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i'm Ange, a 19 year old female aussie and i love helping people! I am willing to help with almost any issues you may have... so feel free to ask me. i wont judge you on what you ask so dont feel embarrased. :) but beware! if you ask a stupid question with a logical answer, i will be very blunt... and remember...
*~respect yourself~*

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He is kind of overwieght, but sweet and fun to talk too. I really feel happy around him, and always try to talk to him. But at my school he is regarded as a geek, or a nerd by everyone. And I think he likes me too! I'm not quite sure I'm ready to date, but how can I have him keep liking me until I am?

tell him. say you like him but you aren't ready for a relationship. he should understand.:)

~ANGE

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I think I may have a blatter infection. This may sound gross, if it does, I'm sorry. Alot of times whenever I need to use the restroom, I feel like I need to REALLY bad. I try to go, but only a very little comes out and then I get this sharp pain near my blatter and it hurts really bad. When I wipe myself, it looks as if I was bleeding a little down there and I'm not due to get my period for another few weeks. I've been drinking so many liquids all day to try to make myself go to the bathroom, but it just makes it even worse because I still can't go! I'm going to be making an appointment with my doctor to see what the problem may be but in the mean time, I just need a heads up on what might be wrong with me. Can anyone help? I'm a 15 year old female.

i'm not sure what it may be but you definately need to see a doctor. it doesn't sound good at all. good luck. keep me updated.

~ANGE

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My brother in law is living with me and my husband.
I don't mind that he's staying in our house. What I can't stand is that he is messy. He'll go into the kitchen and get something to eat and not put it away. He'll get a glass of juice and not wash his glass. Not only does he not wash it, but he leaves it on the kitchen table for me to do it.

What do you suggest I do?

confront him. or better yet confront your husband. tell your husband that his brother cant stay at your house unless he learns to clean up after himself. just say it in the nicest poossible way and add that you dont want it to come between your relationship so you better figure it out before it does. good luck!

~ANGE

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Hey, okay this is kinda weird for me to ask...but is it wrong for you to have a bf, or well, not a bf..but I mean at my skewl when you say bf, it's someone you just say you're goin out with, and not actually do anything besides hold hands, and im not sure but maybe kiss..at school...thats it..so is it wrong for you to have one without your parents' permission...like,i mean, not the kind where i haven't asked them cause I'm afraid of their answer, I mean I haven't asked them cause I KNOW their answer, because their not American and they have values and all that...but see I was raised in an American or International way, and so at my school...and there's this guy I like on and off..and he flirts with me...and all that. but even for the future..an I asked my sister if it's okay with her anyway coz even though she's not allowed she had 2 before without my parents finding out, but she said no, it's better not to...so is it okay for me to go ahead when they've all said no, because it's not fair, and it's my life..and even though I'm young, I know it has nothing to with age, they will never let me have a bf in their right minds...i dunno...life is pretty horrible for me right now..my parents are really mean besides that too...so i'm confused. Plz help m and answer my question. Thanx. I'm really sorry this was soo long. THX

as long as you dont sleep with him or anything it's totally fine. it's not your fault that your parents are old fashioned. if they find out just tell them what you just told me and they should understand if not... well they wont litteraly kill you. :) be careful. oh and your sister, she has no right to tell you not to when she has done it herself.

~ANGE

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Ok, I met this one guy online and my one friend showed me who he was and showed him who I was. And we've been talking online for a while now. I was talking to him a while ago and he was like dropping hints that he liked me and stuff. And then his one friend was telling me about how he always talks about me and everything. He asked me to go out with him and I told him I didn't know, so now everytime I talk to the guy that likes me's friend he asks me to go out with him. The guy that likes me told me that he really wants to talk to me in school, but he likes me to much and is afriad and I dunno why. I don't want to talk to him at school until he talks to me. I still always talk to him online and everything but I don't know what to do about him. He tells my friend all this stuff like she's so hott everytime I'm gonna go up and talk to her I lose everything I was going to say she is so beautiful. I was thinking omg when she told me that and I didn't know what to say. He still hasn't talked to me, and I don't know what to do! Someone please help me!

do you like him?

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14/f i have trouble with cutting my self and i really dont kno what to do!!! any advice would be nice!

youve taken the first step - admitting that you have a problem. now you need t channel your problems into something creative. like whenever you feel like cutting yourself, do a painting. you can do an angry painting to express your feelings or a pleasant one to bring out the happiness inside. so try these if you want. good luck

~ANGE

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There's this girl named Maria. She's a good friend of mine, and today she got in deep trouble with our Health teacher because she gave answers to someone else, and hes failing her for the marking period with a 50. She said she's tried to commit suicide before, and she's going to do it again. Should I tell somebody? Thanks. =]

talk to the school guidance counsellor. he/she will know how to handle this delicate situation. dont be scared to tell someone, you could just save her life. you can keep her anonymous if you must but get help!!!

~ANGE

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Most of my friends are gettin pregnat and getting herpes it is scaring me ... All my friends I thought were so much smarter than me are stupid and having sex already . I know you want to but you need to hold back .... I am scared that in a way I am gonna be forced into it .... Can you help ?

it's good that your not into that. i think the thing to do would be to either stop hanging with them, or build up your will so you can say no. dont let them force you.

~ANGE

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A few days ago i wrote about likin this kid austin i took the advice everyone gave me so thanks!:) but he said no, ok neways this kid john likes me and i have known him since kindergartin but he not that cute and kinda heavy. but hes a really nice guy. problem is HE REALLY LIKES ME but i feel no way about him like that, anyways i can tell him nicely that i dont like him, and dont say its not you its me. and plz no rude comments

If he actually asks you just say one these


i'm not ready for a relationship
or
your a really nice guy but i dont like you that way
or
sorry, i like someone else.
or
oh dont be silly! i dont wanna ruin our friendship!

GOOD LUCK!

~ANGE

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On Valentine's Day, I got a note in my locker that had a poem in it, and it was signed Secret Admirer. At first, I thought it was just this guy, right? And I go around laughing about it. And then I get a second note today, which tells me that the person is a girl. She says that she really likes me, but if I don't like girls, no hard feelings. I know who it is, because I asked a couple people and I just got this feeling. The person who wrote it is a really close friend of mine, and I feel awkward around her now, even though she doesn't know that I know. What should I do? And I can't even rule out the possibility that I might be gay, even though I think I'm straight. I might be bi. I don't know. What do people think?

I suggest you leave a note somewhere that she can get it without knowing that you know its her. write on the note that no, you dont like girls, no hard feelings. and she ever has to know you know its her. thats the most polite thing you can do.

~ANGE

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Well...When I look in the mirror, I am not sure who's looking back. Uhm and I second guess myself so much, I let others decide for me. I know its not good to do that, but I do that anyways. But I cant help it, I try to find out who I am, but it hasnt worked out yet...I know this question may be too odd, but do you know any ways I can help myself find me?

dear lost shadow,
okay i must admit this is a verfy difficult question. but i will answer it the best i can. okay. if you dont know who you are it might be best to do up a family tree. find out where your ancestors came from. that will help you with your past. when you look into the mirror, repeat over and over in your head your full name. and think of all the people you care for that love you. you can tell who you are by the people you are associated with. like say there is a relative of some description, lets say an aunt. you can say i am her neice. or i am her best friend, that kind of thing. thats all i can say to help but i hope it helped you. you are special. everyone is special in their own special way so dont ever think that people dont care. and if you seriously cant find anyone that cares, know this. i care. i care about everyone i meet. so feel free to contact me for any help you could ever possibly need. no matter how stupid it may seem. i am here for you.

~ANGE

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whenever i get my monthlies *i'm a girl* when i sleep i can't sleep with my back on the mattress because i'll get stains on places where the pad doesn't cover. so, my question is wut can i do to ensure that i won't get stains when i wake up like how i can position the pad or w/e stuff like that please help this is getting really annoying thanks

Use tampons AND a pad. a night pad. that'll give you double protection.

~ANGE

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Okay I have this friend who is 12 and she is wanting to save up some money but for being as young as she is she is having trouble earning money so if any of you have any good ways she could earn money then plese help as soon as possible!!!

go to the neihbours houses and ask to do some jobs around the house for money.or help your parents out for money. at 12 you cant get a job so she'll just have to work for it by cleaning yards and such.

~ANGE

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hi...sorry if this is long.
well ages ago i met a guy and fell instantly in love with him. he liked me 2 but i didnt have the courage to tell me and now hes moved on. were like best friends now; we bonded alot when i was living back at home in america. i never got on with my mom and he understood that an kinda helped me through it.
my mom hated me a lot and blamed me for her and my dads divorce. we argued too much and she was always tellin me she wishes i was dead. this guy, lets call him adrian, helped me thru it and always made me feel lots better.
i moved to england to be with him (as a friend) and now my mom is ill and wants me to go back to america to look after her. i realy resent her and dont think i could look after her properly. im also scared that if i go, 'adrian' will meet someone while im away and fall in love...and i will never have a chance to tell him how i feel.
what should i do?
btw i had planned on tellin him how i feel just as i left on the plane...but that would be mean although it would give him time to think bout everythin. what do you think?
rose, 18

a say stick with the pllan youve got. but be careful with your mum. my friends mum had cancer and she didn't want a blue nurse so she got my friend to do it. my friend bathed her, fed her, helped her move around, and it was really hard for her. so just be careful. good luck with the guy!!!

~ANGE

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I love to draw but the only problem is that I never know what to draw.I need some ideas on what I can draw!And if you name something that is very colorful and takes a while to color than I will rate you a perfect five!!!

go out to the park and draw trees and stuff. fresh air and something to draw!!! if you dont like drawing trees, draw passing people. but i think trees are the best. they are so... cool! they are all different so it's never boring!

~ANGE

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Everyday when I get home I am like sooo totally bored and I hate it!Anyone who gives me atles=ast two ideas of what I can do when I get home will get rated a five!!!

go visit www.bored.com it's a great site.
i like to sit down with a book... but if you dont have the head for that then you can...
take up a sport of somekind. or excersise.

~ANGE

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okay i none this kid Joe for the last 4 years,fell in love with him! i broke up with my boyfriend to go out with joe (but i also broke up with him because i heard he was payed to go out with me!) any way sooo joe asked me out first i said once i break up with my boyfriend,so i did,and then jeo goes "never mind" and his friend robert told me why...because joe thinks i "played" my Ex boyfriend. and he doesn't wanna be played!! i wanna go out with him soo bad! he likes me and all! but how do i get him to beilve i wont play him!

please help i rate high!!

tell him he's being ridiculous. say 'why would I have dumped HIM if I was cheating?' just tell him that you had feelings for him and THATS why you broke up with your ex. so you DIDN'T cheat on him.

~ANGE

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Okay well to start things off, I was dating a boy named Ryan. And I knew this other kid Jake, who liked me and was always trying to get me and Ryan to brake up. I never knew him that well so I never go involved, that is until i broke up with Ryan. Jake treated me like gold. He made me a better person inside and out and I have NEVER been so happy in my life. I would walk into my classes actually crying tears of joy after i had walked with him in the halls just because he made me feel that good. I don't know if it was love, but if it wasn't it was as close as you can get. We broke up 2 months after this. We broke up in November of 2003, and I still can't get this kid out of my head. I've had 2 boyfriends since then but I constantly was comparing them to him and it drives me nuts. I almost felt like i didn't like them just because I don't feel the same way about them as I did about Jake. I know that I do, but I don't feel like i can ever feel the same way about anyone else. He went away to college which makes it easier but whenever he comes home all i do is think about him. I still cry at night sometimes because I can't get over how perfect he was for me. He calls me still every once in a while to check up on me but i try to keep it brief because it hurts too much to talk to him, it brings back too many memories. Is there anyway for me to get over this? It really hurts me like on a day to day basis and i thought i would be over it by now and i'm not. I don't know what to do.

your going to have to try your hardest to get over him. get rid of everything that reminds you of him or just try to deal with it... make up a list of all his bad points... no matter how small they are. when you have a b/f compare the bad points not the good points. good luck.

~ANGE

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I didn't know what to put this under but i truley need some advice... i will rate rate you high even if you just try. I'm got in a fight with my teacher today and i got arrested and my mom picked me up at the jail a few hours later. I have court and that was my last strike so i am gettin sent away. this has been streesing me out all day , and i can't stop crying. The hardest part was seeing my best friend crying in my arms and telling my boyfriend.. ne ways what I'm asking is what should i do or say that will make everyone feel better including me.

if your a serious problem child and everyone knows it then put on a brave face and tell them all that you are going to go away and change. tell them you have your mind set on figuring your life out. your family especially will be proud that you realise you need help. so tell them that when you come back you will be better. tell them all to keep in touch. Good luck honey.

~ANGE

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Take this in mind before you help me!
-I HAVE TOLD HIM MY FEELINGS
-We have went out before
-WE are bestfriends now

Okay?!

I used to go out with my now bestfriend.. But I broke up with him after about 2 months into it.. But now its like.. 9 or 10 months later and i still like him.. alot.. cant stop thinking about him always wondering wahts on his mind kinda bull crap and he is off liking other girls.. and i tell him everything.. and thats why im here.. i cant tell him this one thing.. and thats.. Im thiknig about telling him i think we shouldnt be friends naymore.. cuz im sick and tierd of being hurt.. him always talking about another girl and crap.. knowing i cant have him.. its hard to explain but thats what i want to do.. but then theres this thing about how if i did tell him to just leave me alone , that i would miss him even more and prolly end up going crazy.. So what would u do? Tell him to leave me alone.. or just deal with the hurting ..

tell him you like him. if he doesn't like you back then quit being friends. it's all you can do.

~ANGE

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