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What there to say about me? I'm 27 and a graduate of UCSD. Throughout my life most of my close friends have been girls so I have a unique perspective on relationships and sex. I know a lot about computers as well as random stuff in general. Feel free to ask me anything and I'll answer it to the best of my knowledge.
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what should i do for my sweet sixteen?! lol i can't think of anything!(im a girl) (link)
you should have a party. at 16 most games you should be playing are kissing games but thats not nessasary. if you cant have boy/girl parties you should do a slumber party type of thing stay up all night with your girl friends watch moviies, eat popcorn, talk about boys, and put each otehrs underwear int he freezer.


ok... i was at my friends house and we were just watching TV you know.. just hanging out...well we were like extra bored so we sat on her bed askin each other stupid questions..like what have you donse wiht a boy.. or girl or w/e but i noticed she keeped on asking questions bout girls like... would you ever make out with a girl.. stuff like that... well after that we were jus looking at each other for some reson and she kissed me.. then we stared making out and doing some other things.. but the problem is..if you didnt already know im a girl...i dont know what to do i cant look at her the same but she acts like nothin happend..dose this make me a lesibean?? i dont think i liked it but thenagina im confused right now.. what do you think?? sorry its so long btw
-Crystal (link)
well that makes her a lesbian, or at least bi. if your wondering wether or not you liked well you need to decide that. how old are you? at around 13 or so thoughts like these are fairly common, its really when your sexual identity emerges. honestly if your wondering wether or not you liked it then it generarly means that you are a lesbian or bi but that is by no means certain. heh the word is introspection, look inside yourself. of you are still not sure, you need to kiss her again, but taht would give her the wrong idea so you need to tell her these things and warn her that you arent sure. even if you decide taht you are straight you should still be friends with her, alot of people totaly freak out over something like this but it doesnt seem like youre the type too but i felt i should still say that. so there you go, you need to find out.


Last year i went to this valentines day dance. my best friend had a girlfriend and i didnt and i felt like a "tag-along". he has so many girls that like him and i think it might happen again this year. i was thinking that i might try to ask someone too but i dont really like anyone so i dont have anyone to ask. I was just going to find someone that i liked a little bit and ask her but im not sure. Should i ask somebody or should i go alone like last year? What should i do? Please help. (link)
i used to go to dances without a date and find some one there. its nice because you can ask a girl you dont know to dance and if she says no you probably will never see her again (if your school is big enough) being the third wheel is tougher so i suggest taht if you dont find a date you like as a female friend of yours. i went with a friend for prom and had a great time.


When you have a nose piercing, does it hurt when you have a cold? Is it just like having an earring through your nose or is the stick thingie longer? (link)
my friend had her nose pierced right in front of me she jsut kidna jerked a little said it didnt hurt. there are different kidns of nose rings jsut like there are differnet kinds of earings.


K so there's this guy.. let's call him Jack. Jack's pretty cute. Not really hot.. but cute. He's also on the swim team, and I guess you'd call him a 'hugger' I don't know him that well but whenever i see him he hugs me.. so basically how can you tell if a hugger likes you? He hugs like everyone! O but just the girls.. haha thanks! (link)
guys "like" all girls. so basically tell him you like him and it will turn out that he lieks you too.


I have this friend who is very lazy, and cheats her way out of a lot of stuff. I am in all of her classes and i noticed that i am starting to do it too! I don't want to be like her with all the cheating and stuff.

What should i do. (link)
cheaters never prosper, but taht sbecasue its only cheating if you get caught. lol seriously though try studying for the test that way you dont need to cheat. if you dont want to cheat then dont its that simple.


Well, My friend and i are both 13 years old and girls. I asked my best friend if she would like to experiment again and she didn't mind. I was wondering could there be a possibility that she likes me or just likes what we did together because when i asked her she said it was no problem, but she also added we shouldn't do it too often , (Nothing "below the belt"). If it is normal does anyone out there know anything else we can experiment with each other above the belt and below. I'm also wondering is it common for me as a African American girl to be experimenting with my Polish American bff? I rate high. Holla back!! (link)
i remember youre first question. um i guess it is posible that she could also like you as more tha a friend but for now jsut stick to "experimenting" i cant really say anything explicit since this is a public qustion but feel free to send me a private holler if you want any details as to waht you can do.


ok i'm 16/f and I like this guy and hes one of my best friends but the problem is 3 of my friends like him and they think i don't because when they asked me i told them i didn't bc i didn't at the time, but i do now. Im scared to tell them cuz they'll get pissed at me. One of my friends who likes him went out with him last year(it only lasted a week lol) and before they went out he asked me if i liked him and i said yes but so does she and i don't wanna do that to her(she was like in love w/him) did i do the right thing? gah i dunno what to do i really like him...

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why should you be the one to step down? why dont you jsut let him pick i think you should tell him, that is assuming you really do like him. boyfriends come and go but best friedns are forever.


17/f...ok i don't know what college to go to. i have a 3.9 unweighted gpa(out of 4 in case its diff wherever you went) i really want to go to Auburn but its real easy to get into(you have to have like a 2.5 or something like that) and i might wanna go somewhere a little higher up...but i go over to Auburn a lot for football games(even though the bcs likes to screw them over grr still haven't gotten over that)and stuff and i absolutly LOVE the campus and the entire like school spirit of the place its amazing...but i have also heard santa barbera in california is real pretty but thats a long way from home(i live in georgia) grr i don't know what to do! how did you decide which college to go to?? (link)
i live in san diego. UCSD is a good school,a nd its only 20 kminutes away. i got in, thats how i decided. really it depends on the person if you wana stay close to home then apply to collges close to home, if you wana leave and spread your wings apply to colleges far away, but make sure to apply to a close by one in case you change your mind. there are alot of colleges to choose from i suggest applying to 1 or 2 safety schools that you know youll get into as well as 1 or 2 high up colleges that you probably wont get into. short of really liking a college i really dont know how else to choose, you could try following your best friend or boyfriend if you have one, if not go to ucsd ill show you the ropes lol.


i'm 15/f...so at this concert i was a little tipsy (not drunk tho) and this guy we met was kind of hitting on me and he asked me for my number and ah i gave it to him not a smart move i know and it wasn't til after that he told me he was 19 (thats a little old for me..) and so i was just like w/e he probobly won't even call me but then he did..like every day and like if my phone rings i will answer it i can't help it and he keeps wanting me to like sneak out with him is there any way to like block a number on a cell phone? or should i just tell him to stop calling me but i'm not a very confrontational person lol its hard for me to say things like that! (link)
well my friend did alot worse at a concert but thats a story for anotehr time. 4 years difference IMHO isnt all that much but whatever floats your boat, or sinks it in this case. no i do not believe there is a way to block a number on a cellphone, if there is it would involve calling up the company and asking them to block. as far as i know all cells come with caller id so you coudl try just not answering, but tahts kinda mean. id really recommend jsut telling him you arent intrested.


I have this friend that I have been there with all the time. I wanted to ask him out but I don't think I've ever had a chance, been nothing but a friend and someone to free load hw off of... So, he asked one of my best friend out.. It was really wierd because, I was happy for him and her.. and everything, but I was angry and cursing myself for not taking a chance because I could just ask him after they broke up. She made some excuse that she was too busy to go out with him and he was completely crushed. So I left him alone with this, because well.. I'm his friend and I wouldn't want to just aggravate things further. Now there is some girl that is a cheerleader going after him.. She always has short flings with guys and is very capable of having a time to get a guy in her house and do things. I really don't think this is what he needs right now, and I don't want him to be even more depressed because then I will have to wait even longer for him to be ok for me to ask him out again.. *sigh* it's all so very complicated and I just hate this. I always forget what I want to say around him, feel nervous.. gah.. It's really funny because, he just doesn't see it.. like I never have a chance.. (link)
you have a good chance. i can spend a full page explaining how guys work but i dont have time right now so ill leave it at that.


Hey yall, i need help with a nickname...my name is Ashley i have nicknames like Asha,Ashems,Ashlynn but i dont like them! So can u help me out with a new cool nickname?
Thanks, Ashley (link)
my friend ashley's nick is abraham, im not really sure why but its cool


is there any way to change your password once you have an account? if so how? thanx. x0 (link)
http://advicenators.com/settings.php jsut go there you can change alot of stuff


A while ago me and me best friend experimented( not below the belt). My friend and i are 13 and girls. After i loved that it happened and i want to do it again. I don't like her like that it's just i liked what happened between us as friends. I sended signal to do it again to her. I think she wants to do it again too. We even make jokes a lot about. I sounds like i like her. I let her know that i wanted to do it again, but i'm afraid she'll not want to be my BFF if actually ask her to experiment again. What should i do?? (link)
see this is really iffy. if your friend is straight, and im sorry if im implying that your bi/gay but if youre thinking this hard about kising a girl again you probably are, she might freak out. still i say you should go for it, actualy id suggest suggesting soemthing else if you want to hide that you liked it so much. be like "hey we did ___ and it was preatty fun lets try this now" this can be whatever you want feel free to send me a private question if you want more info.


At school...im popular, but im kind of ugly. i like boys but they dont like me back more than a friend. At dances im afraid to ask boys to dance and they never ask me. I'm not afraid of dancin with them i'm just afraid if they'll say yes or no. It's the same reason why i dont ask boys to go out with me or something. To top it off, im at a brand new school this year and i dont really know what they would say, if they're like the boys at my old school or not. What should I do? (link)
any even moderately attractive girl can get a guy jsut by asking him out/asking him to dacne. realyl jsut go to a guy and tisk it wahts the worst taht could happen? hell say know and then youll be in the same palce you are now expet you dont have to wonder


Tomorrow i think me and my boyfriend are going to the movies for the first time...well we went once before a looong time ago but anyways...what should i do in the movie theater to "turn him on" ;)??? ive been treating him kinda shitty lately and i want to make it up to him. Thanks! (link)
touch him, talk to him, look at him, really jsut about anyth8ing works guys are alot easier to turn on than girls are. in fact i got a little turned on typing this and thinking about being touched, talked to, or looked at lol. seriously if your there hes turned on


I have this in school and I would consider her one of my best friends. She has a boyfriend and I really like her boyfriend. I don't know what to do. I have asked some of my friends that don't know her but they tell me the same thing, don't do anything. I wouldn't want to lose her as a friend so I won't do anything. But know what if they break up and he likes me? do I go out with my best friends ex-boyfriend??

thanx (link)
boyfriends come and go best friends are forever. dont loose something so great over a guy. we arent worth it, heh.


ok i need to know how to make .25%,.5%,1% and 2.5% glucose solution from 5%of glucose solution? (link)
ok i need to know how to make

.25%, 19 times as much water as solution
.5%, 9 times as much water as solution
1% ad in 4 times the water as you have soulution
2.5% add in an amount of water = to the amount of solution

from 5%of glucose solution?


Okay, well I'm in a tough situation, and I would like a guy’s point of view, so here it goes... I met this guy through a friend of mine, and we have gone through a lot even though we have only known each other since August of 2004. See at first he really liked me, all of my friends, and his friends that I was introduced to would always come up to me or IM me and say things like "Oh wow Brett(the guy I like) likes you so much, and he thinks you're it, and really likes you a lot!" Things like that and for a few weeks that was happening everyday, but then over fall break, he kissed another girl (Shelby) and he was confused and didn't know who he liked more... (And him and Shelby have history together from 2003.) Well, he ended up "choosing" me over her... And he started liking me a lot again, and then people telling me he liked me a lot started once again. Well, now it is basically happening ALL OVER AGAIN, he likes Shelby and me at the same time, and he told one of his friends that I am also friends with, that he just wants a relationship and he doesn't care with who, and his friend told me he got the impression Brett doesn’t like me at all, and if he does it’s very little. Well, when my best confronted him about not liking me anymore in a letter, because that's what I was told, he got really mad and replied back to the letter from my friend saying "I do like her that's why I have her picture in my wallet and look at it everyday, but my feelings come and go. I can control it okay?" So basically he was contradicting himself in saying that his feelings for me come and go, but he controls them? So to me it makes no sense at all... So I guess my question is... What do I do? I mean does he like me or not? And if he doesn't, what changed, and why is he lying? The reason Brett and I haven't gone out already is because his parents are REALLY strict and never let him do anything and he has been grounded since early November, and won’t be able to talk to me a lot until the 18th of this month, and we go to different schools, but next year we will be going to the same one, and he also said in the letter that next year we are going to go out, as long as I still like him... So I am just completely confused, and I don't understand this guy one bit. What should I do? And does he like me? Or is he just desperate and playing me? My deepest apologize for making this so long, but I really need help, I am tired of crying myself to sleep every night over him. (Sorry if this was very confusing or hard to follow.) (link)
wow you win the award for longest question ive ever seen. im guessing when he wrote i can control my feelings he meant can't ive done that before its a common mistake. that said i dont think you should be going through all this crap. having to choose between you and another girl and actualy having to think about it once is bad enough if hes doing it again then i think hes just angling for something. i say forget about him and let shelby deal with the crap. you can find yourself a guy that wont put you through all this.


Ok, I recently picked up a couple subwoofers for my car (2 350W 10" Zebras powered by an 800W amp) and now I was looking at my gravy on my plate.. And it seems to be bouncing.. It never did this kind of thing before I got the subs, and I was wondering if they might be the cause? (link)
not to my knowledge bdt they can mess up yodr gonads




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