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my boyfriend is always pressuring me to have sex. i'm not a virgin, which i told him, but i dont think i am ready to have sex with him. i mean we have been going out for 4 months, but i really dont think i am ready for that kind of commitment. the last and first guy i had sex with was my first love we had known each other since we were 3. me and him are still friends and my boyfriend always gets jealous of me talkin to him. he also cussed me out various times in person and on the phone. i really dont know what to do about this and i KNOW i cant ask my mom cuz she would go and cuss him out. 17/f/ga
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It sounds to me like you need a new bf. If he is pressuring you into doing things your not ready for, verbaly abussing you, and gettin jealous everytime you talk to one of your other guy friends, he doesnt sound like a good bf to me. Don't wast all of your love and tim eon a guy that isnt gonna return the favor.
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You should totally dump his ass! What a loser! It sounds like your friend treats you better anyway!
*Kate*
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break up with the jerk off.....hes pressuring you into something you dont wanna do, he cusses u out all the time. he gets jealous over something really stupid.....you deserve better
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if u guys are already having probelms in your relationship, dont have sex with him becuase then you are going to beocme way more attached and then not b able to leave hm, and your going to get hurt, It seems like things are already tipping the scales and its only been 4 months, if he dosent respect that you dont want to have sex yet then u need to find a new boyfreind
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how can i say this DUMP THE A#@ HOLE!!!! hes got no wright to pressure you into sex and he has no wright to yell u out when you u are with a friend so go to your mom about it because if he trys to force you to have sex with him thats rape and thats just wrong also if you half to find some1 to help you a freind some family or something becaus guys like that can get abusive and if he dose you schould have some1 thair to help you if he herts you
well thats all i half to say hope i helped
goodluck and be careful
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sorry but you need to get rid of this guy and out of this relationship ASAP! stand up to him. be like i'm not going to because i'm not ready and if you can't accept that then you can leave. he shouldn't be swearing at you because that is so extremely rude! wow that guy has some serious problems. good luck & hope i helped!
xoxo *MiZZ niCoLe LYnn*
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casterate him that way he wont have to have sex
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tell him to get over himself and youll tell him when ur ready!!!!
linz
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To put this in simplest terms, BREAK UP WITH HIM!!!! He is obviously not the right guy for you. What gives him the right to pressure you for sex. Is it just because you had sex with your very first boyfriend or something. Sounds to me like he is trying to compete against something that he cant. And obviously he is emotionally abusive if he cusses you out on the phone which is not helping his case in any way. You dont have to put up with this.
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He wants a piece of ass and the sooner you give it up the sooner he will dump you. So dont be an idiot...DUMP HIM FIRST!
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If he's pressuring you to have sex and you don't want to, tell him that it's your body and that you can do whatever you want to do . Tell him he has no right to curse you and that he has no right to tell you when you should lay down with him . Who does he think he is ? Oh and my advice is that if he curses you just because he's jealous and just because he wants to have sex with you, then move on . He's not worth it . He doesn't understand you from what it seemed like you typed . Your worth seems damn good, and your worth as a girl must be damn great to put up with him . Because I wouldn't . You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel .If you don't like his reply , you know what you can do . Well , I hope I was some help . By .
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If you are not ready to have sex then DON'T!! The last thing you should do is go ahead with something that you are not ready for. You will only feel used afterwards and regret your decision. If your boyfriend is pushing you to have sex then you need to explain to him why you are not ready, otherwise he will just think you don't fancy him or that you still have feelings with your ex. If he understands, then that's great, but if he doesn't and continues to pressurise you then maybe you should reconsider your relationship because if he pressurises you into having sex and you do, he might think he can pressurise you into other things.
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just go for it
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Honey, I'm sorry to say it but... you just might want to reconsider his importance to you. There are two really good peices of advice I've heard from other people...the first is that just because you love someone doesn't mean it's right. Unfortunately...Love isn't eveything even though we'd all like it to be that easy and the second peice of information is that the person who cares the least has the most control in a relationship. Does he truly care about YOU if he's pressuring you all the time? sadly, I must say No. It's rough but I think you have some things to really consider. I think about how I want to be and the kind of life I want for my kids and then decide, based off of that, if this guy is going to help me or not.
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If you feel your not ready dont do it easy as that.And if you decide to do then he is gonna begin thinking he can have it anytime.4 months isn't very much so i suggest you not to and if he really love you he wont pressure you but why dont you ask one of his friends that you trust what they think or something cause they might know something from the past you might need to know.I hope I helped Good LUCK!
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if the guy was a good boyfriend, he wouldn't pressure you. he'd wait until you were ready. if he's going to keep pressuring you like he is, then i would get rid of him. i'm sure you don't want to be pressured anymore. just tell him ur not ready for the commitment! hope i helped :o)
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if he gets mad at you because you wont have sex with him, that's most likely all he wants you for. im sorry, but if he really did like you he wouldn't pressure you into it. talk to him about this jealousy issue. let him know that you only had sex with your previous boyfriend was because you were ready. clue him in that that doesn't mean your ready to do it again. if he can't respect your decisions, let him go. it's not fair to you to be pressured into doing what you don't want to.
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