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theres this really hot kid that ive had connections with in the past..(the beginning of october) but now he has a gf .. he makes fun of me alot..like when i say something. he would imitate me . is he flirting with me? or is he just being a jerk?

Well it can be both, but most likely he's just being a jerk. Since he already has a gf, it's unlikely he'd flirt with another girl unless he's a player. You should only think he likes you if he shows other signs of liking you besides the making fun of you. If you like him (you say hes hot lol) then you shouldn't try to make a move until he's broken up with his previous gf. Hopefully he's not just being a jerk!!
*|laura|*

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Dear advice people givers (lol),

I got my heart broken recently. Last Sunday to be exact. We'll call him Jason. Jason and I have been going out for a week and 4 days. We known each other for a couple of months and have been aquainted. Jason and I got in a fight the day before we broke up. He was on the phone with me and I told him my personal life and I began to cry too and he threw it in my face saying all this mean stuff. It left me so mad at him. You can't even imagine. Well on the 11th (next day) day he calls and he was all like "Hey what are you doing?" and I said "I am at my house.." I said it with an attitude because I was mad at him. Then he was like "I think we should just be friends..." I just hung up the phone. I have no idea why he broke up with me... I could not talk to him, I didn't want to. Then like 15min later he calls my cell on his friends phone and when I answer he hangs up! I was so mad and so sad. I know boys lie but somehow they make you believe their lie, He said I was the best thing that has ever happened to him and he loved me soo much and he wanted this realationship to last forever. Well...I believed it. I haven't talked to him since we broke up (dec. 5) and for some reason I really want to call him and talk but then again I think I don't want to but then I really do...do i make sense? But then my best friend told me the weirdest thing, she said that when we started hanging out as just friends, that he thought I was a ho or a slut (i wasn't supposed to know). And 1st of all I do not dress or act like one because, yo, I am the farest from being a slut and dude, he wouldn't have gone out with me if that was all that he was looking for. Because he knows me...everything almost. Should I call him? I really miss him...a lot. But he hasn't called me, not even once. I don't want to call him and feel like an idiot...srry 4 it being so long :)
Thanks :)

After that big fight, he was probably angry like you so he broke up with you. If this guy really loved you he wouldn't let that fight ruin the relationship. He would apologize. Since he hasn't called or acted like he cares about you anymore, it seems like he doesn't care once so ever. Yes, guys are good at leading girls on then leaving them broken-hearted. I really don't think it's worth the time to call him. If he wanted you back he would have tried already. I know it's hard to let go of a guy you really like, but if he's going to go call you bad names and do those things to you, he's not worth the trouble. True love is something that never dies, so if it's died
for him it most likely will not work out. Who knows, maybe you'll find a new guy to love. There's many guys who will break your heart, many who you'll love, but you'll make it through. ;)
//laura

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What do you do when your best friend is kind of blowing you off and when you aren't hanging out anymore. I miss her and don't want to let go.

It sounds to me like she might want some space right now. Maybe she found different friends to hang out with. Catch her in the hall or call her. Tell your best friend you'd really like to hang out more and that you don't like when she blows you off. Talk about how you're feeling. If shes's a true friend she will try and make time for you so you can hang out. Suggest seeing a movie or going to her house sometime when she's not busy. If she still continues to ignore you, that's her choice. She doesn't know what she's missing out on with a good friend like you, so you'd have to let go and hang out with your other friends. I hope it all works out for the best!! =)
*laura*

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I'm going to a dance tonight and I'm so excited I need help though, I know what I'm wearing but I need suggestions on what to do with my hair its shoulder length and I have long bangs down to my lips. I also need help with this. My two crushs are going and I really think one of them likes me because he is flirty with me and everything. I do like the other one alot but I don't think he likes me. Please help me decide on which one to go with... xox thanks.

for your hair:
-if its not already curly, curl it a little
-put cute clips on the side
-put up a half ponytail
-just leave it down but brush it really well

I think you should first go for the guy who you think likes you. Then if it doesn't work out you can start talking and flirting with the other guy.. good luck!! =)
{{laura}}

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my mom and dad are realllly religous and they want me to be religous and i dont want to be! i need to be my self and belive what i want. i mean i talk to jesus and pray to him but i cant be saying PRAISE GOD! every SECOND!!! help i dont know what to say to them!!

you should have a talk with your parents. let them know you're okay with being religious, but you don't like showing it so much. it's your own life, so really you can be as religious as you want. compromise with your parents. maybe if you do something religious for them, they can respect you for doing that and not make you do more than you want to. they are your parents, they love you, and should respect your decision.
--laura--

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ok, here's the scoop, i asked one of my friends to talk to the guy that i like....she said that he hates me and thinx i'm ugly and stuff. i don't know whether or not to believe her and i don't know what to do. i don't really think he'd say that, but should i ask him or what? please help if you can. thanx
~ArL0*

yes, you should go talk to him. it's possible he likes you but your friend is secretly jealous so is saying he hates you. asking him yourself is the only sure way to know. be casual when you ask, and you will most likely get a straight answer. if your friend was right, well theres other guys out there. but if he really does like you, have a one on one talk with your friend. go somewhere where theres no a lot of distractions and tell her how you felt when she lied. if your friend is sincere, she will be sorry for it. the best thing would be to forgive her and let her know your there if she needs anyone to talk to. =)
//laura

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me and my bf have been together for a long time now. we haven't gone very far at all. he loves me and i love him but he is pressuring me into going further. i know for sure i don't want to because im not ready. im 14. i love him tho and i want to make him happy... what do i do? he respects me and everything so its not like he is like DO IT OR I WILL BREAK UP W/ YOU i can just tell he really wants to and he asks me if i will and stuff. sometimes he tries to do stuff and i tell him to stop but he keeps trying. later i talk to him about it and he says he jsut cant help it. ill rate

its good he respects you, but you've really got to lay down the line here. when he asks to do stuff with you, explain how important it is to you that you wait until you're ready. be firm about this so he understands. guys' hormones are crazy sometimes, but they can be controlled. you really have to be strong because what if you break up? then the special bond between you will be broken. you would have already given away something that should be given to the person you are truly in love with. i can't make your decision, but i hope you choose waht's best for yourself. if he keeps trying to do things with you after all you've done to stop it, this may signify a break up. its nice to know hes respecting you, but by pressuring you like that he is not being respectful. i hope it works out for the best! =)
..laura..

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if you had the opportunity to have sex with someone you weren't dating but have hooked up with a lot over the past few months would you? i guess im just wondering because everyone says sex is supposed to be a "special" thing you share with someone you love. I think i'm ready but i'm not even dating the guy let alone love him-so if i think he is the right guy to have sex with is he worth the risk? My friend told me, "if you like him don't do it, if you don't like him then go for it"

also on a side note-if you were my friend would you lose respect for me if i made the decision to have sex?

thanks a lot yall :)

yes, your right. sex is a special thing you should share with the one person you truly love. right now you might think you're ready, and you may be, but think about this. what are your chances of getting pregnant? Also, if this guy has had sex before he could be carrying STD's he might not even know about. people say sex takes relationships up to the next level, it's the greatest thing, etc. but really it can hurt a relationship. sex seems like a new and exciting idea for you, but if you have it you're gonna think okay, that was it? this is why i believe you should wait for the person you really love. it will be something very precious, but if you have it now it will not be the same. if i were your friend i would not lose respect in you, but simply your decision. it's your choice, but that's my honest opinion. i hope you make the right choice =)
||laura||

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my boyfriend is always pressuring me to have sex. i'm not a virgin, which i told him, but i dont think i am ready to have sex with him. i mean we have been going out for 4 months, but i really dont think i am ready for that kind of commitment. the last and first guy i had sex with was my first love we had known each other since we were 3. me and him are still friends and my boyfriend always gets jealous of me talkin to him. he also cussed me out various times in person and on the phone. i really dont know what to do about this and i KNOW i cant ask my mom cuz she would go and cuss him out. 17/f/ga

if he gets mad at you because you wont have sex with him, that's most likely all he wants you for. im sorry, but if he really did like you he wouldn't pressure you into it. talk to him about this jealousy issue. let him know that you only had sex with your previous boyfriend was because you were ready. clue him in that that doesn't mean your ready to do it again. if he can't respect your decisions, let him go. it's not fair to you to be pressured into doing what you don't want to.
::laura::

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whats some common xmas songs that i could take to skool so we could listen to them

carol of the bells
jingle bells
have yourself a merry little christmas
jingle bell rock
let it snow
its beginning to look a lot like christmas

theres a list of some i can think of. =)

~laura

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1) what is the difference between making out and kissing i thought that making out is just when you do it for a long time but im not sure
2) what does bi mean

1. yeah, and tongue is involed sometimes
2. bi means that someone likes both guys and girls
//laur

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My girlfriend's and my one month anniversary is going to be on Thursday. What are some good things to do over the weekend with her, such as Saturday? What is a good gift to give her? I am 14/m and she is 16/f. We love each other very much, and I'm not sure what to get her... please help!

you should get her something from the heart. a nice ring, bracelet, necklace, teddy bear, box of chocolates would be good. take her to a romantic movie or simply watch a movie at your house. since this is such a special day, be very romantic and show your feelings. good luck
-laura-

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i am being forced to move from my home in texas, to the cold and mean streets of chicago. my mother got a new job, and she is carting me up there in february. however, my father lives here in tecas. i have the oppurtunity to live with him, but i never have, and we arent very compatible. should i go with my mom, or stay with my dad?

if you give your dad a chance, you could possibly make the relationship work. you should talk to him and see if you could stay with him awhile just to see if it can work. if it's just not gonna happen, then move in with your mom. you already think chicago is going to be terrible, but just like with your dad you should give it a chance. you could actually learn to like it. follow your heart and be true to yourself. good luck with your decision =)
.laura.

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What are some good ways to make your girlfriend feel special, like make her feel like you are the best guy in the world (well I know that's probably around impossible. So I am exaggerating a bit, haha.)? What do you girls think would make you special if your guy said them to you or things like that?

i think you should take your girlfriend to a nice, romantic beach. you should walk down the coast and hold hands. whisper in her ear that you love her and surprise her with a nice rose. that would make a girl feel really special and loved!
-laura

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i hurt my arm the other day and it's broken... i don't want to go to a doctor.. what can i do to get it healed

You need to go to the doctor or you will have many problems with your arm. These problems will affect you for the rest of your life if you don't get it fixed now. You will not regret going to the doctor. I don't know your reason, but please look in to seeing a doctor right away.
//laura

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OKAY will people plllleaase stop asking weight loss questions? i mean if god wanted you to be skinny youd be skinny right? and i hate to see/hear people saying they are anorexic or belimuc ( spelling ? ) because you dont need to diet if you can get out of a chair and breathe! ^ NOT TO BE RUDE :) HAVE A GREAT DAY!

yeah i agree...if you think you are overweight consult with a doctor before committing to anorexia or bulimia. its just not healthy for your body, no matter how much you weigh. if you really, truly need to loose weight get plenty of water and exercise and eat healthy foods. be happy how you are! =)
-laura

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ok well i play vball n im realli good at it im one of tha top members on my team...well my coach recommended for me to switch skools so i can start playin jv..only thing is im in 7th grade so id bein goin to a secondary skool n being wit 9th graders n stuff...well all my friends r like i hate you if u move im never gonna talk to you again..so im confused should i go or not?? bcuz if i go to tha skool im gonna b playin vball in a more advanced team but ima b leavin all my friends..but if i stay then ima stay on tha same vball team n b ahead of every1 on my team and i cant do nething i kno bcuz they dont kno it yet..sry its long ill ratE! wuts ur opinion on this?

do what YOU want to do, not your friends. they should be supportive of your descisions, and if they aren't, they aren't being good friends. this is a great opportunity for you and if you want to do it, go ahead! you can still keep your old friends and make new ones. i think you should think this through and decide what is the best for you. My opinion is that you should go for the JV team! =)
*laura*

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Theres this girl. We were dating for a year( i know thats preety sad) Now i want to break up with her. How do i brake up with someone without hurting their feelings?

first of all, how is that sad that you have been going out with someone for a year? i think that shows good commitment. are you sure you want to break up with her? think of the reasons why, and you be the judge of whether it's really worth giving her up. if you really feel you want to break up with her, say something like: "hey baby i dont think this is working, i think we should break up" no matter how you put it she will be upset, but you can try to put it as nicely as you can. i hope you make the right decision here.
[[laura]]

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I have a friend...let's call her "Megan". Megan and I are pretty cool. We hang out at school, between classes and after school on occasions. I have no problem going places with her, spending the night at her place...stuff like that. We're pretty good friends. She just has this really annoying habit of always trying to ruin someone else's good time.

Like, in an argument, when she's wrong and you're right, she'll scramble for any possible reason to say you're still wrong. Or if something good happens to you, she'll always say something to make you feel terrible about it. I hope that makes sense. It bothers me a lot and I've tried telling her it's annoying, but she still does it.

I don't want to stop being friends with her. She's cool most of the time. This is just starting to get to me. Why can't she let anyone else have a little sunshine sometimes? :(

it sounds like she is trying to make herself feel better, because maybe she's not so secure inside. if she wont listen to you when you confront her, you have other options. if this behavior is really bugging you, try to avoid getting in these situations where she acts like that. when its happening, walk away and ignore her. this will give the hint that you are fed up with what she's been doing. if you know of any problems she's been having that could cause stress, let your friend know you are there for her.
*laura*

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My best friend was flirting with the guy i really like. What should I do?

aww tell her that you dont like what she is doing. be straight forward and let her know you'd like a chance with him. if she's a true friend she will respect you and back off. keep that in mind if she ignores your request =)
*-laura-*

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