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alright you peoples.. lately.. i've been having BAD makeout cravings! and i cant get a bf.. so um how can i get a bf?? how do i make people like me?? anyone will do to help with this one! and if there are any BOYS on advicenators reading this PUH-LEASE help me on this one-- any boys tell me what guys like.. thanks!! :)
Yea, those cravings do really suck. I'm having the same problem. I need to make-out but no are guys available! Damn those fucking cravings! But I guess all you need to do is look through your options. I suggest you go for guys that are aggressive. They are the best because they will go for you first. But you have to be aggressive too... DONT BE SHY! You don't want to seem desperate of course so be a little mysterious, just not too much, or you will never get what you're wanting. So if there are any sorta-cute, make-out worthy guys around, let them know you're into them and grab that boy and go for it! That should satisfy your cravings lol
Good Luck!
~Sherah
I'm 16 and me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a month now. We broke up for like 3 days but got back together. Everything has been going good...at least that's what I thought. Then this afternoon at school I went to the cafeteria and we were messing around. Well everytime I moved closer to him he moved away from me so I moved away and was like F*** you B****. As a joke but then he got all mad it seemed. He acted almost like a 4 year old child. When the bell rang he just walked away like normal and I tried to ask him what was wrong but he kept saying nothing. When I asked him to at least to say good-bye but he just walked away. At lunch he usually sits by me but he just walked past me and sat down on the other side of my friend Bobby. I went over to him and asked him what was wrong. He told me he had to move back to Chesterfield with his mom this summer. I left cause I didn't want him to see me cry. I don't know what to think. I can't believe his father would do that to him. I want to believe he is making this up but I don't know why he would except to break up with me. Can someone please help me. I'm begging you..please help me. What do I do?
I think the reason he overreacted the other day in the cafeteria was because he had alot on his mind. He probably knew ahead of time that he was going to have to move. And that is why he kept moving away from you. Some guys are like this. When they know that they are going to be leaving and they arent going to see the person they care about anymore they do one of two things: 1. They cling to you and want to get every last moment with you before they leave, or 2. They become pulled back and don't open up. Your boyfriend is using the second method. He is like this because he feels that it is easier to start letting you go right then, instead of making it even harder by holding on, knowing that it will only be more painful for both of you. Just sit him down and talk to him. Tell him how you feel and ask him why he has to leave and why you and him can't be together. Be sympathetic and try to get him to open up. Hopefully things will turn out for the better. Good luck! Tell me what happens if you want. ~Sherah
i dont know if someone already answered my ? but i cant find it so ill type it again. theres this girl that is 15 and she called me a loser and a freak a lot last year. now shes all over me. she squeezes my cheeks and she calls me cute and gives me a lot of hugs. shes goin away for the summer and she was sad that i was leaving. i think she maybe was crying. i dont know what to do. i dont want her to think that im a freak by askin her if i like her but all i think about is her. what should i do?????
Just tell her how you feel. If you think she was crying about you leaving then its pretty obvious that she likes you. Some girls have weird ways of showing that they like you. Last year she probably did like you but tried to cover it up by calling you a loser and a freak. That's really immature, but some girls use that tactic. And the fact that she is all over you now and calls you cute proves that she likes you. If you are leaving any way then just tell her how you feel. If you don't then you will end up regretting it and will always wonder what could have happened if you had told her how you felt. I know it can be nerve racking to tell a girl how you feel, but if you really like her then go for it. Good luck! ~Sherah
the guy i like said he wanted to get closer to me, but the only way he could do so, is if i told him what i was thinking instead of telling him nothingall the time.. what does this mean?!
He wants you to open up to him. Maybe he feels you are holding back about some things, and being secretive. And at some time, this can be something guys like. A little mystery is a good thing. But if you keep not telling him things, he's going to think that you are messing with his mind. And no one likes that. Plus, guys have insecurities just like girls. He might be totally open with you about something, and when he opens up, he wants you to open up too. Everyone wonders what their other partner is thinking and feeling. When they don't know it makes them insecure about the relationship. They may feel a certain way about the person, but since their partner is so quiet about what they are thinking and feeling, how do they know that the other person feels the same way? Exactly my point. Just open up to him. Let him know you trust him. Tell him something you have never told anyone before. It'll make him feel that you want to get closer to him and let him into your life. ~Sherah
To all of you girls out there! Is it true that sometimes when you get your period your face can breakout?
Thanks
Yes this is true. When your period starts it causes your hormones to produce more oil, which causes breakouts on your face and body. So when you are on your period, use a body wash that has acne medicine and is oil free. Plus wash your face with a cleanser and a scrub to keep away the oil and then use spot-treatment acne medicine at night to take care of the pimples showing up on your body and face.
I don’t think people have anything to live for at all. Most people live for other people even thought everyone will eventually die. I think life is pointless and there is no such thing as “making a difference” because in the end none of it matters. My teacher says everyone wants to be remembered after they die, I don’t want to be remembered. Some people live for God, which I think is stupid because I don’t believe in God. If I did, I would hate him, why? Because he has control over us. Killing yourself is wrong because you’re interfering with “God’s little plan”, right? That doesn’t sound right now, does it? Everything happens for a reason doesn’t it? If something happened to make you want to kill yourself then is killing yourself still wrong? If God doesn’t want it to happen then it shouldn’t happen because he makes everything happen, doesn’t he? Can someone help me understand this whole “God” concept?
Here it is... plain and simple. God has a plan for everyone. Only He knows how your life will end. So when you kill yourself, or die any other way, He knew you were going to. So your not going against "God's Little Plan". Maybe it seems that way to you, but that's because you have no clue what your future is going to be. Only He does. He knows how you will die, when you will die, why you will die. He doesn't control it. It is all based on the choices that you make, the paths that you take in life. And the choices that you make in life are unpredictable to you, but He already knows which choice you will make, and how you will end up. So it's not some little plan everyone is set out to follow... It's the choices you make that determine you future and your fate.
I broke up with my bf about 3 weeks ago and within that time he started going out with a girl but she broke up with him. While he was with her he was being bitchy and plain out wrong with me but now that they have broken up he regrets everything he said and did and wants me back.When we broke up I cried and was hurt for a LONG while but now I am dealing with it.Well he wants me back and I don't know if I should give him a chance part of me says yes but the other says no. I don't know what I should do but sometimes I just feel like calling him just to hear his voice but then again I don't want to get hurt again. Pleace help me out!
Well this is difficult. You are torn between being with him and not being with him. Either you can give him a chance, and risk getting hurt again, or not go out with him, and stay on the safe side. Just go with how you feel. Follow your intuition and your heart. If you think that being with him will only cause you more pain then it's time to let him go and move on. Especially since he quickly dismissed your guy's relationship and rebounded to the next girl so quickly. But one question.... You said you broke up with him... What happened there? Message me back if you want. Hope my advice helps. ~Sherah
I am now fifteen and the last time i liked a guy while we were going out was when i was twelve. its fucked up cause i've gone out with guys since then; and i've had crushes; but as soon as we're actually together the idea of commitment totally turns me off and i stop liking him. And even when we've broken up i remain totally possessive; i get jealous of him and tell him to wait for me and not date anyone else. It seems like I only want what i can't have, and i never want to keep anything thats too easily won. it's nice for the first few days... but then it actually seems like im tired of being involved. what the fuck is wrong with me? could it have anything to do with my mistrust in love, or perhaps my broken family?
Okay, First off... ignore the stupid 14 year old bitch below...(TimeofYourLife) I personally find it kind of funny that in her profile she mentions that she doesn't like answering things about love and sex (probably because she has never had a boyfriend or a sex life)... yet she stills goes out of her way to comment. How pathetic! And don't get me started on her whole "I know lots of shit about cars"... Ooh... Wow... She can name any cars that drive by... That's not really helpful when needing to fix one. Ignore her stupid comment. Now about your problem: Well your broken family could be the underlying problem. The fact that you have witnessed bad relationships in your life first hand has probably caused you to not be really trusting. And the minute you get into a relationship you feel enclosed, and you quickly end things. The next time you feel this way, sort your problems out. These problems are with issues you have, not your boyfriend or any current guy you are interested in. So instead of dumping the guy, stay with him, and see what happens. I think the reason why you get out of relationships so quickly is because you are scared of the unknown and don't want to be hurt. So instead of worrying about how things will turn out, forget about what will happen in the future and go with your feelings. If you like the guy, then be with him. I hope my advice helps you. ~Sherah
I'm scared, i dont know what to do. Should i involve myself into sexual intercourse? Theres this boy, and i've known him for four years.. He has been t here for me through everything. I recently dropped the highschool scene and went for cyberschool.. It was all because of some friends that wern'et being so friendly... And out of all people he dumped his girlfriend because of me and took my side on it. My bestfriend was his girlfriend. I sorta felt bad about it... But then he told me all the stuff she did to him and how she hurt him. She had cheated on him... and she admitted it to us. He has been there through everyhting... We talk all the time and we are each others best friend. We want to take that further but not sex... When it does come up though... Whhich could be at any given time... How should i react? Should i just give it up? I'm scared because i wouldn't know how to telll my mom... Me and her are sooo open with eachother and i tell her EVERYTHING. but what happens when i lose my virginity and need to go to the gyno? We're gonna hangout at his place this Thursday and i get to meet his family... They are soo nice to me on the phone... hope they are in person to... wish me luck...
Please help.
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First of all... Good luck with his family. I'm sure things will work out just fine. As for the sexual things, that's all up to you and him. If you feel comfortable and ready then talk to him about it. Communication is the most important thing. If you are questioning if you should or shouldn't have sex with him then it is not the right time. That question will keep appearing in your head, should you or shouldn't you, and if you get to the point where nothing is holding you back, and you feel ready and totally comfortable, then take that leap. Just remember that this is a big desicion you are making and it could back fire. If you tell your mom all about what you did she may very well be disappointed in you, but hopefully she won't tell you not to date him anymore. But if you keep it a secret and you go to your gynocologist, they can tell if you have lost your virginity and if you've had sex. And they also have every right to tell your mom too, since she is paying for the visits and you are not 18 or paying for your visits. Good luck with your desicion. ~Sherah
i really need new clothes but i don't have a lot of money. what are some good clothing stores with websites and i can order from? i need some really cheap ones with cute clothes! also..are there any from other countries that ship in cheap? i want clothes that not everyone has so i can be different..but still in style and cute. tell me all you know!
btw im 15.
Okay, depending on your budget there are many websites with cute, cheap clothes that are all your own. Here's a few great sites that should help you with your fashion dilemma: (I have bought from all these websites and they are very reliable and have soooo many cute outfits/accessories)
http://www.delias.com
http://store.alloy.com/frontpage.do
And if you really want to make your wardrobe all your own here is a custom design site:
http://www.customglamgirl.com
Have fun shopping! ~Sherah
There's this girl in my p.e. class, and I think she might like me. She hugs me every day, and she seemed really excited today when she told me that she broke up with her boyfriend. We always joke around, and she's kissed my neck before, just playing around though. The question is, do you think she likes me, should I ask her out, and a random question I'm throwing in: I just got braces, how would making out with someone work?
Well it's pretty obvious she likes you. From all the flirting and subtle hints she sending you its very obvious that she is into you. So I suggest trying to hang out with her more, get her number, and then go from there. And if things seem good ask her out. Just read the signals she sends you and that should tell you how she feels toward you because there is a very thin line between friendship and more than that. And the whole braces thing.... unless you aren't very experienced or still have no clue what you're doing, you should be fine. If you aren't very experienced... umm... there's always your pillow lol ~Sherah
this is kind of long.im 16. ok so I have had this friend that I have known since pre-k, and we used to be super cool. and now that its summer we had all these plans to have sleepovers and everything and just have fun. but we only have gotten together once since the beginning of summer and that was like for only like an hour and a half. and the first day we planned to have a sleepover and she said she would call when shes about to come over, but she never called that night. so i called the next day and we planned to have a sleepover that night but she didnt call again. after a while i just gave up and we havnt talked since like the last time (a couple of days ago) that i asked for her to come over. she never gave a reason for her not coming over. do you think she still likes me? I mean we've known eachother sing PRE-K! is it really that easy to just forget someone? please dont be sarcastic if you answer this because it herts to loose a friend....
Well honestly I don't think she has forgotten about you. I have been in a similar situation. I kept thinking my best friend since elementary was blowing me off because she'd always come up with some lame excuse not to hang out. To make a long story short, I confronted her about it, and of course I got shitty with her for not being a good friend, and turns out that the problem was not me, but problems she was going through. Sometimes people feel like they just want to be alone, or sometimes they feel like they are being smothered. After a while, some old friendships seem to get... old. And maybe she needs some time away from you to adjust with whatever problems and issues shes dealing with. You may be the underlying problem, or it may be something you don't even know about that has nothing to do with you. Either way, talk it through with her and find out the problem. Good luck! ~Sherah
i pierced my belly button a few nights ago and it got really infected and was in the wrong spot.(a little off center)also i pierced it with one of earrings you pierce your ear with.so the hole was not big enough for the belly ring to fit so i just gave up on it.what can i use to re-pierce it that will make a big enough hole?
Well if you want to re-pierce it, I strongly suggest letting your old piercing hole heal up, because since it is infected, your body's immune system is down, so it is more prone to another infection. So you have two options: 1. Buy a piercing kit online, (it includes a sterilized needle, guide to pierce it correctly, cleaning correctly,....) 2.Go to a well-known Tattoo and Piercing Body shop in your area and have them do it. The second choice is alot more smart and you have a lot less of a chance of getting it infected. But if you must pierce your belly button use an actual piercing kit and read on how to pierce ahead of time. Hope this helps. Good Luck! ~Sherah
I am currently 16, male, and have been told I don't understand love. Even if that is true, I KNOW I love this one girl. See, we know each other very well, but we dont live close together. She moved away last year. We know there is something there, but we are both scared. What should I do? Ask her out, or wait till I can get back to her?
I'm really big on the whole "Carpe Diem" thing. Seize the moment! Nothing is stopping you. If you are sure she loves you, and you know you love her then go for it! Ask her out and see what she thinks. Of course there are complications... the whole long distance thing, but you never know what the future holds and if you wait too long she might move on and you'll be left always wondering what would have happened if you had went for it. So ASK HER OUT! lol ~Sherah
form my upcoming birthday me and a bunch of close friends are goin camping .. we have 3 sites booked and i know the pools will be open cuz they are after memorial day. but i was jsut wondering if anyone knows anything else we could do there for fun. most the poeple going have never been camping, and i want my party to be fun!...please help ...ill rate high!
Well it mostly depends on the area you are staying at. Whatever place you are going to, the campsites always have brochures of fun activities around the area like theme parks, boating,... etc. So depending on how long you are staying, pick out several fun things to go to throughout the day. That way it is very exciting and nothing gets dull. And if your friends are really into the outdoors try something you and your friends have never gotten to do before. Hiking, rock climbing,... Something daring and fun that will make things much more interesting. Plus at the end of the day, you can always have the classic "camp fire and smores" idea. Hope these ideas helped. ~Sherah
Does anyone know how to interpret dreams or w/e?
(Sorry it is so long, but it is interesting) Well, if you think you can help here it is:
I was in a car with a few eighth graders I knew pretty well (this is probably because I was in a play with them last night) One of the eighth grders was driving (kelsey) and so we went riding around for a while. I can't clearly remeber where we stopped, but I know we stopped somewhere. I got out, and came back in. While I was trying to buckle my seatbelt, Kelsey was buckling hers as well (she was still driving) and the car started to slide down a hill that broke off into a cliff. At the bottom was a shallow river. We tried the brakes but they didnt work in time. The car slid down and landed in the river. None of us were hurt. It was actually kind of thrilling.
So we get out of the car as it begins to float down the river (at this point in the dream it is more like a van) It stops at one point (again I can't remeber) and we get out on this dock-barge thing. We enter what appears to be a big mall. At the enterance it has stores, all with perfect before their name(example: Perfect Fine Jewlery)
We were walking through and stuff and then the next part I remeber is that there were none of our parents there and we were sort of releaved. Then my friend Liz (who hadn't been in the car before) was there and she met this really nice guy. They were PERFECT for each other. Then I met this guy, and so both she and I were going out with them.The funny thing was, that "mall"
was actually the whole town. It was all indoors. Then my chorus teacher (who had directed the play) was there and said we needed to find a way to get home. We stayed a few weeks because we couldn't bare to leave everyone that we had become friends with. Then we left (I forget how we got home-I think I woke up then)but not before Liz and I each kissed outr "men" and said the sad goodbyes.
I know. Weird, right? I also write ( I won this kids in print contest before and have also writeen many plays) and was wondering if this would make a good story if I substitute some names and (obviously go more in depth and come up with a better theme) I WILL RATE 5'S FOR ANYONE WHO ANSWERS!!!
Well the fact that some of your friends in the dream are 8th graders and they are driving it seems that you want to be older than what you are. This is even more true when you are at the mall and your parents were no where to be in sight and you and your friends were relieved. The crashing of the car signifies the thrill of your life that you wish you had more of. And since the car turns into a van that signifies the time lapse between your current age and the future. This reinforces the thought that you wish you were older and more independent. The "perfect mall you and your friends go to which is actually a town, is like the life you wished you lived now: A perfect place, with great guys for you and your friends, where you all stay without any control or guidelines. This shows your wish for perfection in your life. But in the end of your dream you realize that it can't be perfect and that you can't be as independent as you want to be. Hope this makes sense. lol ~Sherah
Does your child have to be a certain age to let them stay home alone for about 2-3 days? Just wondering because me and my husband's 25th year anniversary is comming up and I want to get out of town for a few days just the two of us. I was wondering if it is legal for me to allow my 14 year old to stay home alone for a few nights.
Well there is a law prohibitting you from allowing your child to stay home for a couple days in Texas. According to Texas Laws: Chapter 41. Liability of Parents for Conduct of a Child: It will be considered neglect if you leave a child over the age of 10 years old alone since your child is not over 18 years of age. If someone 18 years of age is with your child then it will be considered legal. So I think the best thing would probably be to have you child spend the night at a trusted friend's house or if you have any family in the area have your child stay there. But if those options are not available then I think that as long as you could have someone check in on your child while your gone things should work out just fine.
I always have no idea in the morning on what eye shadow to put on. The main thing is I don't know what colors look good with my hair color. I have a light brownish-blonde hair with a nice light tan. and what color would look good with my lips?
Well it all depends on what your style is for that day. If you are wanting to look kind of wild then go for something bright. Try pastel colors that work with your skin color... colors like bright pink (which brings out color in your cheeks), neon green or aqua blue (which will bring out any color you might have in your eyes). When wearing wild colors on your eyes, always wear something thats not really bright on your lips or you will look overdone. Try a light pink or nude gloss. If you want to go more natural try a light brown eyeshadow or light pink. Lighter colors look more natural. With lighter colors on your eyelids, you can wear more colorful lipgloss. Try colors that are not too dark but not too light. Based on your skin color I would use a gloss with pinkish-gold color to it. It will bring out your tan. Powder eye shadow seems to come off really easily so I suggest you buy cream eyeshadows, or cream eyeshadow sticks. The best brand I think is Cool Effects by Mabelline. There are tons of different shades from Icy White to Cool Blue so you can get a wide range of colors of eyeshadow.
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ok so i met this kid on the internet (same grade as me... 10th) and we hung out a couple times and i kinda started to like him but then i noticed he was liking this other girl(9th grade) and i didnt really care that much cuz we were good friends... but he goes to a different school and she goes to mine and she has a bad reputation that he knows nothing about... i mean shes cheated on boys many times before and i think he really likes her and i dont want him to get hurt but i dont kno how to tell him with out him gettin mad at me and possibly runing out friendship.... please help!
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Alright, it seems that you might be into your guy friend and maybe your a little jealous that he now has a girlfriend. And of course you care about him getting hurt. But how well do you really know this girl? Rumors spread so quickly and most of the time they aren't even true. Here's a real life example. Last year I kissed my (then) boyfriend by the coke machine near the gym during lunch. By the end of the week everyone was talking about me having "sex with him" in the bleachers. I was like wtf! All I'm saying is, just becuase you've heard she is some big cheating slut doesn't mean she is. I suggest you lay low and don't mention the rumors that you've heard. Becuase they might not even be true. Try to be-friend his new gf if you want and that way if she ends up cheating on him, or she is planning on it you will know for sure. Plus, when you confront you guy friend about what you discovered he will have more reason to believe you. ~Sherah
A while ago my phsycologist said that i had really bad ADHD and its ruining my life. For example, it took me four hours to do a language arts assignment that it took the rest of my class 1 hour. Heres my problem: my cousin also had ADHD and they put him on medication. Later, they found that hewas abusing the medicine and taking way too much so they sent him to a re-habbilitation home. Now my mom wont let the doctors prescribe me any medication because she thinks ill wind up the same way that he did. is there anything i can do?
I suggest you talk to your mother and your doctor about this. And if you have to, get the school involved. Your education and your everyday life is being messed up because of your ADHD so medication can drastically change that. Just becuase your cousin abused the medication doesn't mean you will. Try to make that clear to your mom. If she still doesn't understand then talk to your school counselor about the problem and then talk to your doctor about your situation. Hopefully this will all resolve. ~Sherah