bumps are treatable, wouldn't it be nicer to show your boyfriend the female body at it's best?
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The doubt was already there dear one, I just put things in a different light. There is nothing bad about the female body, it is quite exquisite and perfect in my mind, no matter how un-perfect the girl herself sees it. I only wish you to consider your reason for getting naked.
And please, don't give me a rating you don't think I deserve. If you don't want to give me a bad mark, just don't give me one at all.
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