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I recently started my freshman year at college and i'm having trouble making friends. I know some people but they are on a different floor and i don't know them well enough to just be dropping in all the time- and since there are a bunch of them on that floor they are always going out together. And the floor i am on doesn't have that great of a group of girls. I have a really good roomate but thats about it. And i can't just be wandering into other dorms hahah.

How can I make some friends without seeming like a stalker?

Well, I just started my freshman year also and you are about to experience the best year of your life! BELIEVE ME!

Although, I'm going to community and still live at home...I will share with you some of my tips.
Show an interest in others...
someone held the door for me and after thanking them I asked them if they were new to the school, also. You don't need some huge purpose to talk to someone. everyone is open to meeting new people. especially when they are living away from home. Try going to the cafeteria and say to someone..."Do you mind if I sit here?" they won't turn you down! Put yourself out there and you won't regret a thing!

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Hi I'm an 18 year old female and this is my first semester at college. I don't drink hardly any milk when I eat, so I don't think I'm getting enough calcium. Right now I am taking a womens multi vitamin and on the back it says I am getting 50% of my daily calcium value. So my question is would it be okay to take a calcium supplement along with my multi vitamin or would that be too much? Thank you!

Of course it's okay! I take both. my calcium supplement is 40% of my daily value for every two pills and my multi vitamin gives me 30%. Along with that I drink a glass of orange juice that has added Calcium and Vitamin D. The juice gives me 35%
All together I get 105% which is great for me as long as I'm consistent and do this everyday! I hoped my personal example helped!

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16/F

I'm tired of being the nice girl that everyone steps on; I want to change. But how do you just stop caring what everyone else thinks?

I go out of my way trying to please everyone and if someone doesn't like me it's all I think about, and i'll do just about anything to try to get into their good graces. I just hate when people don't like me.

How do you just not care what people think? How do you get over the petty girls in high school who hate you for non-existent reasons and just live your life and be who you are, regardless of who hates you for it?

I totally understand.
Well, just remember that it is NOT selfish to put yourself first! Don't put yourself aside to do a deed for someone that won't even appreciate it. For example: during class, someone asked me if I could switch seats with her, so that her friend could sit there. I took that as a chance to say "No, I'm comfortable here." Be careful who you say this to, though. It's okay to be considerate, but if your not getting the same consideration in return...use your guts and not your heart as much!

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My friends drawer was short 500 dollars at work after getting it count... should she be worried about loosing her job? She just got hired completed her 30 days last week & this is her first mistake..help?

Maybe...maybe not.
She will probably get "written up" for this incident, but each worker is aloud a few write-ups every-so often (depending on the company)

Since it was such a large sum of money: they may take into consideration if she can be considered a trustworthy person despite what happened. I mean, unless she comes of as a really shady person, she'll probably keep her job.

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other than limewire, how else can i download music for free?

try:
www.purevolume.com
it's mostly bands that are unsigned and unknown, but they have some great artists.
some even offer free downloads.
give it a go.

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SO many times i have heard over and over that you cant change people. Women cant change men, men cant change women... yet I've seen it happen. Right before my eyes. How is it possible that some of us are exceptions to this rule and some of us ARE the rule???? and how would one know...

I guess I'm just looking for some insight on how this psychology of changing occurs... I would like some opinions. How is it that no matter how stubborn a person is, someone comes along that can change them...and why is it that only that person can, nobody else...
any opinions, personal philosophies, that sort of thing?

I think a person can only be changed by their own will. Sure, someone can inspire them to make that change, but it could be because they fully respect that person. But like I said: nobody can change a person who isn't welcome to changing themselves.

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16/f

im the new kid and i no absoutly no one im going to be a junior and im pretty shy so how can i make it easier on myself so im not so nervous

A quote that I've learned to live by is "Nobody cares if you're miserable, so you might as well be happy!" It's so true! If you act shy and timid you're probably going to be overlooked...but if you realize that you deserve to be happy: you'll find yourself surrounded with some good people. Happiness puts people at ease and attracts more happiness, so keep a smile on your face and mean it!

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Im supposed to be going away to school this fall. I graduated in 2008 and stayed home for my first year and commuted to community college but Ive been accepted to a state university and am supposed to start. My main problem is I dont really want to go, I know that I will have a hard time finding good jobs and such if I don't. But I just really dont want to go. Do you think I should? Or should I stick around and try to find a job somewhere?

I just graduated this year and thought for a while that I would be fine without college, but truth is: I was going through one of my anti-social periods and didn't want to be surrounded by people again like I was in highschool. I got over that and learned to approach things that suited me with a better attitude. Think about the long term...if you're not AVOIDING college because of fear,then do whatever you were going to do without college in the picture. Just don't let fear get the best of you!

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Like Taylor Swift says "I got tired of waiting, wondering if you were ever coming along...my faith in you was fading"

well anyway my question i guess is how many of you out there still have faith in love... and i guess what are some of your theories on finding it, keeping it, and losing it. feel free to rant and leave long philosophical answers... i wanna hear it

Ya know, I'm already 18 and I've never had a boyfriend. I feel like I owe it to myself to figure myself out before trying to make sense of who someone else is. I know I'm going to find the truest love out there because I didn't get caught up in having a relationship too young and I won't have baggage to carry forth to the relationship I actually want to settle into.

There is someone out there with a lot of love to give. Just make a believer out of yourself!

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is there a website where you can like..edit your skin in a picture??

like make it look lighter..darker..get rid of blemishes..? and is it free??

thanks!

try www.lunapic.com

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so i sing. and i'm trying out for this competition. so i had one of my close friends listen to a recording of me singing....i sent it over text. she didn't say a word....i asked her if she had receieved the recording...and she said "yeah, woo hoo! i just got it right now."....it bugs me that she wont telll me how it sounds...at least let me know what you think you know...

I can't tell you what she's thinking, but I'm very into singing myself, so you're welcome to send it over to me and I'll give you some constuctive feedback! just Email me...
lisaxfaith@yahoo.com

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hi. i'm really a go-getter. i've listed all the things i want to experience before turning 20 but i don't know where to start!!!
i want to do lots of things but i just can't start on something!
i want to learn baking, photography, driving,volunteer at a charity,mountain climbing,change my fashion style, etc.. and etc!!
i just don't know where to start! pls. help. i don't want to end up having lots of these goals but regret them for not being able to do them. LIFE IS SHORT.

~dreamer.18/f

I'm 18 also and I am dealing with the same thing. I'm so excited to piece my life together, but I don't know what's a priority. Start small...try baking something new once a week. Don't overdo it by thinking you have to know everything about baking. Do it for fun and as an activity. For photography: read up on some sites on techniques, lighting...etc and have a photoshoot with some friends. Even gardening...if you are into that: plant a set of flowers in your yard. Don't focus too much on one activity. Take the time to learn which of these bring out the best in you and make you feel alive! Good luck!

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so one day i was randomly singing with my best friend ana, when all of a sudden she stopped but i continued. When i finished the song, she's like "ohmigosh you can sing!" I honestly dont think so. so ana forced me to sing to my other bestie mary who also sings, and she said the same thing. This continued for the entire week, then they made me sing for my high school friend who is auditioning for american idol nxt year, and he also said i could sing R&B. evryone says i can except me. Should i take a chance and believe them? Or should i just keep it to myself? I know this is hard w/o a sample but please try you best.
thx

Think about it: it's not like you asked their opinion, so they didn't feel like they had to compliment you. You didn't expect the compliment yourself. It was candid and genuine. You need to just believe in yourself because your peers are convinced that you have a great voice, which I'm sure you do! =]

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does anyone know if smooth away really works? thanks

yes, it does! I just answered a question similar to this...look at my column for a more detailed response.

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so today i got the smooth away pads..i've used them on my arm's and upper lip already..and they've worked really really well! my skin is smooth...and it didnt get red or irritated or anything. it did kinda tingle after i used it..but it went away super quick...but..i'm afraid that the hair will grow back thicker and darker each time i use it..but i've heard that each time you use it..it grow's back thiner..i've got super super super dark black hair..and so every hair on my body is dark black..

so could anyone share their experiences with this product?

I love this product and it grows in to the same texture as it did from all the times you shaved it. If your hair usually comes out darker and thicker after each shave...then that'll happen with the smooth away, but this product won't make the hairs any different than shaving would.

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So I'm on the executive board at my school, and we always have a bunch of people show up to meetings, but whenever we need to decorate the hallways during spirit week or decorate for homecoming, not very many people show up. What are good ways to increase club participation (without threatening to kick them out)

Order a box of pizza to snack on when you're done decorating. It sounds simple, but some people will actually look forward to it.

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Hi i'm a 15 year old girl and i've known this guy for about 2 years now. A few days ago he kissed me out of nowhere and then almost immediatly afterwards asked me to be his girlfriend and we both have had feelings for eachother. The only problem is he's johovawitness and for anyone who knows anything about that he's not allowed to date out of the religion or even at this age. To make matters worse i'm aithiest. He's really not even allowed to get close to 'worldly' people(people not part of the religion). He once tried to have a relationship like this but it ended badly with his parents intense disapproval. Alot of his privileges were taken away and are still gone. I'm not exactly sure how i should handle this...with his last relationship he hid it alot but got caught and snuck out time and time again to see her. i dont want him to put a barrier between him and his family again like he did for his ex, but i cant just see him inside of school till he's old enough to move out. I could really use some advice from someone who knows an acceptable amount about this religion

My best friend shares the same beliefs. Well, if you're not interested in sharing hs religion, then the relationship just can't occur. You have your beliefs and he has his. He's still of the age where he should be obeying his parents and you don't want to be the one who puts a strain on his relationship with both parents. So your options are:
go to some meetings with him if you are seriously interested in converting
or
look for someone else.
It doesn't seem fair, but as for this religion: those who are affiliated are really into their beliefs.

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Okay. This is extremely crazy && long.
but here it goes anyway...

I took a history class two years ago (my freshman year) and the teacher was always really cool with everyone. So, while i had the class i got a crush on the teacher. When the class was over at the end of the year, the crush was over too.

Well long story short, the crush is back as of three months. haha. (after two years) and I think im stalking him in a way....

Here are some things I have done:

1. I googled his phone number and address

2. I found his house. ((Its really close to the school. Me and bff drive over there every day at lunch, and i sometimes go in the mornings when i go to get coffee))

3. I called his home phone while he was at school on my friend's cell. AND because I knew he wasnt home, I knew it was going to go to voice mail, so I recorded his voice (message) onto my cell phone && its now saved on my phone.

4. I have a pic of his house on my phone

5 I know for a fact he's single and has never had kids.

6. He's 43. I'm 17.

7.I know the names of his brother, his bro's wife, his mother, his father and his sister.

8. I know that his mother lives with him and his father is dead.

9. I have pics that I found on the internet (facebook, websites, etc) of him saved on my computer.

10. He owns a small local business.... Sooo me and my friend went to a holiday inn and stole a "do not disturb" sign and wrote a sexual note to him (without signing it) and taped it to the front of the business door.

11. I've photoshopped a picture of me and him together (as a joke)

12. I walk by his classroom everyday, even though i havent taken his class in two years.

13. I love him.

14. JUST RECENTLY, and the thing that made me realize this is begining to be a problem............me and my friend were skipping class, and we drove over to his house and stole his junk mail. I still have the mail in my car. It was only two little credit card applications, but it has his name on the front, which i love.


^^ i know this all sounds crazy or like a joke, but i swear it's my life. I hate it but I love it at the same time. He's so amazing. I cant get over this. I dont want to get over this, but I KNOW i need to stop before something bad happens because of me.

Advice please????


At least you recognize it's a problem. You have seriously gone too far & I would suggest leaving him alone. I don't see why you should feel comfortable even having a normal relationship with this guy at this point, considering how you invaded his privacy. I realize this is a harsh response to your question, but it's true.

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16F

I usually get my jeans at PacSun, and they've been pretty good but lately they kindof bother me, like i'll have a bunch of the same size and some of them will be too tight, and some might fit ok, and then like all of them sortof like ripple in the zipper area whenever i sit and it's annoying and weird looking. What stores have good jeans that fit well and are pretty comfortable? that includes regular fitted jeans and the skinny jeans that are in style now.

def. Charolette Russe... (sp?)
the brand "Refuge"
they are so comfortable and look awesome.

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I dated this guy for a year we met at collage it was going really well and we were really close. About a month ago he dumped me and he said he couldnt go out with me eneymore as me being mixedraced confuses things to much for him and that when it comes to relationships he would rather stick to his own race which is white. I dont understand this at all as he dated me for a year and we never spoke about race should I confront him as I really love him still. Thanx sophie

Honestly, why confront him? For him to put the blame on you being bi-racial shows immaturity as well as insecurity.(on his part)
You're way more than a skin tone and shame on him for not knowing. He's not right for you.

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