I am pregnant and the father of the baby ignores me, we are not married.
Question Posted Thursday May 6 2010, 7:11 pm
I dated the guy for few months and we are really like a couple in-love. He calls me everyday, we go out often. He said i have a special place in his heart. I cannot say we were in a relationship because he never said he loves me. Unexpectedly i got pregnant, he said he is not yet ready for me but he loves to have the baby and he will be responsible. He was very supportive during first few months of my pregnancy then he got cold, fewer phone calls until none at all and we don't go out anymore. I asked him what is the problem, he said some issues about him self, i asked if we can talk about it, he just asked for time. We did not communicate for few weeks, i gave him space then I recieve 2 easter greeting text message from him the other one is not for me but for his ex-girlfriend's mother. Honestly my response is not good i told him to get out of my life coz i felt he still loves his ex thats why he ignores me. He said sorry through text and never called me few days after due to depression i deleted him in my ym and blocked him in my mobile. I decided not to have communication for a while because I am so hurt and i don't want to say more odd things. It has gone for more than a month now. I sent him text message the other day and offline messages and no response. Will I let go?
You are pregnant, If the guy doesn't want to be in the picture then it is his loss, That child will grow up to resent him and it is YOU that child will look up too. Once you have that child, If he doesn't come around then I would send him to court and fight for child support as this is his child just as much as it is yours. No, He doesn't sound responsible, In fact he sounds completely immature for turning his back on you and his future child. This is when you begin to realize that likely you will be a single parent, You will be strong and you will raise that child to be educated, smart and so on. A single parent can raise a child alone, You just need to have the will power and the right mentality. Although someone says they are mature enough to handle responsibility time always tells the truth and the truth is he isn't worth the stress. You are pregnant, You don't need to be dealing with his childish crap. Focus on that child and be strong because you can do it. [ OhMyLucyDarling's advice column | Ask OhMyLucyDarling A Question ]
Katlyn answered Friday May 7 2010, 6:31 pm: Obviously he isnt be responsible so theres no need to have him around you need a guy who is going to be there for you and your child and honestly he doesnt seem like the type to be by your side so let him go just forget him and ignore him your better off alone then with a guy who is only going to hurt you more in the long run just stay happy have your baby and just wait one day the right guy will come around and you will be happy about the decision you made to let this guy go. Good luck :D [ Katlyn's advice column | Ask Katlyn A Question ]
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