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hey, i'm not a very nice person if i get pissed off, but i've gone through a lot in my life so i think that i can give good advice on a lot of things. if anyone isn't sure that they can talk to someone because they don't understand then feel free to IM me on my AIM and i can talk to you, and i don't mind letting you guys know about my past.
*~*shan*~*


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(this is my favorite quote) "as long as you've got one person in the world, you've already betten the odds"



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ok theres this girl..i dont know if i would consider her my friend but i try to be nice to everyone.well she liked my boyfriend b4 we started to go out.and of course i did 2.well she WAS mad when we started to go out so ever since then shes been butting into our business.like we can be walking down the hall holding hands and what not and she just walks up in between us.after awhile it can get verrry annoying.when me and my boyfriend are on the phone ill get online and she'll IM me and want me and my boyfriend to 3 way her.he doesnt like her and she pisses him off.today she crossed my boyfriends line.she pretty much was trying to invite herself to the movies with me and my boyfriend and that pissed him off so he goes no we want to be alone for once.i cant really blame him but shes allllways on my business.i dont want to be mean to her because im not that way.what are some ways to tell her to back off without being mean?

just be straight forward with her, and if you don't feel comfortable doing that then maybe you should have your boyfriend tell her to back off

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I have two children and desperately want a third, i am currently having casual sex with the father of my two kids as not together anymore i want to get pregnant by him again but he dont want no more kids. I have tried stealing sperm from his condom and self inseminating myself. I want to know how long sperm lives in condom and if what im doing can get me pregnant?

ummm i'm sorry to say this, but you're SICK! if you want to have another baby then do it with another man! you can't force him to have a baby with you if he doesn't want to. get over him and MOVE ON!

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I have been cutting myself for a while now. My best friend Dylan knows about it and he wants to me stop. It is very hard to stop doing because it is addicting. Dylan and I got in a big fight last friday because he found out the night before I slit the crap outts my arms. He cares about me alot but I honestly dont want him to care. He always tells me that he loves me and I tell him not too. I hate when he tells me he loves me bc he only loves me as a friend and I wish that he loved me as more. I am in love with him. He hung up on me last friday and it is monday and we havent talked since. IDK what to do. Is he gonna stick by me through these times of pain or abandon me. If I love him should I stop doing what I have been doing and try to get some help. PLZ help me!

i've been in this situation before, and i'm going to tell you this up front, this is going to be the hardest thing you'll ever do, i know that cutting is addicting, and i know that it's hard to stop, but if you love him, then you've got to be able to give up the things that hurt you and him. sometimes you've got to put other people's feelings before yours and that's something else that's hard, i've been cutting myself for about 4 years and my best friend joe (he's also my ex boyfriend whom i'm still in love with) helped me to stop, he cares about you and you really don't want him too but you really need to let him care, something is going on with you and you need someone to be there for you when you need them, just talk to him and tell him what's going on and (this is just what i think) that you don't want to lose him, tell him how you feel about him and that you want to stop cutting (at least i think that you do) and if you ever need to talk to me about anything, then please do not think twice about IMing me and talking to me, sexishanibabe08, IM me whenever you need to talk

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lastnight 8 of us went to my friend stephen's house and then chili's and a movie and this guy robbie that likes me invited me and so at the movie he sat next to me and put his arm around me and he told my friend that he was sure he liked me last night but then today his AIM didnt work and so he had to put up away messages for me to read bc i was like hey and i didnt know his AIM wasnt working. so then his away message was like im sorry then another was like i just feel like we have nothing in common. then he signed off. and then i was talking to my friend and she said that robbie is not good at talking with girls and now he is thinking about if he likes me or not. and then i was talking to my friend eric and i was like i dont think robbie likes me anymore. hes like he likes u. and then he was like he just isnt good at talking with girls but i talked to him about it dont worry. so now i dont know what to do like if he likes me or not/ if he doesnt he shouldnt lead me on and like put his arm around me?

ask him, tell him that he either needs to tell you the truth or forget it, sometimes you've just got to be direct

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i really like this guy and he likes me but i don`t want a boyfriend at the moment cuz of all this drama thats been going on and im just not sure..whats huld i do?

tell him that you're not in the mind set for a boyfriend but for now you just want to be friends

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hi,

i have a wierd question. i am a 17 year old man and even though i workout regularly my body wont change its shape. my shoulders are wide but then i get smaller and smaller till my hips then i have a huge waist and butt(not big, wide). My lower body is completely wrong for my upper body (its like i have a womans' shaped waist and legs?!) My question is, what can i do to get a more balanced out body with hips and waist in nice proportion? any good exercises would be really helpful! (Oh by the way, i play basketball for an hour each day and do pushups and situps too but no use)

go the the gym, and get a personal trainer

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Where can i buy a du rag??

why the hell would you want one?

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I have some friends that I used to know really well that I would talk to all the time, and we could talk about almost anything with each other; well not so anymore. And it seemed like all of a sudden we didnt talk. What happened and why? Is there anything I can do to reverse this?

you're the only one who knows what happened, but i can tell you this, IT'S CALLED GROWING UP! hasn't anyone ever told you that growing up mean sometimes growing apart? you can't reverse something that you don't understand, there might not be any other reason than you and your friends just simply have changed, accept it.
*~*shan*~*

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I went through a break up a couple months ago and haven't seen this guy until last weekend. i was trying to be strong and not hook up with him again cuz it took me so long to get over him the first time around, but i just went for it because i missed him. all my feelings for him came back but he lives across the country (im in cali, he moved from cali to jersey) so i only get to see him during holidays and stuff. i have this feeling we were meant to be together and i can't let it go-at the same time its torture for me.

how the hell am i supposed to get over him again im in so much pain. a little help guys how do you get over an ex?

it's hard as hell i know i've been trying for a year to get over my ex, but you've got it made girl you don't have to see him every single day, just start dating again, sooner or later you'll get over him, and when he does come to visit and you see him, make sure that you're with friends that way you're not tempted to hook up with him at all
*~*shan*~*

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i have a bff who i think of like a sis to me. she has been playing guyz now 4 a month. like she will go out wit them and brake up wit them 4 another.she has gone out wit 6 guyz now in 2 months.i noe i should shay this but she is becomin a hore. she has liked a guy (lest call him k) 4 a year now well k never showed that he cared 4 her. so she decide to go out wit 4 other guyz but always havin her mindd on k. so k has a friend (lets call him z)who really like her but she dont like him. so k makes a deal wit her to go out wit z 4 a week and then k goes out wit her 4 2 weeks. so she does it. than at a school dance she found a guy that she liked who she has seen be4 and had a little crush on him. so they hooked up and k got jealous and asked her out then she broke up wit her new bf to go out wit k. and she bregs about her and k all the time. what should i do? u thinks i am not happy 4 her when i am it is just that she needs to stop breggin about her and k and start carin mor about her friends. what should i do? plz help me!

tell her to stop being a whore, either that or she needs to get some self-confidence and that's why she's doing this, she thinks that the more guys she's with the more appealing she will seem when all it really does is make her seem nasty and skanky

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i have this bed head stuff i used to scrunch my hair, it always seems to get frizzy when i put hairspray in it, but i have to otherwise it won't hold.. what can i do to it that'll make it less frizzy??

that's why friz-ease was invented

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My Best Firend went out with this kid for 2 years! they broke up this summer! The kid now is like im love with me and has really strong feelings for me! My BFF tells me to go out with him and everything. She has a new boyfriend and says it will not runin anything between us and we will still be bff but i dono HELPPP!

**I have feelings for him**

go for it, if you like him then date him, and if things start to change between you and your friend then you two can just break up, friends are much more important than some guy
*~*shan*~*

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ok im a pretty organized guy but i've been havin a really hard time tryin to keep up with my classes and work this year and itz drivin me crazy cuz i can't get the grades i used to be able to and i hate it. ne one help?? plz????

QUIT YOUR JOB! if work's interfering with your school then you're not ready to handle them both at once
*~*shan*~*

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Alright I'm a 17 year old male. I met this girl through a friend of a friend basically. At first it was rather awkward cause I'm a really shy person but she isnt. Then we got to know eachother rather well and became good friends. But I love this girl, shes so great. I've told her this and at first she started ignoring me. Then she was okay with it. She never said she loved me back. She just said it was okay If I loved her. So I started being more nice to her. I baught her lunch for a month,I pre-ordered the new Ev CD for her (she's a HUGE Ev fan), I gave her a necklace too... then she suddenly started ignoring me again. She won't even talk to me anymore. Some of her friends claim I freaked her out because I baught her stuff but... I was just being me. Being nice. I just wanted to see her happy. Anyhow, she's talking to me again but its not like before. It's only a hello here and there. So What do I do?

back off, you're being way to pushy did you think to ask her if she wanted all of that stuff? i mean you prolly did freak her out, that's something that a boyfriend does and you're not that, you aren't her boyfriend and she doesn't seem to want you to be either, just give her some space and when she's ready to talk to you she will
*~*shan*~*

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Sorry it's long, but please try to help.
This might be confusing, so if it is, sorry. But this girl I've known since 6th grade,(I'm now a freshman, grade 9) Brittany, and have had classes with since 7th, and became friends with this year, well her mom had a tumor in her eye. And Brittany's mom had it removed about a week ago. And she had to have her head shaved because they were doing surgery going through her head. Well, lately Brittany has been getting upset a lot in class, and I want to try to cheer her up, and make her happy, but her mom might be dying because the surgery didn't go to well, she's recovering, but not the best way possible, so I have a few questions.

1.) What can I say to her to comfort her, she knows I give advice, and a lot of times she asks me, but when it comes to a personal friend, it's hard

2.) This really weird teacher that none of us like who is a lesbian (not saying that's bad, but... it's weird w/ what she's been doing) Well, she, w/o Britt's permission, told the whole class about Britt's mom, and Britt ran out crying, and we didn't know how to comfort her. And then that teacher gave Britt her cell phone number, and was like call me, and don't leave a message, keep calling until you reach me, so I was wondering, is that okay for a teacher to do that? None of us like her, and Britt said she asked 2 teachers about it, and they said it wasn't normal, but Britt does tend to over exaggerate, or lie about things (she's really popular, and does whatever she can to boost the popularity, I didn't like her until this year b/c I always thought she had a perfect life and was concieted, b/c she's really rich and stuff, but now that I've gotten to know her, I've realized why she acts that way.)

3.) We're only 14, and freshman in high school. I don't associate with her that much outside of school, unless it's at a game, or if we see each other at the mall, like I don't invite her to the mall with me and my friends, but if we see each other, we talk, and/or walk around w/ each other. So please, help me try to comfort her, and is it right for that teacher to be doing what she's doing? What can I do to help, or what can I say. Also are there any gifts I could give her for x-mas that might make her feel better, or might make her laugh, or smile? I'm not trying to be weird, or act gay, but it's been so long since I've seen her smile, and it's been so long since I've heard her laugh. She's cut her wrists in the past, and I don't want her to use self-harm again, and I'm afraid about with what's going on with her mom, she might go farther than just cutting her wrists.

Oh, and about the whole teacher thing, we don't know how that teacher found out, Brittany didn't say anything to her, we figure she must've overheard Britt telling one of us. Please, any help would be appreciated! And if you're one of those people that like to leave sarcastic, or rude advice, I could do with a good laugh, so make it funny. Thanks in advance for all the help. And again, sorry it's so long.

you can't do anything, things like this that happen to people are just things that take time to heal, and why are you so concerned about someone that you hardly spend time with? it doesn't sound to me that you two are very good friends at all, as for the teacher USE YOUR BRAIN! of course that's not right, and you should have reported it to someone as soon as it happend. and as for her cutting herself, that could just be her way of trying to get attention if not then she needs some serious psychological help and fast, i doubt it'll help her mom's condition at all if she finds out that her daughter is trying to hurt herself for no reason at all, all you can do for her is tell her that you are there for her if she needs anything and don't pry because that'll just make it worse
*~*shan*~*

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**hey guys! ok im 14/f. ive been friends w/ this guy since like 6th grade, and we r in 9th now. we have become better friends cause we have a class together, and we hang out sometimes on weekends w/ a group of friends. he talks to me a lot more now, and we r good friends. he even tells me like who he likes and stuff. recently he told me he stopped liking this girl cause he needed someone he could be himself around (his crazy...crazy self... lol) he'll call me babe and stuff like that sometimes 2 (im not sure if hes joking or flirting...?) what do u guys think? and... how can you tell if a guy likes you or not? for guys: what do u do to show a girl that you like her? thanks all**

oh jesus, all guys are different so that was a really general question, you can't ask one guy what all guys do to show a girl that he likes them, and why don't you just tell your friend how you feel? it's obvious that you like him so let him know and don't play "shy girl", it's stupid anyways, BE HONEST ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS!
*~*shan*~*

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Ok its CREEPY thers this guy that i hung out with ONCE at a party who goes to a totally different school then me. he ends up calling me (even though i never gave him my number??) and we talk alittle but i really dont like him. then he calls me right before i left yesterday (ON MY HOUSE PHONE?!?) and i told him i couldnt talk and he said "why not" and i said "im about to go to the movies with my friends" and then i went there and guess who was there! yupp that guy!! and he decided to see the same movie at the same time! weird huh! how do i get rid of him??

talk to your mom, and then call the cops, get your number changed and stay away from him, if you see him anywhere just go somewhere else, this guy could turn into a stalker and that would be bad, tell your mom that this guy is calling you and following you around and you want it to stop, but here's a small thought, have you ever told him to stop calling? if you do that then he'll know that you don't want to talk to him and that way if he calls back you can call the cops and tell them that you told this guy to stop calling and he didn't. DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT AND STOP TALKING TO HIM!!
*~*shan*~*

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Does anyone know any easy ways to get rid of hard skin around the nail like on the skin? haha, i used to bite the skin and ive stopped now but its like ripped. any ways?

go get a manicure

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Ok my best friend is a girl and im a guy. She and i have been friends for a while but weve had some problems. She always lies to me . And then when she says sry a week lata she makes up some lame excuse why she said all that stuff. well now she acts like a slut and i dont like her . what should i do and what should i tell her?

tell her to take a hike, she doesn't seem like the kind of person that you want to be hanging out with, she acctually seems like kind of a huge bitch, you'll be better off with friends that don't lie to you, and if she doesn't like it tell her that she had her chance to be true and not lie to you and she blew it
*~*shan*~*

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ok, i have a boyfriend. and i thought i loved him to death. but the other day i was at this club thing. and me and this other guy who is a good friend, we started flirting like crazy. and i realized i have feelings for him. and then later he told me he had feelings for me. he doesnt know i like him too though. but i don't know if i should stick with my boyfriend cause i truly do adore him or should i give this other guy a try bcuz hes so nice and everything.

if there's nothing wrong with your relationship with your boyfriend then stick with him, if you feel like it's time to move on then maybe you should try things with this other guy. maybe even talking to your boyfriend and seeing if he wouldn't mind just taking some time off and seeing other people for a while and if you both miss each other then you know what the right choice is
*~*shan*~*

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