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I don't belong to a group in high school, I'm a floater. I'm just nice to everyone. I don't have a best friend anymore and I don't have a group of kids that I hang out with on a regular basis. I've never gone on a trip with my friends, I don't go shopping with them, I don't talk to anyone on the phone.

I'm outgoing, nice, and I can make anyone laugh. I play volleyball, I used to be a cheerleader for my school, and I'm in several clubs. I try to strike up conversation but it never lasts long. Everyone seems to have their best friends already and they're not willing to take me in. If I want to do something, I have to make the plans, and most of the time everyone else already has plans. I hate it. My mom constantly reminds me that I'm always alone.

I just want to fit in.
What should I do?

First of all, try and get out of the mindset that nobody wants to take you in. You can't expect to meet someone and instantly become best friends. But, with a little time and once they get to know you, I'm sure people will want to be best friends with you. Just don't push it, you know? Instead of always trying to make the plans, sit back and enjoy being alone sometimes. It sounds to me like you are already doing all the right things: you're social, in a lot of clubs, and talk to people. Just keep that going, but maybe step down a level. Let people come to you.
I hope it all works out for you. Good luck! =]

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My face gets really dry ad flakey. What is a really good moisterizer that will keep my face moisterized all day?

There's this moisturizer that I use called Eucerin creme (Original non-scented kind).
Put it on at night and be sure to not blend it in like a normal moisturizer. Just leave it on while you sleep and when you wake up it'll be gone.
You should see results within a few nights of using it. You're skin will be nice and soft all day. =]

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My friend has times when he can be rather depressed. He won't want to do anything, but I'll try to get him to go do things with me to get his mind off of things. Sometimes it will help. Btw I'm 15/f and my friend is 17/m. We're good friends and I hate to see him hurting. He has a girlfriend who he doesn't see very much and she is kind of a b***h, and his father abusive. I thought my friend was getting better. He had seemed happy, but then he stopped telling me about things and started keeping in his emotions, but it didn't seem that bad. He had talked about suicide before and I talked to him about it and he said he wouldn't actually do it. I know he has a big fear of death. He hates seeing people in pain. So, what got we worrying was his sister. She said that he has been talking about killing himself a lot, and she tries to comfort him. He always asks her what she would do if he died. His home has been getting kinda bad. I told him he can always stay with me and get away and I try to help him, but he needs more. What can I do for him? Also, he knows he's depressed, and once told me, he would do anything to stop it; medication, or even suicide. I'm very worried about him. I love him very much and don't want to see him hurt. Please tell me what I should do, how I should talk to him. What are some things I can do for him myself right not without getting outside sources involved? Thanks in advance.

Continue showing your support for him. He needs to know that you don't want to see him hurt or dead because you care about him. That's the first step.
I know that you don't want to get outside sources involved...but he really needs some professional help. Think of what is best for him. At least he knows he is struggling with depression; that's good that he knows there's a problem. From what you've said, it appears that his parents probably wouldn't seek help for him so maybe you should tell your parents. They could help him get to a counselor or psychiatrist.
I know it's a difficult decision, but he could get better with your support and possible counseling.
Good luck, and bless you for being a good friend to him in his time of need.

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ok when a guy hold your hand and your like sitting there and he rubs his thumb over your hand what are you supposed to do? do rub his hand too? or just do nothing at all?

It all depends what you are comfortable with. You don't 'have' to do anything. Do what feels right. It's not considered weird if you rub his hand too.

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17/F, During the dance, my ex boyfriend who dumped me last year kept staring at me and my date(my guy friend)from the beginning to the end. then, while my date and I were dancing, my ex walks next to us, and he was freaking and grinding hardcore with this girl. I think that he was trying to get my attention or make me jealous. When we were leaving, I noticed that my ex kept looking at me in the parking lot. do you think that he still has feelings for me?

I personally think that this guy may still have feelings for you. However, if he is drawing all this attention to himself that negatively, he seems like a jerk. He should allow you to move on because he's the one who let you go. Even if he did want you back, him saying mean comments about your guy friend and grinding on other girls right in front of you isn't cool.
It's up to you about whether you want to take him back or not if he likes you. I think he does, but if it were me, I wouldn't want someone who acts like that as my boyfriend.
Good luck and I hope everything works out okay.

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I dated this girl named jessica for about to mounts and she got pragent with our baby and she was 19 years old and when she told her mom and dad thay told her it was me and the baby or them and she told me it was over and she had to get rid of the baby and now we are talking again kinda and every time we see each other we want to get back togeather but she alway talks about her mom and dad so i was just wondering what should i do about this im 17 years old and i am a mal

Family is very important and she chose to keep the peace with her parents. It's a very sad decision to have to make, but in this case it was necessary. Now after seeing you again and talking once more, it's completely natural for her to bring up her parents and you should be supportive of her.
If you two want to get back together after all this, you'd need to make sure it is okay with her family. Without their support, it could get real messy. She might start feeling vulnerable and upset if she can't turn to her parents. That wouldn't be the best thing for you two. If her parents still don't want you two together, I'm sorry but you have to respect their wishes.
My advice would be either try and gain back her parents trust, or better yet wait a few more years so things can cool down a little more. I'm sorry you had to go through this heartbreak.
Best of luck, I hope it all works out.

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Ok So... I have this friend. Her and I have been friends for like 5-6 years. The thing is...We were like a group of 6, then we narrowed down to a group of 3 for various reasons. I always knew I wasn't her best friend... but I thought that I was at least her next best friend. You know it was always her me and the other girl hanging and talking and helping each other etc. I mean we have been through thick and thin you know what I mean. So her friendship with her best friend...we'll call her L, started getting rough...it was getting rough for like, well since we all started being friends that shit has been rough. Anyway, it went up and down and the progressively got worse. So her and L got into it, and then she stoped talking to me. Slowly at first and then for good for like 2 months. Then she called me out of the blue one day and was acting like nothing happened and she had been calling me the whole time. So I was like what happened? SO I told her how I felt and we decided that some bogus shit like that wasn't going to happen again. So i thought. Now Her and L get into it like a year later, and she stops talking to me AGAIN. I hadn't heard from her since Christmas until about 3 days ago. Now let me not forget to mention. Between Christmas and 3 days ago she did send me 3 text messages. She sent me a happy new year, a happy birthday and one other message...I think merry christmas. That was it. Nothing extra. Even when I tried to get more out of her. So she hit's me up on myspace Like 2 days ago after she called me and says, "WTF, (what the fu**) You deleted me from your top friends and you aren't answering my calls."
Now mind you... she hasn't been blowing up my phone. She called me ONE DAY like 5 times in a row...When she left a message she didn't say oh I'm sorry I havent called you...she just said "call me back, bye." Since Christmas I had been trying to call her and get in contact with her for like 2-4 weeks before I gave up (via: Mysapce,Phone Calls, Text Messages). I even contacted her MOM dude!...So my thing is like...In my heart, the friendship is really important to me and I really want to work it out. She and that group were the best friends that I ever had. We had so many experiences together and I really love them. At the same time though, I deserve better treatment. I am a good friend, I am always there when I can be and I am loyal and do good by people, feel me? So, if she is willing to work stuff out, do you all think I should give it a 3rd try? and let this be the last? or do you think I should just be like fuck it and know that she is a fair weather friend and just leave it at that and don't even try to work it out.
Thank you for your patience but I really had to give the background for it to make sense.
Peace

Honestly, I think you should move on and find a new group to hang out with. This girl seems to be trying to make it look like it's your fault that she's not talking to you. That's not cool. People who do that are insecure about themselves, so they take it out on their friends for some reason.
From what I understand, she claims that she tried to call you and you never called back, even though you know for a fact that you tried to call her but she wouldn't pick up. This girl is taking advantage of you. She seems to have it in her head that you are going to crawl back to her no matter what she puts you through. Friends are supposed to be there for each other no matter what, but that's a little ridiculous.
You've clearly been a good friend to her, but this doesn't seem worth it. You do deserve better treatment. You need friends who will care for you the same way you care for them. I would carefully separate yourself from this girl and make some new friends.
Best of luck!

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I am the.."advisenator" of all my friends. Now, I odn't know how but all my friends are depressed and are the type of people noone would suggest me to hang out with but I help them mentally a lot. and they tell me all their problems and stress and i help them feel better. But now it feels like it's all added to me and im starting to go down. What can i do?

Sometimes it's hard being a good listener and a good friend because often it does feel like the all problems have just been passed to you. The way I think of it though, is that now the burden has been divided between people so you each aren't weighed down as much as if it were just one person carrying it. It kinda brings comfort to me when I feel stressed about my issues along with my friends. It's wonderful that you are such a great friend as to help and listen to these stressful problems.
One way to relieve some of this stress, and I know this might sound silly, is to tell yourself what you advised your friends to make them feel better. Think, 'What advice would I give one of my friends?' and then give it to yourself. Follow your own advice. Trust me, it helps. If it helped your friends through their rough times, then shouldn't it help you too?

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i heard this song the other day called rain but i forgot who sang it!i know it starts with a Z i think.its like r&b! some of the lyrcs are -raindrops keep falln on my head--its like a r&b remix to the orginal version of that song andit slow!!!thanx to anyone who helps!!!!

Is it by Razah?

Here's the song on YouTube if you want to listen to it...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hdcdWkgXfKI

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i have friends who don't act like they are really my friends for example one girl told some other people her "secret" then one girl is telling me she is like i can't tell anyone. it's like they don't trust me, i am boring or i wera a scarf for religious reasons,my sis has friends who trust her and she doesn't wear her scarf i had the same problem with me in my last school even though i didn't wear a scarf.I can't also seem to make any friends because i don't hv any thing to talk about and i am kind of shy!

I used to have this problem too. In fact, I still do sometimes. It has nothing to do with your scarf, trust me lol. It's not your fault, but here's some hints on how to reach out to people and make friends.
I understand the shy part totally. Sometimes though, being shy can be a good thing in a friendship. If everybody wanted to say something all at once in a conversation, then that wouldn't really be such a great discussion. So, instead, try standing there listening for a moment when conversations are started with you. Play to your strengths basically. If you don't have anything to say, just listen.
Sometimes, people choke up when talking to people because they are thinking too hard about what to say. Just because there is a silence doesn't mean it has to be an awkward one. Don't stress out about what the other person is thinking of you not saying anything, because it takes more than one person to create a silence.

Hope that helped a little. Good luck!

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theres these 2 sixth graders i wana kill. they bitch about how i dress and act. gothic emo or punk. they need to stfu. i cant do anything to them teacher heard them once and all she said as dont hurt them. i go to a catholic school im in 8th. i cant beat them up or cuss them out altho my friends did a few times for me. i worked face painting at a carnival in school with some my friends. she had the nerve to say o looking really depressed i see to us, all dress like me. we scared her shitless. she asked for a heart like on my coat wich was a blakc heart with barbwire. shes so happy sayin she liked it then she gets to the other bitch and then they get pissed and say ohh she must be having problems today. i cant lay one hand on her or say anything mean o curse so wtf can i do. my guy friend just threatend to say one of her biggest secrects during lunch"wich he didnt no". what do i do its sad this is about 6th graders when im in 8th. i do scare the shit outa them XD like today me talkin to my guy friend we talked loud just for them cuz i knew theyd listen i forget hat we wer sayin but they got shivers and are scared. help?

These sixth graders are very immature and silly, but they are getting to you. You're just giving them what they want when you react. The next time they come up to you, or say something catty, just take a deep breath and ignore them; be the bigger person.

Good luck with these 6th graders; I really hope this helped you out.

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what are some random songs that talk about something really random?
like bycycle race by queen (where all he talks about is wanting to ride his bike)
or all i want is you (where he talks about glue and trees)

helpp
--randomer

Yellow Submarine by the Beatles
^it might have a deeper meaning, but if you don't take it that way it's pretty random lol

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Agh, I heard this U2 song once on the radio and I have no idea what it's called - I just know it's by U2. It was so beautiful, kinda slow/steady and not too "rock"y.

Does anyone know what it might be called? If there's more than one possible title (which is most likely to be the case), just list down the titles that have the potential of being the song I'm in love with!

Thanks loads.

I have a feeling you're thinking of "Sometimes You Can't Make It On Your Own"

But here's a few others that it might be:
I Still Haven't Found What I'm Looking For
With or Without You
Stuck in a Moment You Can't Get Out Of
Sweetest Thing
One
Walk On

I hope that helps! Let me know if it did =]

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ok im 15 now and i don't know if theres something
wrong with or what because ive only dated people on the internet its like nomatter what i do i can't seem to get a boyfriend . its not like i want to date someone o just be with someone i only want tto date people who care about me and are interested in what i have to say. so my question is why isnt any guy interested in me ?
because im like outgoing and stuff im in the 9th grade now and im gettin worried that i'll never find a guy so if anyone can give me any tips or anything that would be great thankies.

My advice: Stop worrying.
Honest. When you excessively worry about this, it shows sometimes and that can be a big turn-off for guys. Sooner or later the right guy will come along sweetie. You just have to be patient. It's nothing to beat yourself up over. Just be flirty and true to yourself and you'll be fine.
Here's a website that gives you some flirting tips:
http://www.romantic-lyrics.com/flirtideas.shtml
Good luck with they guys!

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so I'm going to try to make this as short as possible...here it goes:
there are two guys guy #1 and 2...
#1: He is nice to me, incredibly sweet (although none of my friends or family like him and he's not very attractive), but in school (and outside of school) I never see him. So, when we are passing in the hallway or see eachother at lunch it is sooo awkward because we only talk on AIM and text, and we just like don't say anything. Well, he asked me out once, and then told me he liked me another time, and I told him I liked him too (because I do) and then he asked me if I would ever go out with a guy like him...and I said not until things becaome less awkward for us. sooo he dropped the subject and it's been weeks since he brought it up. I flirt with him a lot on text, but he can be a liar. so anyways, he brought up the subject again, but I might be liking another guy now.
#2. He is more attractive than guy #1, I talk to him at lunch (in school and on text) my friends like him, my family does too, but we nver hung out outside of school. He is tall and makes me laugh, and my friends are trying to set me up with him,, telling me how cute we are and everything, but he sends mixed signals. and I don't think he likes me as a gf, just a friend, but I'm not really sure. It's really confusing. We never talked about our relationship and whatnot, so I don't know who to like.
Can anyone help me out? comments and opinions would be greatly appeciated. thanks a bunchh.

Well, though they shouldn't completely run your life, your friends/family's opinion does matter. Guy #1 seems good because he's nice, but if your friends and family don't like him that's not so good. And if you guys don't communicate in person, only in texting, that's not good either. People act differently sometimes online than they do in real life.
Guy #2 seems better because your family and friends at least like him. However, if he only sees you as a friend then that is how it is. But you can change that. Flirt with him more and show him that you are ready for a relationship.
This isn't based on looks by the way. I just think that if your family and friends don't like a guy, you are in for a rough ride if you two go out. Trust me on this one.

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Okay, so I've been a bit of a tomboy/goofball since the 3rd Grade. I love hanging out with guys (and I have WAY more guy friends than gal friends), I joke around a lot, and I'm a bit clumsy. But this isn't what I really want. I can't get dates, because guys usually thnk I'm joking when I say I like someone. It drives me crazy and I can't go through a day without thinking: "Am I ever going to get a boyfriend like this?"

So I want to turn my life around. The problem is I am NOT suitable for absolute girly girl. I mean, I want to change out of my old pants (meant for guys) and things but I don't want to be a pink loving, make up applying, small dog loving girly girl.

So... how can I start changing my life? I've tried before, and it turned out as a disaster. I don't want to change right away, because I'll be interrogated by hundreds of people if I just show up at school in a skirt on Monday.

How can I approach this without making a complete idiot of myself?

Baby steps. Start with wearing jeans meant for girls. Then, move on to slightly girly shirts. Flirt with guys instead of joking around them.
Keep your friends and keep your personality. All you want is to slightly alter your style.

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16/m how do you get a girl to fa in love/ike you, i know all girls are different and a that but what generally works?

What generally works is making an effort to go up and talk to her and paying attention to what she's saying. I know that sounds cliche but trust me on this...I'm a girl so you'd think I would know lol.

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So I have this friend who I was really good friends with about 2/3 years ago, but about 2 years ago we kinda drifted apart, mainly cos we kinda realised we didnt have that much in common.
Anyway, so we only used to speak once every couple of months if that, and even then it was only to say hi. But now he has broken up with his GF he has started to call me all the time and asking to borrow my car! I lied last time and said it was broken and in the garage but what shall i do if he keeps asking me this? I think its a bit much to be asking these kind of favours to someone you havent hardly spoken to in 2/3 years.

Tell him nicely that you've kinda drifted apart over the past years and that under the circumstances it would be a little weird of him to want to borrow your things. He needs to understand that he can't just call up random friends from a while back expecting favors; that's called using people. Just be sure to tell him in a totally non-confrontational way...you don't want to start a fight or anything.
Good luck!

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I am 14 5'6 and weigh about 125 pounds
I think I am kinda, well fatt!
Everyone around me thinks I am really thinn
But when I put a bikini on, I look huge!
My ribs are very bigg, so when I stand there, my stomach looks huge
I also have a pouch where fats sits...like not a lot, but when I walk, it moves
So anyways...my BMI is a healthy weight
Well whats your opinion on how bigg should you be to not wear a bikini, like wheres the line to say "your much to big for a two-piece."

All advice is welcomed

125 lbs is proportional to your height. You are actual 5 lbs below the average for women 5'6.

As for wearing a bikini...everyone's shy in bikinis, even occasionally stick-thin people. I'd say that if you want to wear one, go for it! You are at the ideal weight for your height. The only person who will judge you is yourself. So, when you look in the mirror, look for the good things that you love. Then, pretty soon, the bad things won't seem so bad.

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14/f. ok so i have this best guy friend who have a crush on. and he really likes me too. well the other day we started talking but little did i know he's talking to this girl i hate. and it makes me mad b/c he's always saying ily and callingme bby and other stuff...but yet he's doing it o her too.
and on his tops on myspace she's 4th i'm no where on there. i wa son his headline for one day. i wonna say i don't like him anymore and call it off but i like him too much and what if that distroys our friendship?

This guy sounds like a player to me. He really isn't worth having a crush on. He doesn't seem to be interested in furthering your relationship and is just toying with your emotions which is not cool.
If you still want to keep him as a friend, try opening your eyes to other possible crushes. Once you move on, his actions won't have as much effect on you anymore. I guarantee there are a lot of guys out there that are better for you than this player.

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