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When one flaunts there new relationship all over the internet, I.E Bob is so hot. I've never been so happy. He's absolutely amazing. I'm so lucky. Like, wow. He's so hot. He's so hot. Like, everywhere...is it safe to think that the person doing this is insecure about the relationship, and is just trying to prove to everyone how great it is, when maybe it's not all that wonderful? (link)
Sometimes people can just be feeling very happy and special that they have a new boyfriend or friend and they want people to know about it. Other times people that are feeling insecure will put it in there just because it makes them feel good that people will know they have someone.


im in love with my neighbor and even if we have to runaway im gonna marry that boy someday (link)
Very General question...but if you're willing to run away to marry him I guess that shows your dedication and love.


OK THERES THIS BOY THAT I WENT OUT WITH LIKE A MONTH AGO(HIS NAME IS BEN) AND I MEAN HE WAAS GREAT AND STUFF BUT I LIKED MY NEIGHBOR EVEN THOUGH IM NOT GETTING ANYWHERE WITH HIM I LOVE HIM STILL BUT I STILL HAVE FEELINGS FOR BEN ,BUT KNOW HE HAS A NEW GIRLFRIEND BUT IM THE TYPE OF GIRL THAT LOOKS ON THE OUTSIDE OF A BOY FIRST AND BEN JUST WASNT WHAT I WAS LOOKING FOR BUT ON THE INSIDE HE WAS NOW YOUR PROABABLY GOING OT SAY LOOKS DONT MATTER AND THEY MATTER TO ME BECAUSE I DESERVE A HOT GUY LIKE MY NEIGHBOR BUT HE IS JUST NOT LIKE BEN IN THE INSIDE? (link)
Okay first off... Really and Truly looks tend to ACTUALLY matter to almost everyone... at least a little bit. But if you are going to continuously look for the whole package... if will take you a long time to find anyone.


I am a really shy girl...I don't talk volunteerely in school to anybody. I have this crazy idea to ask him out. He's seen me before, but we don't actually know eachother. I'm so confused. I want to ask him out because I realize this is my life and I have to start living it to the fullest.
Please...I don't want to confront him even though I would have to in order to ask him out. What do I do?...besides putting a note in his locker because there's cameras in my school so that's out of the question. Plus, my school is very loud and there's always somebody in the hallway. Please help me. I'm so nervous but you don't understand how badly I want to do this. (link)
It's going to be hard for you to get anything started with him since you're so shy. Since you said you don't normally talk to anyone why don't you start getting more involved in some school things or start talking tio other people and making friends and things so you can bring yourself out of the shyness a bit... then when you feel it is really time to talk with him and things like that you will be more ready.It will be better to socialize yourself to more other people before jumping in "Headfirst" so to speak...


Why can't he see all the signs I try to make whenever he looks at me I try to look back and make eye contact but he always turns away too quickly. . i really love him! I cantt ake my eyes off of him. . and soemtimes I think he gets annoyed because I stare at him so much. . I just melt wheneerI try to go talk to him I cant do it. . im too nervous I dont have anything to say I men we could talka bout his football. . ugh and well I dont think hed like me. . and Im so negative. . Are his looks of anger? or for love? I dont understand if he likes me or not. . I rlly like him and I wish I could have a chance with him. (link)
He could be scared. Maybe he's not used to getting that much attention from people? Why not try talkign to him instead of just looking? You could get some good results possibly.


OK IM 13 IN 8TH GRADE AND IM 5'6 AND WEIGH 130 LBS THATS LIKE SO FAT IM TRYING TO LOSE WEIGHT I WANT TO GET DOWN TO AT LEAST 115 IM JUST FAT IN MY STOMACH WELL KINDA OF AND IM MOSTLY MUSCLE CUZ I LIFT HEAVEY THINGS AND PLAY SOCCER SO MY LEGS ARE MOSTLY MUSCLE BUT I THINK IM TO FAT FOR MY AGE I MEAN IM ON A DIET THE FAT FREE ONE BWECAUSE I WANT TO LOOK GOOD IN MY BIKINI BY MAY OR APRIL SO DO U THINK IM TOO FAT AND COULD U TELL ME SOME GOOD WAYS TO GET SKINNY I WANT TO LOOK LIKE PARIS HILTON BECAUSE THE BOY I LIKE WHICH IS MY NEIGHBOR SAYS THAT SHES HOT AND UR PROABABLY GOING TO SAY NOT TO CHANGE MYSELF FOR HIM BUT I WOULD DO ANYTHING FOR MY NEIGHBOR HE IS THE MAN OF MY DREAMS!!! HELP ME !!!! (link)
Hunny... That is not fat. If you are trying to lose weight kind of quicky there is an arcade game that many people play and love that has helped many a person lose weight quickly... it is called "Dance Dance Revolution" It is a fun game as well as an exercise. It sounds to me that when you look into the mirror you see what you have probably been telling yourself for a long while and your mind has come to believe that. I felt the same way untill friends made me truly see that I needed to just enjoy who I was and feel good about myself... dieting is no fun and sometimes not very apetizing.


IM 13 AND THE BOY I LIKE IS 14 SHOULD I TELL HIM I HAVE FEELINGS FOR HIM OR WAIT TILL IM OLDER? IM REALLY REALLY SCARED OF REJECTIONAND I MWORRIED WHAT HE WILL SAY... SHOUDL I WAIT TILL IM IN 9TH GRADE OR SHOULD I TELL HIM THIS SUMMER WHILE HE IS OVER SWIMMING I DONT WANT TO BREAK OUR FRIENDSHIP IM JUST SCARED OF REJECTION PLEASE HELP ME!!!! (link)
Just tell him. Mostly everyone has SOME fear of rejection. It will be better to get it off your chest. If it dosen't work out... There's a quote that I'm SURE you've heard before... "There are plenty more fish in the sea" he may not be your "fish" If it dosen't work out with him I have no doubt you will find someone else who is either just as good if not better


if the boy i liked forgot my age and thought i was 12 still and not 13 is that a bad thing? and does that mean he doesnt like me? or do boys tend to forget girls age? i have repeated my b-day a lot of times in front of him (link)
Some people are horrible with dates and things like that. Take me for example... I cannot remember someone's birthday i\unless it is someone I have known pretty much all of my life without writing it down on a callendar. I don't think it would truly be a bad thing because it could just be the simple reason that he has trouble remembering dates and things.


if i had a dream about a boy that i dumped like a month ago and i liked the dream does that mean i like him? (link)
It does not necisarilly mean that you like him in that way. Your mind could just be picking out someone you remembered possibly being intimate with or having a nice relationship with and placing said person in your dreams. It's hard to answer a question like this because each person is different. You can always do research on dreams if you are that concerned about it.


WHAT ARE SOME GOOD THINGS TO TALK ABOUT WITH YOUR CRUSH? (link)
Find topics that you both have an interest in. Also try asking him questions about things he likes to do and movies or TV shows he likes to watch.


does it hurt to have sex if it is your first time?i eman is there a lot of pain involed for the girl? (link)
I can't really say because I am still happily a virgin. You can always do research about it on different websites. There is also a show on on sunday nights called "Talk " on the Oxygen channel and there is a website too... I'm sure that you would be able to find information there.
Hope this helps.


WHAT ARE THE SIGNS THAT SHOW A BOY LIKES YOU? (link)
Different guys give different signs. It could be anything from the way he acts round you, the way he smiles to you, to things he says. The best way to find out if someone likes you is really just to talk to the person if you have a particular one in mind.




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