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I am a 13 year old girl and i question my sexuality. i think boys aare hot and like them and stuff but sometimes i feel curious to look when my close girl friends are changing and think girls are really pretty and have good boobs. i sometimes think i want to kiss a girl to know if im a lesbian but i have never kissed a boy but i want to. people say its normal to sometimes feel lesbian or gay during puberty but im still worries.please no mean comments
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Of course it's okay. You are trying to figure out who you are and it's okay to explore. Some people maybe tell you it's not but a lot of people explore their sexuality in their teen years. It's better to find out you are rather than hide who you are. Express yourself. Go with your heart but remember to think with your head.
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i'm 18 years and done with school now im on holiday, my parents don't let me go anywhere even to the mall to hang out with friends, is this normal? am i not old enough to be let out on my own (link)
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Well did they give you a reason why?
Sometimes parents will say things and do things that are in our best interest even though we don't see it that way. Do you live with your parents? If that is the case, as my mom always said 'you live in my house, you live by my rules". It maybe seem unfair but I'm sure they have a good reason. I would talk to them about it and see what they say and maybe get an idea of where they are coming from.
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last night my bf sent me to hell on the phone,we had an argument and he just hung up on me,I spent the whole night crying,What can I do???? (link)
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Give him some space and sometime to cool off. As girls we like to fix the problem and find a solution then are there. For guys they need their space to think. This also a great time for you to reflect and think about what you said. You can only speak for yourself. Wait for him to come to you and than apologize for your part of the fight. It's best in relationships to tell the truth and how you're really feeling. I hope it all works out!
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ok ive been with my boyfriend for about 3 months and we dont do much with eachother. and ive been starting to have feelings for my ex i broke up with him about 3 and a half months ok because i i didnt feel anything. but now i realized he was a breat boyfriend and im starting to fall in love with him. but i rlly dont wanna hurt my boyfriend. and my ex has a girlfriend by the way. but i would fight for him. what should i do???? (link)
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This is tough! It might be that there was a quality that your ex had that made him attractive to you and made you want that in a guy. Think about it really hard. Is your ex still friendly with you? Is he happy with his new girlfriend? I hate to be the one to tell you but this may be a lessoned learned. That you need to appreciate what you have and sometimes we don't appreciate things til they are gone. Do you want to ruin his relationship now if he's happy?
Put yourself in his shoes if someone did that to you.
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I was originally diagnosed with Depression a couple of years ago and had some therapy. In April this year I was prescribed antidepressants and my doctor upped my dose in November. I had a panic attack and a physiatric nurse told me that he thought it was unlikely that I was depressed and more likely that I had Anxiety Disorder. I went back to my doctor and she recommended that I continue taking the antidepressants and start a course of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy in January.
Since then I have really been struggling to find any meaning or enjoyment in life. I'm feeling very lost and almost like I'm not really involved in my own life. I no longer feel sad all the time, just a constant sense of numbness and indifference.
Has anyone got any suggestions as to what I can do?
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I have always said that the 20s are the toughest times in a person's life. I'm not even halfway through and I've had a VERY hard time dealing with things. I don't know if I'm depressed but I understand what you mean with the whole being numb ordeal. I was always in a constant 'blah' mood that made me pretty much feel like I could do nothing right and almost like I failed. I didn't have a plan after high school heck I still don't and I beat myself up over it. Not everyone knows what they want in life or what they plan on doing and the future can be scary.
What I try to do is think positive and be as positive as I possibly can. I'm not saying I always can be but I try my hardest. I have even started meditating as well was learing a lot from Oprah. I find her to be a positive person with such uplifting words. Listen to music that is happy and try to stay away from the negative music or the music that upsets you. Watch a feel good movie or a comedy show or maybe a favorite comedy. Find something that makes you feel happy.
When I'm stressed out sometimes I belt out a song that expresses what I'm going through or maybe even exercise to get thigns off my mind Whatever it maybe be thats on your mind let it out. I have those days where I'm in that 'blah' mood still but I try to not let it effect me everyday. Hang in there and things will get better with a positive attitude. Good luck and Happy Holidays!
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I Have Been Talking To This Guy For 2 Months & I Really Like Him So Like How Do I Make Him Like Me Too (link)
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You can't make him like you he either likes you or he doesn't like you. I suggest telling him how you feel and then see what he says. You can't make anyone do what they don't want to do.
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I just started dating this guy like a week and a half ago, and his birthday is right around Christmas. We've been friends since the start of the school year, but I don't know if I'm supposed to get him a present...? We are only 14, and not very serious yet. Any advice? Do I need to get him something, and if so, what are some ideas? Thanks. (link)
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Well if you plan on giving him a present do something small. Maybe a picture of the two of you together. Maybe write him a poem or give him some candy. You don't have to go all out because you just started dating. Good luck and Happy Holidays!
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Hi everyone!!!I wish you a Merry Christmas and a happy New Year!!!!!thank you for your words of advice and I'm very happy to belong to this website!!!!kisses!!!:) (link)
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Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you as well! :)
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I am in a relationship of seven months with a girl, whom i met on internet. She fell deeply in love me, and we started dating. She have strong feelings for me, she loves me as if i am her god.
In the begining i was not attracted to her very much, infact i dont felt like getting closer with her. But after a certain time i started liking her. And to be very true, i am not deeply in love with her.
FYI, i live in a culture where parents decide the bride/groom for their children. SO, i talked to my family and they went to see her and her family. My parents said that the girl is nice, but her family and relatives are illiterate. And this girl is not good educated, whereas i am an engineer. So, i said her that it wont work, and we should break up.
Now, i am feeling guilty of breaking her heart. Is my guilt right, and shall i blame myself for this? please comment.
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Dear Denis,
It's hard to say. I see both sides of the story here and I'm having difficulty with what exactly to tell you. You said in your culture the parents pick your bride so in a sense you are following culture. However on the other hand did you really care for this girl? Did she make you happy? Could you see a future with her? If you answered 'yes' to any of these questions then you may have made a mistake. Of course no one likes breaking anyone's heart except if you are heartless yourself but by the way you wrote this question you care.
Now I'm not religious whatsoever but there is a prayer that has a line it saying 'to accept the things I cannot change'. We come in to contact with all sorts of people from every walk of life. Sometimes as humans we judge is it fair? Not necessarily but its what we do. Okay so the girl isn't well educated that doesn't mean she can't make you happy. It doesn't mean she is any less of a person. There are things that my boyfriend does that drive me crazy but I accept them and move on. I'm in love with my boyfriend and he has faults and he'll be the first to admit it. Heck I'm sure I have a thousand things that bug him about me but at the end of the day he accepts me for who I am.
You can't blame yourself entirely for this. With your culture you have your parents pick out a suitable spouse. What does your heart tell you though? Go with what your heart says. I'm telling you right now I almost lost someone so important to be because of a irrational decision I made. It's how important this is to you and it's what you want in life. Good luck and happy holidays!
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Hi, I'm 14 and recently started dating one of my really good male friends. I really like him, and want to stay with him for a while. But I have had a crush on another guy who I've talked to like four times the whole year, and it didn't subside when this guy asked me out...but I had a crush on him too. What I'm saying is, is it ok for me to have a crush on someone else while I'm dating someone I like as well, as long as I don't make a move on this crush? I barely talk to this crush and there is no action between us, but I can't help liking him as well as my boyfriend. Is this okay? (link)
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I mean as long as you don't do anything about it I don't see anything wrong with it. However, I believe if you're with someone you only have eyes for them. I've been with my boyfriend for two years and I can tell you right now I only want to be with him. I've known him for 4 years and no one else has sparked my interest as he has. When it comes down to it you have to decide what you want and you have to be fair. If you're going to stay with your boyfriend than there needs to be respect for him. I'm sure you'll figure it out but you have to understand that having feelings for someone while with your partner for someone else isn't fair to your partner. Believe me I've done it. Not a good idea!
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Hi AdviceMistress!!thanks!!the thing is how do I do that?I´ve tried to leave him before but then I feel so bad and sad that I practically end up running next to him again,I know I´m being weak but it´s what I feel,it sucks!!! (link)
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I was in a jam like that once and it sucks I know what you mean. You can't hide your feelings but at the same time you know that, that person is good for you. Cut off all ties with him. Block him fron FB, Twitter, any social network. Delete his phone number and what have you. When you think of him think of how badly he treated you and how you don't deserve that. Empower yourself. Listen to uplifting music and feel good movies. Really listen to the lyrics of the songs. Heck what I like to do when I'm going through something is put on my iPod and just blast and listen to the lyrics. Some good artists are Shontelle or even Kelly Clarkson. Be positive and be selfish because you're thinking more about him than you are yourself.
If he comes back close the door and don't turn back. Listen to "It's Too Late" by Carol King. It's a great song about moving on.
You are stronger than you know and you will get through this. Life is too short. If you ever fell the need to call him do something else to take your mind off it call a friend or watch a funny movie. Hang in there and Happy Holidays!
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hi everyone!!i need some good advice,my partner treats me bad,he just acts as if he didn´t care anything about me anymore,i know that, and what´s even worse ,everyone knows as well,what can I do?because I love him a lot,I wish I could send him to hell but I know I can´t do that, I feel like I´m going crazy...kiss (link)
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You said your partner treats you bad then why would you want to be with him? By being with him that is telling him that his behavior is okay. If you pull away or ignore him then you're telling him you don't need to be treated like that. I know you may love him but if he isn't treating you right there is a problem right there. You should have a guy who will treat you right and make you feel good about yourself. Someone who is ignoring you or treating you like that is expressing bad behavior. I would suggest moving on and finding someone else who can really make you happy.
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i am 12 and this guy is 14 about to be 15 and he wants to date realy bad what should i do? i have a boyfriend my age but i still like this other guy! is he to old for me? also i am a girl.
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What about your boyfriend? That sounds kind of unfair that you would think of dating someone else while you are with your boyfriend. I guess in the end you should choose who you feel you're happy with. I think you need to be honest to your boyfriend instead of letting him find out the hard way.
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Okay, here's the scoop. I'm heartbroken right now. I'm EXTREMELY close to all of niece and nephews. If you want even more details there are 5 of them. Anyway over the weekend, I brought 3 of them home with me (they live 50+ miles). Anyways, I do this just about every weekend just because I miss them so much and love to spend time with them. Lately though my oldest nephew who is twelve and really hurt me this weekend. He wasn't appreciative of anything I did for him, and did nothing but complain. I made him eggs, toast, and sausage. He was mad there was no cheese in the eggs, and then when we went to see a Christmas light display all he did was fight with his other brothers who were in the car with me, and complained he wanted to leave. Mind you this was very expensive (8 bucks for 10 minutes but I wanted to do it). And then we went home and he called me a pizza face (I have a small complexion problem). I asked him why he was treating me this way, and was crying my eyes out in the process. He had no reason and just went into the bedroom, slammed the door and then went to bed.
Anyways, I brought it up to my sister and she defended it with that he's a child, and he has ADD. I have ADD as well and I've never in my life treated anyone like that. Well then the conversation escalated and she said there will be no Christmas, she's not bringing them over and I'm no longer allowed to see my niece and nephews. :((!! I don't know how it came down to this. I love all of them so much. I just think I deserve to be treated better then this. My parents are now telling me I need to apologize to my sister (saying I should have never brought it up. I'm seriously heartbroken now. I love those kids so much, and would do anything for them. I'm not sure if something is going on with him or what. Please help me!
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First off I have ADD and that is no excuse for a child to act that way and it shouldn't be tolerated. If he is going to acting difficult there must be consequences and he must be punished. It's not acceptable for a boy who is close to being a teenager to act like that. I'm sure he doesn't hate you he's probably getting into that teenage phase where they can be difficult. I think you should come up with a system of when he's with you if he's going to act up then he needs to be punished. Of course you're their aunt but they should know when they are with you they treat you the same as they would with mom and dad.
I can see where your concern is with the child, however maybe to your sister you came off as telling her how to raise the child. The child to me sounds more like he has ADHD rather than ADD. People with ADD are on all parts of the spectrum I happen to be very mellow where as something else could be off the walls with hyperactivity. There is no reason why your sister should have threatened to take Christmas away from you. I think because of the holidays you should try to speak to your sister and tell her that you apologize for coming on to strong and that you didn't mean any harm. Maybe say to her I want to have a suggestion as to what I should do if the child acts up. Please don't let ADD be the excuse that the child doesn't get punished there's no reason for a child to act that way. If your sister continues to be difficult I would try to go spend Christmas with your parents or maybe some friends. I hope everything works out and Happy Holidays!
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so basically i'm so confused and im tired of bullshit. Why is it so hard for a guy to either tell us they like us, or be honest that they don't. Why do they have to play games? I'm in highschool but i'm one who hates hookups I would rather just have one special person there but it's seriously so hard to find because every guys ends up fucking you over and I'm terribly scared to have that happen. I've only kissed one guy but i've still gotten hurt by others...basically the guy I kissed just flat out stopped talking to me after like 6 months of non offical dating but like we both weren't seeing any one else. He made it clear he liked me and basically spent every weekend with me. Then out of nowhere doesn't talk to me and like ignores me at school but if im like walking to my car he'll drive past and stare me down. I just am seriously tired of drama and that feeling where basically you feel like you can't find anyone decent. I don't even know what i'm saying and i guess I just want your opinion why would he do that...=[ it's just how could he say all the things he did to me and one day act like he never said any of it (link)
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Sounds to me like he's VERY immature. Some guys are just immature and they'll say anything to wrap you around their finger. Some guys just want to test you almost. Maybe you're going after the wrong type of guys. Maybe you need to go after a guy that you wouldn't typically go after you maybe surprised. Or maybe its best that you just wait til some guy comes your way. It's hard to find decent guys that can be mature these days. Try not to let those immature guys get to you. I had a bunch of guys promise me the world and they couldn't even promise to hang out with me for a date night. Actions speak louder than words!
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I just lost a good friend of mine...skateboarding was his life. He was born to skate, lived to skate, and died skating. He was the most amazing guy ever. He was friends with everyone, no matter who you were. He would do anything for anyone too. Three days ago he was skateboarding and his board went out in the middle of the street. He ran after it and was struck by a pickup truck. He was in a coma for 2 days and then they did some brain tests and he failed them. He wa s brain dead. He was only 14 yrs old. I know hes in a better place now...probably skateboarding(: ...but i just dont know what to do )': i miss him like crazy...i just wish i could be with him in Heaven..a place where theres no more goodbyes "/ ...what should i do? (link)
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I'm sorry to hear about your friend!
It's tough losing anyone who has been apart of our lives and has made an impact. I think the best thing you can do is to be with friends and family because you'll find support from them. It's okay to grieve and be upset and it's okay to feel empty because you might have a bunch of emotions going on. Heck you might even be anger about it. Just know that you have the support of your friends and family to get through this difficult time.
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I've been seeing this guy for over a month now. We get along great, we like the same things and we hang out basically every weekend. He is one of the few guys I can be completely myself around, even being the sensible or crazy me lol and he told me that's exactly how he feels.
Just the other weekend we were kissing and making-out when he paused and said "I like you... Really really like you... You are the one." When he said this I was a little suprised and kissed him again. Now he's got me thinking if he really meant that cuz he did have a few beer in him. I am cautious about who I give my heart too, but I just want to know what you think. When a guy says this is he actually thinking 'long term'? (link)
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And the mystery continues...
It's hard to say because everyone is different and I don't know him personally. Sometimes people say things when they are drunk most people call this speaking with a 'sober mind'. It's the things we would never say when we are sober but we are drunk it just ends up coming out. I think you're right to be cautious because if a guy can only say things to you when he's drunk that's not a good sign. Have you tried talking to him and talking about what he said the other night? Ask him! See what he says and get an idea of whats going on. When a guy thinks 'long term' he has you in mind for his future plans and wants to hang out with you and goes all the way to the moon and back. However you mentioned you've only been dating a month I think you need to slow down and just think about the present and just let it be.
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Hey there. I'm writing here bc im in need of advice. I'm turning 21 next month. Female. Ever since I can remember, my mom has been extremely involved. She has really pushed me bc she's wanted to know everything about my life. I've let her in, maybe too much. It has gotten to a point where she's very controlling and when she doesn't get her way, she gets extremely upset. Last year, I dyed my hair dark brown. I'm naturally a light brown. But when I was about 17, he insisted that I go blonde. I listened to her and i never questioned the way I look. But, looking back, I really don't like myself as much with blonde hair. I like my natural color or even a little darker. I look relatively young. I'm very petite and i have a very youthful looking face. I don't really drink a lot, I don't smoke and perhaps that has contributed to the fact that i look younger compared to a lot of people around me. Everywhere I go, people always ask me how old I am and swear that I look so young. It gets REALLY old when u hear it EVERY day. When my hair was brown, it made me look a little bit older and I wasn't being asked every single day about my age. I went back to brown last month and she told me if I didnt dye it at least a dark blonde she would never speak to me again. She was crying, throwing things, and having a tantrum. I dyed it to dark blonde so she would stop. But needless to say, I'm constantly being asked my age again and getting gasps. Nice, but old! Don't get me wrong. There's nothing wrong with looking young. But, I'm 21. I want to feel sexy. I want to feel like a woman. Last year, I also had extensions. I needed them for a while, but they were on way 2 long. I recently took them off and now my mom won't let me leave the house without clip ins. It just makes me want to cry. You may say fight with her and let her have a tantrum. But, u don't know how she gets. She is out of control. She is scary. I want to have my hair brown for my birthday which is next month. And i don't want any extensions. I hate them. They hurt and they bother me. She doesn't understand anything. When I tell her I like my hair dark she says that if I change back to dark, she will cut herself and enroll herself in a mental institution. You have no idea what I put up with every day. Our relationship has improved so much. I don't want to ruin it. But, if I don't have my own independence to do what I want to my own hair at 21, what is next? (link)
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You're over 18 and you're considered an adult at this point. Mothers have a hard time of letting go to their babies because they don't want to feel not wanted. They still want to do anything and everything to help you. The way you desrcibed your mom however is a bit scary to me. It sounds like she's a bit of a drama queen when it comes to things she wants. My advice is do what you want to do and if she doesn't like it tell her you're an adult and that this is your choice. You have the freedom to do anything you please now that you're an adult and for her to tell you what to do or how to style your hair isn't right.
My mother doesn't like the fact that I wear jeans a t-shirts mostly she says I'm too old for that. Guess what? I'm still wearing t-shirts and jeans. I am my own person and I define me. I love my mother to death but I'm really the only one that knows what I really want or really want to look like. If she continues I would maybe try living with another family member or maybe even save up and get your own apt. Your mother is looking out for you it's just not the right way to go about things. Maybe the reason she is acting out is because she feels like she doesn't spend time with you or something. Maybe plan a mother/daughter day where you two can hang out that way she still has some involvement in her life. Good luck!
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im 5 days late...is there any other reason i could be late? (link)
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Periods can be late due to be stressed or could even be your cycle that's changing. Try and relax! If this keeps up I would go to a doctor or take a pregnancy test jsut to know for sure. In the mean time try to relax and try not to think about it too much.
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Hi, all of you. I have a small problem that could grow into a much bigger issue if allowed to go too far. I'm asking an honest question about a real dilemma I'm facing, so please, don't be harsh with your answers.
Here's the thing... I love music, particularly songs from the TV show Glee. I know FOX is a major company and doesn't need every penny they get to make it through the recession, but I respect them, and I want to support the show by buying music legally from the iTunes Store.
The problem is, my only real income is government assistance, and as much as I would love to buy all my favorite songs from Glee, I can't forget that my whole life right now is being funded by taxpayers who work hard for that money, and that the money isn't being sent to me to get spent on iTunes purchases.
I know of two ways to get any Glee song for free, but that's illegal, and I believe it's just plain wrong. I'm caught between misusing my income, which I REALLY don't want to do, and getting the music for free, which I also want very much to avoid.
Please don't suggest not getting the music at all. I know that's an option, and probably the best of the three. I'm just hoping there is some choice I'm not seeing that would allow me to do the right thing and still be able to listen to my beloved Glee songs. And don't just say "get a job." I'm trying; no luck so far, and therein lies the problem.
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I enjoy Glee myself :)
Do you have any friends that enjoy Glee too? Maybe there's someone you know who enjoys Glee who might have the CDs and make a copy for you. Or maybe the person can let you borrow the CDs.
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