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Ex Boyfriend
Okay well to start things off, I was dating a boy named Ryan. And I knew this other kid Jake, who liked me and was always trying to get me and Ryan to brake up. I never knew him that well so I never go involved, that is until i broke up with Ryan. Jake treated me like gold. He made me a better person inside and out and I have NEVER been so happy in my life. I would walk into my classes actually crying tears of joy after i had walked with him in the halls just because he made me feel that good. I don't know if it was love, but if it wasn't it was as close as you can get. We broke up 2 months after this. We broke up in November of 2003, and I still can't get this kid out of my head. I've had 2 boyfriends since then but I constantly was comparing them to him and it drives me nuts. I almost felt like i didn't like them just because I don't feel the same way about them as I did about Jake. I know that I do, but I don't feel like i can ever feel the same way about anyone else. He went away to college which makes it easier but whenever he comes home all i do is think about him. I still cry at night sometimes because I can't get over how perfect he was for me. He calls me still every once in a while to check up on me but i try to keep it brief because it hurts too much to talk to him, it brings back too many memories. Is there anyway for me to get over this? It really hurts me like on a day to day basis and i thought i would be over it by now and i'm not. I don't know what to do.
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You could just talk to Jake and tell him how you feel. You never know he might feel the same way about you. Hope I helped!
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OK...first of all, if he dumped you and didn't give you a reason, no matter how late you think it is, find that reason out. You can't move on until you know what went on!
Second, this guy was too perfect. After while I bet he would have bugged you! :P And, over time, we tend to idolise people - you probably remember him as being much better than he was!! Don't concentrate too much on his faults, 'cause that'll just make you bitter. But everytime you think, 'damn, this new boyfriend doesn't treat me as well as Jake', think, 'yeah, maybe, but I should give this guy a go...plus, Jake was too clingy!' or whatever.
Also, don't talk to him!! If it will help you to get over things, cut him out of your life as much as is physically possible until you have time to 'heal' - it's sweet of him to ring up but he has GOT to understand that, everytime he talks to you, it's like opening up old wounds.
There you go - there's a reason he's not so great - he has no respect for letting you get over things, and he had no respect for your relationship with Ryan!! Just focus on that :P
And lastly...hang on in there. Go out, have fun, get into a couple of relationships, but don't expect too much from them. Have fun - but not too much or you'll start to get a reputation, lol.
Good luck!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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I think it was wrong to go out with him in the first place. Anyone who doesn't respect a relationship isn't really worth it. BUT....I think that you should just try and keep him out your mind. Whenever you start thinking about him, just force him out of your mind. Besta Luck
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Dear,
I think the best thing to do is to change the way you look at things. Just focus on the fact that there was this great person in your life not on that he is not there anymore. Some people never get to meet people like that person. One more thing you might consider doing is telling him how you feel, not trying to get back together just letting your emotions out instead of suppressing them, so you can let go and move on. Also why not try being just friends? This way it would not feel like there is a big gaping hole in your life because he is not around.
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your going to have to try your hardest to get over him. get rid of everything that reminds you of him or just try to deal with it... make up a list of all his bad points... no matter how small they are. when you have a b/f compare the bad points not the good points. good luck.
~ANGE
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