i have been dating my boy for a little over two years now. when we had been dating a year & a half we lots our virginity to eachother. since then we have been having sex about twice a week. i dont really enjoy it. it feels good and all but i could live w. out it. im on the pill but i always get parinoid before i get my period that i might be pregnant. i decided that i dont want to have sex anymore kas it stresses me out so much and i told my boy and he got mad. i knew he would but how do i convince him that we shouldnt anymore? & how can i get him not to be mad at me?
i don't think its you who needs to change , if you on't want to do it he HAS to understand, i know its so dificult for you not to paranoid when you had sex, cause even that 1% possibility doesn't garantee isn't gonna be you , tell him that you rather wait becuase is so stresfull to be thinking about the possibilties, and that is a risk you don't want to take any more, and that he should support you, that you are the one who's going to be more affected if anything happens like pregnancy ...it's normal he's mad ..but it's not normal hes mad a long time ..he got mad maybe when you told him because its like now hes not getting any and he was having sex once a weak! ..make him understand , and that if he loves you enough he'll wait for you to be ready for sex again and it could be in a while..let me know how it goes =) good luck!
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Ok so they say the first time you have sex with a guy. you stay connected to him forever. Well i dnt kno if this is true. But im 18 now. and about 2 years ago I met this guy. and i fell for him big time. anyhow we were sort of dating but it was kinda behind the scenes since he was 2yrs older than me at the time. Anyhow we had sex or whatever and were 2gether off and on for abotu 2 years. i kno he loves me and i love him. but bout 6months ago he started hanging out with a different group of people. with girls who were bout 5 years older than me and 3 years older than him. He never went out with them or anything. but he never talked to me anymore. He told me he didt want anything between us . so for the last 6 months i avoided him. and than one night when i went to play poker at a friends house, he was there and started like rubbing my leg. and calling me baby and everything. i just told him to **** off. lol. But i just dont understand why he does it. Like im sick of getting played around by him. But i love him and i want to be with him soooo bad. But i cant put up with it all. but like Y does he do it?? i dont understand?.. please help. i love him soo much.
he's probably doing it again because he's hoping your have sex again...guys are weir so please be careful =) don't believe everything he says! and if you decide to date him again or anythin ...don't have sex! so if he starts behaving so desperate about you both having sex , then it is what he was looking for ...if he doesn't mind ,,maybe he has changed ..though i don't think so
good lucK!
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I'm 13 & so is my boyfriend Logan*. Were both in 8th grade except we go to different schools. We hangout alot & stuff but here's the thing. He has this ex-girlfriend named Kelsey and everytime we're somewhere and she's there too he always trys to like hide from her & not be seen with me and he says it's because his brother still dates her older cousin and he doesn't want to make things weird for him. But I'm not sure. The other night we were at a basketball game together and he did EVERYTHING he could not to let her see us. I just don't understand it. And he has another ex-girlfriend named Blair that he goes to school with and he ALWAYS talks about her to me. Like "let me tell you what Blair did today at school.." or "you'll never believe what Blair said today.." or "oh my god it was so funny today cause Blair.." and just all kinds of stuff like that. I'm not sure what to do. And I want to say something to him because I DON'T like listening to stuff about them at all but I don't want it to seem like I'm mad even though I kinda am. Ughh. I'm just confused. Someone hellpppppp.
totally understand you i've been there! so its really annoying dealing with ex girlfriends :S ....here's what i'd told him.. you don'te feel confortable about her seeing us together?? are you ashamed of me =( (LOL this is to convince him like you rellay don't like that he's "hiding " you both ...are you afraid of hurting her feelings or something if she see us together???"....and about the other girl I said something like this to my bf .."how whould you feel if I where still super friend with my ex boyfriend?,,i don't think you'll like that,cause if you feel something about each other onces..it can happen again , cause you get along so well! =(...if he doesn't understand ...try to tell the same coments but about Your ex! so he'll feel jealouse or something and then tell him something like ..now you know how i felt or anything " lol well im out of ideas so hope it helps =) good luck! =)
diane
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K so I am almost 15, and very mature for my age. And me and this guy have a thing, he is 18 almost 19. And i know it is quiet a difference, but if we are happy, get along, have fun together, and respect each others wishes, who cares about age. But the thing is, I doubt my parents will aprrove of this, and my question is, what do I do? How do I hang out with him without them knowing? Right now we just always hang out with a group of friends, should we just keep doing that? Anything helps.
thank you
i think that unless your parents get to know him a little they'll trust you and him about going out alone, or else what i would do ...(doesn't mean it's correct i'd let it to your judgement) go out with him by telling paretns something like: im going out with a bunch of friends or something ,,or talk with them really straight something like ..okay i know this guy and i think i know him enough to trust him and ask you to let us hang out by ourselves and before going out ..introduce it to your parents ..that's the most reccomended thing in this cause for me because your 15 and although he might be a very sweet , good guy ..parents won't think about it because of the age gap but just tell them ...if you think there's no way they're going to agree...i recomend going with group of friends lol or ,,,going with friends and for xample in the mall,,arrive with friens then hang out just the two of you for the rest of the day or something ... good luck!! hope it works
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This is the deal; I'm a prep.
Flat out, okay... but, in my school prep's are targeted. BIG TIME. Teachers make us write papers on how bad cliques are, and in class room meetings we disucuss the groups and every time people bring up prep and look at me. I have a certain group of friends and I sit with them, but i get along with almost anyone. Just beacuse someone has on all black and chains comming off their pants doesn't mean i hate them... I DONT ! BUT EVERYONE THINKS THAT?
Is anyone out there non-prep can you explain to me why people would assume that? they dont even know me.. and its not that im mean or stuck up in any way.
it's not that * this is not how I see it it's just that I know what other people think about it cause i got friends that get target by the most random things....if you dress different that all the other people then your "weird" to then , just because what you wear is not what they like , or think as "normal" that's mostly why, if you hang out with the geeks they think your the same that's a perfect example I have friends of all types :S and it doesn't mean i'm like that weird kid who is really cool lol anyway ...people tend to target others mostly about their clothes not being as they would like them to be or just by being different from theirs =) any way you shouldn't care about it , those who know you will love you does who don't...who cares if they like you if you shouldn't mind ..unless what your friends think about you and family that's what matters =)
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I've never really done this advice and answer thing, but I've always wanted to and really need some advice from an outsider because it feels I can never talk to anyone about my problems.. Its just that me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 4 months and we are very serious. I really do like him and we really do have a great relationship. He makes me laugh alllll the time. And he shows me he cares about me a lot. Its just that he acts very immature sometimes and hurts my feelings a lot. I cry sometimes too. He kinda gets mad at me when I hang out with my friends because he feels like I'm ditching him. I would probably be mad too. Its just he never does it to me b.c we always hang out with his friends. B.c he's 2 years older then me. But its just, I really think that I love him. But he thinks of himself a little too highly. Like he is really really cute and he's the big hotshot on the fb team and baseball anddddd track. Not even joking. He's scores all the touchdowns, and is the best guy on the badeball team. And is county champs for track. Soooo what do you expect. His parents don't really like me that much either and they think we hang out too much, and I don't like them much either. he has threatened me all the time in going and hanging out with his old friends, so that is just what he did when I went and hung out wit my friends. B.c we got into a fight, He went to his ex grilfriends house and then after they went out. I do trust him and I don't really think anything went on, its just that it upset me . We had a big fight over it. But I think everythings alright. I do think he feels the same way about me, but sometimes I think he uses me to do stuff. If u know what I mean, in a sexual way. I don't want to make him sound like sucha bad guy, b.c he really is great to me. But he sometimes makes dumb fights about the stpidest thingsss! I hate it. But he's just does it for attention.. I usually get really jealous becuase he flirts sometimes and kinda talks about girls sometimes to get me jealous. But I think he's doing it on purpose. He's stupid like that. What do you think I should do. I really hope you can help me. Thank you so much
okay this might be not what you where expected but i have 2 points of view ...the first one ..as a friend i'll tell you to dump him! so he'll know that's not like "be thankful that im with you" attitude, and that it's not you who are THAT lucky to have him in this relationship, that its him whose lucky to have youu as his girlfriend..and if he shows really interest in getting back ( not inmediatly obviously, but like he really really tries to have you back) then go on the relationship..also...going with an ex girlfriend ...i mean okay sometimes you wanna make your partner feels jealouse, cause it feels nice =) but not like that ...i mean that doesn't make you only jealous..it hurts really bad ...also i mean would he like you to go to your ex's house even you've got into the biggest fight ??? i mean that sounds like he did it on revenge :s and that's not what love is about , maybe you should be friends cause when hanging out you have a good time , but in the things that involve a relationship it seems your not so happy about it ...
my second point of view...i understand that wasn't what you wanted to hear cause i've sorta been in your place before not that similar but kinda...and i know that probably if everybody who cares aout you tells you you should dump him maybe you won't cause it's difficult cause they don't know the good things on the relationship only the bad things that you tell them...but really that thing about his exgirlfriend it's more like he wants to hurt you instead of solving the problem why you got into a fight i mean ...okay i fight also with my boyfriend sometimes a lot ...but just because im mad at him im not going to like on a date with someonelse or visit my ex :S thats not jealousy thats mean :S ...think about it really well ..cause like you say it ...it seems he doesn't really care about you THAT much...i think he cares more as a friend ...i know it will be difficult to accept it or even agree to dump him, but i mean maybe he's using you ..if he really loves you okay he'll do something when he's mad like going out with his friends instead of you or something ...but not visiting an exboyfriend only she and him :S ...and having that stupid attitud about thinking he's really worth it and that sounds like he's doing you a favor by dating yuo, don't continue giving him reasons to believe he's such a great thing ...i mean thats not love , at least to me it doesn't sounds like it ...
hope i helped if you need anything else let me know =)
diane
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My boyfriend went to a party and did body shots with another girl. This was the first time he drank any alcohol, and he got really drunk and said he would'nt have done it otherwise. He was the one who told me as soon as it happened. Should I be mad at him or should I forgive him?
i think you should lik not forget him that easy, cause then if it happens he will think of something like "anyway she forgive me that easy " meaning that wasnt THAT important what he did and i think it is ...aslo i been there i gotten really drunk and trust me you remember and at least a little consious well unless your totally unconsious and faint or anything make him understand that it isn't easy to forget ..even though you already did ..don't tell him lol let him wait and regret it so he sees what can happend with your relationship if he does anything similar again
good luck
diane
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we used2always flirt&even though every1 would say it we wouldn't admit we liked eachother he would give me explanations he i would see him w/other girls he was a flirt/player&i loved him but never thought i was gonna be w/him anyways we didnt see eachother4 3months when i saw him again he already had a girlfriend which he told me he didnt like, he flirted w/me even in front of her the nxt wknd he told me thnk god i already broke up w/her then they told him i had gotten jealous of her&i liked him the nxt wknd he said he was gonna marry me&never leave me 4us2get2gether that he wasnt gonna cheat on me or nothing+did alot of stuff2show me he really wanted2be w/me2wks past i couldn't resist so we got2gether i forgot2add his ex is his sis's bestfrnd so she goes2 his house2see his sister&sometimes stays over i still feel jealous of thinking she's near him even though he doesn't like her&doesnt talk2her if he doesn't have2but she looks like she still likes him should i worry about her?there's another girl that calls him they used2go out before i found out she calls him but he doesn't like4her2call him he doesn't answer even he im not there i dont know what2think is he cheating? does it look like he's being honest does he like me or is he just playing w/me? I already talked2him before i knew about the calls i asked him if he hadn't gotten bored me me he said no he said dont think im playing/cheating.why would i cheat on U if i know your not-what doUthink of thisLDR.im18 he's20
mmmmm okay so first thing i think you should worry about that issue that his ex spend the night @ his house even if its with his sister, she still gets to see him or anything , are you sure they broke up?,,,second of all that girl that calls him...maybe he doesn't answer cause your nearby , and don't you think that if she has called a lot of times and he never answers she would stop calling him? ,,she still calls him cause maybe sometimes he does answer and also, its not like she's gonna be begging him to talk to her , ...also i wouldn't trust him a lot if he says he would not cheat cause your not doing it ...i mean ,,his girlfriend wasn't doint it (cheating) i guess, and he still flirted with you beeing with her,,,also remember that for someone to cheat ,,it has to be because both persons are agree to do it . so i don't think he doesn't answer her calls i mean she still has a reason to be calling him...i mean if your worry about his sister best friends also remember that it wouldn't be all because of her if he cheats, it has to be because he also agree to do it ...good luck let me know how it works ...talk to him about this mostrly about the phonecalls =)
diane
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14/m
Ok so me and my gf were having sex and i thought that i could hold off from cumming but it was so good that we couldnt stop and i gizzed in her, and i wasnt wearing a condom. Could she be pregnant?
definetly she CAn be pregnant ..imagine....when you cumm theere's like hundreds of thousands of sperms....there's a lot of possibility..unless she hasnt had her period yet
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why are some breasts bigger than others, what part of it grows? why do others grow bigger than others?
does anyone know.
p.s. yes im flat chested
if your really skinny then you probbably will be flat, breasts are fat that's why fat ppeople have it in bigger proportions
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I want to start talking to my ex boyfriend again. We were a really great couple, and loved each other very much. We never broke up because something was wrong with us, it was for other personal reasons. So I don't think it's too much of a problem, but here is the problem (or what may be a problem), I found out he's engaged. And please, do not think I'm trying to break them up or even get back together. I just want to talk as friends, what do you think about this? Please, any and all answers would be appreciated! Also, I want your honest opinions, there is no need to sugarcoat anything. Thanks in advance!
try to keep in touch with him, like through e-mail or Im since he's in another state, and also, ex couples cannot always continue beeing friends , even though they didn't brake up for something wrong, sometimes what makes them loose contact with each other is the new girlfriend/boyfriend, will you like your housband to still talk to his girlfirend? some girls will say no so first start slowly keeping in touch with him, then if nothing goes worng(his girlfriend your boyfriend beeing pissed about this issue) continue it =) good luck anyway
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16/f
my freshman year i got accepted to one of the top performing art schools in the nation for vocal performance!! i was so excited!! ever since i heard about it ive wanted to go....My dream ever since i could remember was to be a singer...when i attended school for the first few weeks i noticed that there was a music male teacher that i would always catch looking at me....about 2 months into school, he told me to stay after class because he wanted to enter a song id written in a major record label contest. I walked into his room and he told me to sit on the piano bench and he'd be right back. So i did as he said and got my music out and waited. When he came back he shut the door and locked it he said that he locked it "because he didn't want to be bothered with the janitors" so i didn't think anything of it, kinda thought it was wierd (music rooms are soundproof) but anyway, he sat down next to me and placed his hand on my upper thigh and said im so proud of the progress your making in my class, you're deffinately going to acheive your dream and go somewhere with your talent" he put his arm around my shoulder and acted like he was grabbing my music, and he pushed it off the side on "accident" so i bent down to grab it, and as i bent down he grabbed my butt. and i told him to stop. but then he sternly said, "if you want to pass the class and win the comptetion you'll let me do what i want. Trust me, you want me on your side. I can give you everything you want." I sat back down, giving him another chance, hoping he would stop, but it just got worse as time went on. Long story short, he ended up raping me.
When i threatned him that i would tell, he just said "do you really want to leave this school?? you're parents would take you out of here and you wouldn't get ot pursue your dream anymore." and after i thought about it i realized that i wanted to be a singer more than anything else, and this school would help me out so much. So i continued to put up with it...
This situation has been continuing on and off for about 2 1/2 years now. I haven't told anyone, becuase i don't want to run the risk of anyone finding out becuase then i wouldnt be able to go to this school anymore. I just really feel like i need to talk to someone, but i don't know who to talk to. I don't feel comfortable telling my boyfriend, bestfriend, or anyone whats going on.
What should i do? I want to continue achieving my goals, and the school helps out with this alot, but at the same time i want the abuse to stop. I'm sorry this is so long, thanks so much for taking your time to help.
deffinatly you have to tell someone :S i know it's hard i've been to something that's kinda similar but not that serious ...you WON't get out of the school , tell the principal and the police:S , if the headmaster of the school knows about it your pervert teacher will be fired I swear , tell him first....then if you want (cause i know your suppose to but i know its hard)tell your parentns...so this way your teacher will be out of the school and not you ! it's been too long since that happened but you need to tell someone at least the principal so they can fired him :S and police, cause he'll know it was you who told...so you need to get him somewhere when he cannot harm you :S good luck lt me know how it goes
diane
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14/f
tomorrow, im getting a blood test. the thing is, i HATE needles, and i HATE looking at the thing and seeing my blood, which means basically, i hate blood. and afterwards, i am paranoid for the whole day looking at where the needle went in, and i feel like its hurting, but im actually causing myself to FEEL like its hurting. i have no idea what to do to make myself lmore comfortable. any suggestions?
there's this thing sold in drugstores (pharmacies or that thing) i also HATE needles im so affraid ever for vaccines (sp) so ..i buy this thing called EMLA...its like a cream , that serves as an anestesic for the places where your beeing needled ...my father it's a doctor and recomended this to me ,,,it last long ,,the bad part..you don't get used to needles =(
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15/f. ok i like one of my guy friends, so normally i am with him. a lot of people think i like him (which i do), but i don't like to admit it because i don't want to risk ruining our friendship. but thats not the point of this question. the point is a lot of girls keep asking him who he likes. and he tends to avoid the answer by saying who he used to like but that he doesn't like them anymore. and then when they say so who do you like now he doesn't answer. but i always feel uncomfortable when they ask him this because i'm always sitting there next to him.
also he is the kind of guy that a lot of girls like because he is so nice, funny, and easy to talk to. and a lot of girls tell him that they like him and he just says that he doesn't feel the same way about them. So i'm so afraid to tell him how i feel because i don't want to be just another girl that likes him. plus i don't want to lose our friendship.
so my questions are:
1) do you think he might be avoiding telling them who he likes because it might be me and i'm always there?
2) should i tell him that i like him and risk our friendship even though A LOT of other girls like him too?
thanks =]
ask him when your not around much people who he likes, so if he doesn't tell you , probably it's you! cause he might be avoiding telling them with you by his side. this way he'll know that at least your interested :P in an indirect way by asking him this. hope you understood my point
take care
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My boyfriend was over today, and he fingered me. It hurt, but felt good at the same time. He dropped me off at my house at like 1 because he had a thing to go to with his family. I went to the bathroom, and I was bleeding. I knew he broke my hymen, so I just went about my day. Well, it's well over 10 hours later, and I'm still bleeding. I know it's not my period because my period shouldn't be here for another 10-14 days, and I don't have any cramps. So, how long am I gonna bleed for? Because I'm sick of going to the bathroom & finding blood. Ugh.
don't worry about it and see what happens if it continues then go to a doctor i know how humiliating but if it doesn't stop you should go, also I been told that periods can get sooner when fingering but i don't think it's your period , wait and see what happens =)
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Ok I was wondering what are some easy ways to get rid of a hangover QUIK! I drink, and I need some answers ASAP!!!
greasy stuff really worked on me today lol and of course as everybody else says , water ....milk also works =) hope you get over it i'm in the saaame situation right now =(!
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Okay, so I'm 16 (female) and my boyfriend is 22. We've known each other since this last summer and we started talking more once he gave me his screen name.
We've liked each other for about 2 months and hung out a few times. We just started actually dating a week ago.
We make each other really happy. We argue about who likes and misses each other more. We have these deep conversations that end up confusing the hell out of us.
When I told my best friend that I was dating him, she flipped out and said "Ewww, that's disgusting." I guess she doesn't approve over the whole age thing. In my eyes, age is nothing but a number. I just wanted some opinion's.. whether it be good or bad. What do you think of the age gap?
for me 6 years its my limit age gap lol so i think your fine :p it might seem a big age gap for example,,you 28 , your guy 34 lol
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whats a good HAIR color oh and eye shadow for medium yellowish brownish skin with black eyes with naturally black hair? oh and thich eyebrows haahaaa
something between this http://www.linecolours.com/1.JPG
it looks really good with people of your description good luck!
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k, so i'm going to the mall this week, with a BUNCH of guys. & I know were gonna eat there, because they said we would. for like dinner, & i'm not entirely sure on what to get.. I usually go to that steak potato or whatever the heck its called, lol I know i'm off, but oh well. Anyways, & i just get a smallthing of fries. But, i heard that makes your stomach get bigger?! like.. how quick does that happen.. what else could I get at the mall?thats like small.. I don't want to look fat.. but I don't wanna look anerexic. [I used to get teased all the time that I was] I just actually, don't really like to eat alot. So, what should I do?!
remember that some guys like girls that really like to eat lol i've been told about this by waaay too many guys , just get something regular like waht you will eat if they wheren't there :P
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Well I just got my nipples pierced, and I'm not having any problems with them at all. The question is this: will I like.. go off in the detector at the airport?! Very random, I know, but I fly a LOT and I'm just not sure. Thank you!
mmm im not really sure about thins i think that it will only be if your piercings are metal..cause i mean you don't go off in the deetector by wearing earings or limp piercings so i don't think so =) good luck anyway
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