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18/f
normally i have no problem making my girlfriend cum by stimulating her clit, but tonight for some reason i couldnt. i kept on "losing" her clit and couldnt maintain her increasing feelings, and had to continuously start over again... this is the Worst feeling... any ideas of how i could improve/ make sure i dont "lose" her clit?
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Did your partner complain? If she didn't I wouldn't make a mountain out of a molehill. Is their any evidence she didn't enjoy the encounter? If the answer is NO than you need not worry.
All that's messed up is your confidence. You'll have another shot. In actuality, maybe this is a good thing that it wasn't "working" this time. If you keep doing the same thing or stimulation over time it won't have the same effect on her.
You need to talk to her about what she likes other than what you mentioned didn't work last time. She's the expert on her body not you. This way if you do that you'll have room to improvise if the "tried and true" isn't coming (no pun intended by that).
We cant give those kind of tips here due to minors and site policy to protect them. Even if we could what works for one doesn't for another. Talk to your partner and explore other ideas for pleasure.
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Basically last night my boyfriend stayed the night, and we didn't realise that my Dad was taking the day off work. So after my sister left the house we had sex, very loudly.
After we finished up my boyfriend checked my dad's room and he was 'asleep'
I don't know if he really was or not. I pretty much got dressed and ran to school way early.
How do I deal with this? What do I do if he mentions it? What do I do if he doesn't? (link)
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He probably won't mention it. Here's why: It's hard for fathers to talk to daughters about this kind of thing let alone confront them about what they saw. From all accounts he was snoozing and wasn't awake nor heard you. I wouldn't mention it to him unless he brings it up.
In that case he's probably relieved it's happening under his nose than you not playing it safe. If you can get birth control and tell him you're being very safe it could relieve a ton of tension if he does confront you.
If he talks to you or has your mother do it instead just be open and honest. They may not like it but if they see you're in control and being very careful they'll respect that. Look on the bright side at least you didn't catch them.
You'll be fine here even if he does know but it looks like he didn't see or hear anything. Maybe he's that sound a sleeper. In the future be very discreet. Don't say anything unless he initiates the conversation.
Like I said fathers can't talk freely about sex, puberty, mechanics of it etc. etc. and leave it to mothers. Odds are if he saw anything he'd never bring it up and or leave it to your mother or an older sister or female to talk to you about being sexually active and responsible.
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when i try to click on something on my mac a blue bottom comes up not letting me open it. how do i fix that? (link)
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That would depend on what the "something" is that you can't open on the MAC. You should try calling 1-800-275-2273 for technical support at Apple. These guys are great and will help you within minutes with your problem.
In rare instances when they can't over the phone the best place to go is www.apple.com or .ca in Canada and set up an appointment at an Apple Store where you can bring in your machine and they can fix it on the spot or tell you how to get it serviced if need be. They're very good and the advice is often always free.
In Canada the number for tech support is 1-800-263-3394. To top things off THEYMOS and DANGERNERD are the computer and tech experts on this site send them a message through their columns and see if they can help via our site.
I have an IMAC myself from 2006 20 inch 10.4. If you hit my private inbox on my column with MORE info such as what you were trying to open, error message if any and what if anything else appears in the blue bottom I might be able to assist.
The problem with your question is that it leaves all of this unsaid. It would be in your best interest to click EDIT and put more detail in about what you were trying to do on the MAC when it happens. Right now, there simply isn't a lot to go on for people who want to help you.
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i play/partipate in a lot of sports and have been using tampons for the last 5 years. i've had sex with my boyfriend at the begining of feb but not been able to since i bled for about 20 mins? (not t sure) but is thre anyway that i can make sure i don't bleed next time?!
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This article may help http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/2006/08/23/qa-what-caused-vaginal-bleeding-during-sex/
The above link is from the Kinsey Institute and goes in to all the reasons for vaginal bleeding during and from sex. Perhaps you'll find something helpful from reading it.
Unless said bleeding happens more than once you won't need an OB/GYN appointment to see that everything is okay. Use the above document to determine that. When you have intercourse make sure you are fully aroused and your vagina is lubricated. If you don't it will hurt, cause friction, possible tearing etc. etc. That may be the root of your problem.
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Am I dislexic? I try to find my way out of reading and writing which i heard is a sign of being dislexic. Also I have to think sometimes what letter comes after or before another letter in the alphebet. Rarely, but sometimes I get certian letters confused. I dont really know what else I could tell you to help, but could you please tell me if I'm dislexic or even a little dislexic or not even close.
P.S. dont bug me if this is in the wrong catagory. (link)
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If you or your family think you are dyslexic and have what you feel is enough evidence it's important to bring this to the attention of your teachers and school administration.
They need to do an Internal Placement Review and conduct several rounds of testing to see if you are learning disabled, dyslexic or have a combination of learning problems. You might, and you may not. They'll then tell you what help they can provide to you to make life and learning easier.
You don't have to be dyslexic to have difficulty reading or dislike for it. However, it does seem odd that you don't know what letters come next in sentences or the alphabet and on top reverse letters and get confused sometimes. That's not "normal" and would seem to indicate a problem. It is possible to be mildly dyslexic too.
Talk to your parents and tell them what you said to us about reading, the alphabet and reversing letters and put it in their hands to correct for you. If you think something is a problem don't hold it in. Raise it to them. Chances are your teachers and family have no idea (or a remote one) of this bothering you.
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Hi i'm a 15 year old girl and i've known this guy for about 2 years now. A few days ago he kissed me out of nowhere and then almost immediatly afterwards asked me to be his girlfriend and we both have had feelings for eachother. The only problem is he's johovawitness and for anyone who knows anything about that he's not allowed to date out of the religion or even at this age. To make matters worse i'm aithiest. He's really not even allowed to get close to 'worldly' people(people not part of the religion). He once tried to have a relationship like this but it ended badly with his parents intense disapproval. Alot of his privileges were taken away and are still gone. I'm not exactly sure how i should handle this...with his last relationship he hid it alot but got caught and snuck out time and time again to see her. i dont want him to put a barrier between him and his family again like he did for his ex, but i cant just see him inside of school till he's old enough to move out. I could really use some advice from someone who knows an acceptable amount about this religion (link)
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Like the previous poster stated this relationship won't work. They are too set with their beliefs. You're the outsider as far as they feel and they only want him to associate or be with girls of their faith.
I know you don't want to hear this but spare yourself a ton of aggravation and tell him that a relationship isn't possible due to the rigid beliefs of his family.
Tell him you respect his religious beliefs, what his parents want. It's that you don't want to cause him or yourself considerable problems.
I once went to school with a woman that was a Jehovah's Witness. She never spoke to anyone outside her faith. She was completely unapproachable and difficult to work with because of what she was taught by her parents.
Sadly, she died of an asthma attack over Christmas break a few years back. When students were told there was two reactions "Who's so-and-so?" and "why should we set up an award in her memory?
She felt alienated by everyone else and we felt alienated by her due to her faith. You believe in traditional Christian teachings but they focus on the second coming of Christ, deny most of your beliefs and refuse blood transfusions (not a bad idea really). They are often ultra aggressive to make others convert.
There's no way to duck their disapproval or deal with it. They're rigid and won't change. If they ever learned you don't believe in God it could lead to a lot of headaches. It will be difficult to change romantic feelings but he's best as a friend only and to associate with at school.
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I recently got an underage drinking ticket at college and I do not have enough money to hire a lawyer. It is my first citation other than one speeding ticket I got a while back. I am also supposed to leave for basic training this summer so I cannot be put on probation. I need to do community service before I leave on April 29. When I go to court without a lawyer, will I have somebody there to explain my situation to or do I have to explain my situation directly to the judge? Could he possibly be lenient since I am going into the National Guard. If not what can he do to me? Also, since I will not have a lawyer, will it be impossible to get the charge dropped? Will having the charge on my record prevent me from getting into nursing school? Any advice is tremendously appreciated. Thank you (link)
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Go through Legal Aid to get someone to defend you. You have a right to a lawyer no matter the charge, circumstance or financial situation. I wouldn't wait to do that. You could tell the judge that you can't afford a lawyer to adequately defend yourself and mention the National Guard. If it were me I would get Legal Aid fast.
I don't know about an underage drinking ticket and whether it's like going to traffic court or any other for a misdemeanor (which I believe this is classified by not 100%). In the case of court under one of those offenses if the police officer who wrote it doesn't show up there's no penalty. Then again this is a criminal offense.
Find a lawyer or get them to appoint one and let them work out the community service issues, defense to the charge and issues with The National Guard( who may/may not want you anymore based on the case anyways).
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Hi, I am really confused..I have a crush on this girl.We already exchange acquaintances and have already been hanging out together like eating lunch and going to malls. We talk a lot and share secrets and etc. But every time we talk, i get this hint that she keeps telling me that I'm his sweetest friend.What does this mean? I really wanted to tell her my true feelings but after hearing this I get second thoughts. Does that mean she s not ready for a relationship or something? (link)
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ADDED: Laying the bait means she's given you something to draw you in and once she has you fall for it and she has you where she wants you. Think in terms of an animal having its hand trapped in a pot containing their favorite food. That's the hunter laying the bait. The animal is trapped because it refuses to let go. In other words she's ensnared you.
In a case like this you MUST consult the source. Tell her you are getting mixed signals about her intentions. Ask her what referring to you as her "sweetest friend" means. Is it a compliment, term of endearment or does she want a relationship?
Just ask her. She will certainly elaborate. It's possible all she wants is friendship but her constant comments to "sweetest" anything is curious. My conclusion is that she's laid bait and a trap to see what you're going to do.
Have a heart-to-heart talk with her and see where things stand. It shouldn't ruin your friendship either. If it did it was never on solid ground to begin with.
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when my boyfriend has an erection, his penis bends sideways kind of like a banana, is that natural. I like didn't say anything to him about it but I'm curious (link)
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I can't spell it correctly but phonetically it's PEAR-RONE-EES Disease. All it really means is that at one time or another he was beaned in the groin or injured his penis (think sports).
Because of him not telling anyone it now curves upwards when erect. It's not a problem unless he can't have intercourse due to severe curve. That's all it is and lots of boys, men have it. Very common to say the least in males. If he can't have intercourse he'll need to see a urologist.
The reason it curves like this is because scar tissue didn't heal properly from injuring the penis. That's why they refer to it as a disease or ailment.
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16/f
i hardly ever go 'number two'. usually, only a two times a week. i decided to take laxatives to help me go, but they only 'kind of' work. like, i'll go to the bathroom, but i'll still feel like i'll have to go more afterwards.
does anyone have any idea what could be wrong?
what foods can i eat to help 'keep thing going'?
i hate hardly ever going to the bathroom because i'll start to feel sick and such.
thank you :) (link)
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I don't think taking laxatives is all that great an idea. My only experiences with them were indirectly helping a person who used them to get food out of their body with an eating disorder.
Not something I would ever want to put in me legitimate reason or not. My concern here is your diet. Are you eating lots of fruit and vegetables. Apples, Bananas, Prunes will help. How about fiber? Eating a bowl of All Bran or Raisin Bran daily will help you eliminate.
If you aren't drinking lots of water, juices start doing so as it really helps. If you are always stressed, changed your diet, exercise routines or more importantly changed or dropped prescription medicine that plays substantially.
There are also illnesses such as irritable bowel syndrome and diabetes that can play an essential role into what's going on. That is of course if this is a frequent thing.
My advice drink lots of water, toss the laxitives, put fiber in your diet and drink lots of juices and the problem should clear up.
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Okay, so this is pretty embarassing. I've never talked about this with anybody. (16/f)
My dilemma is pretty simple, I want to masturbate because I hear it relieves stress and of course, the pleasure. But I'm just not sure how to stimulate my clit? I've tried before, and a couple times it has felt good, but nothing great and only for a couple minutes before it wears off. What about my breasts? And how do I tell if I get an orgasm?
Thanks for whoever answers this! I know it is kind of an embarassing topic... (link)
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This borders on how-to. Our site doesn't provide tips on sexual matters. We do this to protect minors and stay out of legal hot water. What I can say is that even if we gave you ideas, techniques or explained things it would do no good.
Everyone responds to different things. What works for one person may not for you. The best advice is to continue trying different things until something works for you. I'm sure the info you sought is on the Internet somewhere but we cannot an won't provide a way to access it from here.
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If I got a newborn baby fox and kept it as a pet would it be more...domestic, or tamed?
Also would I need some type of permit? (link)
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The noted Vale Wildlife Rescue has a fact-sheet on whether you should keep a baby fox, how to approach one and whether or not it's a very bad idea or not.
Here's a quote from that fact-sheet. "Foxes do not make good pets as they will retain some of their wild habits and we are often contacted by people who have reared cubs that they have found only to find that they cannot cope with the adult fox.
"By this time it is too late to be able to rehabilitate this animal for release to the wild as it will not have developed its survival and hunting skills so is destined to a future in captivity at a wildlife rescue centre."
"Foxes who become used to humans do not survive well once released back in to the wild." All sorts of predators as well as its own kind can easily kill it.
I know this from experience. The best thing you can do if you want to help baby foxes is to call a Wildlife Rescue Center and ask if you can volunteer caring for them or baby skunks, porcupines too. They actually allow you to raise them until old enough to hunt on their own but only following STRICT instructions.
Once you touch the animal without gloves you can't put them into the wild. Someone will think it's rabid if it seems tame and interested in humans.
To read more of the article click here:http://www.vwr.org.uk/fox_cubs.html
You might not like to hear this but the truth is the fox belongs in the wild. Check the Internet or phone book for Wildlife Rescue Centers that would allow you to take them home and care for them temporarily with their instructions. That's the best way to have them up close. That's what they do with the orphans.
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15/f. a few years ago I got caught[by parents] with cutting & depression. Between then and now I've struggled with S.I & eating disorders..but Ive managed to have 99.999% of people convinced I'm COMPLETELY over everything and am totally healed. but I'm more depressed than ever..just got too good at hiding it. Everyone sees me as the Jesus Freak..and I was. until recently, idk I just started to fall away from religion =\ anyway.
theres a guy my dad works with that has a daughter my age thats been cutting a lot and everything like I was. I agreed to talk to her if she wants. my mom suggested that i introcude her to religion and tell her my 'success story'
but I dont know how to go about this since I'm not better and i confused about God right now.[obviously i cant tell my mom that.]
helpp? (link)
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Tell your mother that you'll always be in recovery. That's how it is with cutting, depression, mental-health, drugs, alcohol you get the idea. It's true that you'll always be looking over your shoulder trying not to revert back to it.
That's all she needs to know and that you continue and will forever struggle as that's the nature of this beast. Tell her that you would love a friend and will be supportive of her but feel it's not your place to share your personal story or introduce her to Christianity etc.
Tell her that religion gets you confused and you're not the best person to ask about God and success with eating disorders, mental health etc. Let her know it makes you uncomfortable to do so and you aren't ready. Nothing wrong or bad about that. You won't make her angry. It's just the truth about how things are.
If you're confused about God or don't feel better at all speak up and don't hide it from her. She'd be more annoyed not having you ask for support than hiding it and getting into a massive problem by reverting back.
Just be this girl's friend and LISTEN rather than SHARE what you know at first about her troubles. She may not even ask you a thing about that. Be her friend and promise your mother you'll do no more than that.
Tell her if it's appropriate to share your story with her or anyone else you'll do it alone and on your own terms with people when comfortable. It's OKAY to tell your parents they put you in an awkward position.
As far as religion goes there's a non-denominational website www.spirituality.com where this girl could study the bible, other books, post in forums and find different religious and non-religious ideas about how to deal with tough issues. It might help her. Yes, it's run by a church but it's for everyone and I'm not pushing one view or another and neither do they.
The site may serve two purposes as you may want to read it yourself.
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Hi, I'm Hailey (17)
I have made mistakes in my life that I'm not proud of, but I've made a complete turn around. I was dating this guy who is three years older than I am. He was into drugs and he got me to do them with him. After going out a while he made a routine out of getting me high and then having sex with me (and refused to wear a condom). I didn't say no but before entering the relationship I would not have concidered having sex. Is this concidered thanks so ,much for your insight :) (link)
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I would get screened for STDs pronto. If he is/was a hard drug user or injected them into his veins you're at a higher risk for HIV and other STDs. That would be my first concern. I'm happy that you have totally and completely changed your life.
It's a blessing as you get to be reborn in a non-religious sense and have a fresh chance and perspective on life. I hope you take this experience and help other young people with it. Good can come from so much wrong that way.
Unfortunately, when it came to taking the actual drugs nobody can force your hand. Either you decided to do them or you didn't. Unless he forced them into you all he's at fault with there is introducing them to you. You made the choice whether to do them or not. Whether you were coerced or not doesn't matter as it's always your choice to take them.
AskMen.com editors recently posted an article on whether or not it was rape if a woman was taken advantage while drunk or not. In the U.S., Canada and UK as long as the woman wasn't unconscious they view it by law as her decision to have gone through with any/all sexual activity.
But, the U.K is now the leader in changing those laws.
ASKMEN.COM PAGE QUOTES:
"Lawmakers in the UK are discussing new legislation that would make it possible to convict men for having sex with women who are drunk. The idea is that if she is very intoxicated, she is incapable of giving consent. Up until now, women have been considered capable of giving consent as long as they’re not unconscious.
"The new law could potentially open the door to thousands of new “date-rape” cases. It’s no secret that alcohol and dating often go hand in hand -- but up until now, guys were unlikely to be prosecuted for mixing the two. With this law comes a big responsibility for men to be sure that a woman is sober enough to know what’s going on.
Opponents of the proposed legislation fear it may encourage some women to allege rape when they really just regret having had sex while drunk."
END OF ASKMEN.COM QUOTES.
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Hi I Am 13 Years Of Age And 14 In July, I Need A Weekly Job! In Slough Especially In Britwell! I Am Willing To Baby Sit Every Week... Do A Paper Round... Or Even House Work... If You Have Any Awnsers Or Segestions PLease Help... I Need A Job To Save Up For A Bus To School Everyday So Please Help me Thanks x (link)
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You need to try where they hire mostly teenagers. A movie theatre is perfect as they're always losing staff and hiring again once kids hit school. It's best to try now as everyone will want that gig come April. Try also the food court at the mall or fast-food outlets, pizza stores and that kind of thing.
As far as baby-sitting goes get an accredited course done at a library or parks and recreation and earn your CPR certification. After you do that parents will trust you with their kids and see you can handle emergencies. After that you can put up posters on library bulletin boards, schools, YMCA etc.
Paper routes are a pain in the ass. You have to assemble all the inserts, TV guides and get them out by 8 a.m. or have complaint after complaint from people. You have to do this in rain and shine. If you have to resort to this do the weekly paper that is for your area only. Pay's the pits for the amount of work it takes.
Why must you save money to get to school? Won't someone take you? Can't you inform someone at the school of your dilemma and arrange carpool or a steady ride? The bus can't be the only way. Why aren't your parents helping you get there? You need to go over this with teachers, counselors, parents to get a better solution I think.
There has to be monthly passes and student passes for transit that goes near your school. It shouldn't be that much but then again you were vague on why you need all that money for a bus to and from school.
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i got high with a few friends recently, and got caught. my parents never thought id be this bad of a screwup, so they dont really know how to handle it. they just said im grounded until they decide otherwise. i can use my phone and my computer, but i cant see anyone.
they said they were going to start drug testing me to make sure im not smoking anymore.
but i dont want to stop smoking weed! i know thats kind of stupid, but oh well.
is there any loophole to the test? is there something i can do to make sure i get a positive on the test, besides not smoking at all? any tricks? thanks.
also, if i smoke cigarettes or drink, will that show up on the test? again, thanks. (link)
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It appears that you have an even bigger problem than you realize. What you have said basically tells me two things. First of all, you're addicted to this drug and the high it gives you. That's why you don't have intention of stopping.
You lack the willpower, strength, desire and guts to quit. You can't follow trough and you know it so you keep smoking it. You may have heard that just one toke won't mean anything but look at where you are now. It all adds up and no matter what anyone says it has a lasting effect and destroys brain cells.
We can't nor will we provide tips on dodging a drug test. I'm not sure how these tests work. It doesn't matter as it's yourself and not your parents you are deceiving here. They might not catch you but sooner or later your choices will.
I'm pretty sure drinking and smoking haven't a damn thing to do with the readings but you may want to double check. They are looking for signs of narcotic abuse and not that.
Being grounded and unable to see anyone is a pretty easy punishment when you deserved more. I gather you've been through this routine over and over again that testing is their last resort.
If you're a strong enough person you'll admit you have a problem with the drug, enjoy it too much and don't want to quit and seek their help in doing so. I would cut ties with so-called friends that do it and start over with a clean slate.
If you need to smoke marijuana to live life than you're not really living. You're a slave to it. The best thing that could ever happen to you has whether you see it or not. Your parents figuring you out and helping you is exactly what you need.
I'll tell you something most of the kids you're partying with or smoke dope with are going nowhere or will be stuck later because of their choices earlier. You can break out of that and surpass them and your own imagination. Stop wasting time with this shit--seriously.
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So i have a thyroid problem, so I can't really be too active , cuz i guess i could have a heartattack. But i have gained so much weight, and some people say it could be because of my thyroid, but i eat alot.. and now i can't loose weight. I weighed 115 in september and now im 145!! I am going crazy, i can barely fit into anything, i went up from a size 2-5 pants to a 9! Its just making me sad! I don't know what to do
What are some good things to keep me entertained and not eating , but not to active
Thanks (link)
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I would phone this doctor of yours and tell his receptionist that he/she has you so paranoid not to even exercise. Tell them about your weight gain and fear of death. Lay it out like that and they'll set you straight on exercising. Odds are they want you to do some exercising but not overdo it. They want you to stop when it feels too much.
Get an appointment with the doctor and have them draft up exercises you can do to lose weight, stay healthy and eat right. For that last one you should get a referral to a nutritionist who will weigh you do your BMI and set you up with a plan to succeed.
If your doctor tells you that you can't do a ton of exercise it's their responsibility to illustrate what you can do. If they haven't done that then they've failed you. Let them correct the mistake and if you have no confidence in their advice find another doctor. This is something they shouldn't have overlooked.
Weight is based on height so I'm not sure where you should be. As hard as it is cutting out chips, candy, chocolate, cake and all sweets is best. It's brutally hard but if you replace it with apples, celery with peanut butter (or without depending), carrots, rice cakes (non flavored) and popcorn (non-buttered, little salt) you'll be fine.
When it comes to exercising you could go for power walks, small jogs or laps around a track, swimming would be fine too. In fact maybe the best option open.
If you have some cash in the bank and a hell of a lot of patience check out stores that sell video games for WII Fit (I'm not a Nintendo employee) but it allows you to do stretches, balance games, aerobic exercises, strength exercises and more fun and safely at whatever pace you can.
You can tight-rope walk, play soccer, boxing, do Yoga poses, you name it. It teaches you how to do them. You will lose weight if you do it for an hour a day every day. It maps your progress and checks your weight every time with a body test. It's a coveted machine but if you look hard...
I'm recommending it as I went from 216 pounds to 173 using it and only 3 nights a week of kickboxing. I would not have got to 173 easy without it being in my home when I couldn't workout.
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does it mean something when you dream about sex or doing dirty things? i have a boyfriend and i know im not ready for sex im only 16 but i still have those dreams...i want to tell him cause we always share our dreams about each other no matter how crazy they are but i dont know about this...advice? (link)
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Dreams are thought pictures. When you dream you often see what you fear, have thought about, have curiosity about or have been thinking of. They're also based on desires as well. Hormones plays a minor role too. It's all perfectly normal for both male and female teens to have sexual kind of dreams.
Don't worry you aren't a pervert and he won't think so. Odds are he has them too. It wouldn't hurt to tell him but you would have to tell him upfront that sex is out. Don't fret over this as it's nothing. In fact if you weren't or never had any I would say that's strange. Happens to us all. Trust me.
Your brain doesn't turn off during sleep. It's processing a million thoughts from fear, anger, doubt, curiosity, sex etc etc. It then creates pictures as you dream. It usually means nothing and cannot hurt you or affect your outside world. It's the subconscious mind that contains everything you want to suppress to the surface in the form of a dream.
It's quite common for people to feel aroused now and then as they dream or release bodily fluids (male and female) too. Just know that you are A-okay.
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I'm a girl in my early 20s.
I've suffered from depression and anxiety my whole life, but it really came to a head between 2006 and early 2008. I progressed from getting nervous in class, to being scared to go out, to being terrified of going to the grocery store across the road, to being unable to leave my house or even my room.
I failed out of school twice in this time. I lost contact with all but a small handful of my friends, and nearly lost even my family and my fiance. Fortunately, I was able to get through this alive after being hospitalized for several weeks. I took a year to get used to life and living again, and I'm feeling better than I ever have.
Here's my dilemma: I really want to start communicating with people from my past again. Thing is, most of them have no idea as to what was going on. I've tried talking to a couple of people, but they end up getting freaked out, or acting awkward.
If anybody here has similar experience in trying to rehabilitate socially after a serious battle with mental illness, I'd really appreciate your advice. (link)
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You don't have to say a solitary thing about your illness to anyone at any time. You especially should not mention it to anyone on Facebook ever because it's nobody else's business but your own and nothing to do with reconnecting.
You can be friends online and or off without anyone ever knowing you had mental health issues. From experience I'm pleading with you to say nothing online, in person or when reconnecting. It's not a good idea unless you know 100% that you have their support and friendship regardless.
I've had jerks I tried to reconnect with very angry that I did, tried online bullying and wrote savagely that I deserved the experience I got. These people were in their mid to late 20s. What I'm saying is if you tell them the moment you reconnect they'll take it wrong and likely react out of fear and ignorance thinking you'd mess up their lives.
I advise moving on and finding new friends. While it may be hard if you join support groups, get back into school and keep moving forward you'll do well. Only try to reconnect with people who are mature and you know will treat you well. Keep your diagnosis to yourself as your private business.
It doesn't have to come up at all. That's my advice. When you go back into the past it's usually and most always the wrong move with mental illness. Certain people may be hurt, feel wronged and act out of ignorance and fear. You don't need that nor should you defend your actions when ill to anyone, anywhere any time.
You NEED to start FRESH with friends, life, job, school and what you want to do. This is an opportunity to reinvent yourself and you have to see full-blown depression as in the past and get out of the house, your room etc. gradually and start living. The past and people in it should be left behind. You're on a different path than most of them.
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I have a mac and when i google something it will show up the previous things i googled. for example if i type v victoria secret will come up because i previously searched that. how do i make it so it doesn't do that (link)
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It would help if we knew which browser you are using. I'm assuming that it's Safari. What you do in that case is go to the toolbar at the top of the screen and click Safari. Next go to Preferences. Hit the AUTO FILL tab and get rid of every check mark and hit save.
What this does is turn off the browser's ability to bring up past things you typed such as Google, banking, any form from automatically filling in astronaut or whatever ever when you hit a letter or parts of your address etc. This should fix it for you. It's similar in other browsers so you'll have to figure out how to use preferences to turn auto fill or forms off.
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