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Looks matter to me BECAUSE I DESERVE A HOT GUY!
OK THERES THIS BOY THAT I WENT OUT WITH LIKE A MONTH AGO(HIS NAME IS BEN) AND I MEAN HE WAAS GREAT AND STUFF BUT I LIKED MY NEIGHBOR EVEN THOUGH IM NOT GETTING ANYWHERE WITH HIM I LOVE HIM STILL BUT I STILL HAVE FEELINGS FOR BEN ,BUT KNOW HE HAS A NEW GIRLFRIEND BUT IM THE TYPE OF GIRL THAT LOOKS ON THE OUTSIDE OF A BOY FIRST AND BEN JUST WASNT WHAT I WAS LOOKING FOR BUT ON THE INSIDE HE WAS NOW YOUR PROABABLY GOING OT SAY LOOKS DONT MATTER AND THEY MATTER TO ME BECAUSE I DESERVE A HOT GUY LIKE MY NEIGHBOR BUT HE IS JUST NOT LIKE BEN IN THE INSIDE?
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I'm not going to say that looks don't matter. Looks do matter to a certain degree; you need to be attracted physically to your partner. However, judging guys by their outside first is a sure ticket to a miserable relationship.
In order to have a good, loving relationship (real love, not this 'love' you say you have for your neighbour who isn't interested in you) you need to share core values with your partner, and enjoy spending time with each other. That's more important than anything else, especially more so than looks.
If you truly believe that looks are the most important thing, what you deserve is the shoddy relationship you're going to have. What happens when your beauty starts to fade at 35-40? If your husband is as shallow as you say you are, then he'll leave you for some hot young thing.
What you and all other women really deserve is to be with a guy who treats you right, and is good and respectful. That is the most important thing in life.
One more thing you might not know is that once you fall in love with a guy, he becomes a million times more attractive. My fiancé isn't an Adonis, but I think he's the most handsome guy on the planet because I love him and he loves me. Hopefully you'll turn your priorities around and be equally lucky one day :)
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You don't deserve anything. No one does. Relationships don't work on the concept of "deserve" the work on the concept of "I am able to attract this or that specific person and that person is someone who I am also attracted to and interested in"
Guys are not objects. We aren't "a hot guy you deserve", we're people with desires, attractions, turn offs, and everything else you have. We want to be appreciated as people, and not pursued as "a standard you think the world owes you"
No, he's not like Ben on the inside. No two people are a like on the inside. And by the way, you date people because of what's on the inside. The outside is merely there to facilitate the desire to fuck each other. As long as you both want that, it's everything ELSE that makes a relationship.
The neighbor probably is ignoring you like the child you're honestly acting like. Under 16 (I'm guessing from the all caps I'm about to report you for, no offense) and entitled. You aren't entitled to anything, relationships are something you deserve because another person cares enough about you to say you deserve one with them, and for no other reason.
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SO I REALIZE YOU'RE PROBABLY AROUND 13 OR SO AND BECAUSE OF THAT I'M GOING TO CUT YOU A RARE BIT OF SLACK BUT I REALLY THINK YOU SHOULD REEVALUATE YOUR ENTIRE CONCEPT OF DATING ESPECIALLY CONSIDERING YOU STILL PROBABLY WATCH HANNAH MONTANA AND HAVE A FEW BARBIES YOU WHIP OUT OF YOUR CLOSET WHEN YOU'RE DOWN SO IF YOU'RE THIS SHALLOW AS FAR AS WHAT YOU DESERVE IN A BOY I THINK YOU SHOULDN'T BE DATING BOYS AT ALL AND SHOULD INSTEAD BE FOCUSING ON GRADUATING FROM 7TH GRADE YA?
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First of all, We hear you there is no need to type in capitals....
Second of all, Looks shouldn't matter because there is much more to a person than just how they look. Honestly, I think that is very shallow to see a person for what they look like and not who they are on the inside.
Shallow and Conceited no offense but if you are all for looks then good luck finding true love...
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Okay first off... Really and Truly looks tend to ACTUALLY matter to almost everyone... at least a little bit. But if you are going to continuously look for the whole package... if will take you a long time to find anyone.
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ok think of it this way: would you rather spend your life with: a very hot guy that you dont love, or a person not so hott but you love him and he loves you. in the end youll need someone that will comfort you and love you, not someone who will make you look good in front of your friends.
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Im not going to tell you to look on the inside of a guy, Im just going to tell you that you're shallow. I dont mean that in a bad way beacuse many people are. Try to get to know each of the guys more and see which ones better for you.
-shay :-)
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If you're not that hot yourself goodluck finding a guy who looks good inside and out. There are actually very few of them and most of them are already taken. May I also remind you that in the real world everyone has their own flaws. Nobody is perfect! You have to really decide what's important to you, good looks or a good heart. If you're neighbor has a girlfriend already and you said yourself you're not getting anywhere with him, why are you wasting your energy on him? Look around you and you'll see there's actually more to life than good looks. Sometimes the average looking ones are more fun to be with than those hot looking guys.
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