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the New Kid
16/f
im the new kid and i no absoutly no one im going to be a junior and im pretty shy so how can i make it easier on myself so im not so nervous
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first of all; when you're meeting new people,
keep in mind that it'll get easier every passing day. just put a smile on and relax; be yourself.
all people are nervous when they first meet so
don't beat yourself up over that, it would do more harm than good.
secondly; put yourself into social interactions. join a club or a sport, that'll give you a chance to make yourself known even if shyness is a frailty.
thirdly; swallow your fears and take a chance. when you take a risk, the product of failure is equal to not taking a chance at all. same
outcome: nothing lost or gained. keep trying,
never give up because there is a fifty percent
chance you may succeed.
"a coward dies a thousand times but a brave man
dies only once." -shakespeare
you are never alive until you take a chance, and when you take that chance, that is when you truly live.
have faith,
parsimoniousdino ;]
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get involved in sports or some other activity. when i was a freshman in high school i went out for soccer and i made tons of friends just by doing that.
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First of all, if you THINK you're going to be alone and have a pessimistic view on your potential for making friends, you will be alone.
That being said, making friends really isn't all that hard. Just talk to people! Here are a few ways you can start a conversation:
1. Compliment them.
- If they're wearing a nice pair of shoes, or some cute jeans, tell them. Let them know you like their shoes, and then ask where they got them. After that, ask if they're comfortable or something. Don't be annoying about it, but take interest in the person you're talking to, and hopefully, chances are they'll show interest back.
2. Find something you have in common.
- If they're wearing a band shirt, and it's a band you like, tell them! For example, say they are wearing a Rocket Summer shirt, say to them, "I see you have on a Rocket Summer shirt, do you like his music?" Then, after they answer, tell them your opinion on the band/artist.
3. Talk about your surroundings/where you are.
- Say it's after class and the person next to you is getting up to leave. Walk out next to him/her and comment on the class. Say something like, "That was kind of an interesting lesson." or "Was it just me, or was that lecture kind of boring?" or, if you're sitting outside on a bench, and somebody is sitting next to you, make a comment about the weather or where you are.
4. Make a joke!
- There's no better way to make friends with somebody than to make them smile/laugh. BUT don't make a joke about another person, it will make you look bad AND potentially hurt another person's feelings.
-Laura (17-f)
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A quote that I've learned to live by is "Nobody cares if you're miserable, so you might as well be happy!" It's so true! If you act shy and timid you're probably going to be overlooked...but if you realize that you deserve to be happy: you'll find yourself surrounded with some good people. Happiness puts people at ease and attracts more happiness, so keep a smile on your face and mean it!
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I know exactly how you feel but when i was the new kid i was a sophomore. I hated being the new kid, not knowing anybody at a new school and such. I am a very shy person when it comes to being around alot of people. So What i did was during one of my classes i just turned around and talked to somebody like asked them a question say on an assignment, or choose a topic starter. She then introduced me to her friends and so on and bam i had friends. Goodluck and i know it may seem hard but stay strong =D
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Ok... well first of all dont act so nervous and scared. People can tell when you are and then they could make fun of you for it. The first thing I think you should do is to try taking up a sport. The best way to make friends is to play a sport that you like and enjoy. When you make friends from your favorite sport, you'll have something in common with them. The friends you make on a sports team will probally be your friends until you graduate. Or if your not into any sports then there are tons of clubs that you can join. The have all sorts of different clubs and for everything. You will definitely make some new friends; and very fast if you join a club or take up a sport. I hope this advice will help you overcome your shy-ness and nervous-ness and hopefully very soon you will make new friends. Goodluck :)
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