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Okay, there's this guy I like. But, I'm not sure he likes me back. He isn't very nice to me around his friends, and he wasn't mean before I told him I like him. BUT I went to a sports game of his, and he kept looking at me. Is it because I was out of place or not? PLEASE HELP! Thanks for your time- Sakura (NOTE: Some evil guy told him that I liked him, and he said "Ewww." Is that true, or immaturity? But some time later I told him I liked him. Also, at the sports game, I told him 'good game' and he gave me a weird look. Is that because his friends were around?)

Sorry to say this, but the truth is (unless you are 7, but I'm assuming you are 13-15) that he he probably doesn't like you. The ewwing and the weird looks are bad signs. Don't give up though. Maybe he just thinks your clingy because you went to his game. Try to "accidentally" bump into him outside of school, and just smile or say Hi.

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I have something to say to all advicenators.
Ratings are nice and they help to know what other people think of the advice we give but their not THAT big of a deal.
I'm really tired of seeing everyone asking advicenators to "Rate" them. No I'm not trying to be rude but it seems like that is all everyone thinks about.
The more you give advice the more ratings you get. 80% 90% time people don't rate but as time goes on we all will get ratings.

Thank You for reading what I have to say.

sincerely
advice~gurl

I have to disagree. If someone in real life gives you some good advice, you would thank them, wouldn't you? I think it's just common courtesy to thank the person who gave you good advice by clicking a 4 or 5 and typing the words "thank you".

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Hey guyz, im flirty! i would love 4 u guyz to give feedback and visit my cloumn. ask me questions or view tthe questions. i give good advice, and i would love to spread the word bout whoever asks me questions or email me. visit my column and you'll see who i am. lol. :P :D

Well, if you want people to rate you, you have to answer their questions. They don't get to rate you unless you give them advice.

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i have never been out with anyone younger than me, but i thought i would give this boy a chance. i am in year 10 and he is in year 9 i know i sound young, but im really into all that romantic stuff, like kissing (like ross and rachel do in friends)and i feel like all he wants to do is get as far as he can with me, he is really really good looking and could have virtually any girl he wanted. i was out with him and his friends and they were all watching us pull and he kept asking if we could go further,(id like to say we've been going out properly for about 3 days) i really like him but i dont think he likes me for the right reasons, what should i do?

If you think 3 days is a long time for having a boyfriend, you are completely wrong. Even a month is not a long time. You are in, what, 5th grade? This relationship is going to last 2 weeks at most. Forget about it. If you do anything, your just going to regret it, and he will spread rumors about you all over the school. I am in 8th grade, and when I was in 5th, I saw it happen. Bottom line: Dump him. Neither of you are ready.

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Let's say you are in a store or some other public place and you see a kid running around, maybe doing something dangerous, like climbing on something unstable. Is it ok to say something to the kid if you happen to be nearby? I would tell the kid "That is dangerous. Don't do that." And then, ask the child, "Where is your mommy or daddy?" Then find them, and tell them what their child was doing. Some parents get really pissed off and might tell me to mind my own business, but I can't in all good conciousness stand by and do nothing when there is a child at risk. My husband was in a situation like this when we were in a thrift store and he saw a bunch of kids running around unsupervised, taking all the toys out of some bins, and climbing on things. He said one child almost fell. I said he should have said something to her. He said that there was also a baby in a stroller sleeping that the mom was not watching. The baby was in a corner while the mom shopped in the middle of the store. That is so stupid. It makes me so angry to see this kind of thing. If my child was running around and doing something dangerous, I would not be in the least offended if another adult helped to make me aware of the situation as long as they were polite. But then again, I keep a good eye on my daughter because she is precious to me. I remember panicing when I couldn't find her for a few minutes at a park. A parent found her playing with another child. Does anyone have any insight on this, or have been involved in a situation like this? What would you do?

I think confronting them is the right thing to do. If something terrible did happen to their kid, and you knew you could have prevented it, would'nt you feel bad? The worst their going to say is "mind your business" and you will have peace of mind knowing you did the right thing.

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Hey Spacefem, I got a problem. Im in jr high, 7th grade, and one of my friends is really weird. Shes always gossiping and such, and at my school, teachers crack down HARD on stopping it. Im 100% against gossip, 1 because it hurts people, and 2 because its not minding your own business. Im always telling her to stop it, or shell get in big trouble, and she listens slightly, but 10 minutes later she is doing it again, and naturally, gets in trouble. the other day I reminded her of what would happen, and out of nowhere she bursts out "Just stop telling me what to do!" Which I find odd. Even though I constantly remind her to stop gossiping, she tells me to do way more things than I tell her. Im her note-passer, bookkeeper, saxophone-carrier, and a bunch of other random things. Im wondering, what should I do? Am I really being -that- bossy about her getting in trouble?

This girl doesn't own you. You are doing her a favor by trying to keep her out of trouble, and she just yells at you and tells you what to do. You don't need a friend like that. And if you do still want to be her friend, stop doing whatever she tells you.

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OK, I'm 13 and I havent started my period yet. Is that normal?? All of my friends have started but me. I dont want to get my period but I was just wondering if something's wrong with me.

That is normal. I am almost 14 and I just started mine a little while ago. It depends on your weight and breast size, so don't worry about it. It can start as late as age 19.

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Well I like 4 guys, but who should I get off my mind. 1 is 4 yrs olders then me (he's 14 and i'm 10),1 of the 2 sp ed guys that are kinda bad boys (both 10), or a guy that's in my class (10)

Well, you should deffinatly get your mind off the 14 year old, because I am 14, and I wouldn't go out with a 10 year old boy, and neither would most people I know. The special ed guys probably arn't a good way to go, because they could get you in trouble, and you are probably in, what, 5th grade? So you probably don't get to see other classes much. You have the best chance with the guy in your class.

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how do you know if you have a std or weather your partner has one ?

Is the only way to catch one if your partner has sex with you????

Pleeze help

There are not many symtoms of STD's, but you may get flu-like symptoms if you have one. The only way to be sure is to get tested. You can get STD's not only from sex, but from sharing needles or having an infected person's blood touch yours.

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I wanna go get my tongue pierced but im scared that its going to hurt real bad..is it going to hurt??? what does it feel like??? Im 19 but another thing is if my mom finds out she'll be really really really upset and mad at me and i think i might be kicked out of the house...is there anyway i could hide it from her????? PLEASE HELP FAST!!!!

You really shouldn't get your tongue pierced. If they pierce the wrong vein, you will bleed to death. Yes, I have heard that it hurts to get your tongure pierced. And is it really worth doing if your going to get kicked out of the house? You really can't hide it either, because if you take it out the hole will close in a few hours, and your tongue is swollen and you talk funny, so she would figure it out anyway.

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can a girl die form having sex?

Yes. If you don't use protection (or sometimes even if you do) you can get AIDS or other sexually transmitted diseases which will kill you.

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I just bought a new bathing suit. It fits me really well and I love it. The problem is that if I am cold or shivery at all, my nipples kinda show up. They show normally when I'm not cold but not as much. What can I do to stop this or make it less obvious?

Ok, for this you need to be a little bit crafty, but it's not too hard. First, find an old bra (it should be underwire) and cut it apart in the middle, cut off the straps, and the back, so all you have are 2 separate cups. Trimt the edges so they fit inside the bathing suit. Cut any loose strings off the bra cups. If there are ragged edges, just stitch around them with a needle and thread. Then sew the cups to the inside of the bathing suit.

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Hey, I'm 13 and am having a slight problem. I started dancing when I basically stared to walk. I have been part of the "gifted singers" program for a while, I write poems and short stories, paint, and have gotten leading roles in many theater productions. I have no idea where to invest most of my energy! What path should I choose? ~insanity_will_dominate

Think about which one you enjoy doing most. It should be about what you like to do most, not how much money you make or what people think about you. You are right that you should pick one to invest the most energy in, but if you enjoy all of them and have time, then do all, but focuas especially on one.

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ok what is the age to start baby- sitting? and how much should i ask for them to give me and hour?

Most people start babysitting for money around age 14, maybe 13 if your parents think you are mature enough. If you want to babysit other kids besides your brothers and sisters, you have to get babysitter training from the red cross. You should probably ask for $2.50 or $3.00 per hour.

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i have a major prob with boyz everyone knows my prob with cody but i found out i dont like him i got the feelin it was sickness but i am harsh im only 12 and there is anothe boy i played around with him and said lester will ya go out with me but he knew i was playin i thought and he said yes so now im doomed he is like in love with me he brought a camra to school and took pics the whole roll of me but the thang is i dont really like him he wont make me popular!!

Well, first of all, if you judge mainly on looks and popularity, you are not ready for a relationship. If you don't like lester though, there is no reason to stay with him. Tell him that you were only playing around when you said you liked him, because you are his friend and thought he would understand that you were only joking.

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Just out of mere curiosity, do you believe that girl is going to be in a movie, has a sister that is a model and in mean girls. And her sister happens to be best friends with Hilary Duff? Because to me its like saying I just signed a record contract, as well as a multi million dollar football career and I was dating Halle Berry. So do you think she was telling the truth?

Cspinoza1

Probably not. I just thought I would advise her for the heck of it because her lying is making me mad.

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I am so proud of my sister! My sister is a model, and is best friends with Hilary Duff! She is in the movie Mean Girls, with Lindsay Lohan! I just reveived a modeling contract, but I am sorta jealous that my sis has been acting for 4 yrs! I am going to be in a movie, but hres is so much cooler, and she is so luky! She met Chad from the OC at the movie premeire! Hes sooo hot.


Please Help
Winona

I think your being ungrateful. Most girls would kill to be in your shoes. It also sounds like you are just bragging. Just be happy with what you have.

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my best friend has 2 other bff and i just got used to it! but i can't stand one of them! no offence to my bff but i don't know what she is thinking! this girl is everything you would not want in a friend!
what should i do?

Well, if it's only one of them you can't stand, then you still have 2 good friends. If your friend likes this girl, then you can't change her mind. If she really is as bad as you say, then your friend will soon see it.

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i really really want to be popular in school!! i want more than anything to be in the popular group and everytime i try i get even nerdier!! what can i do??? PLEASE HELP!!!


WANNA BE

It is a known fact that you can't just "become" popular overnight. Why don't you just try being who you want to be instead of following the crowd? You don't have to be popular to be happy. And if you try too hard to be popular, no one will like you.

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there is this guy at school who i really really like and we talk alot and hangout together and act like were going out but were not!! im scared he's going to ask me out and i would really want to say yes but my mom and dad told me i couldnt go out with him because his brother drinks and does drugs and everything!! what should i do???

Don't make a desicion based on what his brother does. Siblings are often VERY different. Me and my sister are complete opposites. If he asks you out, and you really like him, then go to a movie or restauarant with him and some other people. Your parents might not mind if its not just the two of you.

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