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"Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place."
I'm an optimist. I can find the beauty in anything. I'm creative. I love spontaneity, peace, & parties. I'm the farthest thing from shy. There's not one person on this earth that I don't care about. I like deep conversations, change, & random acts of kindness. Every emotion I feel is ten times as strong as yours. I have alot of empathy for other people. I'm real open minded & liberal. All I want to do is make at least one person's life a little easier. :D
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my life is falling apart in hate~13/f mad as hell without my friends. i went to a party. my bffs are a guy joe and a girl jill. so im with them alot. joe and i love eachother so i thought. it was drama for jill so I just went with her. i keep everything in i have no real emotions i even went to the doctor they dono why. The guy she likes danced with everyother girl and asked me i told him off. Joe my bff was ignoring me and dancing with everyother girl too. she cried for tom. i ignored joe. they thought it was funny if they both did try to make us mad. but he was trying to make me jelous tom even said. but joe wouldnt even talk to me at all 2 bffs not even saying a word at a 6 hour party. who in a 6 hours would usually talk so much. i love him but hate him so much! his bday is today and for my bday he was counting down and everything and said he missed me. but for his bday i dont know what to do. i hate him so much right now! he danced with every girl even 2 of my real close friends. their gothic to he even said they scare him. if they scare him he had enough nerve to dance with the only 2 people in the junior high who freak him out. to hurt me. i have 4 bffs I guess and out of the 4 its him and jill and other 2 he danced with. im going threw alot even before the party im loseing everything and alot of people in fights deaths and everything. out of my relative i knew 19 died so far i deal with deaths well. but my only cousin who ever understood me is now gone forever and never coming back. I have 6 friends i think counting them 4. but i dont even know now. becuz if he went threw so much to hurt me enough to make me cry he has never ever made me or even seen me cry in the 2 years of being bffs and even before that. joe and jill are everything to me their my 2 bffs i dono what id die without them. infact dead right nowthey saved my life from suicide at the very moment with the gun to my head. im crying my eyes out now. with my favorite songs 'i hate everything about you' and 'pain' by 3 days grace explain me. bff of 2 years wouldnt do this to each other whats wrong? why would he try to hurt me? i told him in person i like him he told me he loved me. is that what all guys do? how do i change it? what do i do for his bday? why dance with the only people who scare him so badly to make me mad? why ignore me? how do i ask him? and anything else i forgot. all the hate i go threw with parents cousins friends enemies and now my bff the last person i have other than my other bff and 2 other friends. but out of everything in my life i care about him. its drivin me crazy! I really need help all the hate I deal with daily im losing all I got to live for. I didn’t kill myself last year because he said he would miss me and die by my grave. So many people die from suicide and cancer for me id be nothing new but it would be a first for him. He saved my life. Now its back at the beginning and might happen again.
alright, alright.
hold on -- i gotta read this again.
lol, i'm slow. sorryy.
okay, i got it.
well, if he's trying to make you jealous, he must care for you some how to even do that. i have a guy friend who did that -- turns out, he liked me.
never think three bad things in a row. once you get on the third one -- think about something happy or just change the subject or whatever in your head. think about other people & compare your lives to theirs, it really can help you put things a different perspective. try & volunteer places & help other people -- it makes you feel good about yourself.
even though this may be hard, instead of staying home, go out & do something. like, go shopping or go see a movie or go get ice cream or go get your nails done. & it doesn't have to be with friends, simply go with your mom.
guys are confusing. lol, i'm guessing that he likes you & wasn't sure if you liked him, so he was just testing you when he was dancing with the other girls. he probably didn't care who he was dancing with, he just wanted to see your reaction.
just flat out ask him. i mean, if he told you, he probably does.
for his party, just go. you can ask him about it there. =]
good luck!
i used to be in your situation kind of, so let me know if you need anything else.
lately my friend has been ditching me for her other friends. I showed my anger towards her (i didnt tell her) and she asked me if I wanted to hang out with her this weekend. (we live across the city from each other so we don't normally get together) we participate in an after school activity with each other, but then one of my softball friends is doing it too.. so my friend feels left out.
I emailed her 4 times today asking her what she wanted to do, and she only replied once saying that she couldn't do anything until after 1pm. so around 2pm i called her 2 times and she didn't pick up. then I called her again around 3pm and she didn't pick up. I emailed her the 5th time asking her where she was and she replied an hour later saying that she was outside running and that she can do something next weekend, but i'm busy then!
she ALWAYS does this! I ask her if she wants to hang out over the weekend or something (I always invite her over because I feel like our friendship is fading away) and then she ends up saying she can't make it or that she's busy. Sometimes she doesn't even have an excuse and just says next time. but there's NEVER a next time!
oh and another thing... If i ask her a question in one of my emails, she won't answer it. everytime I call her, she'll make up an excuse saying that she has to go. In school, she just wants to hang out with her dance friends. I play softball and when I talk about it (she hates softball) she'll get upset and annoyed. I seriously think that whenever I try to be nice, she has to be really mean to me.
I don't want our friendship to end, because honestly... I don't have many friends. all of my softball friends are so stuck up and mean to me. All of my friends at school already have best friends so they don't really include me.
I don't know... i just feel like my friend doesn't want to be around me, yet she still asks me if I want to hang out with her later (but she always break's them), she still emails me... but like once a day.
HELP! What should I do??
thanks for everybody taking the time to help
i hate to say this, but this might just be her way of trying to break apart from you.
some people have issues with committment rather it's a boyfriend, girlfriend, or just a friend. i guess they just get bored of that person. hah, i don't know. i used to be friends with someone who did sort of how you described & all i did was just give her some space.
don't get mad when she doesn't want to hang out or anything, just say, "oh, okay. that's fine." or something.
for now, just get one of your friends to ask her if she still likes you or if she's mad or anything.
good luck!
last night... me, 3 of my friends, and my crush all went to my friend lacy's house. while we were there, we were just doing stupid stuff, and then i got up on a table and started baton twirling. i was doing really good, then i hit myself in the head fell off the table. it was so embarrassing. he just like, looked at me. then, to make up for what i had done.. i tried to be funny. so i pantsed my friend and she teared up. he just looked at me again. ugh! finally, the girls did a little dance routine to "thriller"... it was fun and i did really good, then i went to the bathroom when we were done and saw that i had a huge black smudge on my face and my hair was sticking up.. bad.. now i know why they are laughing. what should i say to him? is it too late to redeam myself? or am i just doomed...?
most guys, when they REALLY really like you, they don't care how you look. they think you're beautiful no matter what. so if he likes you, i'm sure it didn't make a difference to him.
& uhh, a friend is supossed to tell you that stuff .. not laugh their ass off at you. in my opinion, that's pretty immature of them.
hey, everyone makes mistakes.
did the friend who you pantsed like the guy or something? why the heck did she tear up? most of my friends would just crack up laughing & then be over it, but they wouldn't get mad or cry.
he probably didn't think anything of it about you hitting yourself in the head. next time, just like laugh it off or something & don't feel stupid about it. did he have a blank expression on his face, or what?
okay so my friend is really mad at me for something that was even my fault, but anyways thats besides the point.
when this girl is mad at you, she can be sooo mean. and i mean, really really mean. and i want to be like "whatever shes mad at me i dont care", but if she's being mean, i know its going to get to me. does anyone have any words of advice i can think about when i see her? like...idk anything. =[
wow, i was in that same exact situation until about two days ago with my wonderful, um, friend.
except, i was the one mad at her & her & her retarded self got mad at me for that. makes no sense, right?
me & three of my other friends just finally had enough. we tried to work it out with her & this is what we said:
"look, we haven't done anything to you, so chill out. you don't want to be our friend & we don't want to be yours, so just back off. we don't care what you say to us, because half of the time we don't give a shit & the other half, it's either pathetic or just doesn't make sense."
of course, OUR friend has to be a little jerk about it & didn't back off. if your friend does that, just let it go because she obviously doesn't have a life if she has to keep harassing you guys. if it gets too bad though, just go to the counselor.
okay, i just realized that my boyfriend can be really controlling at points.
like earlier today, i was on the phone with him and i was on myspace too, and he asked me if i was on myspace and i told him i was and he got mad because i have a bone disease in my wrist and so it like makes it worse when i type and so he got mad and he was like you didnt tell me that you were gonna get on the computer. and he does that constantly.
and he sometimes treats me like his dog or pet or something.
like at church if i just stand there and dont follow him, he'll like yell at me and say something like get your butt over here! or why aren't u coming with me? and he'll say it with an attitude and it seems like hes the one on his period.
but i just dont know what to do about it.
should i wait a couple of days and see if it gets worse or talk to him about it???
please and thank you.
with the myspace thing? what the hell.
you dom't have to tell him every thing you do.
the last part, umm, he's a little bit clingy.
gahh, guys like that piss me off.
then again, i get annoyed to easily sometimes. =]
well, if it's really bothering you, go ahead & talk to him about it & politely ask him to stop. the longer you hold it in, the angrier you'll get.
if he doesn't stop after that, he needs a life.
dump him.
I went to get what were supossed to be highlights last year. First of all, THEY WERE WHITE BLONDE! Second, they dyed ALL of it! Not just highlights! So, I freaked out and a month later I went to another hair salon, they made it red. THEN about two months ago, I went to another place and the guy added some brown and blonde highlights, so now it looks BARELY any better, but not as bad. The way it looks is really lowering my self esteem and how I feel about the way I look. It's already grown out about 3 inches, though. I seriously think I will kill someone if they screw up my hair again. & my parents will probably scream if I ask if I can go to another salon and fix it. What should I do?
Try the pantene curl reviving deep conditioner stuff. It's amazing. =]
Just tell your parents basically what you told us.
I'm dying my hair again and I don't want to look wierd or any thing but I have Baby blue eyes a kind of pail (not white just pail) skin tone and I'm thinkin of dying it Blonde I could use help!
oh and my names Massie could you picture a blonde gurl named Massie?
hm, well, i've dyed my hair many times.
so trust me -- i KNOW what i'm talking about.
if you have pale skin, then that wont make it look too good. so to start off, try getting highlights instead. if you're hairs brown, get really light brown highlights. if it's red, just get blond highlights.
make sure you go to a professional hair stylist though!
Hey. I'm thirteen/female and my friend Jill invited me to go to her birthday party. I moved away from the town she lives in when I was in fourth grade, but I go to these parties every year. See, this year, I want to go, and see all my old friends, but I'm nervous about meeting the new people Jill has become friends with. What should I do? And it's a sleepover party, and calling to go home at a sleepover would be kinda, idk, just like, not our age type thing to do. Should I go and see if I have a good time [ I usually do], or not go and save myself possible nervousness?
yep, been there & done that.
if you start to feel bad, about 30 minutes before you plan on saying something start acting a little bit tired or say that you have a headache, stomach ache, sore throat, or something like that. then after about 20-30 minutes, say that you don't feel good & you think you should go home.
before you leave no matter what excuse you use, make sure to say something like, "I'm really sorry I couldn't have stayed & I wish I could have, but thanks for inviting me. I'll just see you later I guess. Oh and happy birthday."
13/f. I was in the popular preppy group but now I am in the gothic. I think I am still bffs with my friend in the popular group. If I ask her anything around that or that she says oh ya why wouldn’t we be I love you or bffs still. We used to be bffs but then it was off and on because we didn’t do the same sports. So I got tired of thinking if tomorrow wed be bffs or not. my gothic friends are always there for me and im very rough and they are to so i can just be myself and also they dont theyd never tell a parent if someone hurts them. my old preppy friends would always just sit there and laugh at stuff that made no sense and if someone hurts them they go tell it drove me fuckin crazy. they never understood what i went through or my music or me cussing. my new gothic friends I love them and they and he are the only ones that understand me. i miss the preppy popular people i dono why? i was never as close with them. ive always liked black but never wore that much because it was 'not perky' i never was perky thay tried to change me. i miss them. but i love being with my gothic friends their my bffs. im myself around them and alot happier and everything. but my parents dont like them. and is trying to keep me away im tired of sneaking and she nos and shes always saying what wrong with my friends!!! im just like them so whats the matter. were not the extreme gothic kids. we go to a fucked up catholic school no peircings or tattoos or hair coloring. theyre always checking US its driving me fucking crazy. think if you were all for expression and you could never express urself at all or even say gothic at school. their always watching us were always doing something wrong. ive always been the quiet shy girl but now im breakin out. whats wrong with me?
which group should i go with?
whats wrong with my school?
is it illegal for no expression just for us?
alright, i go to a public school & all, but I'm in many group of friends.
one group -- "popular"
second -- my "popular" friends think their weird, so that's pretty self-explainatory.
third -- kinda gothic?
Personally, it pisses me off. The first group is always talknig about my other group of friends, but I just either make up some excuse & leave, tell them that they don't know them, or just flat out tell them to shut up. But hey, we all still love each other.
plus, it's easier that way. if one group turns against you for some stupid reason, you still have a whole other group that's still there for you when you need them.
you can be friends with both groups & if someone has a problem with it, then they can get over it.
Hey. I'm really stressed. I think the "emo" stuff and the "prep" stuff is both really pretty. I have cut myself before, if that's what you want to call it. They didn't even bleed and honestly, I don't plan on making them. I like the way the "preps" dress but also the way the "emos" dress. I'm blonde and I have fair skin so I don't know how good I would look with a lot of eye makeup and stuff like that, but I really really like it. Also, I'm worried that I might lose some friends. I know my friends are supposed to love me for me, and I think they will, but I think that we may not be as close. What should I do??
13/female/seventh grade, if that helps.
mmmmmk.
sorry to be judgemental & even though i h-a-t-e labels, go with prep.
some people out there don't give a crap how close they are to you -- if you're gonna ruin their chance for being "popular", they'll stay the heck away from you till you go back to whatever they think is normal.
& if there's something i've learned this past month, it's that no matter how well you think you no someone .. you really don't know them half as well as you think you do. so, don't think they won't do something..
don't stress out about it -- honestly .. who cares? oh & if you go with emo, be prepared to have ten thousand people coming up to you asking you if you are. also, be prepared for rumors.
just .. go with prep. please -- it's just easier.
I have acne. Help me get rid of it. What products can I use? Is there anything I should avoid eating? (I know, i know...don't pick...blah blah..) I just want to get things from Target/Rite Aid etc...I don't want to order anything like Proactiv
try acnefree.
tt's way less than proactive. it can work wonders. my brother used to have horrible acne & now his face is so clear & it looks way better.
i have a little bit of acne & when i used it, it's gone within a week & sometimes less.
chocolate & sugars are some things people say to stay away from, but seriously, they don't affect your acne AT ALL. =]
but what DOES is dairy products, so try not to eat alot of them.
good luck!
Ok im a 17/f I had a 10 months on - off relationship. he always broke up with me & everytime i kept taking him back (grr). we finally broke up for good. he is now in his second relationship since me so i figure he moved on and is happy right?? BUT whenever im with my guy friends, he goes crazy! he called me a slut,tells me never to talk to him again, or even look in his direction! Immature right? whatever. However, he told my best friend that "she'll always have a place in my heart" I still see him staring at me in the corner of my eye and even my friends witnessed it. He flipped out today again because I hugged one of my guy friends goodbye. He has his girl, why can't he let me go!?
hmm, this is hard.
when he broke up with you did he say why?
if you always hug your guy friends, maybe he thought that you liked them.
if he calls you a slut, yeahh, that's pretty immature. just try & stay away from him. he seems like he's overly possessive of you.
he could have just gotten another girlfriend to make it LOOK like he moved on OR to simply make you jealous. then again, maybe he really moved on. but personally, i think he just wanted to make you jealous.
he probably can't let you go because even thought HE broke up with YOU, he regrets it. he probably still liked you, but maybe someone told him something that wasn't true so he THOUGHT he had a reason to break up with you. he could just be assuming things & think that you like every guy who you hug, though. OR he might of liked you, but liked someone else ALSO.
Hi ya I asked the question is my mom crazy and you responded to it. We do go to church (we're catholic) but she lies to the priest. The priest! I overheard them talking and she told him she stole my aunt's medicine and has been taking it. Is that a sign that she just wants anything she can get her hands on? Do you know what other signs I can look for in this medicine thing? And ya she told the priest last night that i was adopted and that i used to live in scotland when I was ten. Im 15 now and I ddin't live in scotland!
sorry that it took me a few days to answer -- my computer's been messed up.
but lying to the preist?
eh, that's not too good.
she told the priest that you used to live in scotland when you didn't?
well, i'm not sure about this one. does she drink at all .. like alcohol? cause that can do crazy things to your memory, but other than that .. i'm not really sure.
well, i'm not really sure that there are a whole lot of signs for the medicine part.
i guess if she's just becoming really dependent on it. like if she freaks out if she doesn't have it. wait, no, there actually is a sign. it's like this with most people who are addicted to drugs -- if she is very irritable after not having it, if she gets bad head aches after not having it, & things along the lines of that.
good luck!
Ok so my mother has been really really weird lately. About two years ago next week we lost my brother. She took it really hard but who wouldn't. So anyways she has been acting really rude to me and everyone else. She is sick a lot. She always has lots of advil and tylonel and ibeprofen in her purse. She is always wanting one and she's always always tired. We just went to the doctor and the doctor called our appointment off and when she found out she called the doctor as quick as she could and told them she needed her zanex and some other medicine for her depression. I don't doubt she needs those, but she is always taking something. Is she on drugs? Is she addicted? She is so irretable too. I can't talk to her because she won't listen anyways. She is constantly ignoring me. She acts like she hates me at times. I don't know what to do. She used to be great, but since my brother died it seems like she doesn't love me or care about me anymore. Questions:
*Is she crazy?
*Is she addicted to drugs?
*Do you think one bad accident like what we expeirenced will kill off my old mom forever?
i, along with many other people i know, have faced depression. it's very difficult to handle alone.
no matter how irritable she may be at the moment, you need to try & talk to her. try to get you both involved in an activity -- you can always try yoga. it may sound weird depending on your age, but it can do wonders if someone is under alot of stress. see if you can get her to go outside as much as possible -- maybe go for a walk every day when you get home from school. now i know, she may say, "oh, i don't feel like it." when people are depressed, they feel tired all the time & never have a whole lot of energy. no matter what she says, you need to get her out & get some exercise & sunlight. start going to church even if your mom says she doesn't think it's a good idea. often, when someone close to you or a family member dies, they often feel like it is God's fault & they become angry at God. please, try & get both of you in a church & go whenever you can.
as for your first question, no, i personally do not think she is crazy.
for the second question, i'm not too sure. people can become dependent on one or more of the types of drug that they give you for depression though. so it actually is possible.
as for the third question, people can make amazing come backs with things like this. so i don't believe it will kill off her forever.
i'll keep you two in my prayers. =]
good luck!
One of my so called best friends
- I dont want to be friends with her anymore.
I'm sick of her always talking as us as a "we" and that "we suck" "we are stupid"
because i dont like downtalking myself.
she can, but not about me.
dont tell me to telll her not to talk bad about herself either becauase this isnt the point.
SHE loves drama and stupid crap like that,
so she will do anythign to cause it.
she plays the victim all the time.
I'm sick of it, how she always thinks shes right.
What do I do?
i used to have a so called best friend like that too. she is OBSESSED with drama! she made up shit about my friends, talked about me, started rumors, everything you can think of.
if the girl you're talking about has done anything similar to that, get the hell away from her. she's one of those people who once she's pissed at you -- she's gonna make your life like hell & make up anything she can to turn people against you.
as a matter of fact .. rather she's done something like that or not, if she loves drama like you say she does -- she'll end up doing that sooner or later. the best way to avoid this, is NEVER tell her anything bad about ANYONE behind their back & never tell ANYONE anything bad about HER behind HER back.
you don't need to be around her. trust me -- and i know from experience -- your life will be a whole lot happier without her, which you've already figured out. don't be rude & randomly call her or go up to her & start cussing her out no matter how badly you think she deserves it.
calmly talk to her about it instead of just ending the friendship right then & there without TRYING to solve the problem. now if you've already tried doing that, you just need to slowly stop hanging out with her & she'll eventually get the hint hopefull & leave you alone.
good luck!
im gettin a tiny dog i need names.i like 'food names' or different names like 'turtle' for a dog i love that name for a dog or any 'unique names' or oppasite like giant for a tiny dog~so any names that are ~food~oppasite~unique~other animals~stuff like that
you could name him 'cat'.
haha, i've always wanted to name a dog that -- i have no idea why.
here are some names:
kipper.
blazer.
tuggy.
killer.
bear.
buckweet.
mister.
squirt.
herman.
13/F
O.K. so I really like this one guy. Hes really sweet & cute. The only thing is he is like so quiet! I mean, he will talk to people and all, but hes not the type to talk out in class or anything, && I am. Im really loud & outgoing & stuff. I mean, he will talk to other kids if they talk to him first, and he will always talk to me and he flirts with me, but I cant tell if he likes me.
Well the real question is do quiet guys make good boyfriends? I mean he has never had a gf before (or atleast this year) and I dont know if he would know how to treat one. Like if he would hold my hand or anything.
most likely, he doesn't talk out in class simply because his parents are too strict & he doesn't want to get his head bitten off by them if he gets in trouble or anything.
he probably hasn't ever had a girlfriend because he's too shy to ask them out -- which if you wanna go out with him, you're gonna have to be the one to ask him out.
the only difference with him would be that he would probably never be the one to make the first move with anything -- it would probably have to be you.
well, you know what they say.
opposites attract. =]
OK so I was friends with my bff who i've been bffs with since i was 5, and now i'm 13/f
but at the beginning of this year the schools merged & we met this girl lindsay. I HATE HER SO MUCH! first we started hanging out with these girls molly & kayla who turned out to be pretending to be our friends the whole time! *hate them too* that's what lindsay told us. so then we turned out being bffs with lindsay until the point where me and kristen (my other EX-bff) got tired of the drama. lindsay is ALWAYS TALKING ABOUT THE POPULAR GIRLS & HOW JEALOUS SHE IS & HOW THEY backstab each other, when she doesn't realize SHE'S EVEN WORSE! She told me not to be friends with my other bff, Lynnette, & lynnette is my only good friend at the school right now. shes trying to turn me agains EVERYONE! I HATE HER! So then i was gonna tell her i'm not gonna be her friend any more because i couldn't take it but she was w/ molly & kayla and wanted to be popular so she said "lauren, if ur gonna be like that then WHAT THE HECK IS UP YOUR BUTT!?" she's just jealous her EX boyfriend broke up with her bcause she doesnt HAVE ONE! I HATE HER I HATE HER I HATE HER I HATE HER I HATE HER I HATE HER I HATE HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!SHE MAKES ME SO MAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!and she lies to get a reaction. she said this girl sophie makes fun of me for my curly hair but she doesn't! she also said her dad used to live in a haunted house where she said the bed lifted up by itself! as if! she even went up to the guy i liked and practically made fun of him twice!!!! now he hates me!! so then she emails me saying she wants to work things out so i start yelling at her online and then she says "WHATEVER! ILL JUST BE FRIENDS WITH KRISTEN!"
i don't even know what i'm asking....
how can i get her back in kind of a nice way?
but not so nice...???
thanks
woah, i'm guessing your pissed off?
hah. yeahh, i used to be in your same situation.
i doubt you wanna hear this, but you HAVE to ignore it. that's what i did.
just give yourself some space from them. yes, it will take a while. hey -- it took me three months.
with the whole guy thing, talk to him about it. go up to him & say, "hey. about the other day -- i'm sorry. hah, i didn't really mean for her to say all of that stuff. i don't even know why she did or WHAT it was that she even said, but i'm sorry." & just smile sort of.
does she have IM? or do you know her e-mail address?
send her something saying, "i don't even know what your problem is, but i think i need some space for a while, okay? i haven't done anything to you, so can go say all the shit you want .. but i honestly don't care. you know why? unless you plan on changing anytime soon, we aren't friends anymore."
i know what kind of situation you're in, so if you need any more help -- just leave me something in my inbox.
good luck!
tonight im meeting my potential boyfriends parents!
i dont want to give them the wrong impression, but i dont want them to think im a prude or anything.
suggestions?
well, don't wear any shirts extremely low cut or that show your stomach.
don't wear really, really short shorts.
as for jeans, don't wear ones that are very, very, very low.
don't over do it though.
like don't wear a skirt or a dress or anything.
put on maybe a plain, solid colored shirt that's not too low with some nice jeans.
then just wear maybe a nice necklace or bracelet with it.
oh & be polite -- like say yes ma'am, no ma'am, yes sir, no sir. =]
good luck!
i always have my hair in a ponytail or down or half up what can i do i have realxed hair not dead straight not wavy pleaz help
well, you could try scrunching it since it's not dead straight. just buy the john frieda curl around shampoo & conditioner. then buy the hair spray & mousse. first you apply the shampoo, rinse it out, put it the conditioner, rinse, towel dry your hair & DO NOT rub it at all with the towel -- it will cause it to be frizzy.
next, spray hair spray towards the bottom & middle part of your hair.
then, flip your hair over and run the mousse evenly through it while pushing it towards your head & holding it there for a moment.
after doing that all over, get a blow dryer & dry your hair while continuing to push it up towards your hair.
warning: if that messes up, DO NOT try & straighten it. it makes it look like your hair was just electrocuted.
you can also straighten it & then part it on the side -- that looks really cute.
i had to read this six times for it to make sense, so please -- next time use some punctuation. not trying to be rude by that, just trying to help because most of the moderators rate down questions with poor grammar. once again, i was NOT trying to offend you, so don't take it the wrong way or anything.