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i feel like i can't like a guy anymore
I am now fifteen and the last time i liked a guy while we were going out was when i was twelve. its fucked up cause i've gone out with guys since then; and i've had crushes; but as soon as we're actually together the idea of commitment totally turns me off and i stop liking him. And even when we've broken up i remain totally possessive; i get jealous of him and tell him to wait for me and not date anyone else. It seems like I only want what i can't have, and i never want to keep anything thats too easily won. it's nice for the first few days... but then it actually seems like im tired of being involved. what the fuck is wrong with me? could it have anything to do with my mistrust in love, or perhaps my broken family?
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Okay, First off... ignore the stupid 14 year old bitch below...(TimeofYourLife) I personally find it kind of funny that in her profile she mentions that she doesn't like answering things about love and sex (probably because she has never had a boyfriend or a sex life)... yet she stills goes out of her way to comment. How pathetic! And don't get me started on her whole "I know lots of shit about cars"... Ooh... Wow... She can name any cars that drive by... That's not really helpful when needing to fix one. Ignore her stupid comment. Now about your problem: Well your broken family could be the underlying problem. The fact that you have witnessed bad relationships in your life first hand has probably caused you to not be really trusting. And the minute you get into a relationship you feel enclosed, and you quickly end things. The next time you feel this way, sort your problems out. These problems are with issues you have, not your boyfriend or any current guy you are interested in. So instead of dumping the guy, stay with him, and see what happens. I think the reason why you get out of relationships so quickly is because you are scared of the unknown and don't want to be hurt. So instead of worrying about how things will turn out, forget about what will happen in the future and go with your feelings. If you like the guy, then be with him. I hope my advice helps you. ~Sherah
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"i feel like i can't like a guy anymore"
perhaps it is that you are really into girls instead of guys?
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I think it might be your harmounes. Or mabey you are Bi. Have you ever though t of liking girls. I know i would not but mabey you so. Seriously i think it is your harmones. Next time you see a guy you like try to ask him out.
x3 Gracie
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Well, to tell you the truth I think you are just thinking that and it makes you want to stop liking those people. Try not to think about not liking the person you are going out with.
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You're fifteen. You're not supposed to want to get married and have kids right now, you're supposed to want to have fun and try out lots of relationships that aren't too serious so you'll better know what you want later in life. If you're really unhappy in relationships, just be single for six months or a year. I think it's stupid that society puts so much pressure on everybody to hook up, you know?
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Well, I think you are just too young for a committed relationship. All of you are. But that doesn't stop anyone from trying to be in one. It is ok to date, otherwise, how will you get to know guys and find the type of guy you like. At your ages, you guys are just looking at how cute someone is. There appearance takes on too much importance. And none of you are the same people that you are going to be when you get older. Mostly we change out total personally, every 5 years or so, when we are growing up. So the kind of guy you like now is not going to be the kind of guy you like 5 years from now or 10 years from now. Later in life, when you meet people that you have things in common with, then you will find someone that you can like a real lot and have a long term relationship. Now all you have in common is maybe you all go to the same school, or live in the same neighborhood and maybe like the same music. And maybe dress the same, but that is nothing to build a long term relationship on, that is why boyfriend and girlfriend things don't last so long at this age.
Say when you are 21, you really like mountain climbing, or you really like this one group and go see them whatever chance you get, or you like going dancing. When you do these things with your friends, you will meet guys who like the same things. Then you will do them together. You'll have that in common. You can't base a long term relationship on just sex. Or just seeing each other in school. These boys cannot do anything for you, they can't take you out on a date, they can't take you away for a weekend. They can't take you out to dinner, movie, whatever, All you can do is arrange to mee them somewhere and hold hands. Yes it is wonderful to be with someone, and to have a boyfriend. But with nothing of substance to the relationship. They are doomed to be over fast. It is not you, don't worry. You will be ready for committement. When you are older. Don't get me wrong there s always one ot two couples in school who have been dating since day one, and are still together, and sometimes those two will even marry. But it is rare. What is more common is dating a dozen or so guys while you are in high school. And that is OK too. But I would advise you to have sexual relations with all of them, (that is if you are, I don't know, and I am not accusing you of anything, I am just trying to make a point). So, look at all the adults around you who are married. They all felt the same way you did when you were young. They never thought that they would find the right person And of course they did.
And hey, marriage is work. It does not last if both parties don't work at it, and are thoughtful towards the other person, and respectful. You said you came from a broken home, and while that could be a strike against you, it doesn't have to be. Don't make the same mistakes. Take the time to get to know a guy before you get more involved. BEcome friends first. Every marriage out there that is still intact today, the couple will tell you that they are also each others friends. Mutual respect is of the most importance
I hope this helps, honey.
Michele
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heyy .. maybe it has to do with your broken family maybe your dad your sad or worrying about is making you think of boys your age bad or reminding you of a divorce thats totally possible but just follow your heart and dont change for anyone and you will find the right guy and go out with him for a long time
hope i helped
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