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I neeed some boyfriend help!!
I've never really done this advice and answer thing, but I've always wanted to and really need some advice from an outsider because it feels I can never talk to anyone about my problems.. Its just that me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 4 months and we are very serious. I really do like him and we really do have a great relationship. He makes me laugh alllll the time. And he shows me he cares about me a lot. Its just that he acts very immature sometimes and hurts my feelings a lot. I cry sometimes too. He kinda gets mad at me when I hang out with my friends because he feels like I'm ditching him. I would probably be mad too. Its just he never does it to me b.c we always hang out with his friends. B.c he's 2 years older then me. But its just, I really think that I love him. But he thinks of himself a little too highly. Like he is really really cute and he's the big hotshot on the fb team and baseball anddddd track. Not even joking. He's scores all the touchdowns, and is the best guy on the badeball team. And is county champs for track. Soooo what do you expect. His parents don't really like me that much either and they think we hang out too much, and I don't like them much either. he has threatened me all the time in going and hanging out with his old friends, so that is just what he did when I went and hung out wit my friends. B.c we got into a fight, He went to his ex grilfriends house and then after they went out. I do trust him and I don't really think anything went on, its just that it upset me . We had a big fight over it. But I think everythings alright. I do think he feels the same way about me, but sometimes I think he uses me to do stuff. If u know what I mean, in a sexual way. I don't want to make him sound like sucha bad guy, b.c he really is great to me. But he sometimes makes dumb fights about the stpidest thingsss! I hate it. But he's just does it for attention.. I usually get really jealous becuase he flirts sometimes and kinda talks about girls sometimes to get me jealous. But I think he's doing it on purpose. He's stupid like that. What do you think I should do. I really hope you can help me. Thank you so much
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just talk to him about everything, maybe he needs more attentin and thats why he is always flirting. and, the next time he wants you to come and hang with his freinds, just calmy explain you want to hang with your freinds, and then no one feels like they are getting ditched. If things still aren't working out, then just sit him down and talk about it.
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He doesn't sound like he's the nicest guy in the world, but he doesn't really sound like a bad guy, either. I mean, he deffinately has some really undesirable qualities. He shouldn't feel that way when you want to hang out with your friends--he obviously has some major jealousy issues.
If he's trying to use you sexually, and you're not comfortable with what he's doing or ready for it, just tell him so. If he doesn't understand, make sure you tell him "no", and if he doesn't understand after that--I'm sorry, but no matter how sweet he is to you otherwise, you need to get out of this relationship before it becomes a disaster.
As far as hanging out with your friends goes, tell him it's really unfair that you only hang out with his friends. Tell him you really care about your friends, and that it's unfair that you barely see them anymore. If he doesn't understand this and gets angry with you, I don't think this is the best relationship for you to be in. This guy sounds really possessive. I'm sure he has his good qualities, but he's going to end up controlling your life, and you don't want that, do you?
I hope everything works out!
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theres two options here, either you brake up or stay together. I suggest if her keeps on acting like this you break it off. what girl wants to be treated like dirt? even if the guys a big athlete star. Hes not worth it. Or ig you talk to him, tell him your feelings. If he does't respond then you have a clue that he doesn't want to take this relationship seriously. If you do stay together, have days apart. Like say Friday or something its you and his friend time. You can go to your friends house and he can go to his. Then when saturday comes around you guys can go on a date or what not. I think his parents would be very fond of that plan. Just remember this is up to you, give him atleast one chance and if he blows it brake up with him because he doesn't deserve you.
Hope i helped!
--natalie
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okay this might be not what you where expected but i have 2 points of view ...the first one ..as a friend i'll tell you to dump him! so he'll know that's not like "be thankful that im with you" attitude, and that it's not you who are THAT lucky to have him in this relationship, that its him whose lucky to have youu as his girlfriend..and if he shows really interest in getting back ( not inmediatly obviously, but like he really really tries to have you back) then go on the relationship..also...going with an ex girlfriend ...i mean okay sometimes you wanna make your partner feels jealouse, cause it feels nice =) but not like that ...i mean that doesn't make you only jealous..it hurts really bad ...also i mean would he like you to go to your ex's house even you've got into the biggest fight ??? i mean that sounds like he did it on revenge :s and that's not what love is about , maybe you should be friends cause when hanging out you have a good time , but in the things that involve a relationship it seems your not so happy about it ...
my second point of view...i understand that wasn't what you wanted to hear cause i've sorta been in your place before not that similar but kinda...and i know that probably if everybody who cares aout you tells you you should dump him maybe you won't cause it's difficult cause they don't know the good things on the relationship only the bad things that you tell them...but really that thing about his exgirlfriend it's more like he wants to hurt you instead of solving the problem why you got into a fight i mean ...okay i fight also with my boyfriend sometimes a lot ...but just because im mad at him im not going to like on a date with someonelse or visit my ex :S thats not jealousy thats mean :S ...think about it really well ..cause like you say it ...it seems he doesn't really care about you THAT much...i think he cares more as a friend ...i know it will be difficult to accept it or even agree to dump him, but i mean maybe he's using you ..if he really loves you okay he'll do something when he's mad like going out with his friends instead of you or something ...but not visiting an exboyfriend only she and him :S ...and having that stupid attitud about thinking he's really worth it and that sounds like he's doing you a favor by dating yuo, don't continue giving him reasons to believe he's such a great thing ...i mean thats not love , at least to me it doesn't sounds like it ...
hope i helped if you need anything else let me know =)
diane
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