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i have been dating my boy for a little over two years now. when we had been dating a year & a half we lots our virginity to eachother. since then we have been having sex about twice a week. i dont really enjoy it. it feels good and all but i could live w. out it. im on the pill but i always get parinoid before i get my period that i might be pregnant. i decided that i dont want to have sex anymore kas it stresses me out so much and i told my boy and he got mad. i knew he would but how do i convince him that we shouldnt anymore? & how can i get him not to be mad at me?
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No boyfriend should ever get mad at their girlfriend for just taking a break of having sex. If he really loved you, I'm pretty sure he'd understand that there are more things to life rather than having sex. It seems to me that he obviouslly doesn't care whether or not if you get pregnant.
Maybe when you're convincing him not to be mad at you, is just talk about becoming pregnant and all the responsiblities you two have to go through for just having a kid.
He would have to understand and he has absolutely NO right to be mad at you just because you don't want to have sex. He should respect your answer.
Hope I helped. :)
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k its deff not you who needs to change. if he really loves you he should respect your decision. not get mad, although at first i could understand but if he's mad for a long time that's pretty ridiculous. explain to him the stress and stuff and you'd rather wait and even explain to him what will happen if you guys actually make a child out of it, cuz then he will get scared. but if he still doesn't respect that decision, i think it's time to let go cuz it would make it out to be he's just in it for sex, let me know how it works out<3
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It's obviously too much stress for you.
If he can't do this for you, then he doesnt deserve you.
If you're comfortable, tell him that you're still okay with other things, like giving him head and fingering, but you just don't want to have sex for a while.
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i don't think its you who needs to change , if you on't want to do it he HAS to understand, i know its so dificult for you not to paranoid when you had sex, cause even that 1% possibility doesn't garantee isn't gonna be you , tell him that you rather wait becuase is so stresfull to be thinking about the possibilties, and that is a risk you don't want to take any more, and that he should support you, that you are the one who's going to be more affected if anything happens like pregnancy ...it's normal he's mad ..but it's not normal hes mad a long time ..he got mad maybe when you told him because its like now hes not getting any and he was having sex once a weak! ..make him understand , and that if he loves you enough he'll wait for you to be ready for sex again and it could be in a while..let me know how it goes =) good luck!
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If those are your only reasons, while are understandable, I'd say it's you that needs to change not him. That will look like there's some reason you won't want to do it and he'll start thinking it's something he did. I'd say you just need to learn to get over the stress. I mean, if you really want to go out with him then he's going to want it, but you could try to hold him off with other stuff?
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