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the loss of a good friend </3
I just lost a good friend of mine...skateboarding was his life. He was born to skate, lived to skate, and died skating. He was the most amazing guy ever. He was friends with everyone, no matter who you were. He would do anything for anyone too. Three days ago he was skateboarding and his board went out in the middle of the street. He ran after it and was struck by a pickup truck. He was in a coma for 2 days and then they did some brain tests and he failed them. He wa s brain dead. He was only 14 yrs old. I know hes in a better place now...probably skateboarding(: ...but i just dont know what to do )': i miss him like crazy...i just wish i could be with him in Heaven..a place where theres no more goodbyes "/ ...what should i do?
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Firstly let me tell you I was in a similar situation as you, some days back. I lost my uncle who was the only relative I liked, a fatherly figure who was an amazing person. He was in coma, he died of brain hemorrhage. My cousin told me about it, and I started to cry like crazy. I was not with my family, but in my hostel since I have to live at the hostel, my law school being fully residential. I cried and cried, and didn't even prepare for moot court competition. I couldn't even see his face once last time, because he was cremated very early.
Let me tell you what I learnt:
1. It is always better to cry, because in such a situation, suffering is unavoidable and crying gets all the heartache out, easily.
2. You should release your emotions, for example write them down somewhere, whatever you are feeling. I wrote it down, in the form of short liners and short poems. You could just write on one paper, anything and everything you feel.
3. Now, you should appreciate meeting the person and having him in your life.
4. Be with your family and friends, it is always better to be with them, so that you get to know and feel that you are not alone.
5. Support his family, it is the greatest loss for them.
6. Just For him, cheer up: Like a tribute, cheer yourself up, because he used to make you happy, it will be a mark of respect if you smile and make yourself and others around you happy.
7. Engage in activities that make yourself happy, because you can't just be lamenting for his loss all the time, and make yourself and people around who are alive, sad and worried.
Smile. :)
Hope it helped a little.
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Well fiest of all i know what it feels like losing somebody you love i lost my grandmother not to long ago an it hurts still to talk about it but what i did is i would pray to god to tell them what i was feeling an sometimes i knew he had told them because something was always telling me that i shouldnt cry because she didnt want me to cry because they were much happier where they are now you really have to think of it this way they arent suffering an hurt anymore an they dont have to put up with wat was going to be ahead of them in the future because everything happens for a reason it doesnt matter if it is death or if it is birth because trust me if he wouldnt have died in that way it may have been painful when he would have came home possibly paralyzed an then he would have been very depressed because he would not have been able to do wat he loved the most so look at it this way try to be happier an if you want this sometimes helps go to where he is buried an just sit there an talk like your talking to them i mean its not like im telling you to be crazy it just helped me cope with wat i was going through so dont dis it until you actually try it
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I lost a good friend too, it was a few years ago now and he was older than your friend but he loved to skateboard just like your friend did. It was a tragic accident what happened to your friend, especially since he was so young. I found it very difficult to cope with the loss of my friend but as time goes by it gets easier. We had remembrance ceremonies for him, and we all gathered at his house from time to time to talk about him and how great he was, it really helped. I also go visit the grave from time to time which can help as well. If your friends new him too then it can help to talk to them about it because ye are all experiencing the same thing. Keep your head up
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I'm sorry to hear about your friend!
It's tough losing anyone who has been apart of our lives and has made an impact. I think the best thing you can do is to be with friends and family because you'll find support from them. It's okay to grieve and be upset and it's okay to feel empty because you might have a bunch of emotions going on. Heck you might even be anger about it. Just know that you have the support of your friends and family to get through this difficult time.
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