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My name is "Lucy" Of course that isn't my real name.
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why do people want to have sex so badly????????? (link)
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Some do it for attention, To feel loved, needed, cared for, special etc. Others do it just because they feel they need to and their friends are doing it.
Half of the population especially those between 13-17 ...I would say just for attention and because their friends are doing it...
I'm NOT going to say sex is okay as long as you are smart about it, I'm going to say sex is something that should be taken seriously and waited until older than 17...That's my opinion I will also add yes it is also smart to use protection also.
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Who's better?
Britney or Christina (link)
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If I had to choose...
Christina Aguilera
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OK THERES THIS BOY THAT I WENT OUT WITH LIKE A MONTH AGO(HIS NAME IS BEN) AND I MEAN HE WAAS GREAT AND STUFF BUT I LIKED MY NEIGHBOR EVEN THOUGH IM NOT GETTING ANYWHERE WITH HIM I LOVE HIM STILL BUT I STILL HAVE FEELINGS FOR BEN ,BUT KNOW HE HAS A NEW GIRLFRIEND BUT IM THE TYPE OF GIRL THAT LOOKS ON THE OUTSIDE OF A BOY FIRST AND BEN JUST WASNT WHAT I WAS LOOKING FOR BUT ON THE INSIDE HE WAS NOW YOUR PROABABLY GOING OT SAY LOOKS DONT MATTER AND THEY MATTER TO ME BECAUSE I DESERVE A HOT GUY LIKE MY NEIGHBOR BUT HE IS JUST NOT LIKE BEN IN THE INSIDE? (link)
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First of all, We hear you there is no need to type in capitals....
Second of all, Looks shouldn't matter because there is much more to a person than just how they look. Honestly, I think that is very shallow to see a person for what they look like and not who they are on the inside.
Shallow and Conceited no offense but if you are all for looks then good luck finding true love...
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i like this guy but he doesntseem like to like u what do i do (link)
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If he doesn't like you then stop wasting your time and move on
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I recently met this guy from this website.
He's really funny & doesnt take anything seriously. And he calls me names like 'bubba' & 'bum bum'. :D
Does anyone know what kind of names [like them ^^] that could call him ?
Thanks x
Btw, if it helps, his name is Tom. (link)
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Those names are a little odd...but okay
Sounds like more of pervert
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f/14. recently (within the last week or so)ive been feeling really down and i cant help but feeling depressed. When i go to school i get bagged out and people take my stuff on purpose just to get me annoyed or will make rude remarks and its really getting to me now. i dont want to go to school anymore and i used to enjoy going to school and catching up with my friends, but the boys (and some girls) are really getting on my nerves. in class i feel like im the loser of the class because its like everyone looks down on me?! and i say to the boys stop saying/doing it and their like 'we're just joking' and i know they dont mean that much harm and their only joking but also theres another boy and i think he might hav a issue or something. it started about two weeks ago and he would come up and grab my arse or hold he and be like all over me and were friends so i asked him to stop and he did but then latr he would like come back and do lap dences kind of and this is all in class *when the teacher wasnt looking* and i would continuesly ask him to stop but sam again. then the other day the boys who make fun of me got questioned by the teachers and told them wat was happening and that i was scared of this boy and told them what he was doing. i was a little annoyed at first that they didnt tell me they were going to tell but i forgave them. were all friends in a weird way but i dont understand why they will be nice and tell for me but then turn around and start joking about me and making me upset :( i dont know wat to do and i keep getting questioned at school by teachers and thast not helping i just get upset and annoed but i dont know y everything is just falling apart. (link)
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The teachers are not there to annoy you, If they are questioning you then they are hoping that you will TALK to them. It is their job and that is what they are there for.
Grabbing your ass, After told a number of times to stop has become the spark of sexual harassment. TELL a teacher, If you don't then not only are you putting stress on yourself and will this continue going the way it is but over time it could get worse. When girls and boys make remarks about you at school you IGNORE it, If it gets too out of hand you tell the teacher. Who cares if people think you are being a snitch, Don't let them get away with it by thinking "Oh I can handle myself, I will just keep telling them to stop" It doesn't work that way. The reason's why the school boards have many issues with sexual harassment, bullying etc these days are because a lot PEOPLE DON'T REPORT IT. Tell the teacher and even your parents because someone needs to put these jerks in their place.
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I was talking to my friend in a chat room and she
decides to randomly ask me if i have mental issues
because i act childlish sometimes i guess from what i type and she also said because of my age which is 19 after she said that i felt hurt on the verge of tears like i was going to cry am i overreacting? I'm thinking she didn't think before she typed she apologized and said she didn't mean to be rude but it still hurt
Was what she said a immature comment? How should i
handle this...she's younger then me age 14 after she said that to me i was thinking how could you say that to someone...what should i do? (link)
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Does she know you in person? You can't assume someone is immature by the way they type or act online. As the internet can say one thing and in person can be another.
Remember, She is 14 years old. You are 19 and there is a big age gap and I'm pretty sure at 14 she still has a lot of growing up and maturing to do herself. Sure, It was offensive and hurtful of her to say but remember you are the older one and this is just the talk of a child. If she makes another comment again, Confront her about it and how it's hurtful when she makes remarks about you.
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Is there a condition when you can't controll your emotions? Like maybe one time you feel happier than ever and then fell really pissed off and go running off and killing someone or something like that? (link)
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Bipolar can be considered a possibility
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I watch my boyfriends five year old little girl she tells me no she isnt going to do something and she wont. today she threw a cookies on the floor i thought it was an acident so pick them up. then goes a can of chip... alittle fishy i clean them up again. next goes her pizza and all her food on her plate... this time i catch her she is doing it on purpose. i tell her five mins of time out she says no.... i say it three more times nicely and she says no. i give her a choice time out or bed time she says neither. so i pick her up take her to the bed room i dont loose my temper i do it calmy and tell her i will see her in the morning goodnight then walk out.
she screams kicks throws stuff now i am mad i hear things falling and hitting the wall... i go in tell her to get into bed and go to sleep now. she jumps in bed then she starts kicking and sreaming begging me no bed time.
I decide its way to early for bed but she can sit in there for 15 mins if she is good she can get up and try again.
15 mins later she is till throwing a fit so i say ok 7 oclock go to bed fine with me. finaly she calms down.
but i have had these fits before and the same results the end in bed time or nap time. i would throw it up to her just being tired but it cant just be that they happen 30 mins after nap time when she is wound up.
how do i deal with this with out spanking.. ignoring this behavoir isnt safe or possible... help me...... (link)
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You need to sit down with your boyfriend and discuss the behavior of the child.
I would set up an award system, Good behavior= Good rewarding and bad behavior = no rewarding. Communicating with your boyfriend is the key to working things out.
If she likes story telling, Then good behavior= Story telling, Movie, Playground etc.
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Hi,
I am 21 and Ive recently been feeling really horrible and slutty about during my teenager years of how i lost my virginity with someone who i knew but wasnt my boyfriend and he then went and slept with someone else that same night i found out later on. Not only this incident but i also feel ashamed of another person who i slept with who wasnt my boy friend wither about a year after that.I was single so that is not an issue but I just feel really slutty and im worried its going to affect my future relationships if they find about about it. I just genereally feel guilty of how i acted in my teenager years with boys and need to ask whether or not anyone thinks I should feel worthless and not worthy of having a serious relationship? (link)
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As long as you dwell on it then it will effect you, emotionally and physically. Everyone makes mistakes, You slept with a loser and now you just need to except it. Focus on the future, Not what already has been done and can't be fixed. If we were all to dwell on our past we'd all be miserable.
You have learned a lesson, Now it is time to move forward and have a healthier relationship. Let it go
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I dated the guy for few months and we are really like a couple in-love. He calls me everyday, we go out often. He said i have a special place in his heart. I cannot say we were in a relationship because he never said he loves me. Unexpectedly i got pregnant, he said he is not yet ready for me but he loves to have the baby and he will be responsible. He was very supportive during first few months of my pregnancy then he got cold, fewer phone calls until none at all and we don't go out anymore. I asked him what is the problem, he said some issues about him self, i asked if we can talk about it, he just asked for time. We did not communicate for few weeks, i gave him space then I recieve 2 easter greeting text message from him the other one is not for me but for his ex-girlfriend's mother. Honestly my response is not good i told him to get out of my life coz i felt he still loves his ex thats why he ignores me. He said sorry through text and never called me few days after due to depression i deleted him in my ym and blocked him in my mobile. I decided not to have communication for a while because I am so hurt and i don't want to say more odd things. It has gone for more than a month now. I sent him text message the other day and offline messages and no response. Will I let go? (link)
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Forget him
You are pregnant, If the guy doesn't want to be in the picture then it is his loss, That child will grow up to resent him and it is YOU that child will look up too. Once you have that child, If he doesn't come around then I would send him to court and fight for child support as this is his child just as much as it is yours. No, He doesn't sound responsible, In fact he sounds completely immature for turning his back on you and his future child. This is when you begin to realize that likely you will be a single parent, You will be strong and you will raise that child to be educated, smart and so on. A single parent can raise a child alone, You just need to have the will power and the right mentality. Although someone says they are mature enough to handle responsibility time always tells the truth and the truth is he isn't worth the stress. You are pregnant, You don't need to be dealing with his childish crap. Focus on that child and be strong because you can do it.
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19/f.
I'm still a virgin but I'm planning to have sex soon. The thing is i've been on birth control probably for 2yrs now for my period and other things. I'm afraid that the guy will be like "ohhh we don't need a condom your on birth control!" but I definitely want to be as safe as I can and use both. I know the guy shouldn't care if I asked him, but I'm a bit worried. What if we're in the moment and I'm like wait do you have a condom? And he's like no, we don't need one. I'd feel like a total idiot but I'm not doing it without one!! I know guys hate wearing them but better then getting pregnant right? :)
So basically, how can I convince him (if he doesn't want to, i'm not sure yet..) to wear a condom even though I'm still on birth control?
thanks!!:) (link)
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Well this is were you'd say "No glove no love!"
Although you may be on birth control, Anything is still possible and all it takes is ONE time. Just to be on the safe side you can always buy a 3 pack of condoms at a sex store and slide them in your purse. There certainly isn't no way out of that one, Remember guys sometimes think irrationally. You be the one with the brains, A condom and birth control is as safe as you are going to get and good for you for being smart.
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My friends are ALL talking about Justin Bieber's interview today.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DkKqihEUmH4&feature=player_embedded
Here is a link to the youtube video if you haven't seen it.
So since he doesn't even know what the word German means even when he reads it off a card, why are all my friends still crazy about him? I was the only one who thought he sounded like a girl and had stupid scene hair. Now he shows he is a moron and they just "think it is cute!" AWWW! I could vomit.
Can you tell me why morons with stupid hair are sexy? I don't get it.
I will rate you! (link)
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I don't even understand why this guy is a celebrity, I personally couldn't care less for Justin Bieber.
I completely agree with the hair, I put him in the same category as Miley Cyrus as I am not a fan of her either.
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Well to start off my boy friend is a really good boyfriend..he treats me the way I'm supposed to be treated no less, and I don't understand why people are so mean to him..He's kind very friendly..he can be friends with everyone XD He had many truamatizing things happen to him..his first love died..with him in a car crash..he survived and so did his gfs mother..:/ It hurt him so bad..*get ready very gruesome* he took a knife and cut himself deep to the bone up to his elbo. His scar is still there. He's very sensitve shy, and very caring. Always there for me. Now we went threw a lot already..and I still love him. After everything. Now he has this friend and she likes him, she has a boy friend.. but she still hangs around my boy friend hangs on to him it really makes me nervous and worried. Now I'm in 8th grade and I can't see whats going on. That's what hurts the most. He is very hoenst to me..lately people tht dislike him tell me all kinds of storys..like "oh shes all over him, they kiss" They don't from what my boy friend tells me..he can't lie to me. He doesn't and i trust him..but its getting really hard to deal when both of our familys dislike each other..people are trying to make him seem like the bad guy ..when he's not. Just hard (link)
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Sit down and talk to your boyfriend, Communicating is the way to work things out and in the end it brings two people closer. Tell your boyfriend how you feel about him and what he means to you, How he makes you happy. If you have witnessed the girl hanging all over your boyfriend then tell your boyfriend that you really don't feel comfortable when girls hang all over him when he is in a relationship with you as it makes you feel very uncomfortable and disrespected. Relationships come with boundaries, and in order to follow these boundaries you need to make them with your partner. Trust and honesty is a plus, However bare in mind that a lot of people will say things about your relationship that you may disapprove of. That is just a part of life, Everyone deals with it. No relationship is perfect and I can promise you that there is always one person to make a negative comment about a relationship. This is how you overcome it you ignore what other comments people have to say. Ignoring rude remarks people make about your relationship just shows that you and your partner can hold your own without negativity. Despite how truthful your boyfriend is too you remember that anyone can lie and as much as you believe your boyfriend can't lie too you anything is possible. Sit down and CALMLY talk to your boyfriend, Tell one another how you feel and what is on your mind, what's bothering you, etc. This is exactly how you work through things.
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my friend i've known sense i was 9 and he was 16, bumped into each other like 4 months ago. his family spoils me rottin and they treat me as their owin (i mean i've known them sense i was 9). My mom knows he's way older than me but she feels as if he is her son. But wat neither of our parents know is, we have been talking to each other more and more each night, i walk 2 blocks away from my house so he can pick me up and take me to school. During my lunch time he brings me food, and after school he lets me drive his car (i'm praticeing for my linces)he basicly does whtever i ask him to do. its not about sex with him, because if it it was he wold've left me alone a month and a 1/2 ago.
But 2 days ago we were playing a game (21 questions) and out of no where he tells me he wants to be with me FOREVER. then tonight on the phone he tells me AGAIN, he said he would get me a place to stay, help me get a part time job, (he already has a full time job, that pays good)and anything i need he's got it covered. But its the whole FOREVER thing that makes my skin crawl... i'm not sure where my feelings are with him, but i know i like being around him. i know he's serious about "FOREVER" too, but i don't know what to do.
can you give me advice please... i'm confused. (link)
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You are young, He is young...Although he is 21 I highly doubt he has his lifetime commitments down for good.
Being in a relationship with him is iffy, There is a huge age gap between the two of you. If you two were ever to have a sexual relationship it would be classified as statutory rape and although your parents like him all it takes is for one person to spread the word around. If you two were meant to be let it happen, If he really is forever than he should be worth a 2 year wait. Never let a guy fool you into the "forever" thing, Time tells itself were to go.
I would wait
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I lost my virginity and I wish I hadn't. Can someone explain if there is a way that this can be fixed with an oeration? Is there a surgery for hymen reconstruction?
I will rate you!
Thanks (link)
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Yes there is a way but you will have to Google it
Loosing your virginity is a personal choice, Once it is gone it's gone and not even surgery is going to take away the fact that you are no longer a virgin. Hymen reconstruction is probably not only costly but painful with risk of infections.
Except the fact that you lost your virginity and get over it.
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i'm 17/f and i think i'm developing a problem. i started drinking alcohol when i was about 14 or 15. sometimes it would just be a small sip of wine or beer, and then when i was 16, i started stealing money from my sisters to buy it from a friend who could legally buy it. now, i just mix vodka or wine with sunny D. its my parents liquor, and usually i only drink a decent amount until i can sleep well or feel good. sometimes i take some to school or to my friends house so we can all get drunk.
but last saturday night, i was drinking a small amount, and kept refilling my glass. and before i knew it, i couldnt remember my name or where i left my phone. i couldnt even walk. i'd been drunk like that before, but not for over a year. and then i woke up sunday hungover as hell. i promised myself i'd never drink again. but now, here i am, writing this, drinking wine. in my mind, its better than doing drugs because its legal and its not costing me anything, and i don't even think its fair that the drinking age is 21. do i have a problem, or am i just being a teenager? and if i do have a problem, how do i stop? (link)
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You have a problem, This isn't just any teenage behavior.
If you are stealing money, Getting drunk and bringing alcohol to school then something is wrong. Honestly, I would look into rehab because although there is a big difference between drugs and alcohol technically when it comes to addiction they share similarities. They all have bad results if they are consumed enough. Alcohol, Depending on how much intake and how often you drink can cause memory loss, Alcohol poisoning, Liver and brain damage etc. while drugs can also cause brain damage, tooth decay and a load of other health problems. You need to talk to someone, Someone you trust a parent a guidance counselor or even a teacher. At the age of 18, If this keeps going down this road you can end up with serious consequences once you hit the age of 18 as then you would be considered legally an adult and if you were ever caught under the influence of alcohol your parents will be held responsible as you are now a minor. Rehab
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18/F
5'6" 120lbs
I take birth control so it's harder for my body it gain muscle. I'm not fat but I'm just not happy with my love handles. I've been eating healthier and have been exercising but my love handles don't seem to tighten up. Is there anything I can take to tighten my muscles like Quicktrim or something like that?
Thank you :) (link)
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I would do some exercise that will put muscles there, You can spread your legs apart and bend your knees and twist back forth a few times a day. I wouldn't go with Quicktrim they are just another one of them things that want your money.
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I haven't had sex and im 15... Am I a freak? Cause it seems like all my friends are talking about having sex and I don't even WANT to until I am married.
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Having sex is NOT a race, It is NOT about loosing your virginity and it is NOT about being cool or trying to "fit" in. Sex is something that should be shared with someone special, Someone you trust and someone you have been with for a long time. I'm going to have to agree with the person below me WAIT, There should be no rush when it comes to that. It is a personal choice, No you are not a freak in face I give you the thumbs up for still keeping a strong head.
Wait until you are good and ready, Don't just do something because you feel all of your friends are doing it because frankly not only do I think that is a completely stupid reason but it isn't cool either.
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I have a webcam, and I don't want a video I just want to take a picture of myself to put on my profile.
how do you get a facebook picture on your webcam? (link)
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Cameroid.com will do the job
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