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I HATE TWO OF MY BFFS
OK so I was friends with my bff who i've been bffs with since i was 5, and now i'm 13/f
but at the beginning of this year the schools merged & we met this girl lindsay. I HATE HER SO MUCH! first we started hanging out with these girls molly & kayla who turned out to be pretending to be our friends the whole time! *hate them too* that's what lindsay told us. so then we turned out being bffs with lindsay until the point where me and kristen (my other EX-bff) got tired of the drama. lindsay is ALWAYS TALKING ABOUT THE POPULAR GIRLS & HOW JEALOUS SHE IS & HOW THEY backstab each other, when she doesn't realize SHE'S EVEN WORSE! She told me not to be friends with my other bff, Lynnette, & lynnette is my only good friend at the school right now. shes trying to turn me agains EVERYONE! I HATE HER! So then i was gonna tell her i'm not gonna be her friend any more because i couldn't take it but she was w/ molly & kayla and wanted to be popular so she said "lauren, if ur gonna be like that then WHAT THE HECK IS UP YOUR BUTT!?" she's just jealous her EX boyfriend broke up with her bcause she doesnt HAVE ONE! I HATE HER I HATE HER I HATE HER I HATE HER I HATE HER I HATE HER I HATE HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!SHE MAKES ME SO MAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!and she lies to get a reaction. she said this girl sophie makes fun of me for my curly hair but she doesn't! she also said her dad used to live in a haunted house where she said the bed lifted up by itself! as if! she even went up to the guy i liked and practically made fun of him twice!!!! now he hates me!! so then she emails me saying she wants to work things out so i start yelling at her online and then she says "WHATEVER! ILL JUST BE FRIENDS WITH KRISTEN!"
i don't even know what i'm asking....
how can i get her back in kind of a nice way?
but not so nice...???
thanks
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woah, i'm guessing your pissed off?
hah. yeahh, i used to be in your same situation.
i doubt you wanna hear this, but you HAVE to ignore it. that's what i did.
just give yourself some space from them. yes, it will take a while. hey -- it took me three months.
with the whole guy thing, talk to him about it. go up to him & say, "hey. about the other day -- i'm sorry. hah, i didn't really mean for her to say all of that stuff. i don't even know why she did or WHAT it was that she even said, but i'm sorry." & just smile sort of.
does she have IM? or do you know her e-mail address?
send her something saying, "i don't even know what your problem is, but i think i need some space for a while, okay? i haven't done anything to you, so can go say all the shit you want .. but i honestly don't care. you know why? unless you plan on changing anytime soon, we aren't friends anymore."
i know what kind of situation you're in, so if you need any more help -- just leave me something in my inbox.
good luck!
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Ok so I have had experience with this kind of situation, except that I felt like my best friends were leaving me for this girl's new "group". I, did nothing, and I completely regretted it at the time. But now we are best friends. I just let my friend experience for herself how cruel this person was and she came to her sense, and soon things went back to normal. With your case, you could try to talk to your friends and let them know how you are feeling and how this girl makes you feel. You never know, they maybe sharing this feeling, but maybe too scared to say something (like I was). And revenge... not always the best thing. If you say something/do something, this girl may hold it against you and use it to her advantage. Just keep it cool, and slowly drift away. Don't invite her to do things, and say no when she invites you. Disconnect yourself from this girl you hate so you don't have to feel binded to her. I hope this helps, I'm not sure if I stayed on topic.
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Drama. Cheers to teenage years. Yeah, hunny, this isn't the only problem like this you're going to face. Just remember this, don't spread anything, no matter if you heard it, saw it, or read it, don't spread it. It's only going to come back and bite you in the butt. My advice, next time she tells you anything, hold your hand up, stare her straight in the eyes, and say, "I`m done with this. I don't want to hear it. Anymore." And then walk away. Ignore whatever she has to say. Just do it. And you`ll feel a heck of a lot better, trust me.
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Okay, first off... calm down. Breathe. Okay, better now?
First off, Kristen doesn't seem to be giving you any problems, so I wouldn't worry about her at all.
And Lindsay is, well, yes. Not a very good friend. But still, you shouldn't try to "get her back," there's nothing to "get back." That's just the way she is. We call girls like her "attention whores."
What you should do is completely break it off with her. I'm saying, during one of her moments, telling her to either grow up or screw off. And if she says she'll be friends with Kristen, this is her way of trying to get to you. Don't let it. Just tell her to go ahead, maybe Kristen can deal better being her friend.
Honestly, cutting ties is the best way to "get back" at someone without concequense. It shows them that they did something wrong. And if they don't see that, then they'll have no friends the rest of their life.
Just think of that.
Okay... done now. If you have anything else to add, just ask.
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