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Tired of playing nice.
16/F
I'm tired of being the nice girl that everyone steps on; I want to change. But how do you just stop caring what everyone else thinks?
I go out of my way trying to please everyone and if someone doesn't like me it's all I think about, and i'll do just about anything to try to get into their good graces. I just hate when people don't like me.
How do you just not care what people think? How do you get over the petty girls in high school who hate you for non-existent reasons and just live your life and be who you are, regardless of who hates you for it?
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I'vebeen where you are. And sometimes I still have to work on it. I use to always care what other people think of me and, I started to let that dictate mylife. I was real people pleaser, and sometimes I was unhappy because, I let people drain my all away from me. But frankly, you have to come to a point when, you have to really love yourself. And you have to think Gee I am who I am, and if someone don't like me, well you know where they can go. You are you'r own self, and by continuing to please others, you're loosing peices of yourself. How to get over themean girls who don't like you? Simply ignore them high school is short, and soon they'll be out of your life forever. You need to work on yourself and stop caring what evryone else think. From your words it seems as if you don't have the higest selfesteem. And that's something you should be trying to work on now. Because if not, it can affect you in the future, in jobs, relationships, with your children, an friends. Everyone can't be the most prettiest or even the most popular,but the important thing is to love and please yourself. Best of luck to you!
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I totally understand.
Well, just remember that it is NOT selfish to put yourself first! Don't put yourself aside to do a deed for someone that won't even appreciate it. For example: during class, someone asked me if I could switch seats with her, so that her friend could sit there. I took that as a chance to say "No, I'm comfortable here." Be careful who you say this to, though. It's okay to be considerate, but if your not getting the same consideration in return...use your guts and not your heart as much!
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I know exctly how you feel and it finally took someone to completly push me over the edge before i started not caring anymore. I dont know you or how you are so you might be able to stop yourself before you get hurt bad enough. Just have confidence in yourself and just try to ignore the people that dont like you (your never going to be liked by everyone no matte how hard you try) Just be you and the people that are in your life are there for a reason and the people that arent, dont worry about them because they have nothing better to do than to make you miserable.
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I know how you feel. I used to be the exact same way. Once, in 6th grade, someone made fun of my outfit. I know..it may seem stupid to get upset about that..but I did, I even cried. Ever since then I never wore the same outfit again. Sad right? That's how much I cared what people thought about me. I'm not going to lie either, I still do care! But, not as much. Honestly, you're just a naturally nice person! It's not your fault! Girls, especially in high school, always talk about others. Why do they do this? Because they have low self-esteem and it makes them feel better to make others feel bad about themselves.
It's impossible to NOT care what people think. Some, like yourself, just care a lot more. Don't be what others want you to be. Be YOU!
You need to know who you are, and love yourself! Once you know this, what others say..doesn't matter.
Hope I helped :)
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Honeslty you cant change who you are your always going to care about what people say about you and think about you but you can work on it a little and maybe change it so you dont care so much all you have to do is when something comes up where a person is saying something about you or where you feel your being to nice just stop and think about what your doing and if you feel you really shouldnt be nice about this then dont do it but sometimes its your kind of personality that people like and want to be around so you might actually get more friends because they know you wont let them down i hope what i said makes sence good luck :)
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